Let's Talk About 'Gentle' FemDom

[LeaHaven]

That makes getting what you want kinda hard. Unless you just take it.

Are you shy? Or can you put him on his knees. Inches away from your pussy and "make" him talk.

I personally can't do that. Hubby learns what I want by reading what I have posted. I try to talk, but I can't find the words.

That and being ADHD, I can't finish a
HEY squirrel!.

We are both shy about it. Him more than me, but I don't want to sit down at some random time and discuss sex. i have started sending him text messages. They are not like hot and steamy or anything. They are mostly about when we might get together. Things go better if I plan them out.

 

[LeaHaven]

I guess I picked up on that somehow. It can be difficult but I think it really improves a relationship. Maybe you can start reading stories on this site together. Start with "normal" ones than branch out.

He does not know I am on here

 

[SPARTAN047]

GFD with a girlfriend experience could be both cute and sexy. Everyone loves to be romanced.

 

[nothingatall27]

Are you talking to me? If you are, thank you. But my frustration is not nearly as bad as it used to be. I read these forums and if I read something that sounds like it fits us, I try it. I don't worry anymore that he might not like it. He has told me so many times that he wants me to be the boss, so I have become the boss (in the bedroom. I was already the boss in everything else.) Ima selfish boss, tbh. It has been going well so far. I like being the boss. (or should I say "boss-boss"? "Top boss"? since I'm now boss in everything?)

I think you are getting the hang of it because that sounds prerty hot

 

[LeaHaven]

I think you are getting the hang of it because that sounds prerty hot

I think I am getting the hang of it, but in a way I feel kind of bad. When I think back I can see that he's been telling me what he wants since forever. But that didn't fit the picture I had created in my head so long ago, so I never really listened to him. I kept trying to make our marriage fit the picture in my head. But the picture in my head wasn't necessarily what I wanted either. It was a picture that had been painted by my upbringing. People on here were telling me things that were exactly like what my husband was saying, and that really caught my attention. I wondered, "How could they know so perfectly?" But where my husband jokingly tossed out innuendo, people on here came right out and said, "He wants you to..." They even told me how to do it.

One day we had a really bad fight, and I was beginning to honestly think we were not meant to be married. I kept wondering, "what happened? How could we go from being the best of friends to enemies? All we did was get married. What changed?" I gave that question real thought, and the only thing that changed was that we had begun having sex. As soon as that hit me, I remembered people on here saying, "He wants you to..." I was at my wits end, so I tried what people on here said I should try. It would be more accurate to say I dipped a toe in, and I don't even remember specifically what I did, but I remember thinking, "I think that worked." But it didn't just work, it seemed so effortless.

Here I am writing a whole story again. Sorry.

If I look back only a year ago, this marriage was in serious trouble. We are having fun now. It is like now we have a this secret world we live in, that no one knows about, and it gives us a desire to be together. Each day is like a new opportunity to see what happens next. We can't wait to see what happens next. It is so much fun!

OK, I will stop writing now.

 

[whenagain]

I think I am getting the hang of it, but in a way I feel kind of bad. When I think back I can see that he's been telling me what he wants since forever. But that didn't fit the picture I had created in my head so long ago, so I never really listened to him. I kept trying to make our marriage fit the picture in my head. But the picture in my head wasn't necessarily what I wanted either. It was a picture that had been painted by my upbringing. People on here were telling me things that were exactly like what my husband was saying, and that really caught my attention. I wondered, "How could they know so perfectly?" But where my husband jokingly tossed out innuendo, people on here came right out and said, "He wants you to..." They even told me how to do it.

One day we had a really bad fight, and I was beginning to honestly think we were not meant to be married. I kept wondering, "what happened? How could we go from being the best of friends to enemies? All we did was get married. What changed?" I gave that question real thought, and the only thing that changed was that we had begun having sex. As soon as that hit me, I remembered people on here saying, "He wants you to..." I was at my wits end, so I tried what people on here said I should try. It would be more accurate to say I dipped a toe in, and I don't even remember specifically what I did, but I remember thinking, "I think that worked." But it didn't just work, it seemed so effortless.

Here I am writing a whole story again. Sorry.

If I look back only a year ago, this marriage was in serious trouble. We are having fun now. It is like now we have a this secret world we live in, that no one knows about, and it gives us a desire to be together. Each day is like a new opportunity to see what happens next. We can't wait to see what happens next. It is so much fun!

OK, I will stop writing now.

Thanks for sharing. It sounds like you’ve had a lot to process.

 

[LeaHaven]

Thanks for sharing. It sounds like you’ve had a lot to process.

It is getting easier, but when I first started in these forums I had never heard of half of everything I read. Much of it sounded totally bonkers. One time I was in here and saw a picture of a guy's stuff in a cock cage, and I was like, WTF!!?? But now most of the shock value has worn off. I think it is bc I kind of "get" the context. A cock cage doesn't seem insane anymore. It looks more like an option.

 

[emme8]

It is getting easier, but when I first started in these forums I had never heard of half of everything I read. Much of it sounded totally bonkers. One time I was in here and saw a picture of a guy's stuff in a cock cage, and I was like, WTF!!?? But now most of the shock value has worn off. I think it is bc I kind of "get" the context. A cock cage doesn't seem insane anymore. It looks more like an option.

The cage is great. Even for short play times. Especially for the short term when they think they are going to be locked up for the long term.

 

[nothingatall27]

I think I am getting the hang of it, but in a way I feel kind of bad. When I think back I can see that he's been telling me what he wants since forever. But that didn't fit the picture I had created in my head so long ago, so I never really listened to him. I kept trying to make our marriage fit the picture in my head. But the picture in my head wasn't necessarily what I wanted either. It was a picture that had been painted by my upbringing. People on here were telling me things that were exactly like what my husband was saying, and that really caught my attention. I wondered, "How could they know so perfectly?" But where my husband jokingly tossed out innuendo, people on here came right out and said, "He wants you to..." They even told me how to do it.

One day we had a really bad fight, and I was beginning to honestly think we were not meant to be married. I kept wondering, "what happened? How could we go from being the best of friends to enemies? All we did was get married. What changed?" I gave that question real thought, and the only thing that changed was that we had begun having sex. As soon as that hit me, I remembered people on here saying, "He wants you to..." I was at my wits end, so I tried what people on here said I should try. It would be more accurate to say I dipped a toe in, and I don't even remember specifically what I did, but I remember thinking, "I think that worked." But it didn't just work, it seemed so effortless.

Here I am writing a whole story again. Sorry.

If I look back only a year ago, this marriage was in serious trouble. We are having fun now. It is like now we have a this secret world we live in, that no one knows about, and it gives us a desire to be together. Each day is like a new opportunity to see what happens next. We can't wait to see what happens next. It is so much fun!

OK, I will stop writing now.

I'm glad things are going better for you. Enjoy and have a nice day. Hopefully someday I can improve my own situation.

 

[Blueeyes4u100]

I find this topic extremely interesting. I know I would love to explore gentle femdom and hot to please my "mistress". I have always been more focused on giving pleasure over my own pleasure and satisfaction.. let's see how this goes and always here to follow your lead.

Ben

 

[MsManagement]

Welcome - shall we begin?

I have a few questions, but it would be great if the gentlemen chiming in here could give us just the tiniest bit of an intro by way of including their age and how they became interested in FemDom (gentle or otherwise). Thank you!

**How do you see 'Gentle' FemDom being different from the more traditional type of feminine domination?

**Why is it appealing?

**What does a 'gentle' Domme look like to you? How does she behave?

**What do you look for in a GFD relationship? What do you hope to get out of it?

**How do you see it fitting into your life - bedroom only, or lifestyle?

I realise I'm coming into this really late. But I don't know what the difference is. I've only ever felt the thrill of toying with a man's psyche, his needs, teasingly denying him the pleasure of release, but also taking care that he does get the release. I think its a combination of seduction and infantilising the men.

Ultimately, GFD is just a lot more sensual. The pleasure of being loved is something dominant females enjoy as well, and the line seems to be that in GFD, one doesn't always take, or demand. Oh it is certainly a lifestyle...

 

[9to5]

I realise I'm coming into this really late. But I don't know what the difference is. I've only ever felt the thrill of toying with a man's psyche, his needs, teasingly denying him the pleasure of release, but also taking care that he does get the release. I think its a combination of seduction and infantilising the men.

Ultimately, GFD is just a lot more sensual. The pleasure of being loved is something dominant females enjoy as well, and the line seems to be that in GFD, one doesn't always take, or demand. Oh it is certainly a lifestyle...

yes its the teasing to keep him wanting more. and hoping for more. I admit I like to be kept on edge and wanting