How do I know if she is bi...????

[John Doe]

You could try biting her on the ass and see what develops from that.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Wait..If she bites her in the ass, the other person will become a lesbian!
It's contagious my friend!You can have AAAAALL the women you want! XD
j/k...*large sweatdrop*

 

[John Doe]

Wait..If she bites her in the ass, the other person will become a lesbian!
It's contagious my friend!You can have AAAAALL the women you want! XD
j/k...*large sweatdrop*

Oh, it's like rabies? Well don't they have a vaccination for it yet?

Unless the lustee is using some kind of repellant, like LesbAway or Cootch-B-gon.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

hahahahahaha!
Cootch-B-gon!!!hahha, you're incredible XD

She does have to be EXTREMELY careful..
First smell, and THEN bite!
What if she is damaged from all the homophobic acids in them?!

 

[John Doe]

hahahahahaha!
Cootch-B-gon!!!hahha, you're incredible XD

She does have to be EXTREMELY careful..
First smell, and THEN bite!
What if she is damaged from all the homophobic acids in them?!

Like in Alien? That's what space Marines are for.

*completely avoids making any painfully obvious comments about Sigourney Weaver*

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

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[24bigirly]

"i haven't had a date in almost three months since I broke up with my girlfriend,"

Another good subtle line to drop in a conversation to see how a woman replies. I appreciate your help M-Y Erotica. It is informative. Also agree with the no seducing....only offering comment you made. I feel as though women who have no experience in bisexuality might be inclined to think they are being seduced. While they may have interest in the seducing woman and in exploring her bisxuality, she likely does not want it to be seductive. So playing it out casual may allow an interested virgin bisexual to feel comfortable. Rambling on.......I know!

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

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[24bigirly]

Ok...........

So a very good friend of mine, very pretty i might add, told me yesterday that she had a dream that another girl went down on her. I have never told her I was bisexual and I was so stunned by her comment that I didn't say anything. (Stupid, I know!) I never pictured her to be one to even have those thoughts. It was a brief mention of it, but she brought it up.

Do you think she was feeling me out? Would a woman have a dream like that if she didn't want it to happen? I know she has never done it for real. But it is eating me up (No pun intended....lol)! I think she is beautiful and I love her as a friend. Now I am really confused on whether or not she is bi, would try bi, or is just f'n with me! Please let me know what you all think!

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

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[CuriousNiceGuy]

Lol before I came out, my best (straight) friend told me that he saw himself fucking a friend of ours in his dream.It may be nothing..

Why don't you try to bring the discussion to that issue, maybe by saying that you also saw a dream like hers, and was actually aroused.and asking if she ever felt that kind of thing..dunno, just thinking of what I'd do.. :\

 

[24bigirly]

Thanks......

I am trying to figure out the best way to bring this topic back up to her.
M-Y, I don't think I can pinpoint what I want from her yet. I don't want to ruin a friendship that started 10+ years ago. But at the same time, we have experienced so much together and have sooo much fun in whatever we do, that I think we would love it. Is it wrong to really want to get her naked and play with her because that is really the only side of her that I haven't seen? That could be part of my attraction (not to mention she is beautiful.....lol).

Gosh, it is such a fine line.......We do talk about sex frequently but mostly about our boyfriends and it's usually complaints...lol. I've thought about bringing her dream up during our next complaining session as an alternative thought for satisfying sexual urges. But I don't want her to think I am just trying to get in her pants. UGH!!!!! Between a rock and a hard place I guess!

Help, advice, guidance is always appreciated!

 

[MWMBi]

I am trying to figure out the best way to bring this topic back up to her.
Help, advice, guidance is always appreciated!

Just my two cents worth here. You could say something like: "The dream you told me about got me thinking that there may be something you want to talk about." "I feel that as a friend that I let you down by not responding when you told me about your dream." "Please don't think my dumbfounded look was meant to be some sort of rejection, I was caught off guard and was not nor ever will reject you." "Just know that I am here for you no matter what." "I want you to know that I've had friends in the past that have shared with me very intimate information and that I have never rejected them or hurt them because of it."

Another way to approach this is: Start out expressing guilt/concern on your part for not being more sensitive. From there do some sort of self revelation like, "You telling me about the dream got me thinking and so I rented out this g-g video and wasn't at all shocked/repulsed by what I saw." (At this point show her the video to let her know that you are serious and telling the truth) From there gauge her reaction. Basically use your concern/guilt and the video(or some other form of self revelation) as a starting point for further discussions.

Hope this made sense. Take care.

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

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[killallhippies]

So a very good friend of mine, very pretty i might add, told me yesterday that she had a dream that another girl went down on her. I have never told her I was bisexual and I was so stunned by her comment that I didn't say anything. (Stupid, I know!) I never pictured her to be one to even have those thoughts. It was a brief mention of it, but she brought it up.

Do you think she was feeling me out? Would a woman have a dream like that if she didn't want it to happen? I know she has never done it for real. But it is eating me up (No pun intended....lol)! I think she is beautiful and I love her as a friend. Now I am really confused on whether or not she is bi, would try bi, or is just f'n with me! Please let me know what you all think!

i had a dream where the penguin from doonesbury was wading through the ultra tall grass in my lawn as my sister stared at him through one of those plastic things that go on the end of a loaf of bread. my point? sometimes dreams don't mean shit.


i also once hada dream about a girl in silver pants. i bit her pants in the dream and they had a odd texture. poor girl didn't have a face.

i'e also had dreams about beating up jesus for fucking the virgin mary and another one where satan gave me a book and then everybody died. those two are personal favorites. very vivid and you'd almost think they had a point.

she may have just been asking you to see if you'd think it was weird. she may have been quite disturbed by the dream.

 

[Etoile]

If I want to find out if someone is a switch
hitter (pun intended), I try to talk about softball at some
point.

I played on my company's softball team
briefly several years ago. It became a great joke around
the office that I must not really be a lesbian
because I was so bad at softball. (Nobody actually thought
that, of course - it was just teasing.)

 

[Pookie]

I played on my company's softball team
briefly several years ago. It became a great joke around
the office that I must not really be a lesbian
because I was so bad at softball. (Nobody actually thought
that, of course - it was just teasing.)

If you don't have a good stick, then you can't be an official lesbian.


(j/k)

 

[John Doe]

I played on my company's softball team
briefly several years ago. It became a great joke around
the office that I must not really be a lesbian
because I was so bad at softball. (Nobody actually thought
that, of course - it was just teasing.)

That is one of the most ridiculous stereotypes I've ever heard...

In reality lesbians prefer lacrosse.

 

[MWMBi]

Bump!!!!

I am trying to figure out the best way to bring this topic back up to her.
M-Y, I don't think I can pinpoint what I want from her yet. I don't want to ruin a friendship that started 10+ years ago. But at the same time, we have experienced so much together and have sooo much fun in whatever we do, that I think we would love it. Is it wrong to really want to get her naked and play with her because that is really the only side of her that I haven't seen? That could be part of my attraction (not to mention she is beautiful.....lol).

Gosh, it is such a fine line.......We do talk about sex frequently but mostly about our boyfriends and it's usually complaints...lol. I've thought about bringing her dream up during our next complaining session as an alternative thought for satisfying sexual urges. But I don't want her to think I am just trying to get in her pants. UGH!!!!! Between a rock and a hard place I guess!

Help, advice, guidance is always appreciated!

OK So what happened????????

 

[24bigirly]

Still going........

Nothing has happened yet. She was away on business for the majority of last week so we talked briefly but thats it. It has given me time to think about my needs and what I want from her.............and I still have no idea! I want to experience being with her sexually but I can't weigh the risk vs. reward. My friendship with her is so great.....but if she wants to and I want..............what's a girl to do!

 

[Etoile]

And here I was going to say "mayhem ensued" - heh!

 

[Tymeless]

goodluck hun

 

[John Doe]

Nothing has happened yet. She was away on business for the majority of last week so we talked briefly but thats it. It has given me time to think about my needs and what I want from her.............and I still have no idea! I want to experience being with her sexually but I can't weigh the risk vs. reward. My friendship with her is so great.....but if she wants to and I want..............what's a girl to do!

Shaddup and kiss her you fool!

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Ok..First of all:
Do NOT base your actions on thoughts like 'Was that a naughty smile for me?'
'Did that look mean something?'
Only act if your thoughts are clear of confusion and hypothesis.

I think your friendship won't be ruined if you confessed on your friend(which shouldn't be too surprising for her.), but maybe it will be shaken..
If you have enough trust on her, do it.
Make her feel comfortable with you and then close in for a kiss maybe?

(I wish I'd do it about the guy I liked anyway...But I'm a chicken and he is too straight.. get the picture? )

 

[I Literoticus]

How about asking her round to watch a dvd, get some wine in and make sure the dvd has a bit of girl on girl action, probably best not to be a porn film but have one in reserve , just in case.