Is it true that most men have had homosexual experiences?
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I certainly did as a boy from around 13 to 16 but then I found girls. As I got older and particularly when I was widowed I felt a desire to return to mutual masturbation with another man (but nothing more). However, the desire and its completion is another story as there have been no takers from my overtures so far.
I don't know if anyone can factually say that "most" men have had a homosexual experience, but I'm sure the number is much higher than most people would think. Most men who have will never admit it.
I recently reconnected with the first man (boy at the time) I ever had sex with. We were lovers throughout most of our high school years. He told me that he has never admitted to anyone that he had sex with another guy. He also told me that hes has never had sex with another man since then, but that he has wanted to almost every day of his life.
When my ex-wife and I were trying to save our marriage we spent a weekend with 9 other troubled couples at an organized "couples retreat." During one of the group sessions involving the men only, one of the counselors said "It's been said that one in 10 men has had a homosexual experience at least once in their lifetime. Have any of you ever had a homosexual experience?" I was the first to raise my hand, but two of the others did as well. And after that session one of the guys who didn"t raise his hand confided to me that he had also had a homosexual experience but hadn't wanted to admit it in front of the group. 4 out of 10 got us pretty close to the 50% number.
I recently reconnected with the first man (boy at the time) I ever had sex with. We were lovers throughout most of our high school years. He told me that he has never admitted to anyone that he had sex with another guy. He also told me that hes has never had sex with another man since then, but that he has wanted to almost every day of his life.
When my ex-wife and I were trying to save our marriage we spent a weekend with 9 other troubled couples at an organized "couples retreat." During one of the group sessions involving the men only, one of the counselors said "It's been said that one in 10 men has had a homosexual experience at least once in their lifetime. Have any of you ever had a homosexual experience?" I was the first to raise my hand, but two of the others did as well. And after that session one of the guys who didn"t raise his hand confided to me that he had also had a homosexual experience but hadn't wanted to admit it in front of the group. 4 out of 10 got us pretty close to the 50% number.
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My 2 cents...
Most men? I don't think I'd go so far as to say that, although the world may never know because of the stigma associated with homosexuality- particularly male. I have never had any male/male contact, altough i can remember as a child, being in situations where the older neighborhood kid said " hey, look what I can do" or such. For background, I am 34, happily married, and fully enjoying crossdressing, when possible, after coming out to my wife a year or so ago. I just don't have the interest in the male form and gay porn does nothing for me ( although transexual porn REALLY trips my trigger- still tryin' to figure that one out!) I have been involved in two foursome encounters and had no contact with the other male, we were both just kinda along for the ride though
Most men? I don't think I'd go so far as to say that, although the world may never know because of the stigma associated with homosexuality- particularly male. I have never had any male/male contact, altough i can remember as a child, being in situations where the older neighborhood kid said " hey, look what I can do" or such. For background, I am 34, happily married, and fully enjoying crossdressing, when possible, after coming out to my wife a year or so ago. I just don't have the interest in the male form and gay porn does nothing for me ( although transexual porn REALLY trips my trigger- still tryin' to figure that one out!) I have been involved in two foursome encounters and had no contact with the other male, we were both just kinda along for the ride though
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I wonder how many of us would have sex with another guy if the circumstances were perfect. I was traveling with an office buddy and the company booked us into a hotel that had one queen instead of two. I said its not a problem. Later that night he rolled over and stared stroking my boner. I said, " If you want to play its ok with me!" Ha Ha. We nearly wore each other out that night. Never talked about it other than to say at breakfast, " That was fun! Thanks. " MY reply, "Me too!" Both of us are so str8 acting in the office. But the time was right.
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Wtf..?!?!
Man, I'm really wondering what the heck I wrote that got the old censor stamp?! I recall merely saying something to the effect that most men probably thought about homosexual experiences, but few would actually act on it. What in the world about that violated the guidelines?! I'm afraid I'll have to take exception to this one, my moderator friends.
Man, I'm really wondering what the heck I wrote that got the old censor stamp?! I recall merely saying something to the effect that most men probably thought about homosexual experiences, but few would actually act on it. What in the world about that violated the guidelines?! I'm afraid I'll have to take exception to this one, my moderator friends.
My first BJ from a guy I came just as quick as the first one from a girl. I started out getting head from girls and it is very difficult to cum from a BJ with them now. For some reason however I cum pretty quick when a guy does it, its not any better just must be the mental taboo for me.
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I haven't, but I come from small town America where I think there's less opportunity. I'm in the city now--anyone want to show me around?
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Opportunity knockingI haven't, but I come from small town America where I think there's less opportunity. I'm in the city now--anyone want to show me around?
I haven't as you can see from my post in my thread but I am not opposed to the idea
If you include strip poker/show me yours-show me mine sleepover stuff as kids, sharing porn that leads to some mutual masturbation and even some frat hazing among other things I would buy that "most" men have had some sort of homosexual experience.
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I'm bisexual. My theory is that everyone is born bisexual and then socialized to be straight by the prevailing cultural norms. Most guys probably never think about gay sex because any such strange feelings were suppressed during their childhood. But many more introspective guys remain cautiously curious, especially in their secret masturbatory fantasies.
I know this to be true because before I came "out" every guy I knew was totally straight. But once I came out, it turned out that I had friends who were at least curious enough or horny enough to want to see what getting a blow job from another guy was like. And others were bold enough to go even further. The fact is that guys are basically really horny and will do whatever they think they can get away with in private.
Also, as a bisexual guy I have tended to only date women who were into having two or more guys together. As it turned out most of the guys I have shared my various girlfriends and past wives with were nominal straight, attracted to the relationship primarily for the hot babe but always ended up at least allowing me to give them head and usually much more.
The lesson is that once you come out as bi or gay, suddenly there turns out to be many more guys out there into kinky sex than you ever imagined before!
I know this to be true because before I came "out" every guy I knew was totally straight. But once I came out, it turned out that I had friends who were at least curious enough or horny enough to want to see what getting a blow job from another guy was like. And others were bold enough to go even further. The fact is that guys are basically really horny and will do whatever they think they can get away with in private.
Also, as a bisexual guy I have tended to only date women who were into having two or more guys together. As it turned out most of the guys I have shared my various girlfriends and past wives with were nominal straight, attracted to the relationship primarily for the hot babe but always ended up at least allowing me to give them head and usually much more.
The lesson is that once you come out as bi or gay, suddenly there turns out to be many more guys out there into kinky sex than you ever imagined before!
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