Is Romance Important to You or Is it All About the sex?

[Madmar]

I'm a hedonist. What is more enticing than the combination of endorphins from both? There's nothing like it. One without the other leaves me feeling wanting and lesser.

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[SheisFaye]

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[Madmar]

But the two involved (assuming two are involved) need to read one another. Maybe they decide to skip the romance and go directly to sex. The chemistry needs to be there.

Yeah, you could say that being able to read each other that, oh, this is going to be one of those nights that it's all about the sex and less about the romance and both are onboard for that IS an intimacy of knowing your partner. Does that make sense? But a partner who's JUST about the sex at all times (slam bam thank you ma'am), that's always no bueno.

 

[Sexy_Singer]

Yeah, you could say that being able to read each other that, oh, this is going to be one of those nights that it's all about the sex and less about the romance and both are onboard for that IS an intimacy of knowing your partner. Does that make sense? But a partner who's JUST about the sex at all times (slam bam thank you ma'am), that's always no bueno.

I agree.

 

[Madmar]

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Girl, as a sister sapiophile, I like you already.

 

[SheisFaye]

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[Madmar]

I left out the tortilla chips, and fresh guacamole made right there at the table.

A thousand apologies.

Where's the sangria?

 

[Madmar]

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Isn't she cute? Guys, you better give this girl the oxytocin she wants.

 

[SheisFaye]

I saw a mention of sangria somewhere above? Lol Although that might make Lit a little.. well.. lit. That's a knee slapper.

As for the man- I'm holding out. It's been some time. Ha. I can't imagine either party will remain in tact! *grins*

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What are youuuuu here for? We reciprocate in this Tribe.

 

[Madmar]

I saw a mention of sangria somewhere above? Lol Although that might make Lit a little.. well.. lit. That's a knee slapper.

As for the man- I'm holding out. It's been some time. Ha. I can't imagine either party will remain in tact! *grins*

I should write a disclaimer here that your message is Faye approved. I support this.

What are youuuuu here for? We reciprocate in this Tribe.

Missed the sangria. There was probably a mention of margaritas, too, huh? There seems to ALWAYS be margaritas mentioned with ladies night. (Is this ladies night? ) Tequila's a nonstarter for me but I am a sucker for a good sangria. Also good whiskey. THAT will definitely make Lit lit.

I'm loving having this discusion about romance and sex and intimacy and how we each define those things. At this point, that's sort of what I'm here for (thought provokers) as opposed to looking for something specific.

 

[Sexy_Singer]

For. @Lord Pmann. Barry White with a Pavarotti twist.

I'm not sure if you'll like the song, but here you go.

 

[SheisFaye]

Then sangria it is, way to circle back around!
*smiles*

That's

Missed the sangria. There was probably a mention of margaritas, too, huh? There seems to ALWAYS be margaritas mentioned with ladies night. (Is this ladies night? ) Tequila's a nonstarter for me but I am a sucker for a good sangria. Also good whiskey. THAT will definitely make Lit lit.

I'm loving having this discusion about romance and sex and intimacy and how we each define those things. At this point, that's sort of what I'm here for (thought provokers) as opposed to looking for something specific.

Then sangria it is, way to circle back around!
*smiles*

I've been cognizant of the chemicals in play when I have experienced either of those things. When you say each of those words, rather than a definition of terms I see a cocktail of very pleasing things that all have a specific feeling.
I wonder if compatibility or desire for one over the other is a matter of finding a compatible mind seeking a similar cocktail. Whether we see a definition or cocktail it's interesting to explore eachother's perspectives.

 

[Madmar]

For. @Lord Pmann. Barry White with a Pavarotti twist.

I'm not sure if you'll like the song, but here you go.

That's a tough one. I have many Barry White songs on my playlist (always a great mood setter) but Pavarotti and sex?

Then again, sometimes I find a "mood setter" in some classical music and it turns out what the piece was written for was, well, not that kind of a mood setter. Then again if what we're talking about is la petite mort, maybe it applies? I dunno.

But Pavarotti? Romantically? Doesn't do it ... for me anyway.

 

[Sexy_Singer]

That's a tough one. I have many Barry White songs on my playlist (always a great mood setter) but Pavarotti and sex?

Then again, sometimes I find a "mood setter" in some classical music and it turns out what the piece was written for was, well, not that kind of a mood setter. Then again if what we're talking about is la petite mort, maybe it applies? I dunno.

But Pavarotti? Romantically? Doesn't do it ... for me anyway.

Pavarotti was merely a representation of my past when I sang. It was meant to humor me.

 

[Madmar]

I wonder if compatibility or desire for one over the other is a matter of finding a compatible mind seeking a similar cocktail. Whether we see a definition or cocktail it's interesting to explore eachother's perspectives.

I think there's something to that more or less subconsciously. Any alcohol's gonna give you that wavy lowering of inhibitions feeling, but I think complementary choices add to the overall romantic evening. For instance, it may show an openness to try something different.

 

[Madmar]

Pavarotti was merely a representation of my past when I sang. It was meant to humor me.

So you're not saying that I was supposed to think of Pavarotti as sexual?

 

[Sexy_Singer]

So you're not saying that I was supposed to think of Pavarotti as sexual?

That is strictly up to you.

Though, I have heard that a dramatic tenor, when hitting the high notes, can cause a sexual reaction in some women.

 

[Strixaluco]

I've tried just sex, always leaves me feeling empty. So yes, some romance or at the very least the possibility of one to develop is important.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

Maybe this is too nuanced, but I want a comfortable environment. I want to feel comfortable with whatever I am doing, and want the woman to feel the same. If we are comfortable with my/her aggressive approach, yes please. And I've found that demonstrating my need for touching and wooing her helps bring comfort (and passion) to the encounter. Once we are comfortable with each other, many erotically charged moments happen. But, of course, since I'm a toucher and feeler naturally, if the woman isn't comfortable with that, it goes no further. If, on the other hand, she responds with breathing changes and slight trembling as I do, more is surely to come.

Not sure that makes sense...but that's how I think of it...

 

[Madmar]

Maybe this is too nuanced, but I want a comfortable environment. I want to feel comfortable with whatever I am doing, and want the woman to feel the same. If we are comfortable with my/her aggressive approach, yes please. And I've found that demonstrating my need for touching and wooing her helps bring comfort (and passion) to the encounter. Once we are comfortable with each other, many erotically charged moments happen. But, of course, since I'm a toucher and feeler naturally, if the woman isn't comfortable with that, it goes no further. If, on the other hand, she responds with breathing changes and slight trembling as I do, more is surely to come.

Not sure that makes sense...but that's how I think of it...

Oh, I think all of that makes sense.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

Oh, I think all of that makes sense.

I suppose the "romantic" in me wants to gently caress and touch the woman...my way of making her feel wanted and nurtured...so, if she is the type that appreciates/wants/enjoys having her hair petted, arms caressed, back held as we walk...enjoys having a man inhale her scent while he nuzzles her neck...we're probably a good match...and it's probably romantic...

 

[Madmar]

I suppose the "romantic" in me wants to gently caress and touch the woman...my way of making her feel wanted and nurtured...so, if she is the type that appreciates/wants/enjoys having her hair petted, arms caressed, back held as we walk...enjoys having a man inhale her scent while he nuzzles her neck...we're probably a good match...and it's probably romantic...

All great things as long as not in a vacuum. In other words, if you are not attuned to her feeling uncomfortable and/or you are not willing to be respectful if you've picked up on some discomfort. For instance, if it's completely one sided.

Also, have we all also had the experience of the person who only likes walking on the left or the right while holding hands, sort of like having a side of the bed?

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

All great things as long as not in a vacuum. In other words, if you are not attuned to her feeling uncomfortable and/or you are not willing to be respectful if you've picked up on some discomfort. For instance, if it's completely one sided.

Also, have we all also had the experience of the person who only likes walking on the left or the right while holding hands, sort of like having a side of the bed?

Yes to both...lol...

Yep, Nothing should happen until I've unlocked the woman's "Da Vinci Code" to know her comfort level...

And yep...I've been with someone who "needed" to be on the right side always...but it was caused by a physical condition with her other arm...

 

[Orchidea73]

I've learned that Romance is one of those things that varies according to people.
If you say dinner with candle lights, I would say I'm not romantic at all. But that's not what Romance means to me.

 

[Madmar]

Woman's Da Vinci Code. That's funny.

The person I'm thinking of I don't think it was because of a physical condition with his hand or anything. It was a city street so maybe it was one of those chivalrous taking the outside position nearest the street things.