Long time lesbian...now I'm confused.

[John Doe]

Are you always such an attention whore, or do you just take delight in hijacking a thread?

If saying whatever the fuck I want without consideration of the original thread topic or the delicate sensibilities of semi-professional whiners such as yourself makes me an attention whoring thread hijacker, then so be it, you goose-stepping moron.

 

[gingermango]

If saying whatever the fuck I want wittout consideration of the original thread topic or the delicate sensibilities of semi-professional whiners such as yourself makes me an attention whoring thread hijacker, then so be it, you goose-stepping moron.

It was a rhetorical question but thanks for clearing that up. Your grasp of the obvious is really quite impressive.

 

[John Doe]

It was a rhetorical question but thanks for clearing that up. Your grasp of the obvious is really quite impressive.

Nazi.

 

[chun_gong]

Update

In the spirit of getting us back on track here about homosexual confusion and possible interest in the opposite sex (for just sex or otherwise), I have come out of "lurking" again.

I'll bore you with a couple of words of update:
- I'm close to sharing my 'needs' and interests with my mate. I suspect we will talk this weekend.

Although I have tried to pull my relationship out of this topic, I will do anything to divert the current conversation. Those of you who have been pulling so hard for me to be honest and remain faithful should be pleased with this news. (I generally do the right thing...no matter how long it takes me.)

 

[gingermango]

Nazi.

Troll.

If this was usenet, I'd invoke Godwin's and plonk you.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

In the spirit of getting us back on track here about homosexual confusion and possible interest in the opposite sex (for just sex or otherwise), I have come out of "lurking" again.

I'll bore you with a couple of words of update:
- I'm close to sharing my 'needs' and interests with my mate. I suspect we will talk this weekend.

Although I have tried to pull my relationship out of this topic, I will do anything to divert the current conversation. Those of you who have been pulling so hard for me to be honest and remain faithful should be pleased with this news. (I generally do the right thing...no matter how long it takes me.)

I, for one, am happy and worried for you. I will keep you in my thoughts..

 

[Wandadollgirl]

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Wolfman1982]

But she is staying right with me, warding off most of the blows, and cushioning those she can't. That's what love is about.

Hmmm then I must have a couple of loving friendships, where I want to ward the blows off, and cushioning, those I can´t ward.

 

[John Doe]

Troll.

If this was usenet, I'd invoke Godwin's and plonk you.

If I were a troll, I would've followed you to toher thrads and insulted you there too, but I haven't. And if this were Usenet I obviously wouldn't be here since I'm not a total fucking whiny dork who needs forum Nazis to protct me.

However, you ARE a thread Nazi, evidenced by the fact that you have attempted to impose your pathetic will on me by criticizing what I say as not being on topic.

Thread Nazi.

 

[PredatorSmile]

Ah, geez. You know, you sound like a straight person discovering that he or she MIGHT like the same sex. It's freaking you out. I would think that a gay or lesbian person would be a bit more flexible and forgiving and open-minded toward sexual expression and sexual exploration. Unfortunately,
just as straight people are scared of same-sex relationships and often hate these same-sex urges in themselves, Gays and lesbians with some heterosexual leanings seem to behave in the same way. This saddens me.
If you want a guy, go for it. If you want a woman, go for it. If you want to be alone, stay that way. It's ultimately YOUR decision, not the straight and/or gay world's.

 

[Wolfman1982]

Ah, geez. You know, you sound like a straight person discovering that he or she MIGHT like the same sex. It's freaking you out. I would think that a gay or lesbian person would be a bit more flexible and forgiving and open-minded toward sexual expression and sexual exploration. Unfortunately,
just as straight people are scared of same-sex relationships and often hate these same-sex urges in themselves, Gays and lesbians with some heterosexual leanings seem to behave in the same way. This saddens me.
If you want a guy, go for it. If you want a woman, go for it. If you want to be alone, stay that way. It's ultimately YOUR decision, not the straight and/or gay world's.

 

[gingermango]

Thread Nazi.

Attention whore.

Thanks for making the obvious even more so. I'm sure chun_gong appreciates your thread hijack.

 

[chun_gong]

Stop It!!!

I'm new here, yes. BUT DAMN! stuponfucious & gingermango...QUIT!!! both of you. I have had great interactions with both of you on different (or same) threads...but, please, I implore you - quit polluting this thread. At lease feign interest in the various topics at hand.

Now - my rant is through.

Thanks everyone for your caring support. We have had some interaction this weekend as far as Lit goes. It's the "Waltz of Honesty"... everything will work out as it was meant to be. I feel certain of that. And, well, I have support here and a super special friend in my corner who "has my back" 100%. I'm a very lucky lady.

 

[chun_gong]

Ah, geez. You know, you sound like a straight person discovering that he or she MIGHT like the same sex. It's freaking you out. I would think that a gay or lesbian person would be a bit more flexible and forgiving and open-minded toward sexual expression and sexual exploration. Unfortunately,
just as straight people are scared of same-sex relationships and often hate these same-sex urges in themselves, Gays and lesbians with some heterosexual leanings seem to behave in the same way. This saddens me.
If you want a guy, go for it. If you want a woman, go for it. If you want to be alone, stay that way. It's ultimately YOUR decision, not the straight and/or gay world's.

Although your words are surely meant in support, I'm not freaking out. At least if I had been, I'm not any longer.

You KNOW that my homosexual peers are possibly LESS tolerant of this situation than what I went through in the reverse. I had a very supportive family!!

Yes, I do have lots of options. That's all that I see them as - options...not some final verdict or decision.

Again, in the spirit of your post (I believe), thank you for your support.

 

[grassprints]

Chun_gong and PredatorSmile. you'll have to turn in your lesbian credentials at the door on your way out. We can't have any cock sucking in the clubhouse, it upsets the newcomers and it puts some of the older women off their tea. Sorry, but you knew the rules when you signed up. This kind of behaviour simply will not do.

***

That gave me a good chuckle. I was in a relationshipe a few years back where my current partner could not understand why I wasn't fully lesbian, or fully straight.

I like to think of it as a pendelum. There's one extreme (homosexuality), then there's another extreme (hederosexuality), then the middle (bisexuality), but what about all the space between the 3 spots? She was a feminist, man-hating, bulldyke, and I loved her for it. But it really made things difficult for me when trying to explain my view points.

CG, I have a similar problem. But sans the dick sucking. I'm all about the anal sex. I love it. Whether it's a cock, a toy, whatever. I just love it. I think about it, dream about it, desire it, and it goes on. But my fiance can't bring himself to do it. So I came to a point where I had to either choose to be with him sans anal sex (pleasuring myself always an option), or move on to something different. In the end, I chose him. He's close-minded, but I love him and his opinion because it's a part of him.

Maybe sit down and try to talk to her. See where that goes. Another thing you can do is weigh your pros and cons. What can you do to satisfy this need to a point where you won't be tempted to cheat (non-consensual sex outside of the relationship)? Is this a long-term desire, or a short-term desire? A need, or a want, so to speak?

I don't have much else to offer other than that which I've learned from my own experience. But I do commend your courage for coming out and talking about it. I also respect your friends' points of views, but you should ask yourself, if they're all so unforgiving of just the mere thought of you with a man, how can they really be true friends? People who truly love you will try to accept you for who you are, and not what you present yourself to be. So maybe honesty with your partner isn't the only thing that needs to be worked on, but also honesty with your friends. They may surprise you. They may also do exactly what you fear. Maybe you'll be better off for it?

If you want to talk about it in more detail, just send me a message.

<3 MD

 

[PredatorSmile]

Although your words are surely meant in support, I'm not freaking out. At least if I had been, I'm not any longer.

You KNOW that my homosexual peers are possibly LESS tolerant of this situation than what I went through in the reverse. I had a very supportive family!!

Yes, I do have lots of options. That's all that I see them as - options...not some final verdict or decision.

Again, in the spirit of your post (I believe), thank you for your support.

I wish you the best, CG.

 

[John Doe]

Attention whore.

Thread Nazi.