I want to be shared.

[PapaMIdnite]

If you love him sooo much that you'd do anything (be in an unhappy marriage) for him, then you love him enough to do the RIGHT thing. It may not necessarily be the easy thing, but it is the RIGHT thing to do. For everyone, including your son.

Sent you a PM.

 

[Primalex]

No but you supposed something... elsaP does mention the desire for extramarital, anal, water sports, younger men, blow jobs, office affairs and so on but no where does she say bestiality

Obviously your reading comprehension skill failed to tell you that I'm writing about the husbands fantasies. And as he is not here, I'm allowed to put any fantasy in his mind, the way I see fit. So what she has as fantasies is completely irrelevant to my argument. My argument wouldn't make any sense if I would use a fantasy that she likes - the whole point is about her having fantasies he does not. So when switching the roles, it only makes sense if I pick a fantasy she does _not_ have.

If this is too difficult for you to understand, just don't reply.

 

[elsaparker]

Sorry about the late reply. I am back to work now and had a lot of take care off. My husband and I have incorporated some anal play in our sex life. We started of with beads, then a butt plug and recently a finger.

With regards to me not being an active participant in this thread. You guys gave me what I was looking for on the first few post and I am thankful for the that. I have read all posts about the whole morality issue and I am quite frankly not interested in debating that online. To each his own. I am still thankful for you input. I read through them all and had a good time talking to some of the participants in this thread on yahoo. But, my God you guys write essays lol.

With regards to being shared, I am going to have to bring it up some other way. I don't know. I am quite confused. I am just going to put it on hold for now. Thank again. bye now.

 

[njlauren]

Sorry about the late reply. I am back to work now and had a lot of take care off. My husband and I have incorporated some anal play in our sex life. We started of with beads, then a butt plug and recently a finger.

With regards to me not being an active participant in this thread. You guys gave me what I was looking for on the first few post and I am thankful for the that. I have read all posts about the whole morality issue and I am quite frankly not interested in debating that online. To each his own. I am still thankful for you input. I read through them all and had a good time talking to some of the participants in this thread on yahoo. But, my God you guys write essays lol.

With regards to being shared, I am going to have to bring it up some other way. I don't know. I am quite confused. I am just going to put it on hold for now. Thank again. bye now.

Whatever you do, and in the end it is up to you, I would be very sure this is what you want before going forward because the stakes are high. My posts were not meant to be judgement of you or what you were thinking of, rather it was pointing out the consequences if you do decide to go outside of your husband on the sly and if it is worth it to do so, that's all. If your husband is okay with sharing you then that is up to you and him.

I wish you luck, I know what the confusion is like and I also know what it is to face decisions with big consequences to a relationship, I hope you find what you need

 

[elsaparker]

Thanks njlauren,
I am experimenting with anal play with hubby these days. He seem to have opened up to it. I am just taking it slow from here, wouldn't want to mess things up if i don't need to.

 

[njlauren]

Thanks njlauren,
I am experimenting with anal play with hubby these days. He seem to have opened up to it. I am just taking it slow from here, wouldn't want to mess things up if i don't need to.

Sounds like a good game plan to me. It might just take some talk and prodding to get him to come around..my spouse was a pretty vanilla person when it came to sex, yet somehow I got her interest up in BD/SM play, and well, she kind of ,um, took to it, scared some pretty knowledgeable scene people with how fast she came around *lol*

 

[elsaparker]

Sounds like a good game plan to me. It might just take some talk and prodding to get him to come around..my spouse was a pretty vanilla person when it came to sex, yet somehow I got her interest up in BD/SM play, and well, she kind of ,um, took to it, scared some pretty knowledgeable scene people with how fast she came around *lol*

Yea, my husband totally surprised es well. I had zero hopes of him getting into anal play. Things can always change I guess. Just gotta take small steps.

 

[billrichards41]

Obviously your reading comprehension skill failed to tell you that I'm writing about the husbands fantasies. And as he is not here, I'm allowed to put any fantasy in his mind, the way I see fit. So what she has as fantasies is completely irrelevant to my argument. My argument wouldn't make any sense if I would use a fantasy that she likes - the whole point is about her having fantasies he does not. So when switching the roles, it only makes sense if I pick a fantasy she does _not_ have.

If this is too difficult for you to understand, just don't reply.

Oh gee... I suppose I didn't get enough learning in school...
I just don't understand such witty diabolical retorts laced with subliminal overtones.
Hell I suppose you are as clever as your comic book avatar!

At least you give me something to aspire too...
thanks for the laugh!

 

[Wombturna]

Sorry about the late reply. I am back to work now and had a lot of take care off. My husband and I have incorporated some anal play in our sex life. We started of with beads, then a butt plug and recently a finger.

With regards to me not being an active participant in this thread. You guys gave me what I was looking for on the first few post and I am thankful for the that. I have read all posts about the whole morality issue and I am quite frankly not interested in debating that online. To each his own. I am still thankful for you input. I read through them all and had a good time talking to some of the participants in this thread on yahoo. But, my God you guys write essays lol.

With regards to being shared, I am going to have to bring it up some other way. I don't know. I am quite confused. I am just going to put it on hold for now. Thank again. bye now.

why don't you go dancing with hubby and let him know you always have this fantasy of dancing with two men and go from there

 

[elsaparker]

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why don't you go dancing with hubby and let him know you always have this fantasy of dancing with two men and go from there

This actually might not be a bad idea! Thanks a lot! This is great! I am going to do this.

 

[talldad1]

This actually might not be a bad idea! Thanks a lot! This is great! I am going to do this.

Please tell us how that turns out. I hope you get very aroused dancing with both of them, and that your husband knows it.

 

[elsaparker]

I did follow through on the advice that very day. We went out dancing to this classy place that was suggested months ago by one of my friends. We dined, drank and danced. I whispered my interested in dancing with another two guys at the same time into my husbands ear.

My husband was at the front while I grinded my ass against some random guy behind me. I was looking straight into my husband’s eyes while grinding the guy behind me. I had a good and time my husband seemed to have enjoyed it. I was wearing a silk dress with no panties. I could feel the man’s cock against my ass and I could feel my husbands cock against my crotch. Then I turned around and switched position so to say. The best part was watching my husband as I grinded the other man. It made my husband hard.

We haven’t talked about it since. I might bring it up tonight since its Saturday. I can’t go out again tonight, but will remind him about it, see where it goes.

 

[talldad1]

I did follow through on the advice that very day. We went out dancing to this classy place that was suggested months ago by one of my friends. We dined, drank and danced. I whispered my interested in dancing with another two guys at the same time into my husbands ear.

My husband was at the front while I grinded my ass against some random guy behind me. I was looking straight into my husband’s eyes while grinding the guy behind me. I had a good and time my husband seemed to have enjoyed it. I was wearing a silk dress with no panties. I could feel the man’s cock against my ass and I could feel my husbands cock against my crotch. Then I turned around and switched position so to say. The best part was watching my husband as I grinded the other man. It made my husband hard.

We haven’t talked about it since. I might bring it up tonight since its Saturday. I can’t go out again tonight, but will remind him about it, see where it goes.

This is so amazingly hot. I hope that you and your husband had amazing sex afterwards. You must have been so aroused. And I'm also very please he is coming around on the issue of anal. Very nice. Please keep us posted.

 

[subzera]

Seems tricky-do you think the chances are high he would be into it?

 

[photobuff56]

My husband was very shy about me touching him "back there" at first. I just did it once and i saw that he got very very hard. He wouldnt admit it but i knew he liked it. Finally during sex i just told him it was ok to admit that me touching him there felt good. I've done a sort of protate massage, i can get him to ejaculate in seconds doing that.

I don't think its shyness, most guys think if your touching there ass and they like it, they. May think there gay.

 

[desertslave]

Whatever you do, and in the end it is up to you, I would be very sure this is what you want before going forward because the stakes are high. My posts were not meant to be judgement of you or what you were thinking of, rather it was pointing out the consequences if you do decide to go outside of your husband on the sly and if it is worth it to do so, that's all. If your husband is okay with sharing you then that is up to you and him.

I wish you luck, I know what the confusion is like and I also know what it is to face decisions with big consequences to a relationship, I hope you find what you need

I think this is incredibly important advice. Unless ALL participants are agreeable, the potential backlash can be enormous and longer-lasting than you might expect. While there are people who are wired for, or at least open to poly (even short term), they tend to be few.

Some things are better left to fantasy. Perhaps try some role-play just to think it out, between the two of you, first?

 

[AdjectiveNounVerb]

I did follow through on the advice that very day. We went out dancing to this classy place that was suggested months ago by one of my friends. We dined, drank and danced. I whispered my interested in dancing with another two guys at the same time into my husbands ear.

My husband was at the front while I grinded my ass against some random guy behind me. I was looking straight into my husband’s eyes while grinding the guy behind me. I had a good and time my husband seemed to have enjoyed it. I was wearing a silk dress with no panties. I could feel the man’s cock against my ass and I could feel my husbands cock against my crotch. Then I turned around and switched position so to say. The best part was watching my husband as I grinded the other man. It made my husband hard.

We haven’t talked about it since. I might bring it up tonight since its Saturday. I can’t go out again tonight, but will remind him about it, see where it goes.

I'm glad things are going well for you, and I hope they stay that way. I know I was the first to jump on you with an acerbic comment that was more judgmental than I realized at the time after you wrote something to vent during a fit of frustration, and I'm sorry about that. I'm glad my predictions of doom for your relationship were incorrect; I imagine if you stick to this plan of going slow while communicating your needs and wants to your husband and letting him be part of satisfying them, those predictions will stay incorrect.

 

[elsaparker]

I'm glad things are going well for you, and I hope they stay that way. I know I was the first to jump on you with an acerbic comment that was more judgmental than I realized at the time after you wrote something to vent during a fit of frustration, and I'm sorry about that. I'm glad my predictions of doom for your relationship were incorrect; I imagine if you stick to this plan of going slow while communicating your needs and wants to your husband and letting him be part of satisfying them, those predictions will stay incorrect.

No need for apologies. We have a strong relationship right now and its no where close to being doomed anytime. Just taking small steps for now.

 

[lynn-23]

I did follow through on the advice that very day. We went out dancing to this classy place that was suggested months ago by one of my friends. We dined, drank and danced. I whispered my interested in dancing with another two guys at the same time into my husbands ear.

My husband was at the front while I grinded my ass against some random guy behind me. I was looking straight into my husband’s eyes while grinding the guy behind me. I had a good and time my husband seemed to have enjoyed it. I was wearing a silk dress with no panties. I could feel the man’s cock against my ass and I could feel my husbands cock against my crotch. Then I turned around and switched position so to say. The best part was watching my husband as I grinded the other man. It made my husband hard.

We haven’t talked about it since. I might bring it up tonight since its Saturday. I can’t go out again tonight, but will remind him about it, see where it goes.

Thats very exciting Elsa. Even if not much else happens, that is still something you can share.

 

[lynn-23]

I don't think its shyness, most guys think if your touching there ass and they like it, they. May think there gay.

I think that may be part of it. I think guys often just arent used to the idea of being touched sensually there, and partly that they may associate it wtih gay sex. Thats why I just told him that it was ok to enjoy that. I looked him in the eye when i said that and he looked back and he knew what i meant. He relaxed and now we enjoy it often.

 

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Such an interesting thread.

 

[HerculesNow]

I did follow through on the advice that very day. We went out dancing to this classy place that was suggested months ago by one of my friends. We dined, drank and danced. I whispered my interested in dancing with another two guys at the same time into my husbands ear.

My husband was at the front while I grinded my ass against some random guy behind me. I was looking straight into my husband’s eyes while grinding the guy behind me. I had a good and time my husband seemed to have enjoyed it. I was wearing a silk dress with no panties. I could feel the man’s cock against my ass and I could feel my husbands cock against my crotch. Then I turned around and switched position so to say. The best part was watching my husband as I grinded the other man. It made my husband hard.

We haven’t talked about it since. I might bring it up tonight since its Saturday. I can’t go out again tonight, but will remind him about it, see where it goes.

This is really hot! I would love to have been that guy. I love women's asses sliding on my cock. It turns me on big time. Lucky guy!

 

[elsaparker]

Just an update.

Went dancing again last night with hubby. This time we got a girl. A beautiful looking mid age woman. There was a lot of grinding between her and hubby. She was totally coming on to him. I think I freaked her out when I told her I am his wife.

 

[maxshela]

This sounds like a good idea. I going to find some realistic anal sex guide and watch it in bed. I am sure I will grab his attention. I am not going to say much on the topic unless he asks. I am going to try this tonight. I am going to go search up a realistic anal sex guide. I have found one, but it was more straight up porn than an actual guide. If anyone can link me to one, I would be thankful. Thanks for all the responses. This is going to happen tonight!

This would be a good way to bring it up. Have you thought about getting toys, but plug double vibrator and ask him to help you use it.

 

[talldad1]

Just an update.

Went dancing again last night with hubby. This time we got a girl. A beautiful looking mid age woman. There was a lot of grinding between her and hubby. She was totally coming on to him. I think I freaked her out when I told her I am his wife.

How did you feel watching that? Were you jealous that he might have gotten turned on by her?