How Much Do i Love My Master?

[catalina_francisco]

there are alot of Dom's that have other Dom Mentors, someone they look up to, to give them advise and suggestions. i do think going about it that way was a bit odd, but to each their own. if i remember correctly she said that her Master is new to the lifestyle, i'm sure that's why she said He'd accept suggestions from more experienced Doms.

Even so, most Doms are capable of seeking that information for themselves and are wary of a sub asking Doms to contact them for any reason. If he wanted the information or guidance, why doesn't he ask himself, and/or if she is the one asked to do it, ask them to contact him, not her. Each to their own but I know if I had ever sought PM's or emails or chatting with other Dominants, he would have seriously revised his decision to accept my submission.

Catalina

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Even so, most Doms are capable of seeking that information for themselves and are wary of a sub asking Doms to contact them for any reason. If he wanted the information or guidance, why doesn't he ask himself, and/or if she is the one asked to do it, ask them to contact him, not her. Each to their own but I know if I had ever sought PM's or emails or chatting with other Dominants, he would have seriously revised his decision to accept my submission.

Catalina

*nods* and i did say it was an odd way to go about it, i wouldn't have done i that way, as Master wouldn't have been happy with me either. i am allowed to chat with other Dom's BUT, if i had asked for PM's like that i too, would have been in big trouble. i do see what you're saying, i was just saying to each their own and maybe that's the way He wanted her to ask? who knows....

 

[airatome]

there are alot of Dom's that have other Dom Mentors, someone they look up to, to give them advise and suggestions. i do think going about it that way was a bit odd, but to each their own. if i remember correctly she said that her Master is new to the lifestyle, i'm sure that's why she said He'd accept suggestions from more experienced Doms. as for the kidnapping part, i think that was more of a metaphor than to actually say she kidnapped Him, i don't think she was serious about that, of course i could be wrong. the whole Mistress name did confuse me too though.

To set straight any rumors or misfortune that may accure due to her post, /I/ AM her master, the name is Chris and currently live in st.pete florida, 2 hours away from her. Will be moving in together as she mentioned, i was totally new to the dom/sub lifestyle before talking with her and she kinda taught me a few things and i took off running with them. by "Kidnaping" me she is refering metephorically to driving down to st.pete and taking me back to her place for the weekend as i cant currently drive and do the reverse role. And as Rose pointed out, as i am still a bit new to things and every dom/sub have their own rules and lifestyle, i do allow other doms to PM her with ideas, she is Bi btw, and i also allow her to play with other females should the need arrise. again as we both stated PM's are always welcomed, if anyone has anymore questions or doubts about 'us' feel free to ask away so i can set things straight.
^_^ good day to you all and i hope this rant of mine helped lol

 

[airatome]

Even so, most Doms are capable of seeking that information for themselves and are wary of a sub asking Doms to contact them for any reason. If he wanted the information or guidance, why doesn't he ask himself, and/or if she is the one asked to do it, ask them to contact him, not her. Each to their own but I know if I had ever sought PM's or emails or chatting with other Dominants, he would have seriously revised his decision to accept my submission.

Catalina

and that probably stems from the fact that you have a 24/hr power control going on. Her free will is still intact, she just knows im her master and if any guidelines or rules are broken she's punished accordingly. She has tasks, orders, etc etc, but i dont dictate everything she must do in day to day life. She serves me well and thats all i ask of her. She is alloud to have friends, acquantences, if they happen to be doms or other subs with advice, then thats circumstace, not that she's seeking out other domes to take my place, she knows better ^_~

 

[JMohegan]

Airatome, welcome to the board.

By way of introduction, I'll note that I am a male Dom and sadist with many years of experience in the physical world, none of which has involved Master/slave arrangements or total power exchange.

I understand why Catalina reacted as she did to your partner's post. My initial response was exactly the same. You have cleared the air considerably, but I would still like to comment on the following remark.

P.S- if theres any Doms out there who would want to PM me with some tips for him please do.

You are new and seeking advice, so here's mine.

Airatome, be your own man. Don't waste time canvassing others for vague or generalized tips on how to behave.

Spend a lot of time thinking about your own sexual needs and what you seek from a D/s relationship. Practice thinking creatively, and thinking for yourself.

Of course you will have questions along the way - god knows, I've had millions.

But you'll get the best responses if you make the questions as focused and specific as possible, and especially if you ask the questions yourself.

 

[airatome]

to start though, i state (once again) that she has her own free will and that I'VE done nothing to put her up to asking for advice. Thats something she wants for me of her own accord. I have my own ways of acquireing the knowledge i need, this is he way of trying to help me out apparently. I thank you for your advice, and while only semi needed, it has been noted. Im always my own man, and i've tried to be someone i wasnt log time ago and it never works like that. I've succeeded in claiming her as my own by being my own person, and i study many arts (martial and mental) that require the same
And yes i guess that post did raise a few alarms hence why i chimed in with my own lol. I also hope none of my posts were offensive in nature, as i am a brutally blunt and honest person. I speak my mind, if that offends then forgive me. Just wanted to 'clear the air' as you stated

Airatome, welcome to the board.

By way of introduction, I'll note that I am a male Dom and sadist with many years of experience in the physical world, none of which has involved Master/slave arrangements or total power exchange.

I understand why Catalina reacted as she did to your partner's post. My initial response was exactly the same. You have cleared the air considerably, but I would still like to comment on the following remark.

You are new and seeking advice, so here's mine.

Airatome, be your own man. Don't waste time canvassing others for vague or generalized tips on how to behave.

Spend a lot of time thinking about your own sexual needs and what you seek from a D/s relationship. Practice thinking creatively, and thinking for yourself.

Of course you will have questions along the way - god knows, I've had millions.

But you'll get the best responses if you make the questions as focused and specific as possible, and especially if you ask the questions yourself.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Airatome, be your own man. Don't waste time canvassing others for vague or generalized tips on how to behave.

Spend a lot of time thinking about your own sexual needs and what you seek from a D/s relationship. Practice thinking creatively, and thinking for yourself.

Of course you will have questions along the way - god knows, I've had millions.

But you'll get the best responses if you make the questions as focused and specific as possible, and especially if you ask the questions yourself.

This was my thought. If you (airatome) want to get ideas from others as to how you should proceed, wouldn't it make more sense they PM or email you directly instead of your getting the information third hand and in a way which makes further discussion and clarification difficult? It also opens your sub to perhaps unwanted attention and advances from other Dominants who may see it as a way of taking advantage and/or abusing the situation. Even if she is capable of handling that situation herself, it is still something which needn't have happened and which can cause friction in your relationship despite best intentions.

Catalina

 

[airatome]

This was my thought. If you (airatome) want to get ideas from others as to how you should proceed, wouldn't it make more sense they PM or email you directly instead of your getting the information third hand and in a way which makes further discussion and clarification difficult? It also opens your sub to perhaps unwanted attention and advances from other Dominants who may see it as a way of taking advantage and/or abusing the situation. Even if she is capable of handling that situation herself, it is still something which needn't have happened and which can cause friction in your relationship despite best intentions.

Catalina

which brings me to a question? and again i am blunt, but do people pay attention? i did clarify that this was not per my command for her to collect information for me. Tis something she took upon herself, that goes unpunished for she's not breaking any rules, to do. And yes if i did ask advice, i ask that they PM me with the info directly. If she can collect things that help her in doing whatever it is she does, then thats fine to. We have a real life dom/sub relationship as we are moving in, so to take intimidation from an online source? is laughable. They can say what they want if the want to try and pick up on her through PM's i know whos collar she wears and she knows who she belongs to. i am secure in relationship with her, friction isnt a phrase we use in this kind of relationship. Again i mean no offense because, as you both have stated, each relationship is different. Just pointing out how mine operates, and that the post previous to this one should have cleared that up.

 

[JMohegan]

I thank you for your advice, and while only semi needed, it has been noted.

Quite welcome.

If you (airatome) want to get ideas from others as to how you should proceed, wouldn't it make more sense they PM or email you directly instead of your getting the information third hand and in a way which makes further discussion and clarification difficult? It also opens your sub to perhaps unwanted attention and advances from other Dominants who may see it as a way of taking advantage and/or abusing the situation. Even if she is capable of handling that situation herself, it is still something which needn't have happened and which can cause friction in your relationship despite best intentions.

I agree with this post completely, Catalina.

Further, I'll note that responding to the invitation to PM a sub for this purpose would violate my personal "do unto others...." M.O.

Therefore, Airatome, taking your sub up on her offer is something that I simply would never do.

Not that it matters, in that I'm hardly the only Dom on the planet or the most creative, knowledgeable, etc.

But my point here is that the Doms who are *most* likely to be respectful of your rights & responsibilities as a peer might be *least* likely to be the ones addressing your partner privately for the purpose of providing "tips" on what you should do.

I am not suggesting that your partner did anything wrong on this thread. But I am suggesting that you might want to reconsider your policy & instructions with regard to soliciting this type of PM.

 

[airatome]

Quite welcome.

I agree with this post completely, Catalina.

Further, I'll note that responding to the invitation to PM a sub for this purpose would violate my personal "do unto others...." M.O.

Therefore, Airatome, taking your sub up on her offer is something that I simply would never do.

Not that it matters, in that I'm hardly the only Dom on the planet or the most creative, knowledgeable, etc.

But my point here is that the Doms who are *most* likely to be respectful of your rights & responsibilities as a peer might be *least* likely to be the ones addressing your partner privately for the purpose of providing "tips" on what you should do.


I am not suggesting that your partner did anything wrong on this thread. But I am suggesting that you might want to reconsider your policy & instructions with regard to soliciting this type of PM.

thank you, and once more your advice has been noted. Would love to stay longer and continue on about this but my soul purpose was to point out her meanings behind her post, not carry on about how i dom or how others dom, since its not really something thats under discussion or changable. (perhaps even the wrong thread for this lol) but hope all goes well and goodluck. If you two have anymore to say on this matter please PM it to me, i dont think we want to spam up this thread anymore then we have with these 2 pages lol. PM's are always welcome, and i do respond to critisism lol so dont worry ^_^

 

[catalina_francisco]

thank you, and once more your advice has been noted. Would love to stay longer and continue on about this but my soul purpose was to point out her meanings behind her post, not carry on about how i dom or how others dom, since its not really something thats under discussion or changable. PM's are always welcome, and i do respond to critisism lol so dont worry ^_^

Hmmmm, now I am confused as I thought both she and you had said you were new and looking for ideas on how you should continue and develop your skills of Domming. Hijack over though.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

We have a real life dom/sub relationship as we are moving in, so to take intimidation from an online source? is laughable.

Hmmm, I am also in a 'real' relationship which has been 24/7 living M/s and married for over 4 years now. As you are new to all this, you might find there are things which at first seem OK, but in time may make their presence in your life not so pleasant or as you would have wished. None of us are perfect, most of us admit our mistakes and learn from others along the way. I guess my alarm bells come from knowing how territorial most Dominants are, and a few who have had personal experiences with live in and casual subs seeking contact online with other Doms on a supposed helping out or innocent mission only to find out too late the contact was an excuse for a not so innocent type of contact.

Catalina

 

[JMohegan]

thank you, and once more your advice has been noted. Would love to stay longer and continue on about this but my soul purpose was to point out her meanings behind her post, not carry on about how i dom or how others dom, since its not really something thats under discussion or changable. (perhaps even the wrong thread for this lol) but hope all goes well and goodluck. If you two have anymore to say on this matter please PM it to me, i dont think we want to spam up this thread anymore then we have with these 2 pages lol. PM's are always welcome, and i do respond to critisism lol so dont worry ^_^

Ha, ha, wrong thread indeed! To think this will be my third post on a thread with the title, "How Much Do I Love my Master". lol....

Take care, man, and good luck to you.



Tenedaves pet:

In an effort to make amends for my role in this hijack (and presence on a thread on which I really don't belong!), I offer a link to the thread, Submissives/Slaves how do you like to serve?. Perhaps you will enjoy reading some of the tributes written there as well.

 

[callinectes]

Ha, ha, wrong thread indeed! To think this will be my third post on a thread with the title, "How Much Do I Love my Master". lol....

I'm sorry to add to the hijack but that truly made me laugh out loud. Thanks JM.

 

[JMohegan]

I'm sorry to add to the hijack but that truly made me laugh out loud. Thanks JM.

 

[shy slave]

I'm sorry to add to the hijack but that truly made me laugh out loud. Thanks JM.

Likewise, it made me laugh too.

I actually came in here to find out what a sadistic Dom was doing in here, and if he had decided to put down the whips and kneel instead.

 

[tenedave]

Congratulations

TO catalina and JMohegan for ruining something so beautiful that my little one started.It was meant as a place where subs could each post their tributes about their Masters,Not a place where 2 EXPERIANCED members could turn on another member because they did not like what was written.
To airatome you maybe new to the lifestyle but you are not new to lit,So you also take some blame in hijacking this thread,i know you were protecting your sub and as far as that went you did well.But there was no need for continual response to people that were obviously not reading your replies anyway.
Dave


P.S To my little one thank you for such a beautiful tribute,I know it was hard for you to bare you soul like that.All i can say is you complete me little one,your gift of submission is cherished by me.Remember little one in times of trouble there will only be one set of footsteps in the sand because i will be carrying you.
Your Master

 

[the captians wench]

TO catalina and JMohegan for ruining something so beautiful that my little one started.It was meant as a place where subs could each post their tributes about their Masters,Not a place where 2 EXPERIANCED members could turn on another member because they did not like what was written.
To airatome you maybe new to the lifestyle but you are not new to lit,So you also take some blame in hijacking this thread,i know you were protecting your sub and as far as that went you did well.But there was no need for continual response to people that were obviously not reading your replies anyway.
Dave


P.S To my little one thank you for such a beautiful tribute,I know it was hard for you to bare you soul like that.All i can say is you complete me little one,your gift of submission is cherished by me.Remember little one in times of trouble there will only be one set of footsteps in the sand because i will be carrying you.
Your Master

Tenedave, please try not to be so hard on Cat and JM. There's not a thread on the BDSM boards that I know of that doesn't have some sort of hijack in the middle of it. I'm sure it wasn't intentional, and that they didn't mean to distroy your pet's thread. And once this page flips no one will remember the threadjack and everything will go right back to where it belongs. There's just something about these boards that keeps us from staying on the topic at hand. And when something sends up warning flags to any of us, we try to put out the fire, or at least call the fire department.

You know I adore your pet, and I have had chats with her before. It warmed my heart to see this thread and it does every time I see it bumped up to the top. The thread really can't be ruined as long as the feelings in the original post are still felt. I'm sure she and you both may have been a bit discouraged, but please try to understand it's just our way.

And to anyone on these boards who might be offended that I spoke for everyone in saying our and we and such, I ment no offence.

 

[callinectes]

Honestly, I fail to see how the thread was "ruined". Tenedave's_Pet's posts, along with the other "tributes" are still intact. Nothing has changed what was written in that regard. As far as Catalina and JMohegan's contributions, they expressed concern and had valuable advice...their experience is what makes it their input valuable. Of course, they don't need me to defend them, but your assertions really bugged.

*goes and stands in the hi-jackers corner*

 

[Kajira Callista]

Ring around the rosey
A pocketful of posies
Ashes, ashes
We all fall down

 

[shy slave]

Stunned at Tenedaves comments.

Hijacks happen everywhere even in real life conversations. It makes the whole 'talking to people experience' enriched by others views, ideas and concerns.
It stops people living in a vacuum.

If you don't want this to happen perhaps it would be better to make a blog which only you and select others can see. That way you have complete control over everyone's thoughts and comments.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

P.S To my little one thank you for such a beautiful tribute,I know it was hard for you to bare you soul like that.All i can say is you complete me little one,your gift of submission is cherished by me.Remember little one in times of trouble there will only be one set of footsteps in the sand because i will be carrying you.
Your Master

It appears that you have much to be proud of when it comes to your pet. IT was a beautiful tribute in a tranquil thread before others had to rant on. Hopefully, the ones who feel the love can make their tributes in peace.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

to get the thread back on topic:

i want to say, that i love my Master with every single beat of my heart. and it's been a very longggg 2 months since You left Sir, but my love for You has only grown and will continue to grow forever. You have taught me a kind of love i've never known, and i am a better person for knowing and loving You. and in just a month 2 weeks and 2 days, i will be in Your loving arms once again and the world will be right. i will go from just existing, to living again. i cannot wait, i love You!

~rose~

 

[shy slave]

This is not a hijack.

I have had a pm about this thread telling me that the hijacks in here have been disrespectful to the person who started this thread. Why they chose to pm me, I have no idea. The pm did not state my name so perhaps others received the same pm and the person used copy/paste.

However, I want to clarify my thoughts on this.

I don't see the questions asked or the conversational change as disrespectful, nor do I see suggesting a blog is used as an alternative as being disrespectful.

When people ask questions in order to understand a situation it is not a hijack or be disrespectful of a poster.
It is the opposite, it is about trying to ensure that the original poster understand the potential ramifications of what they have put. It is easy to post without seeing something from every angle, questions raised bring up discussion and thoughts to enhance knowledge and understanding.


It is not about 'how much you love someone' if you want to write that several times a day, no-one will stop you.
It is about ensuring within posts that say such things that people do not open opportunities to make themselves vulnerable to others.
IMO by inviting other Doms to give her Master instruction, the op potentially opened up a door to allow lurkers, wannabes and others to manipulate her, her Master and their relationship.

Now, I am sure the person who pm'd me reads this thread. I would politely ask you to keep any comments made to me in the public forum. That way there is nothing hidden or underhand in anything said. Thank you

 

[shy slave]

*SIGH*

My communication skills appear to be lacking somewhat tonight

It appears that the person who pm'd me does not understand I do not want pm's from them.

I may be a slave but I still have choices.

The only option is to put them on ignore and I hate doing that. I rarely feel strongly enough about anything to do that.

Nor does the person understand that threads are meant to be participated in by other people. If they only want one participant this is not the place for this to happen.

Nor do they seem to realise that not every pyl has a need to have a place to write how much they love their Master.

Personally I prefer to tell him how I view him, not the rest of the world

As an aside: It does seem slightly amusing that they see questions as disrespectful, yet disregard my open comment not to have pm from them.

I guess it must be one rule for pyl's and one rule for PYL's