Just joined and getting a lot of attention

[Primalex]

Yeah, they're far and few between, but lots of things that are uncommon (like homosexuality) are uncommon in the sense that assuming the contrary is a good bet in a vast majority of cases. Some people (men and women and the whole spectrum between and beyond) enjoy the "let's fuck" thing. You don't have to like it yourself, you're not obliged to respond to it or even acknowledge it, but you're  not free to diss it. It  is some people's thing and it's as worthy of respect as bringing flowers to her door on a first date.

Letting your freak flag fly means letting everyone else fly theirs. No double standards.

Incidentally, I'm the straight guy who looks up what the color of the roses mean that I leave on her doorstep in the morning before she wakes. I'm a teddy bear.

That's not how it works. Just because it might be my kink to grope and there are women out there that enjoy the thought of being groped, doesn't mean I get to grope any random woman and that she can't call this out as bullshit behavior.

And just because the virtual world is not physical does not mean the rules change. You can be an intrusive asshole in the real and the virtual world. I don't have to respect your kinks just because you smack them in my face.

 

[Strixaluco]

I'm going to apologize for the assholes, but I will claw back some redemption for them: Big world and there are some people for whom bluntness, even crudeness, is a turn-on.



Yeah, they're far and few between, but lots of things that are uncommon (like homosexuality) are uncommon in the sense that assuming the contrary is a good bet in a vast majority of cases. Some people (men and women and the whole spectrum between and beyond) enjoy the "let's fuck" thing. You don't have to like it yourself, you're not obliged to respond to it or even acknowledge it, but you're  not free to diss it. It  is some people's thing and it's as worthy of respect as bringing flowers to her door on a first date.

That's no excuse. Any decent kinkster waits for consent until he throws his kink at the other party. Not doing so is a MAJOR red flag and warrants serious dissing.

 

[Strixaluco]

Honestly, I've found that not leading with dirty/sexy talk along with being polite and expressing interest in getting to know someone does wonders and tends to make you stand out on Lit as a guy. Just based on the responses I've gotten. I'm not sending out a bunch of messages or anything, but my response rate is higher than I would have expected, guessing that is why.

That's the way I got into something here earlier. We discussed plenty of things before getting into anything naughty.

Many women response to all decently behaving men even when they are not interested in anything else than talking. Me included. I've got several friends here that way. Some might have wished for more, but friendship is the most they will get from me.

 

[Hardon4u21]

I hope you

Some people have been nice in messages. Some not so much.

have a better experience.

 

[autologous]

That's no excuse. Any decent kinkster waits for consent until he throws his kink at the other party. Not doing so is a MAJOR red flag and warrants serious dissing.

Consent is everything!!