How do I know if she is bi...????

[blondi84]

I don't have a problem flirting with girls, I love to flirt with everyone. My problem is more judging if they are open or not to going past that stage. Part of my hesitency is that I'm not sure I wanted to risk a friendship on a miss understanding/reading of signals.

I think that is more of what I was trying to spit out above. It is hard to tell because girls are flirty in a non-sexual way with everyone! I have just had a regular conversation with a guy, and had almost everyone think I was flirting! My husband knew the guy, and knew that I wasn't. When I was talking to the guy I put my arm on his shoulder, everyone was like "YOUR MARRIED!". My husband and I consider him a good friend, and he is having some custody issues with his ex, and I was just talking to him about that, nothing like a custody battle for some good sexual tension!

 

[Lady_Prowless]

Angelina doesn't do a lot for me physically, but the bad girl persona is fun.

i like her lips..pouty like mine.

 

[LotusFlower24]

I think that is more of what I was trying to spit out above. It is hard to tell because girls are flirty in a non-sexual way with everyone! I have just had a regular conversation with a guy, and had almost everyone think I was flirting! My husband knew the guy, and knew that I wasn't. When I was talking to the guy I put my arm on his shoulder, everyone was like "YOUR MARRIED!". My husband and I consider him a good friend, and he is having some custody issues with his ex, and I was just talking to him about that, nothing like a custody battle for some good sexual tension!

I agree girls are flirty with everyone.. I do it, I love to flirt guys and gals, I have no problem talking dirty to anyone. It's that "next" step that gets me - lol. I am not openly bi, I have one friend that knows and I talk with. I had another friend who I no longer speak to that was VERY flirty, hands all over me however she was also very outwardly homophobic to the point I couldn't listen to Etheridge in the car - lol. Talk about mixed signals!

I find it sooo hard to read girls most of the time. With guys it's simple, they come right out and there is no question as to what they want...

 

[Lady_Prowless]

I am curious, but don't have the balls to activley flirt with another girl. (Yes I know that I am a girl, and I shouldn't have balls anyway!) If one of my bi or lesbian friends were to come up, and just rub my shoulders or something, I would be so appreciative! I know that I have friends that are into girls, but am afraid to do anything about it because I am unsure if they are attracted to me! A shoulder rub, could be suggestive enough for me to feel comfortable responding in a sexual way, like reaching up and holding her hand, but could also be platonic.

me either like was said before id have to down a couple of drinks to make the first move...even if i knew she was bi..to know whether or not she was attracted to me as well.

 

[LotusFlower24]

i like her lips..pouty like mine.

I love Angelina, she sooooooo does it for me... I could watch the Tombraider series over and over ;o) Yeah, those lips are to freakin die for as well as her sexy voice... That new movie Mr. and Mrs. Smith, I think she sounds sooo sexy when she says "Whose your daddy now" with the look, mmmm.

 

[blondi84]

Maybe I will take my 'bi-interest' with me to the video store, and see what she gravitates towards.

 

[LotusFlower24]

Maybe I will take my 'bi-interest' with me to the video store, and see what she gravitates towards.

Theres a good idea ;o) you can pick up one of the movies people have suggeted read the back and see what happens... If shes looking at a movie, come up really close behind her and read over her shoulder...

Good luck... Someones has to have some luck soon - lol

 

[blondi84]

No kidding! Here we all are, "HELP!" . We should each just call up our little friends,and say, ya know I have been curious for a while about being with another girl. Just spit it out and see where it goes! If the person is not interested they could say, well I have a friend of a friend that would be perfect for you.

 

[LotusFlower24]

No kidding! Here we all are, "HELP!" . We should each just call up our little friends,and say, ya know I have been curious for a while about being with another girl. Just spit it out and see where it goes! If the person is not interested they could say, well I have a friend of a friend that would be perfect for you.

Well let me know how that works out for you ;o) I am sooo not that brave... What I wouldnt give for a set of brass ovaries at times like that...

 

[blondi84]

Well let me know how that works out for you ;o) I am sooo not that brave... What I wouldnt give for a set of brass ovaries at times like that...

I wasn't saying I was going to do that. That was a what if kind of idea. Like what if I did not care what the reaction was kind of what if!

 

[dizzylia]

If...

Sometimes I get nervous just knowing she'll be where I am. Does she see me, even notice me? Our shy personalities could touch, ignite, fly away with us to some remote existence, if only we could talk for a little while. If only our short encounters were not fraught with tasks and worries and people fighting for our every scrap of attention. If only for a moment it could just be the two of us, somewhere quiet, somewhere peaceful, somewhere free of demands.

But this is our mutual environment, the only way we ever meet, possibly the only way we ever will. Should I say something? When our paths cross however briefly, should I return her greeting with something more? When our eyes meet, should I smile, wink, give her some sort of signal to show there is something deeper than these fleeting words, something more I wish I could tell her?

And if I did... what would happen? If our gaze held steady for a moment longer, would I frighten her away? If I told her how lovely she was, would her self-consciousness grow? And if I touched her hand, would I be met with a fearful, emotional wall, never to have another chance to watch her from the wings?

Or would she smile back? Reciprocate? Agree to meet somewhere away from this chaos? Would she speak with me? Could it be the start of something more?

So many "if"s.

 

[dizzylia]

Darn. I killed it. Sorry about that.

 

[Xtinas_Girlfriend]

Sometimes I get nervous just knowing she'll be where I am. Does she see me, even notice me? Our shy personalities could touch, ignite, fly away with us to some remote existence, if only we could talk for a little while. If only our short encounters were not fraught with tasks and worries and people fighting for our every scrap of attention. If only for a moment it could just be the two of us, somewhere quiet, somewhere peaceful, somewhere free of demands.

But this is our mutual environment, the only way we ever meet, possibly the only way we ever will. Should I say something? When our paths cross however briefly, should I return her greeting with something more? When our eyes meet, should I smile, wink, give her some sort of signal to show there is something deeper than these fleeting words, something more I wish I could tell her?

And if I did... what would happen? If our gaze held steady for a moment longer, would I frighten her away? If I told her how lovely she was, would her self-consciousness grow? And if I touched her hand, would I be met with a fearful, emotional wall, never to have another chance to watch her from the wings?

Or would she smile back? Reciprocate? Agree to meet somewhere away from this chaos? Would she speak with me? Could it be the start of something more?

So many "if"s.

Awww, I really liked that. You didn't kill the post lol

 

[Guest]

Asking has worked in my favour

 

[killallhippies]

Asking has worked in my favour

pfft. that's no fun.

anyway has anyone actually seen the threadstarter around these parts recently?

 

[Guest]

pfft. that's no fun.

Depends how you ask

 

[24bigirly]

I'm still here.....

I feel like it may never happen. I made up my mind months ago to be more flirty and open to women in the hopes that something would come of it. I am still looking. I have tried every personals site there is but there are too many guys pretending to be girls or too many false hopes.

I am pretty certain that most women fantasize about being with other women on some level. From what I have read and heard, women tend to fantasize about it, and then conclude to themselves that if the opportunity ever came up, they'd likely give it a go. But as far as women taking the initiative, well, those women are few and far between.

Why can't it be easier....???????????

As for an update on my friend situation, still a no-go. Our conversations on sex and intimacy have never really reverted back to her "dream" or anything bisexual. I have been thinking lately that I should talk to her about me being bi with no expectations from her other than a best friend lending an ear to something I need to get off my chest.

I have way to much desire to be with a woman to just ignore it, so I'd like to take a different approach and actually be the one to initiate conversations with women. Please post any successful stories of approaching a woman AS A WOMAN!

Thanks.........happy holidays!

 

[killallhippies]

haHA!

 

[Tom Collins]

ps - if this is any help - perhaps you will explain what a gaydar is

LMAO...Your question caught me off guard. Gaydar is to Raydar as gay people are to planes. Meaning, raydar spots planes, gaydar spots gays.

As for the oridginal question of this thread, I would suggest you wear a shirt/blouse that shows of your breasts to good advantage, and "flash" them at this fem in a suggestive way. If you see her seriously checking out your rack, then she'd probably be up for something.

 

[playwithlezli]

Just ask!

I was skiing this weekend, just out of the blue thought I would like to go out with my instructor.

So after class, when everyone was gone, I said, "hey, you know I am married, but I also date women, can I take you out sometime?"

Guess who has a date coming up!

 

[killallhippies]

LMAO...Your question caught me off guard. Gaydar is to Raydar as gay people are to planes. Meaning, raydar spots planes, gaydar spots gays.

As for the oridginal question of this thread, I would suggest you wear a shirt/blouse that shows of your breasts to good advantage, and "flash" them at this fem in a suggestive way. If you see her seriously checking out your rack, then she'd probably be up for something.

if you aren't a woman she doesn't want to hear it.

 

[Tom Collins]

if you aren't a woman she doesn't want to hear it.

How strange, I would have SWORN she said...

Ok,
This thread is intended for female responses but I more than welcome you men that have incredible gaydar to respond also!

Again, I would love to hear from men on this also.

...in her original post! Gosh, I must have been hallucinating.

 

[killallhippies]

How strange, I would have SWORN she said...

...in her original post! Gosh, I must have been hallucinating.

read her last post. she's apparently changed her mind.

 

[Tom Collins]

read her last post. she's apparently changed her mind.

Didn't mean to snipe. Mea Culpa. Sorry, kill. I just didn't read that post in that way. I took it to mean suggestions on how a woman could try it. If she doesn't want my suggestion, she can ignore it's even there.

 

[Guest]

Sometimes I get nervous just knowing she'll be where I am.

And if I did... what would happen? If our gaze held steady for a moment longer, would I frighten her away? If I told her how lovely she was, would her self-consciousness grow? And if I touched her hand, would I be met with a fearful, emotional wall, never to have another chance to watch her from the wings?

Or would she smile back? Reciprocate? Agree to meet somewhere away from this chaos? Would she speak with me? Could it be the start of something more?

So many "if"s.

Hey Dizzy

Yes, so many if's.

I can relate... even the so called "hard-arse bitches (that is what I was called by someone on lit recently) also have incredible vulneribility.

Thanks for sharing