is a blowjob a way to say thank you?

[Bamagan]

Yeah, that seems to be the common response to the idea of putting effort into pleasing women.

It's the common response to the idea of putting effort into pleasing anyone who won't appreciate it.
It puts me in mind of a place I used to work at. They cut almost everyone's hours to just below the point where they were required to provide full-time benefits, but they used part of their savings to throw a quarterly pizza party. It was not appreciated, nor did they appreciate the resulting passive aggressive workforce (followed by a much less competent one after a spate of firings and quitting).

 

[Smuttyandfun]

I usually just leave a nice tip. But I guess if the service was exceptional, you might be tempted to really show your appreciation.

 

[Michael682]

I will say I once fixed a friend’s computer and she was very appreciative and wasn’t shy about showing me. So that sort of thing can happen.

 

[Erozetta]

It's the common response to the idea of putting effort into pleasing anyone who won't appreciate it.
It puts me in mind of a place I used to work at. They cut almost everyone's hours to just below the point where they were required to provide full-time benefits, but they used part of their savings to throw a quarterly pizza party. It was not appreciated, nor did they appreciate the resulting passive aggressive workforce (followed by a much less competent one after a spate of firings and quitting).

There's a difference between not appreciating the effort and trying to feign appreciation for something that simply creates more work for you and becomes wasted effort for them.

Your example is about being pre-emptively punished and the one doing the punishing expecting the same effort being put in following the punishment.

A better example would be a secretary who has put significant effort into creating an easily updated meeting schedule for their boss and the boss taking it upon themself to update the schedule on their own to take some of the workload off of their secretary. Only the boss inadvertently loses half of the scheduled appointments by not clicking a particular setting that they were previously shown how to do and the boss still expecting the effort to be appreciated, even though they've just doubled the work of their secretary by 'helping.'

 

[Landshark1]

Nothing says “Thank You” better then a BJ !

 

[MediocreAuthor]

This is actually for a story, not a general question. I'm trying to figure out if a real person would think this way or if I'm trying to shoehorn an idea in because I want it there.

Jake developed feelings for his sister's wife (Steph) while getting her pregnant a year ago. She knows that he did, though he never admitted it to her. He gets over her with another girl, then that relationship goes to hell because that girl is toxic. Jake is alone at Valentines, so arranges for his sister and her wife to go on a date while he watches their (his) daughter. The next morning they come home to find out that not only did he babysit the colicky baby but he also cleaned house. Steph feels bad that he did all of that for them, but he spent his valentine's day alone.

Would it be reasonable for Steph to suggest to her wife that maybe she (Steph) should wake Jake up with a blowjob?

I am not entertaining ideas of the sister giving him a blowjob because this is not an incest story.

I'm not a lesbian, but I am am married and fully monogamous, as I assume your lesbian couple is.

I'll use my experience personal as a baseline to imagine myself in a similar situation.

If my SO ever asked to have sexual relations with another person as a reward for a mundane chore like babysitting/house cleaning, I would be crushed, insulted, and heartbroken.

"Hey, babe! Your brother babysat our kid and cleaned the house. Mind if I suck his dick to say thank you?"

←Me, going through all the stages of grief lol

I can't imagine this being any different if it was my husband, or if it was my wife, (if I were a lesbian).

You said that the brother had previously impregnated the wife, but obviously that was done out of necessity. If I had to let my spouse sleep with another person so that I could have a child, I definitely wouldn't be okay with them getting intimate again as a favor for chores!

Again, I'm super monogamous, and not everyone is... Still, I feel like most women (lesbian or otherwise) would feel similarly.

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But at the end of the day, you're writing an erotic tale, yeah? What level of realism are you going for?

Women do exist who are okay with their spouse fucking other people. I'm certainly not one (and I'd argue that the vast majority of women feel like I do), but such women are out there. You can always write a story about those outliers.

 

[easyoff]

Maybe if the pizza arrives piping hot

 

[Lifestyle66]

This is actually for a story, not a general question. I'm trying to figure out if a real person would think this way or if I'm trying to shoehorn an idea in because I want it there.

.... Steph feels bad that he did all of that for them, but he spent his valentine's day alone.

Would it be reasonable for Steph to suggest to her wife that maybe she (Steph) should wake Jake up with a blowjob?

I am not entertaining ideas of the sister giving him a blowjob because this is not an incest story.

IMO, whether the BJ is reasonable as a reward isn't really the question.

As I tell my wife (often) when she asks me to do things, whether it's heavy lifting or fixing things she can't; "That's why I get the blowjobs," or "I do it for the blowjobs."

There are many times when she's tired and merely replies "I'm not feeling it, but if you want, I'll lay back and spread my legs for you. But don't expect any effort from me to get you there." But there are other times when she replies, "We'll see," and leaves me guessing for hours.

For a woman to offer a guy a blowjob is the ultimate reward, even more so than spreading her legs, because the BJ takes more effort on her part.

When my wife does it, it's because she wants to, when she wants to tease me, take control, and edge me at her pace, ... and as a reward to keep me returning to do whatever she desires. Smart men put the effort into ensuring the woman they are with orgasms for the same reason; so she'll want to do it with them again in the future! And if my wife ever suggested she'd do it for another man who did something special for her, ... well, ... I guess that would also depend upon the whole situation. But i don't think it necessarily "unreasonable". It's what she has done for me.

Heck, I could see my wife someday telling me; "You know that leak under the kitchen sink I've been nagging you to fix? Well, the neighbor guy came over and fixed it, so I gave him the blowjob YOU would have gotten!"

So, the real question for your story is whether the blowjob is appropriate with the way you develop all three of the characters and their relationships.

 

[StillStunned]

A blowjob is an appropriate reward if you can write it as an appropriate reward. That's really all that matters.

 

[Bisexguy70]

Ive given several blow jobs to men who served for our country . My buddy is ex Navy and ive told him many times sucking hos cock its my way of showing him gratitude

 

[ChloeTzang]

Have you put a note on the jobs list on the fridge? Men react well to prompts...

LOL. Never. I txt him. And I put it in his calendar. With a reminder.

The only notes on the fridge are "DO NOT EAT.....whatever it is..." LOL

 

[kevinj3636]

I will say I once fixed a friend’s computer and she was very appreciative and wasn’t shy about showing me. So that sort of thing can happen.

Do you know if she needs help with anything else?

 

[drobert44]

Ive given several blow jobs to men who served for our country . My buddy is ex Navy and ive told him many times sucking hos cock its my way of showing him gratitude

Army vet here, combat in 91, love a blowie!

 

[MelissaBaby]

Have you put a note on the jobs list on the fridge? Men react well to prompts...

Oh no,no,no. The blowjob is for not needing a note

 

[MelissaBaby]

Ive given several blow jobs to men who served for our country . My buddy is ex Navy and ive told him many times sucking hos cock its my way of showing him gratitude

The Purple Head Award.

 

[Britva415]

Perhaps the sister is secretly attracted to him and, since this isn't an incest story, she wants the wife to do it as a proxy for herself. They both crawl into bed with him, just fooling around, thank him for his consideration. Sister notices he's tenting the sheets. 'Damn Jake, are you getting aroused right now?'

After considerable teasing and incidental contact... daisy chain.

Right - since this isn't an incest story.

 

[ShelbyDawn57]

I would definitely blow my husband if I came home and found that he had cleaned the whole house, though.

I would blow your husband if I came home and found he'd cleaned my house. Especially if he folded the laundry and out it away. just sayin...

 

[Pabiporffor]

Only if she's got manners.

 

[MelissaBaby]

I would blow your husband if I came home and found he'd cleaned my house. Especially if he folded the laundry and out it away. just sayin...

Before you make that deal, you should know that he is a professional chef.

 

[ShelbyDawn57]

Before you make that deal, you should know that he is a professional chef.

Don't tell me that. There's no telling what I'd do for Eggs Benedict from scratch.

 

[MelissaBaby]

Don't tell me that. There's no telling what I'd do for Eggs Benedict from scratch.

I like to tell him that his cooking was not the reason I married him, but it is the reason I don’t cheat on him.

 

[jehoram]

If someone said thank you to me by giving me a blow job, my response would be "You're welcome!"

 

[Daddydomtex48]

In my book one of the better and much appreciated way, yes!

 

[kaceyLolipop]

yes, definitely . . .

 

[Seamus44]

yes, definitely . . .

Wish you owed me a thank you