Ladies, how much do we orgasm?

[rydia57]

I don't understand. How can you literally fall asleep with a guy touching you when I know I can't sleep with one guy I like cos just feeling his skin touching mine just keeps me so aroused... I'm lucky if I get half to sleep. But stuff happens I guess. But when I do get off, I do the big O an average of 2 to 3 times. My toothbrush reallllly helps and I think you can especially get a good orgasm with anal stimulation. IMHO.....

 

[FitnessGirl]

I have always been very orgasmic. I started masturbating when I was very young and was using a vibrator at 13. I am now 22 and usually have anywhere from 20 to 30 orgasms during a solo session that lasts anywhere from 45-90 minutes.

I'm in agreement with SweetErika that the Magic Wand is the ulimate orgasm toy. I also use a few other vibrators as well as a dildo for penetration. My orgasms are singles and multiples (in clusters of 3-5) and can come from vaginal, clitoral and G-spot stimulation.

As for partner sex, I unfortunately have yet to find a lover who has the size/stamina/skill to help me achieve anywhere near the number and quality of orgasms that I do when I masturbate. I do have a few orgasms with a man, but I usually need to manually stimulate my clit during intercourse.

Maybe it will be easier when I am older, as it seems most of you have bloosomed in your 30's and 40's

 

[taolanes]

The only sexual think I'm unhappy with is that since I turned 25 I gush so much

You poor thing.....

 

[M's girl]

....... My toothbrush reallllly helps .....

Toothbrush..?

 

[sunandshadow]

You poor thing.....

I just have never understood why everyone seems to think squirting is so awesome. *shrug* To me it's an inconvenient mess.

 

[phatmac03]

I just have never understood why everyone seems to think squirting is so awesome. *shrug* To me it's an inconvenient mess.

sunandshadow squirting isn't a big thing no but to your partner well to some guys i know me anyway, it is a huge ass turn and some it may scare the shit out of them lol. but i think it is ok that lets me know that my girl is turned on juss by me watching her please herself while i please myself or while i am pleasing her. to me there is nothing like feeling her shake so violently on top or under me as i pound into her feeling her grab and hold on to my manhood.......umm i think i better go see what she is doing right now lol

 

[LindaL]

I just have never understood why everyone seems to think squirting is so awesome. *shrug* To me it's an inconvenient mess.

I'm no 'squirter' either, nor do I desire to be. But my husband (and a few friends) just love to watch me masturbate and watch my pussy change as I get more excited. I admit I enjoy putting on that type of show. I get pretty moist without any 'gushing' going on!

 

[cherrystems]

I was a late bloomer as far as masturbation and orgasms were concerned, I'd always played around a little but had never gotten myself off. I had my first orgasm when I was 18 years old. The couple of years after that, were like trying to play catch up and get all that fun that I'd missed out on.


Fast forward to now, which isn't much later as I'm only 21. Now I *have* had an orgasm from penetration, however it doesn't happen very often. I agree with a lot of the other women that say with the orgasm or not, it's just a completely enjoyable experience. Feeling the man you love that deep inside of you is an indescribable feeling, whether you orgasm or not.

I've always been able to orgasm from masturbation, but I've always just done my thing, came and stopped. I was able to orgasm twice in a row one time, during a phone sex conversation.

I do get kind've shy and feel like I'm not completely comfortable with my body which plagues me sometimes because I feel like I could open up a lot more sexually and experience different things. I've experimented here and there with my boyfriend now, but I'd like to try new things without feeling embarassed at what I'm doing.

How did you ladies loosen up? Or is it just a gradual accepting of who you are and what you want out of sex?

I guess I want tips and tricks to more orgasms and some more information about toys as I don't own any right now.

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

95% of sex is between you own ears. I've never found reaching orgasm to be a problem. But the real question is: Is the BIG O all there is? I say no.

Everyone has to agree that men and women are wired differently in their heads. Sex for guys is mainly friction (although I do recall a guy who came all over my back through over excitement before he could penetrate my ass), but for women it's a much more mental/emotional thing. The ideas of being filled by your lover, cared for and the basic intimacy of loving sex will get me off faster than anything else.

So what about vibrators, dildos and butt plugs (Use(d) them all)? Do you get the same feeling of being "filled"? No. Is there really any substitute for a lover's cock/tongue? Not really. Can they still get off with masturbation toys? Definately YES.

Another point is women are mentally visual while men are visual in the real world. Men want/need to see a pussy. They need to hear you moan. They need to see your mouth swollowing their hard-ons. Women can visualize what they need inside their own heads. God I can get off just by visualizing sex. But then, I'm a terrible dirty slut.

 

[M's girl]

..... How did you ladies loosen up? Or is it just a gradual accepting of who you are and what you want out of sex?

Although I always considered sex to be a natural thing I was also shy on the other hand. Mainly shy to vocalize what I wanted and needed out of it. Afraid to scare my BF off. Afraid he would listen and then still not care. Once that happened it threw me back even further and it shut me up for the longest time.

It took me a loooong time before I dared talking about my feelings and needs again. Once I did things only got better, but then again I now have a partner who listens and cares. I hope you will not be discouraged like me. It was so stupid of me but I was also afraid to be hurt like that again.

Now I say: go for what you want and need and talk about it with your partner. It's so important!

 

[M's girl]

95% of sex is between you own ears. I've never found reaching orgasm to be a problem. But the real question is: Is the BIG O all there is? I say no.

Everyone has to agree that men and women are wired differently in their heads. Sex for guys is mainly friction (although I do recall a guy who came all over my back through over excitement before he could penetrate my ass), but for women it's a much more mental/emotional thing. The ideas of being filled by your lover, cared for and the basic intimacy of loving sex will get me off faster than anything else.

So what about vibrators, dildos and butt plugs (Use(d) them all)? Do you get the same feeling of being "filled"? No. Is there really any substitute for a lover's cock/tongue? Not really. Can they still get off with masturbation toys? Definately YES.

Another point is women are mentally visual while men are visual in the real world. Men want/need to see a pussy. They need to hear you moan. They need to see your mouth swollowing their hard-ons. Women can visualize what they need inside their own heads. God I can get off just by visualizing sex. But then, I'm a terrible dirty slut.

Very well said. Although I must admit that I am very visual in real life too. Plus I get off big time on dirty talk during sex. Very.... uhm.... manly I guess.

 

[lilwetone]

I have always been very orgasmic. I started masturbating when I was very young and was using a vibrator at 13. I am now 22 and usually have anywhere from 20 to 30 orgasms during a solo session that lasts anywhere from 45-90 minutes.

I'm in agreement with SweetErika that the Magic Wand is the ulimate orgasm toy. I also use a few other vibrators as well as a dildo for penetration. My orgasms are singles and multiples (in clusters of 3-5) and can come from vaginal, clitoral and G-spot stimulation.

As for partner sex, I unfortunately have yet to find a lover who has the size/stamina/skill to help me achieve anywhere near the number and quality of orgasms that I do when I masturbate. I do have a few orgasms with a man, but I usually need to manually stimulate my clit during intercourse.

Maybe it will be easier when I am older, as it seems most of you have bloosomed in your 30's and 40's

I know exactly what you mean.......I started masturbating when i was 9 ....now almost 25, i havent met the right lover that can send me over the edge like my trusty toys... ....... Im sure he is around somewhere....

 

[KokopelliRises]

I wish I was as lucky as some of you more experienced ladies. On a couple of levels, the main thing being that I really only come during masturbation (and one is it). Fortunately I have recently discovered my g-spot, with the help of friends (thanks you two), and learned so much about that, that it is truly amazing. My only problem is that I can't quite tell what qualifies as a g-spot orgasm, so I can't give numbers on that. Plus I kind of get lost in the feeling, so I don't really keep track.

 

[buxxxom]

Just my .02

I consider myself extremely orgasmic. It is rare that I don't experience 4 with my husband, however, they are harder to reach alone. Usually, during a solo session, one or maybe two is all I can manage.

The best ones for me are g-spot stimulation combined with clitoral stimulation. They feel like whole body orgasms. My favorite method to reach this is my husband inside my vagina, holding a vibrating egg on my clit. MMMMM.

I guess I am one of the lucky ones able to reach orgasm from PIV alone. Even from a "cold start", so to speak, things get really good.

I am considering one of the Wahl vibrators, but they are a bit scary. My current favorites work just fine. As a female who ejaculates, something that plugs into the electrical outlet combined with liquid scares me. Any thoughts on this, anyone?

Also, it became much easier to reach a happy ending for me the older I got. At 39 now, I can say, I know exactly what I like, and am not ashamed to ask for it. The 30's rock! Now, I can hope that the 40's (ugh, soon) are just as good.

 

[evildwarf]

my present partner has a multiple within moments of starting.. and loses count minutes later... not meaning to brag, but the female body is worth the reading to please gentlemen... and a count of five or less is well... not holding up your end... personal opinion and not meant to belittle or berate... just , well... let's get it together gents... be a good man and plkease a good woman... often

 

[evildwarf]

the female sex curve is limitless... as are the ways and means of doing so... i have set a goal in life... to make my partner pass out from excessive pleasure... a man's gotta dream... take hold of the best part of being a woman ladies... be free and uninhibited in your love and your lust... you are supposed to enjoy sex... the orgasm is mother nature's way of increasing a man's chance to pass on his genes... as a woman you go from being someone's daughter to someone's girlfriend to somone's fiancee to someone's wife, to somone's mother... you have but one thing that is truly your's... your body and how you use it... the laws suck, and so do the traditions of " barefoot and pregnant "... take command of yourself and set you free... and men?... be a " man " and let her soar... a real man would do nothing less...

why do i get the feeling i'll hear about these ideals ina loud way?... paranoia is good in some ways.. i can prepare for the onslaught

 

[ZenChick]

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[CWatson]

Toothbrush..?

I think she means one of them electric toothbrushes. Supposedly, if you're willing to apply the bristles to yourself, it works as a makeshift vibrator. (This is all theory for me; I have the wrong stuff dangling down there to know first-hand.)

 

[HowMayIPleaseU]

I am quite fortunate that I can cum over and over again, often needing very little of a break... easily dozens...

That's with the caveat of being with my fingers or hands/tongues... Vibrators and shower massagers, although they can be delightful, make me numb and too sensitive to have multiples...

 

[darkestblu85]

I have never had the big O during sex. The only way it happens is on my own and then I can get myself off as much as I want. On any given day I can masturbate off and on as much as possible, but they usually are not that big. I had a boyfriend of 4.5 years ( we tried so hard to get me to cum) and got into the habit of finishing myself off after we had sex, but it was always more difficult than when I was home alone and usually not as big. Even the best pussy eater I know can't get me off. I have been close before, but never there. I want so badly to come from being with a guy and I have no problem relinquishing control so I guess I just need really specific stimulation.

 

[coastal-boy]

when I first met my wife, she told me it was impossible for her to cum without external help and that lube was an absolute necessity. funny how that changes with a happy relationship.

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

I have what I call serial or clusters... and rarely singles. But I normally only have ONE series/cluster in a session. I can count on one hand the number of times it's happened twice in a session.

We've been working on Gspot lately, and while it feels really good, I've needed clit stim to get over the edge.

 

[gloriann]

Singles when alone, although if I'm in the right mood, I can have single after single.

With my partner, I think someone characterized them as "clusters." Yes, clusters, some big, some small, but never just one, and too numerous to count.

 

[sunandshadow]

I can't do the multiple-o thing, probably because my hormones are a bit screwed up, but I pretty much always get an o, so I'm happy with that. I figure it must work for me basically like it does for men - if I really want a second o I have to let my body cooldown and reset for 15min-1hour first.

 

[MR.GGG]

some comments

""I agree viva la 40"s and beyond. I am fortuanate to have a lover who found me, and knows where my G spot and more is. This is the best sex of my life. I have no idea how much I cum, but I know it is more than 15 per sesssion.""

NOT an unusual chronology of sexual discovery. Certainly something to look forward to rather than dread getting older. Hopefully sharing the GSpot TECHNIQUE will allow a few to discover that magic long before they would have stumbled on it by accident.

""Looks like you need to ask Mr. GGG."'

If she hasn't already she might want to delve into the TRY THIS thread. Some good ideas from contributors.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=98657


""No disrespect to Mr. GGG., but I was looking for a female perspective on this.""

None taken. I share a few ideas and have suggested a way I found to greatly increase a woman's pleasure and number of orgasms - IF that's what you're trying to achieve AND it works for you. I can and do ONLY give my views and what I've observed or what has been posted on the TRY THIS thread. I have never presumed to talk FOR women.


""there other women like me who find the best part not to be the orgasm itself, but the 5-10 seconds beforehand?"'

One thing I've found with the GSpot Technique is that after a couple of G-Gasms the partner can hold their thumb on the Gspot but not move it. The woman then goes into that holding pattern waiting for another one. If done right the buildup can last quite a long time. What I've observed though is that after 30 seconds or so, even when there is NO stimulation, the body just does a "fu¢kit" and cums anyway. If the buildup is the time you most enjoy you might try that.

""Actually I believe it's higher than that. 85% of women can't orgasm from PIV alone.""

Somewhere in the later pages of the TRY THIS I dragged&dropped that study with all the stats. That's why it is so important for men to realize it isn't a slight to the size of their dicks or anything to do with their technique (although it may be that too) but just the piping isn't that compatible. Those guys NEEED to learn ways of driving her nuts w/o JUST PIV.


""I believe it's just NOT in the cards for me and so be it. I also believe I'm not the only one... ""

In ref. to finding the elusive GSpot. Gawd, how I wish I had the answer for that. I do know that my emails are full of testimonials from couples who tried and tried and tried and then ... it finally happened. A sensation never felt before started to happen, she told him, the sensation built, the stimulation became stronger and faster and all of a sudden after trying for months - years sometimes - she went into orbit. I guess I'm lucky in that all I've done this to reacted VERY positively in the first few minutes and were, thereafter, able to G-Gasm within about 2 minutes. Sometimes much sooner than that. Because there is no over-sensitivity issue here those O's can and do continue until she is a puddle. ... just wish it would / could work for every one.

""Maybe it will be easier when I am older, as it seems most of you have bloosomed in your 30's and 40's""

There seems to be a lot of evidence that as women age the estrogen changes in their bods also cause a change in the thickness of the vaginal walls. This MAY make stimulating the GSpot far easier and cause a much more immediate and profound reaction. This and a woman's greater self-confidence as she matures and likely has fewer worries also helps open her to enjoying sex like she didn't / couldn't when she was younger. Some (lucky) women have NO problem stimulating their GSpots at a very young age and obviously enjoy many tens of thousands MORE orgasms over the course of their life time than others. There otta be a LAW !!!


"" Toothbrush..?""

Electric toothbrush that does the side to side brush strokes. DON'T use the bristle side. I suggest using an OLD brush and dipping it in hot wax. When you have a suitable knob built up around the head then apply LUBE and you're set to go. Isn't THAT why they invented electric tooth brushes? Really ?


""But then, I'm a terrible dirty slut.""

Apparently.

You should give lessons.


""I can't quite tell what qualifies as a g-spot orgasm, so I can't give numbers on that. Plus I kind of get lost in the feeling, so I don't really keep track.""


I think if it is good enough that you can't keep track then it is working just fine. It's always cool for the guy's ego when she tells him "I came 40 time tonight" but just as good when she passes out and wakes up in your arms in that sweaty, completely satiated state where they just want to snuggle and sleep. You KNOW she may not have kept count (just make some notches on the bed anyway - doesn't have to be accurate) but you've done your job.