"I seek like minded individuals"

[Marquis]

What exactly is collarme?

 

[SweetDommes]

personals site - http://www.collarme.com - better than alt or bondage, but by how much remains to be seen.

 

[Marquis]

Looks pretty good at first glance.

Is it really free?

 

[SweetDommes]

yup

and so far, the message boards have been as friendly as here (meaning there are a few that I hope don't ever reply directly to me, but most are fine).

 

[Marquis]

I'll have to set up a profile when I get the chance.

Oh boy, this is not my forte. Any tips people?

 

[DVS]

Well I put up my profile last night for approval. As of this morning it's still waiting. And yet...

About half an hour after I joined I got this from a male dom:


And then six minutes later...


Hmmm. You know zero about me. You don't know if we're compatible. And yet you're yelling at me for not replying within SIX MINUTES? Jeez, maybe I type slow or something. (I type about 115wpm, but he doesn't need to know that.) Great way to make a first impression, buddy.

He's just one of the jerks out there. His mother and father are probably brother and sister, and they have a full set of teeth between them. What one can't chew, the other can. That's what keeps them together.

But, I agree with you that he's quite stupid to think you would respond without your profile even being active, rude for thinking you should respond back as soon as he sends his message, and probably 18 years old, if that.

Did you say you were a sub or anything of the sort that could maybe justify his fake attitude? Maybe he wanted you to know he is available.

It's people like this that I have to deal with, when sending messages. They should invent some method of validity in such things. Maybe something like the mood ring of the old days, or the stress-testing card, where if it's green you're not stressed? Only this will be something electronic that is attached to the message and the color proves the guy is legitimate in his pursuit. But, I guess he would have a friend type the message for him to get past the ignoramus test. Just like there are people who take urine tests for friends. This is the world we live in, people. Get used to it.

 

[Etoile]

But, I agree with you that he's quite stupid to think you would respond without your profile even being active, rude for thinking you should respond back as soon as he sends his message, and probably 18 years old, if that.

Did you say you were a sub or anything of the sort that could maybe justify his fake attitude? Maybe he wanted you to know he is available.

He's 22 according to his profile. I'm 24.

I think the only thing visible on my profile was that I'm a female sub. That's it. My profile has been approved now though...I wonder if I've gotten more mail yet.

 

[DVS]

yup

and so far, the message boards have been as friendly as here (meaning there are a few that I hope don't ever reply directly to me, but most are fine).

Has Collarme changed their ways? It used to be free, as long as you didn't want to contact anyone. But, every email you sent cost you a dollar. Has that changed? OR, is it one of those places that's free for women, but not for men.

I'm wondering what the deal with Alt.com is. It says you can pay to let standard members contact you. What's the deal with standard members. They just create a profile and wait for messages to come rolling in? And, if you can't contace other menbers, how do you respond to someone's reqest to talk?

 

[DVS]

Right. Most of you guys are not jerks, and you do deserve better. Which is why i've been trying the polite "no thanks, i don't think we're compatable." line. The thing is, nice clueful guys like the majority of the ones on this board are not the type to respond innapropriately to an add. As DVS says, he doesn't respond to adds that say "no men" or whatever. By definition, the single guys sending me these notes ARE the clueless kind or the wouldn't be doing it!

Now, there were several clueless females, too, that responded to me. However, most of them at least read the ad! i had one woman go completely postal when i said "no thanks", and another that responded to my "now thank" note, trying to persuade me to meet her at a mall in San Fransisco the following weekend. i said no, again, a little more firmly this time, and it went on for a few more exchanges. Finally, i blocked her...

Now then, Etoile, about putting in "single": do it as non single anyway, and you'll get tons of responses anyway. I'll marry you if the wife doesn't mind!

I've thought about lying on my profile and putting a hunk's picture up and sending messages to all the women I can. Why not play the same games others do? Being honest and courteous gets you nowhere.

My new name is Hank and I'm 30 years old. My cock is 9 1/2 inches long with a 6 1/5 inche girth. I've got pecks and a six pack and I can fuck all night. I'm descrete and D&D free and willing to relocate, if necessary. Oh, I forget to mention my tongue...I can touch my eyebrows with it. I'll shove it down your throat and tickle your tonsils...or shove it up your ass and put an everlasting smile on your face. Give me a call. We'll get together and talk.

 

[Kajira Callista]

personals site - http://www.collarme.com - better than alt or bondage, but by how much remains to be seen.

starts out seeming better, then just ends up the same old thing lol

 

[Etoile]

Being honest and courteous gets you nowhere.

My new name is Hank and I'm 30 years old. My cock is 9 1/2 inches long with a 6 1/5 inche girth. I've got pecks and a six pack and I can fuck all night. I'm descrete and D&D free and willing to relocate, if necessary. Oh, I forget to mention my tongue...I can touch my eyebrows with it. I'll shove it down your throat and tickle your tonsils...or shove it up your ass and put an everlasting smile on your face. Give me a call. We'll get together and talk.

I may not be honest, but I am at least courteous. Some guy just contacted me and I kindly pointed out to him that he didn't fit what I'd put in my profile as seeking.

Whooooo, Hank baby! C'mere an' see me! (Actually I think that profile would go over quite well, but it would admittedly be a waste of time)

 

[DVS]

I may not be honest, but I am at least courteous. Some guy just contacted me and I kindly pointed out to him that he didn't fit what I'd put in my profile as seeking.

Whooooo, Hank baby! C'mere an' see me! (Actually I think that profile would go over quite well, but it would admittedly be a waste of time)

I see nothing wrong with you having a little fun with the jerks out there. You keep those guys busy, and maybe I'll find a window of opportunity that happens to be open. DEAL?

P.S. If I get me a sub to torment, I'll send Hank to visit you.

 

[Marquis]

The name Marquis is taken on Collarme, by some undeserving loser no doubt. This is a bad start.

 

[Etoile]

The guy claimed he really did want to know why I hadn't replied...so I told him!

No, it's not the age thing. The first problem was that you contacted me without having any idea who I was or what I was looking for - you knew I was female, a bottom, and geographically near you. It amazes me that you would contact someone whose profile was pending at all.

Then, only six minutes later, you said "I dont get a reply?!" You still didn't know who I am, and you have no right to be *demanding* a reply - and *certainly* not just six minutes later. For all you knew at the time, I could have been a quadriplegic and tapping out my answer with a mouthstick or wrangling voice recognition software. Or maybe I just went to the bathroom. Either way, six minutes is an inappropriately short length of time to wait before making demands.

Then, after my profile was approved, you contacted me again. I have clearly stated in my profile what I am looking for AND what I'm not looking for. If you'd bothered to read it, you would have known that you don't fit the [ one ] part and you're excluded by the [ other ] part. Age is a factor for me, yes, but only a minor one.

So what could you have done instead? You could have sent me a note that said "Ah, I see we're not compatible after all. Have a nice day." That would have been the best possible response.

I hope this has been helpful to you in understanding how people might prefer you to interact with them.

Have a nice day, and good luck finding the right woman for you.

Do you think he'll take any of it to heart? Nah.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[TaintedB]

The guy claimed he really did want to know why I hadn't replied...so I told him!

Do you think he'll take any of it to heart? Nah.

Of course he wont.

Could you start a count? I'd be interested to know, for the sake of science, how many inappropriate responses you get.

Some of what you saw is collarme's fault. As soon as you join up and way before your profile is approved you get put on a new meat, er members list, that anyone can call up on his left menu bar. And it appears that all some jerks do is hit on the new meat. I think the reasoning, if you could call it that, is that you have a better chance of getting a reply if you "get in their first before all the others?" (shrug) Don't know for sure, just a guess.

As for you Marquis, consider the fact that your name is taken to be a creative challenge. ;P

 

[Marquis]

I went with DonatienDeSade. I use other pseudonyms for different things, but I don't have the energy to create another personality at this point.

 

[Bandit58]

A few weeks ago I had a message from a lady older than the age requirements I'd put in my profile on another site (she's 58 and I was looking for ladies between 30 and 50). She's young looking for her age (you'd swear mid 40s), and we've become good friends on msn. We're in the process of trying to find the best time to meet face to face, she lives a little farther away than I was looking for. She's curious about being with a woman, but even if nothing sexual comes of this we're sure we'll remain friends

The age range isn't really a problem but it's the ones who can't read that are The number of times I've been messaged by women wanting me to be with them and their hubby/ b/f when my profile clearly states NO COUPLES. Or the guys who send me messages (most of them married)......again profile clearly states NO MEN. *sigh*

 

[Etoile]

Of course he wont.

Could you start a count? I'd be interested to know, for the sake of science, how many inappropriate responses you get.

Actually, he turned out to be reasonably intelligent. He took what I said very well and responded appropriately - turned out one of the criteria he didn't meet was because he misunderstood what I was asking for...thought it was a typo! So I added clarification in my profile.

I certainly will count up how many inappropriate responses I get. The only problem is...what do I do with the appropriate ones? I've had a couple of people message me who are what my profile describes I'm looking for.

The inappropriate ones are vastly outweighing the ones who are what my "character" wants though. I will share the good (bad?) stuff.

 

[Bandit58]

Well I've put up a profile on collarme now too, it's still pending approval. I've put that I'm looking to make friends with local femsubs and that I already have a Master, so will be waiting with bated breath to see what develops.

I've already had a message from a Domme welcoming me to the site and saying she's looking forward to reading my profile

 

[Krinaia]

The only problem is...what do I do with the appropriate ones? I've had a couple of people message me who are what my profile describes I'm looking for. :eek

Thank them and tell them you're dating a few people locally now and just have too much on your plate but you wish them luck.

 

[Etoile]

Oh, I seem to have found a winner! (or is that weiner?) It's the guy who's in my hometown. He sent me a random PM saying he had just gotten a Frederick's catalog and that there were corsets in there he'd like to see me in. (I, like many others, have "corset training" on my profile.) I wrote back and said "that's nice, but those are just fashion accessories, not real corsets"...and his response? "I liked the one that laced up in the back. I would like to see you in it."

 

[TNRkitect2b]

Oh, I seem to have found a winner! (or is that weiner?) It's the guy who's in my hometown. He sent me a random PM saying he had just gotten a Frederick's catalog and that there were corsets in there he'd like to see me in. (I, like many others, have "corset training" on my profile.) I wrote back and said "that's nice, but those are just fashion accessories, not real corsets"...and his response? "I liked the one that laced up in the back. I would like to see you in it."

*snicker*

BTW, how goes the search for your initial semi training corset?

 

[Krinaia]

Oh, I seem to have found a winner! (or is that weiner?) It's the guy who's in my hometown. He sent me a random PM saying he had just gotten a Frederick's catalog and that there were corsets in there he'd like to see me in. (I, like many others, have "corset training" on my profile.) I wrote back and said "that's nice, but those are just fashion accessories, not real corsets"...and his response? "I liked the one that laced up in the back. I would like to see you in it."

i bet he jerks off to victoria's secret too... bet he started with the sears catalog when he was 12 and has slowly been upgrading over the years

 

[Etoile]

BTW, how goes the search for your initial semi training corset?

It's going somewhat well! I've found someone who can do a custom longline underbust semi-edwardian in cotton twill for $125...for that price I had to ask "do you use steel boning" because it just seems so cheap! But they do, so I am going to get one from them. I've sent in some pictures of fabric prints I like so they can choose something that would fit in the same category. I have yet to get the measurement sheet though - she keeps forgetting to send it to me! But I know I'm just overly impatient...I want it NOW!

I did go to Purple Passion/DV8 yesterday to see what they had, and they had one that would have been perfect for me had it not been 22 inches! The ones they had in my size (I usually go for around 28-30 inches) weren't very attractive and I didn't even bother trying any of them on.