How do I know if she is bi...????

[24bigirly]

tom collins

feel free to post babe..........men and women can obviously both post cause I'm sure not every gay or bi guy has perfect gaydar (loved your explanation). anyway, ignore the hippy killer and continue to post.

 

[killallhippies]

i take it she doesn't like me. oh well.

 

[dizzylia]

Hey Dizzy

Yes, so many if's.

I can relate... even the so called "hard-arse bitches (that is what I was called by someone on lit recently) also have incredible vulneribility.

Thanks for sharing

*grins* Thanks. I really just wanted to write something silly. But being silly doesn't make it less true. Man, crushes are so evil sometimes. I can't stop thinking about her! And yet... totally out of my reach. Bah.

Moving on, 24bigirly, I think your idea to just bring up your own feeling with no expectations from her is a good plan. I don't know if anyone else here can relate, but I've had instances where my own interest in someone "spikes" somewhat just because I learned they might actually lean my way, whether it's a mutual interest or preference. So... you never know. Maybe coming out to her will let her come on to you!

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

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[24bigirly]

so true.....

M-Y....
I couldn't agree with you more...even if I have a woman hanging out and watching a movie, the doesn't make the next step that much easier if I don't know if she is bi or has bi desires. What is the best way to make that final move on another woman if we so happen to be in a position to do it? I'd have a million thoughts/words in my head and yet I'd be speechless!

 

[blondi84]

You could just do what I did. We went out for drinks, and after a couple she was being flirty with me, so I flirted right back. I made eye contact with her, so she knew that I knew what was going on. We wound up sitting in the resturaunt all night, having dinner, flirting and drinking. By the time we left, we both knew, and went to my house cuz husband and daughter were out of town. Needless to say, she called her husband and told him she was to trashed to drive, and she would be home in the morning. I think her husband knew what was up because he laughed and said "You girls have a fun night!". We did.

 

[blondi84]

OOPS! I killed it!

 

[killallhippies]

OOPS! I killed it!

this is the glbt board. it's impossible to judge if you've killed something here because it's just too damned slow.

 

[blondi84]

this is the glbt board. it's impossible to judge if you've killed something here because it's just too damned slow.

Thanks, I hope this picks up again b/c the girl who started it sounded pretty unsure in her last post. I hope she reads my post because the way it happened for me came naturally. I did spend a lot of time wondering what if, and how, and so on. But when I called her and asked her if she wanted to go relax for a little bit and have a drink before we went back to out manic christmas nonsence, I was in a totally platonic frame of mind. I just knew that I needed to get away from the ribbon and have a sane conversation! I figured she did to, but wouldn't take a break w/out a little ecouragement!

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

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[24bigirly]

Hi girls...

Wow......great posts......were they my christmas present?

Blondi.....very hot story...Was that your first time? Hers? I am very interested to know that as the dinner/drinks and some relaxing might be exactly what the doctor ordered right after the holiday. Thanks for the help, sounds like you were in the same spot i'm in right now but got lucky enough to get to that "next step".

M-Y....always good advice from you....the physical touching is a good idea and when the time seems appropriate, I'm doing it!

Hope everyones holiday went well......thanks again for the help!

 

[Stegral]

I am a gaydar glitch...LOL

I have a wide assortment of friends... & alot have thought I am Les or at least Bi, Funny thing is I haven't been with a female... really have no inclination of it but because of the way I present myself alot of ppl think I am lesbian or bi.... a few are confused when they are told I am straight ( yes it is bi, les & straights that have thought it..)... outside of hi & bye hugs the touching is limited... I am not a really feely kind of person...
I am a Truck Driver... I work in a male dominated field that I have to bone up for & act all tough & what not, because pretty & cute just doesn't cut it .... at work it is work poots & jeans, away from work, I wear pants & sneakers... it has to be pretty special for me to get into a dress & heels... So ALOT of the time I am seen as a "butch"...
I had a Bi friend of mine invite me & the other girls she knows over for a girls night (it happens quite often).... knowing all of them as friends I also know their orientation.... I was the only straight one in the bunch... I felt like they were ganging up on me to convert me or at least dabble.... I must admit though, the more I am around them the more I am comfy with them & the more I am assured that if I ever want to explore this part of my sexuallity I could probably ask any of them (& trust me I was toying with the idea after the smack in the face dump my last b/f gave me)... although there is really only one I would really trust to even approach to tell her I was curious...
Even though I am straight, I do not get angry or verbally assault anyone that asks if I am gay or bi.... I laugh it off & tell them nope... if they don't force the issue I am fine with them... if they push it I will end up resenting them...