i need this to be perfect.

[Stella_Omega]

Well..i thought people would undstand that perfect is relative. It is an opinion not a fact. basically.. I'm not questioning perfections' reality.. Anyhow it doesn't matter anymore thank you for your lovely posts.. I'm sure they'd be more helpful if I could open up and say what I really mean but I just don't have the courage for that so i talk a big circle.

Yeah, everyone knows that perfect is relative. That's not what people are talking about here, though.

One thing almost all of us who actually practice BDSM have learned; you need to be a courageous grown up type if you really want to get your heart's desire. The braver you are, the more you get tied up and flogged, and the better your chance of meeting each other's ideas of perfection.

If by "Perfection" you mean; "He dumps me into public toilets to be covered with piss from strangers" (or "I dump him into public toilets etc") I would say go baby go, and lemme know where that toilet is, I'll contribute.

 

[KoPilot]

Yeah, everyone knows that perfect is relative. That's not what people are talking about here, though.

One thing almost all of us who actually practice BDSM have learned; you need to be a courageous grown up type if you really want to get your heart's desire. The braver you are, the more you get tied up and flogged, and the better your chance of meeting each other's ideas of perfection.

The only way that I can tell that may get the OP to her perfect man without entering into a """"relationship"""" with him is to screen him. And I mean like, OP, you're going to have to come up with basically a 1000-page questionnaire for your prospects to fill out if you want to get all the perks of dating without actually dating.

 

[dmetria]

i found him. : )

 

[dmetria]

What are you reading?

How old are you?

What is your past relationship experience?

What do you specifically want from a BDSM partner in order for things to be perfect? What would that look in real life?

first was the kushiel series by jaquiline carey
im 27
skipping this question
most people ive talked to so far have stopped me at the i want to bleed part..so ill just leave it at that
to know the answer to this question read my post in what is your fantasy now forum or whatever

 

[dmetria]

but of course its more complex than all that and anyway it doesnt matter anymore. YAY! I'm so excited! lol and no i dont much care if this is a mistake cause it feels right

 

[Stella_Omega]

but of course its more complex than all that and anyway it doesnt matter anymore. YAY! I'm so excited! lol and no i dont much care if this is a mistake cause it feels right

Have the bestest of fun!

 

[dmetria]

Have the bestest of fun!

Thank you!! I will!!!!

 

[KoPilot]

but of course its more complex than all that and anyway it doesnt matter anymore. YAY! I'm so excited! lol and no i dont much care if this is a mistake cause it feels right

Assuming you've taken all the necessary precautions, this is the way its supposed to feel~

 

[dmetria]

i have no idea if i have.. but all i can say is i cant wait!!!! ill be sure to post on here how my first time went.. sadly it wont be until next month though

 

[Keroin]

first was the kushiel series by jaquiline carey

So when you say "I read and read and it only gets worse", you're referring to fiction? As listed above?

to know the answer to this question read my post in what is your fantasy now forum or whatever

Um, no. That's not how it works. I'm not your pyl. You don't ask a bunch of questions of people on here and then tell me to go do the homework myself.

But, I see you've found perfection, so we'll leave it here. Enjoy.

 

[dmetria]

So when you say "I read and read and it only gets worse", you're referring to fiction? As listed above?



Um, no. That's not how it works. I'm not your pyl. You don't ask a bunch of questions of people on here and then tell me to go do the homework myself.

But, I see you've found perfection, so we'll leave it here. Enjoy.

lol oky doky

 

[Felonious1]

1st of all......there is no such thing as perfection. It's a self-imposed mindfuck to think anything or anyone could ever be "perfect" when a realistic sense of objective reality is in place.

The self-held perception of perfection in regards to a new found partner is a short lived delusion. A flawed, temporary perception that overrules reality as its being fueled by highly intoxicating new relationship energy. Don't expect such an emotional/sexual buzz to last forever, and you won't be overly disappointed later when the bitch slap of reality jars your cranial node out of your posterior orifice.

Somewhere along the line of half a year of daily face time interaction, the haze will begin to clear and one can start focusing through the veil. The second act of a relationship, after the mental rocket fuel is burned off and acceleration is leveled out, is when one can objectively begin to make value judgements regarding their partner's potential long term viability as a life partner.

Very rarely do relationships that started with a keyboard, ever stand the test of time thats in place by default within every interpersonal relationship dynamic. Said test must also be continually re-passed in order to retain continuity within the relationship.

Life bites, shift happens and one's previous perceptions of another person will change down the line. Replays in life don't exist. Play hard, be safe and live the dream while you can!

 

[LadiLucki7]

i found him. : )

Well congrats. I wish you the best of luck. Nothing feels better when you've found that one that actually clicks with exactly what you want. I hope once I find my right fit I will be just as happy

 

[dmetria]

1st of all......there is no such thing as perfection. It's a self-imposed mindfuck to think anything or anyone could ever be "perfect" when a realistic sense of objective reality is in place.

The self-held perception of perfection in regards to a new found partner is a short lived delusion. A flawed, temporary perception that overrules reality as its being fueled by highly intoxicating new relationship energy. Don't expect such an emotional/sexual buzz to last forever, and you won't be overly disappointed later when the bitch slap of reality jars your cranial node out of your posterior orifice.

Somewhere along the line of half a year of daily face time interaction, the haze will begin to clear and one can start focusing through the veil. The second act of a relationship, after the mental rocket fuel is burned off and acceleration is leveled out, is when one can objectively begin to make value judgements regarding their partner's potential long term viability as a life partner.

Very rarely do relationships that started with a keyboard, ever stand the test of time thats in place by default within every interpersonal relationship dynamic. Said test must also be continually re-passed in order to retain continuity within the relationship.

Life bites, shift happens and one's previous perceptions of another person will change down the line. Replays in life don't exist. Play hard, be safe and live the dream while you can!

lmao i love the way you type!!!!! awesome!! oh and btw the love brain chemical as my mentor likes to call it can actually last up to 24 months it varies

 

[dmetria]

Well congrats. I wish you the best of luck. Nothing feels better when you've found that one that actually clicks with exactly what you want. I hope once I find my right fit I will be just as happy

thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[midwestyankee]

i found him. : )

So your doggie was lost and now he's found? How fortunate for both of you.

 

[dmetria]

Over dinner I was discussing my opinion on the idea of perfection.. trying to find the words i could not early.. of course the person i was discussing it with could barely follow me as well.. but i was trying... i explained to him the conversation that took place on here and how i could not give my definition of perfection because i believe it is relative.. not just to the person seeking it but to every person place thing and situation.. at any given moment i could think someone or something is perfect in some way or another... when they do something i do not care for or whatever it does not make what i thought was perfect about them suddenly untrue.. for that part of them still exists and i still think it is perfect...

okay i lost my train of thought ... huh oh well here's to more ranting and ravings and making no sense what so ever

Nearly every person I know speaks in a manner that shows no feeling behind their opinions. In fact, my generation tends to be quite inarticulate. We waste so much of our time worrying that others might not agree with our opinion or that we might offend them. We adapt terms like: “you know” and “whatever” to take the heat off of ourselves when making any kind of statement. Society has made us this way. Anytime someone has a strong conviction or opinion people shoot them down and tell them their opinion is wrong. I believe the only way to help the following generations not turn out the way we have is to teach them from an early age that no opinion, however odd, is wrong. An opinion is how an individual interprets something, it is not a fact; moreover, facts can be right or wrong while opinions are neither right nor wrong. Knowing the difference is key. Everyone interprets things differently because every single human being on this earth is different. Society has decided we should be alike and believe in the same things and think in the same way. This is wrong. This is in short why we have become so aggressively inarticulate. Fear has become our kryptonite; the fear of standing out, of being wrong, and the fear that everyone will make fun of us or hate us for what we believe. These fears drive us to invest absolutely no emotions or lingering thoughts in our own opinions. We must put a stop to this at once if we are to grow as a people. Without opinions and the guts to forcefully express them we would never progress in anything. Women’s rights, our democratic government, and many other pivotal moments in human history could never have happened if it were not for individuals speaking with conviction about what they believe in. In the end, terms like “you know” and “whatever” could never possibly make a serious impression on anyone.



lmao i know i can be quite ridiculous sometimes, ehh? lol

 

[dmetria]

Dominant : August 2011

LMAO I DO NOT EVEN REMEMBER WRITING THIS!!!

My life revolves around the people I surround myself with. I am passive and submissive. I enjoy when someone has control over me because it takes all responsibility off of my shoulders. Being able to just follow directions and not think for myself makes me feel light and care free. I am able to be myself and truly relax when there is a dominant personality in the room.
Many times I have found myself full of stress and wishing to just quit. However, I have many people in my life that care for me and are willing to take charge and push me onward. I need these people. If it were not for them, I would fall to pieces with no one to tell me what to do. For example, when I go out to eat with friends I tell them to order for me because if I do I fear I will make a mistake. Anytime a decision needs to be made I turn to others for the answer.
In the end, I am to the core a submissive human being. Being this way makes me dependent on others for my success. Being this way also helps me to stay relaxed and keep pain and strife at arm’s length. Thinking and making day to day decisions is harder for me than it should be. Thank God for dominant people, if not for them who would make my decisions?

wow lmao that's ridiculous.. my memory is f*cked

 

[dmetria]

One Word: July 2011

LMAO!!!!! Man I really don't remember writing this crap! Haha!
I was told i had 15 minutes write at the least one page about the word i picked out of her hat.

my word was... Blanket

My name is (my name here). I do not know much about myself because I try not to dig too deep inside my own psyche. I prefer to just grab a big, fluffy, hypothetical blanket and throw it on top of anything real or serious. I like to be happy, and I like to help others be happy. I try to keep the coldness of life at bay, just like my blanket helps me to stay warm. I am a big fluffy blanket.
Most people prefer to turn the air conditioning unit on and cuddle up with a blanket than not. I am warm and comforting like a blanket. I am always readily available for anyone who needs me. I am that person that people come to for comfort. I am that person people can depend on to ease their aches and help the cold recede.
I have always been surrounded by people who need someone to help them in some way or another. My closest friends and even people I have never met before are drawn to me. It seems, subconsciously, they know that whatever they have done or whatever has happened to them I will be right there doing my job, keeping the cold out. There is just enough of me to cover all sides of a person’s life and the troubles that go with it just like your favorite blanket.
I have been a blanket to others as well as throwing my own over everything. I know what it is to be in a dark cold place and wish you could just get warm again. Thinking usually takes me to that dark place where happiness is just a foggy whisper I cannot quite remember. I love being a blanket to others, but sometimes I wish someone could be that for me. I am (my name here) and I am everything you love about your favorite blanket.

 

[dmetria]

One word: part two

oh yeah i remember this one the word i picked from the hat that day turned out to be Malicious...

The tall slender woman strode seemingly peacefully into her dear husband’s home office. She served him tea and kissed him on the cheek before exiting quietly. Every night at eight o’clock this would occur. It was like clockwork; until one day the tea never came. Her husband, confused, arose from his desk and began searching for his beloved wife.
Hours passed and still his wife was nowhere to be seen. He did not know what to do. Finally, he decided to call the police. He gave the police a description of his wife and explained the situation. Shortly thereafter, an officer arrived on scene to find the husband bewildered and sitting on the floor of his front porch. A short search was made of the house and premises, but nothing was found.
A year passed and still no news about his wife had reached his ears. The police could find absolutely nothing. His health had steadily declined without his wife there to take care of him. He died on the anniversary of his wife’s disappearance. Afterwards, the house was sold to a family of five. The youngest, a boy, found a deteriorating corpse in the cellar that had been brutally mutilated. Horrified he ran screaming to his parents. The police could not believe the outrageous mistake they had made; her husband had stabbed her forty seven times. They had been married for forty six years as of the day that tall slender woman last opened her eyes.

 

[dmetria]

i remember when i wrote that i wasted like five minutes looking that word up lol then i only had ten left to write!!

 

[CutieMouse]

Out of curiosity, what advice would you give to someone who viewed submission this way?

LMAO I DO NOT EVEN REMEMBER WRITING THIS!!!

My life revolves around the people I surround myself with. I am passive and submissive. I enjoy when someone has control over me because it takes all responsibility off of my shoulders. Being able to just follow directions and not think for myself makes me feel light and care free. I am able to be myself and truly relax when there is a dominant personality in the room.

Many times I have found myself full of stress and wishing to just quit. However, I have many people in my life that care for me and are willing to take charge and push me onward. I need these people. If it were not for them, I would fall to pieces with no one to tell me what to do. For example, when I go out to eat with friends I tell them to order for me because if I do I fear I will make a mistake. Anytime a decision needs to be made I turn to others for the answer.

In the end, I am to the core a submissive human being. Being this way makes me dependent on others for my success. Being this way also helps me to stay relaxed and keep pain and strife at arm’s length. Thinking and making day to day decisions is harder for me than it should be. Thank God for dominant people, if not for them who would make my decisions?

wow lmao that's ridiculous.. my memory is f*cked

 

[dmetria]

Out of curiosity, what advice would you give to someone who viewed submission this way?

lol don't be so serious it's just a stupid essay i wrote for a grade once.. they give you a word and sometimes a concept or sentence or two and a couple minutes to write one page of crap that is at least semi coherent

 

[dmetria]

i had a really easy teacher that semester.. she probably gave the whole class As

 

[CutieMouse]

lol don't be so serious it's just a stupid essay i wrote for a grade once.. they give you a word and sometimes a concept or sentence or two and a couple minutes to write one page of crap that is at least semi coherent

Ask around... I'm nearly always serious.

I asked the question specifically because it was "just a stupid essay" you were asked to write in a very limited amount of time. The cool thing about those fast, stream-of-consciousness essays, is that they can be a very honest reflection of core beliefs.

So, given that I tend to take things rather seriously, my first thought upon reading your "stupid essay" was to wonder if that was how you still view submission, or if your opinions/views have changed at all. Regardless, if someone close to you expressed similar beliefs, what would your reaction be?