How old were you when....?

[kinky_caligirl]

Now that we have been talking about it, and I have heard eveyones view on the subject. I have come to the conclusion that you all are right. I may not have had a penis in my vagina but I have done many other sexual acts that no longer qualify me as a virgin.

Thank you all for enlightening me on the subject.

I am Officially not a virgin any more.

Now what do I tell people? They ask if I am a virgin and I say no. Then they assume that I have had a penis in my vaja ja. But I haven't. So wat if I am getting serious with him and he know I am not a virgin. How do I say that I have not had any penitration? When do I tell him? I can't just not tell him. I am sure it will hurt the first time, I have no hymen but I am sure it will still hurt. So if I say nothing then he will wonder. Right?

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Now that we have been talking about it, and I have heard eveyones view on the subject. I have come to the conclusion that you all are right. I may not have had a penis in my vagina but I have done many other sexual acts that no longer qualify me as a virgin.

Thank you all for enlightening me on the subject.

I am Officially not a virgin any more.

Now what do I tell people? They ask if I am a virgin and I say no. Then they assume that I have had a penis in my vaja ja. But I haven't. So what if I am getting serious with him and he knows I am not a virgin. How do I say that I have not had any penetration? When do I tell him? I can't just not tell him. I am sure it will hurt the first time, I have no hymen but I am sure it will still hurt. So if I say nothing then he will wonder. Right?

Best thing, tell HIM the truth. You've experimented with various sexual activities, *not* including penile penetration of your vagina, so, "Please be gentle; it's my first time." (Yes, there *is* a little smirk there, but at the same time, it's pretty good advice, just given a little tongue-in-cheek.)

As for *other* people asking if you're a virgin, tell 'em it's none of their damn business, either way. This whole business of sharing intimate details of one's life with (real-life) friends/acquaintances who don't have any rational *need* to know those details annoys the hell out of me. Ya know, the internet has allowed us to communicate with hundreds or even thousands of people we're never likely to meet in r/l, and to communicate with them about topics that we might never be able or willing, for reasons of embarrassment, or for whatever reason, to discuss with people we know in real life.

For people we know casually IRL to essentially *demand* the same type of sharing/knowledge whether it's comfortable for us or not... sorry, I don't play that way. Folks in the area I live don't know a damn thing about my sex life, but folks *here* certainly do, and I plan on it staying that way. It's MY business to share what I want to share with those I want to have that knowledge... not *their* business to know it just because they want to. The hell with 'em.

 

[satindesire]

I'd be truthful with him. That you've done "other things" that are sexual, but you've never been penetrated by a penis before, so he needs to be careful.

Are you on hormonal birth control? Are you two going to use condoms? Please, if you are not on hormonal birth control, talk to your doctor or OBGYN asap and find a method that works well for you and you can keep up with. Unwanted pregnancy is always a risk you take when you have intercourse, but if you take precautions like hormones and condoms, the risk is greatly reduced.

 

[infinity706]

Now that we have been talking about it, and I have heard eveyones view on the subject. I have come to the conclusion that you all are right. I may not have had a penis in my vagina but I have done many other sexual acts that no longer qualify me as a virgin.

Thank you all for enlightening me on the subject.

I am Officially not a virgin any more.

Now what do I tell people? They ask if I am a virgin and I say no. Then they assume that I have had a penis in my vaja ja. But I haven't. So wat if I am getting serious with him and he know I am not a virgin. How do I say that I have not had any penitration? When do I tell him? I can't just not tell him. I am sure it will hurt the first time, I have no hymen but I am sure it will still hurt. So if I say nothing then he will wonder. Right?

Well, if you and your girlfriends used toys to penetrate you, it might not make a difference. A penis isn't some magical object that's going to cause problems. Infact, a lot of toys are more difficult to take than real dicks because they aren't as soft and don't have as much give.

 

[Netzach]

It may not hurt at all, actually. Just let him know you haven't done what you're about to do before. There's a lot more to be aware of than the mechanics of getting it in.

I don't think there's any harm in just talking about what you have done and what was good or not so good about it as part of the getting to know all about you process. I mean some people may get insecure about stuff their partner has done before but I personally have always just felt like it's more info about them.

 

[kinky_caligirl]

I'd be truthful with him. That you've done "other things" that are sexual, but you've never been penetrated by a penis before, so he needs to be careful.

Are you on hormonal birth control? Are you two going to use condoms? Please, if you are not on hormonal birth control, talk to your doctor or OBGYN asap and find a method that works well for you and you can keep up with. Unwanted pregnancy is always a risk you take when you have intercourse, but if you take precautions like hormones and condoms, the risk is greatly reduced.

Well right now there is no him. He is hypothetical. I am on birth control. Not because I was going to have PIV sex, but because about 2 years ago I bleed for 9 weeks strait and became very sick because of it. So now i take it to control my period.

I am highly allergic to latex, and I have heard that latex FREE condoms(not the ones for latex sensitive people, but the pig intestian ones) are harmfull to your vaginal wall. Does anyone know about that?

 

[kinky_caligirl]

Well, if you and your girlfriends used toys to penetrate you, it might not make a difference. A penis isn't some magical object that's going to cause problems. Infact, a lot of toys are more difficult to take than real dicks because they aren't as soft and don't have as much give.

We never used toys. I used to use them on my own regularly, but that was at least four years ago. Now when I use one it is painful because I am tight. I have plenty of natural lubercation so I know its not that.

 

[kinky_caligirl]

It may not hurt at all, actually. Just let him know you haven't done what you're about to do before. There's a lot more to be aware of than the mechanics of getting it in.

I don't think there's any harm in just talking about what you have done and what was good or not so good about it as part of the getting to know all about you process. I mean some people may get insecure about stuff their partner has done before but I personally have always just felt like it's more info about them.

What do you mean the mechanics of getting in?
I don't think there is any harm in talking either. I also find it usefull and educational.

 

[satindesire]

Well right now there is no him. He is hypothetical. I am on birth control. Not because I was going to have PIV sex, but because about 2 years ago I bleed for 9 weeks strait and became very sick because of it. So now i take it to control my period.

I am highly allergic to latex, and I have heard that latex FREE condoms(not the ones for latex sensitive people, but the pig intestian ones) are harmfull to your vaginal wall. Does anyone know about that?

I've never heard of latex free condoms being harmful, unless you are allergic to those as well, but then again, anything is possible.

I did some googling and didn't find positive proof that latex free condoms were bad for the vaginal canal.

 

[SirLeo]

As usual, I agree with Sir Winston. Good luck! JUst be truthful and honest, yet gentle and mindful of the fact that men have enormous egos and you'll be fine when the time comes.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

At the time I read this I was agreeing. I was reading it wrong.

Ok, cool.

Ta

 

[infinity706]

Well right now there is no him. He is hypothetical. I am on birth control. Not because I was going to have PIV sex, but because about 2 years ago I bleed for 9 weeks strait and became very sick because of it. So now i take it to control my period.

I am highly allergic to latex, and I have heard that latex FREE condoms(not the ones for latex sensitive people, but the pig intestian ones) are harmfull to your vaginal wall. Does anyone know about that?

I don't know anything about sheep/pig condoms being bad for your vagina. The reason you shouldn't use them is because HIV can pass through the walls of those condoms even though sperm are too big. Of course, there are polyurethane condoms. There's the normal guy model and there's one for women, as well. The female condom, I've never seen in a store, but you can get it on the internet. It's a tube with rubber rings at each end. One ring fits inside you, up against your cervix, and the other stays outside. They're safer for penetration because they'll cover your whole pussy rather than just his dick and allow for safer oral. You should probably get the male condom, as well, though, if you plan on giving blowjobs. Just don't use more than one condom at a time for penetration because it'll create too much friction.

We never used toys. I used to use them on my own regularly, but that was at least four years ago. Now when I use one it is painful because I am tight. I have plenty of natural lubercation so I know its not that.

Well, you might want to be working on that before you get a guy. I'm sure your "first time" will be a lot more special if you're prepped to actually enjoy getting pounded.

What do you mean the mechanics of getting in?
I don't think there is any harm in talking either. I also find it usefull and educational.

I think what he means is that there's more to worry about than penetration.

 

[kinky_caligirl]

I've never heard of latex free condoms being harmful, unless you are allergic to those as well, but then again, anything is possible.

I did some googling and didn't find positive proof that latex free condoms were bad for the vaginal canal.

Aww, that was very nice of you to google that for me.

 

[kinky_caligirl]

I don't know anything about sheep/pig condoms being bad for your vagina. The reason you shouldn't use them is because HIV can pass through the walls of those condoms even though sperm are too big. Of course, there are polyurethane condoms. There's the normal guy model and there's one for women, as well. The female condom, I've never seen in a store, but you can get it on the internet. It's a tube with rubber rings at each end. One ring fits inside you, up against your cervix, and the other stays outside. They're safer for penetration because they'll cover your whole pussy rather than just his dick and allow for safer oral. You should probably get the male condom, as well, though, if you plan on giving blowjobs. Just don't use more than one condom at a time for penetration because it'll create too much friction.

Okay, this is a very good to know.

Well, you might want to be working on that before you get a guy. I'm sure your "first time" will be a lot more special if you're prepped to actually enjoy getting pounded.

That is a good idea. But would I come across slutty then?
I like the thought of getting pounded.

I think what he means is that there's more to worry about than penetration.

Oh, okay.

 

[satindesire]

Aww, that was very nice of you to google that for me.

Oh, no problem hon.

 

[satindesire]

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You're not supposed to post email addresses on the forum.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

Damn it, SatinD.

 

[satindesire]

Damn it, SatinD.

*blink* What?

 

[infinity706]

Okay, this is a very good to know.



That is a good idea. But would I come across slutty then?
I like the thought of getting pounded.



Oh, okay.

It depends on what you mean by slutty. Women that know what they like and can get fucked hard without pain are certainly scoring a lot of points for being an attractive sex partner. Unless you're planning on going after a guy with a sadistic streak that would like to see you hurting a bit, you'll probably ruin the experience for the guy if penetration is hurting you. As for being a slut, though, I actually think of it as a compliment. Afterall, like a swinger I know said, a slut is just someone getting more action than you.

Oh, and Ms Satin, if those avatars you keep putting up are pictures of you, may I say you're hot as fuck?

 

[kinky_caligirl]

It depends on what you mean by slutty. Women that know what they like and can get fucked hard without pain are certainly scoring a lot of points for being an attractive sex partner. Unless you're planning on going after a guy with a sadistic streak that would like to see you hurting a bit, you'll probably ruin the experience for the guy if penetration is hurting you. As for being a slut, though, I actually think of it as a compliment. Afterall, like a swinger I know said, a slut is just someone getting more action than you.

Oh, and Ms Satin, if those avatars you keep putting up are pictures of you, may I say you're hot as fuck?

Well okay then, I guess I will start loosening myself up. If he is a little sadistic then I will not mask the small amount of pain that I am having.


And I completely agree! You are beautiful!

 

[satindesire]

Oh, and Ms Satin, if those avatars you keep putting up are pictures of you, may I say you're hot as fuck?

And I completely agree! You are beautiful!

Yes, they're all of me and my various body parts ^_^

Thank you so much. You are both such sweethearts.

 

[infinity706]

Well okay then, I guess I will start loosening myself up. If he is a little sadistic then I will not mask the small amount of pain that I am having.


And I completely agree! You are beautiful!

Yeah, loosening up is a good idea. Even with a sadistic type, he'll probably want you in good shape to fuck again soon. There's plenty of other things that can be done to cause pain, but not put you out of commission for days.

Yes, they're all of me and my various body parts ^_^

Thank you so much. You are both such sweethearts.

No, thank you. It's not fair how many smart, pretty women there are on lit, that are willing to share their time and knowlege.

 

[kinky_caligirl]

Yes, they're all of me and my various body parts ^_^

Thank you so much. You are both such sweethearts.

You are so very welcome.

 

[kinky_caligirl]

Yeah, loosening up is a good idea. Even with a sadistic type, he'll probably want you in good shape to fuck again soon. There's plenty of other things that can be done to cause pain, but not put you out of commission for days.

No, thank you. It's not fair how many smart, pretty women there are on lit, that are willing to share their time and knowlege.

Thats true. I don't want to be out of commission.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Yes, they're all of me and my various body parts ^_^

Thank you so much. You are both such sweethearts.

You've lost a little weight. I can see it in your face.




Oh, yeah, you had a baby. That would do it.