Ladies, how much do we orgasm?

[M's girl]

Yup, found it...

Now that we know THAT.... someone please figure out in WHAT ORDER you have to push, pull and squeeze and I'll be fine

 

[sensationseeker]

I am a bit confused about the whole vaginal orgasm thing.

I have never orgasm-ed during the PIV part of the intercourse, not in the way that I do with clitoral stimulation. What I feel are waves of pleasure, a bit like a modified sinusoid waveform where the line goes up before it starts oscillating (for the lack of better words). This could go on for hours and there is never an explosion and release, hence, no orgasm.

The strange thing here is that, if I had to choose between the clitoral orgasms (I have these during foreplay; and than ‘afterplay when the intercourse is over) and the vaginal intercourse, I would choose the later because it is far more enjoyable and intense. I can orgasm if I stimulate my clit during the PIV, but that kind of spoils the fun because I can do it only once. When I do this my arousal goes down, everything stops, and I need a break.

Does anybody have any thoughts, suggestions, or advice on how to get to “the major O”, or the multiple orgasms during vaginal intercourse?

 

[M's girl]

Does anybody have any thoughts, suggestions, or advice on how to get to “the major O”, or the multiple orgasms during vaginal intercourse?

Looks like you need to ask Mr. GGG.

I'm not saying there is NOT such a thing as the G-spot, A-spot and what else have you. If I have them they are just very well hidden. Very well. Cause it's not like I never tried. I'm old enough, have had sexual experiences enough.... I am the exploring type and man! would I like to have more orgasms! Because I do know what they are (some people then start to wonder about that...) I really do. But I just need a certain kind of stimulation and mood.

PIV is great. It's intimate and can be quite an overwhelming feeling. Feeling him deep inside me and his passion and his lust. That's great. But no, no! way is that the same pleasurable feeling that I get from clitoral stimulation. Nothing to send me over the edge or even bring me in a high state of arousal unless I am already there otherwise. It can help maintain a certain feeling.

I swear... if all else is not good a guy can fuck me for hours and I can read a book. Seriously.

 

[sunandshadow]

Huh. I can (and regularly do) come from PIV, even with no clitoral stimulation as long as my nipples are stimulated enough. I think PIV orgasms feel a little different from clitoral orgasms but not that much. The difference would be that clitoral orgasms are focused on one intense spot, while vaginal ones are a little more diffuse and induce stronger/more 'clenches' or whatever you call them afterwards, and more gushing/squirting if you're prone to that.

Here's another question to add to the mix, are there other women like me who find the best part not to be the orgasm itself, but the 5-10 seconds beforehand? That almost-there, gonna-cum-real-soon-now, on-fire feeling? I'm occasionally annoyed when I cum because I wasn't done playing yet (can't do multiples), and I wanted to prolong the good part more.

 

[sensationseeker]

Well, everything I wrote was under the assumption that I am already aroused and ‘into it’. If I am not, than I can’t even read a book because I find the experience too unpleasant and annoying. Under normal circumstances I do get to the edge and stay there, but if I go over the edge I fall all the way down and need another round of foreplay if I want to continue.

No disrespect to Mr. GGG., but I was looking for a female perspective on this.

 

[LindaL]

Yes I can, although not easy. Like I said, it's almost like you have to push all the right buttons in the right order first.

It was real important for me to discover how to push my own buttons. For too long I felt it was the man's job to bring me to orgasm. HAH! That was dumb of me.

My first orgasm is often a lot of work, and usually I have to focus on myself, or make sure my lovers focus on the right bits. Once I get that one out of the way, then the next few can be easier, including PIV orgasms (with a little clit rubbing thrown in, of course).

But that's just me.

And M's girl, that's a very helpful illustration!

 

[wicked woman]

For me it's not. I don't mind saying that I can't. I seem to be among the 70% of women who hardly or never orgasm through PIV sex, so....

Actually I believe it's higher than that. 85% of women can't orgasm from PIV alone.

 

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[Flyin_Free]

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[Recidiva]

I'm lucky enough to orgasm from penetration and clit stimulation.

So I think the time I kept track was when my husband asked me to count. I made it to 11, before I pretty much lost count and couldn't focus enough to make sense of numbers or requests any more.

 

[wicked woman]

Well at least now that I know those numbers I don't have to feel *alone* in my lack of (at least usually) ability to do this. 'Course it could've been partly due to the fact that my ex kind of sucked in bed. I think we were together for 7 years before I actually even O'd with him.

That's why I posted it 36. You're definitely not alone.

But there are 100s of other ways to orgasm than PIV alone.

 

[M's girl]

And M's girl, that's a very helpful illustration!

Yeah Cool isn't it? When I first saw it I thought "that's it"!
I'm not sure who ensambled the whole thing but when I first saw it it was in Kim Cattrall's documentary and book "Sexual Intelligence".....

 

[M's girl]

I'm lucky enough to orgasm from penetration and clit stimulation.

At the same time or seperately?

On a different note.... I have been able to orgasm always, eversince I was very young. Figured it out kinda early and never stopped. I am always amazed when I see documentaries and such where women are featured who don't (even) know how to 'work' their own body. Women of my age who have never even touched, let alone use, a vibrator or dildo (or their own private parts in some cases ). Although they (the toys) don't work for me like they do for others, so I own a few - just for fun - but in the end I rather not use toys.

The problem has always been partners. Some did not know what the heck they were doing down there. I don't mind: I'm willing to teach them. But most of them were blasé enough to think they needed no explanation whatsoever. It's not so long ago that I decided not to go with that anymore. I used to fake orgasms to please the men who would not make an effort to please me. No more!

I must say that I hear many somewhat older women (sorry gals) here say that it's become easier for them the older (wiser, more knowledgeable?) they got. For me it backfired somewhat if that is the right expression. The older I got.. the more 'lovers' I had with the wrong attitude... the harder it got, almost as if I was discouraged. I need more faith in any lover now than I ever did before to be able to relax and enjoy sex. I doubt if I ever will be able to orgasm from PIV without clit stimulation. Because it's a challenge even if I help myself.

 

[Recidiva]

At the same time or seperately?

On a different note.... I have been able to orgasm always, eversince I was very young. Figured it out kinda early and never stopped. I am always amazed when I see documentaries and such where women are featured who don't (even) know how to 'work' their own body. Women of my age who have never even touched, let alone use, a vibrator or dildo (or their own private parts in some cases ). Although they (the toys) don't work for me like they do for others, so I own a few - just for fun - but in the end I rather not use toys.

The problem has always been partners. Some did not know what the heck they were doing down there. I don't mind: I'm willing to teach them. But most of them were blasé enough to think they needed no explanation whatsoever. It's not so long ago that I decided not to go with that anymore. I used to fake orgasms to please the men who would not make an effort to please me. No more!

I must say that I hear many somewhat older women (sorry gals) here say that it's become easier for them the older (wiser, more knowledgeable?) they got. For me it backfired somewhat if that is the right expression. The older I got.. the more 'lovers' I had with the wrong attitude... the harder it got, almost as if I was discouraged. I need more faith in any lover now than I ever did before to be able to relax and enjoy sex. I doubt if I ever will be able to orgasm from PIV without clit stimulation. Because it's a challenge even if I help myself.

Penetration, if you get that right, can be never ending.

Clit is limited because I can get oversensitized, and I'll need to not be touched at all at least for a few minutes, so going from one to the other is the best plan.

I'm also amazed women can't have orgasms or don't know how they work. Ultimately I figure I'm lucky in my brain chemistry or attitude or whatever combination of karma and juju allows me to be the way I am.

I've been lucky enough to in general be attracted to in my partners, men who were sexually adventurous and egoless about it, as much as possible, so discussion or experimentation or direction has never been a problem.

Maybe they just smell different from other guys, but also I tend to be attracted to that attitude toward life in general. If you're closed off, bigoted or easily hurt, you're probably not going to make it that far with me.

 

[dirtyjoe69]

my woman maxes out

i wish i could keep up with her but you women are never ending..lol

that is why i wrote a how to for the guys (and you ladies) on a technique that will have you squirting!

one reader already tried it and emailed me and could not believe how awsome it was to let go like that!

 

[M's girl]

Penetration, if you get that right, can be never ending.

Well.... yes.... and VERY enjoyable for the longest time. But it's very much a mind-thing with me. I do enjoy it, but have never and will never orgasm through it. I don't believe so. But sometimes the sensation is just fabulous. In that sense he can go on forever, that's true. But there have been times when I was just not into it enough (not enough foreplay - not the right mood) and it would be OK but nowhere near exciting. If I feel any sensation at all in there it's more likely to be hurting. Going too deep, fingernails (inconsiderate) and such. But never even a feeling that comes close to, say, the nice feeling of a good massage... if you know what I mean (a regular massage). Not even that. Just the nice, warm, intimate feeling of beeing filled up by your guy. That's the most of what I get from penetration...

 

[Recidiva]

Well.... yes.... and VERY enjoyable for the longest time. But it's very much a mind-thing with me. I do enjoy it, but have never and will never orgasm through it. I don't believe so. But sometimes the sensation is just fabulous. In that sense he can go on forever, that's true. But there have been times when I was just not into it enough (not enough foreplay - not the right mood) and it would be OK but nowhere near exciting. If I feel any sensation at all in there it's more likely to be hurting. Going too deep, fingernails (inconsiderate) and such. But never even a feeling that comes close to, say, the nice feeling of a good massage... if you know what I mean (a regular massage). Not even that. Just the nice, warm, intimate feeling of beeing filled up by your guy. That's the most of what I get from penetration...

Again, the mythic G-spot comes into play.

 

[M's girl]

Again, the mythic G-spot comes into play.

I suppose so... But believe me when I tell you that I did everything I can think of, with and without partner(s) to try to locate it. Wouldn't you say that if I had one or at least if I had one that was locateable ( ) I would have found it by now?

Positions, toys, tools. Attitude, mindset, letting go? I'm not hung up on anything where this is concerned. I believe it's just NOT in the cards for me and so be it.
I also believe I'm not the only one...

 

[Recidiva]

I suppose so... But believe me when I tell you that I did everything I can think of, with and without partner(s) to try to locate it. Wouldn't you say that if I had one or at least if I had one that was locateable ( ) I would have found it by now?

Positions, toys, tools. Attitude, mindset, letting go? I'm not hung up on anything where this is concerned. I believe it's just NOT in the cards for me and so be it.
I also believe I'm not the only one...

No, you're not the only one, definitely. I'm just lucky enough to know for me it's not a myth.

 

[M's girl]

No, you're not the only one, definitely. I'm just lucky enough to know for me it's not a myth.

Yes you are..

If I should ever find it after all there will be a new national holiday here. I'll keep ya all informed

 

[Flyin_Free]

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[sensationseeker]

Huh. I can (and regularly do) come from PIV, even with no clitoral stimulation as long as my nipples are stimulated enough. I think PIV orgasms feel a little different from clitoral orgasms but not that much. The difference would be that clitoral orgasms are focused on one intense spot, while vaginal ones are a little more diffuse and induce stronger/more 'clenches' or whatever you call them afterwards, and more gushing/squirting if you're prone to that.

Here's another question to add to the mix, are there other women like me who find the best part not to be the orgasm itself, but the 5-10 seconds beforehand? That almost-there, gonna-cum-real-soon-now, on-fire feeling? I'm occasionally annoyed when I cum because I wasn't done playing yet (can't do multiples), and I wanted to prolong the good part more.

Yes, and not just the 5 -10 seconds beforehand, but the whole “getting almost there and back again” game. That’s exactly what I meant when I wrote that I would choose the vaginal intercourse over clitoral orgasms if I had to.

And another question; is anybody else able to squirt/ejaculate without actually experiencing an orgasm?

I squirt quite frequently during foreplay and intercourse, and I can even do it ‘on command’ (in reality it is not voluntary and ‘on command’, it is just invariably associated with certain stimuli, and the words “cum now” are entirely optional). While this is very erotic and exciting, it is not an orgasm as I know it. And it is certainly not the ‘whole body melting’, ‘engulfing’, or ‘multiple contractions and shaking’ experience that people mention when they talk about vaginal/g spot orgasms.

 

[sunandshadow]

And another question; is anybody else able to squirt/ejaculate without actually experiencing an orgasm?

I squirt quite frequently during foreplay and intercourse, and I can even do it ‘on command’ (in reality it is not voluntary and ‘on command’, it is just invariably associated with certain stimuli, and the words “cum now” are entirely optional). While this is very erotic and exciting, it is not an orgasm as I know it. And it is certainly not the ‘whole body melting’, ‘engulfing’, or ‘multiple contractions and shaking’ experience that people mention when they talk about vaginal/g spot orgasms.

Well I gush during about the last third of my average masturbation session, which is not really squirting but a continuous production of liquid and some gets squeezed out whenever I tighten my muscles.

 

[dirtyjoe69]

What i would like to see

I would love to have some people on Lit's site to try my how to squirt instructions and let me know if it worked for you!!!

 

[moonstormer]

I would love to have some people on Lit's site to try my how to squirt instructions and let me know if it worked for you!!!

as would i! i must say that i read once that if you wanted to squirt, you should "try to urinate at the point of climax", but i guess i was a bit skeptical. plus, i had a rather amusing image of trying to squirt, and instead peeing on my partner... which i don't particularly think he would enjoy.

as for the original question, i am one of the lucky multiple orgasm ladies here. however, it's only in certain situations. i mean, clit orgasms make me way over sensitive, which is why i usually do that when i'm alone and then can leave my clit alone for a while. but with PIV orgasms, the more i cum, the more i want to cum. i will often use a combination of the two, but usually clit orgasms are tiring, while PIV ones i find energizing.

the downside of this, is that i'm usually quite overwhelmed after half an hour to an hour of sex, and want to either take a break or just finish up. but this is often hard for men who pride themselves on being able to last hours (i still think i'll believe that when i see it...) and i'm happy and ready to stop after such a 'short' period of time.

regarding the whole g-spot discussion, i always thought it was bullshit. i mean, i knew i was able to cum a lot, but i figured it was just lucky or something. but recently, the guy i was with got curious and decided to see if he could find all of the spots that the scientists say exist. we didn't get all that far (curiosity seemed to disappear when arousal reappeared), but he did manage to find mine... so i guess i now believe the urban myth or whatnot.

i guess the one thing that i've learned, is that sometimes it helps to fake a little bit. i don't advocate faking orgasms, and i made it a personal policy not to, because i didn't want to have any more bad sexual experiences where they guy walked away thinking he was all that in bed, when in fact i (literally) fell asleep while he was touching me. but sometimes that kind of aroused breathing and soft moaning can help actually get your body going in the right direction.... just a thought.