Okie lit-together?

[Dana Gallagher]

A lit-together professional

I got a pm from someone more experienced at the whole lit-together thing than I am and she gave me some advice... I've asked if I can just post her pm directly on to here.... I"m awaiting a response...

She gave some interesting things to think about...

BTW: This weekend I plan to go out to OKC and hopefully I can convince the BF to drive me by the BB and I'll look around and possibly ask questions...

Another thing: As to our location, when I have more time I'm going to go back and delete all references to the location and henceforth will only call it the BB.... just to protect us from the weirdos...

 

[Booty Bandit]

Wierdos here in Oklahoma?!?!?!....lol...you musta been to a gun show

 

[koleck]

I got a pm from someone more experienced at the whole lit-together thing than I am and she gave me some advice... I've asked if I can just post her pm directly on to here.... I"m awaiting a response...

She gave some interesting things to think about...

BTW: This weekend I plan to go out to OKC and hopefully I can convince the BF to drive me by the BB and I'll look around and possibly ask questions...

Another thing: As to our location, when I have more time I'm going to go back and delete all references to the location and henceforth will only call it the BB.... just to protect us from the weirdos...

What weirdos? You invited everyone who wants to come so you're gonna get some reguardless

 

[Ember Faye]

What weirdos? You invited everyone who wants to come so you're gonna get some reguardless

i think she means some may come in and read the thread and show up without announcing that they're going to do so...and they might be murderers or rapests or stuff like that. they might kidnap some of us and do horrible things to us!

 

[koleck]

i think she means some may come in and read the thread and show up without announcing that they're going to do so...and they might be murderers or rapests or stuff like that. they might kidnap some of us and do horrible things to us!

Oh no!

Somebody protect me I'm too skinny to defend myself!

 

[Ember Faye]

Oh no!

Somebody protect me I'm too skinny to defend myself!

*smirks*

 

[Dana Gallagher]

I got permission

I've planned about 1/2 dozen lit-togethers and attended that many again put on by other gals in Texas.

Sounds like you guys are going to have a great time.

I'd like to point out that by posting the place/address, you open up your party to stalkers who could show up and cause problems. We've found the best way to handle that is to say the date in the thread and have anyone who is interested, PM you for the PLACE information and you send it out to them with PMs.

We always have ours in public -- nearly always at a restaurant. The planner arranges for a reserved section (sometimes a separate room) because we tend to get a bit rowdy/loud. Alcohol is a must. Some of the best venues were restaurants that placed us next to the patio (for smokers to go outside) and a pool table and/or juke box for music. Then everyone could mix and mingle back and forth between the mini-areas.

We usually say we're the "lit" group and that's fine for the restaurant staff to remember and for us not to be too conspicuous. The last one I did was at a huge adult game place called Jillian's (along the lines of Dave & Busters). We were in a bar area adjacent to the bowling lanes. I told everyone to find the purple balloons. What I did was get a small bunch of purple helium balloons. I printed out the Literotica logo on name tags and cut out a few of the liitle silhouettes to stick on the balloons, then taped them to the underside of one of the tables closest to the door. It was semi-dark in there but the balloons helped everyone zone in to where they needed to be.

I'd gone to Walmart and in the cheap toys section, bought those glow-in-the-dark bracelets (purple) for $0.44 each and handed those to everyone when they arrived. That helped us identify each other when walking all over the place playing games.

My group had wanted to play a game, so we did it that time (and it's the only time we ever played it, but they had fun). I had a list of the SCREEN names printed out on half sheets of paper like this:

1. missygail ______________
2. someplace _____________

etc.

When everyone walked in, I reminded them NOT to tell anyone their screen name, only their real FIRST name -- and gave them the nametags with the lit logo and a pen to write their FIRST names to wear. The game was to figure out after everyone had met everyone, and match the screen name with the real name. It was cute. We had about 12-14 people at that party and it worked fine.

Cameras: The rule we adhere to at Lit-togethers, is that people have to ask before they take anyone's picture, and those pictures are only shared between the people who attended the party. They are not posted on the boards. Now, as a joke, sometimes we've had pictures posted of people's feet or the table afterwards to show how trashed it got, etc. But never posting the actual picture of the people who were there.

Door prizes: I usually do a quick check on those planning to attend before the party. I see who has the most posts. Who is the oldest (time at lit) and the youngest (just joined). Here are prize ideas:

Most posts: Can of SPAM
Newest: tiny bottle of extra virgin olive oil
Those with Pic Threas: tiny bottle of hot sauce

I've given out condoms as prizes, bottles of KY, little certificates "Get a Life" comes to mind....the idea is to have fun with it and make sure everyone enjoys themself.

We always maintained that the purpose of our gatherings was to put faces with the screen names and not for the purpose of sex. Nora did a great speech which has been quoted several times about Lit-togethers not being an orgy. This made others feel safe about showing up at the parties and not feeling like they would be forced into a situation they weren't comfortable with. It also helped keep down the young guys who thought they'd come for a gang-bang. That's not to say that AFTERWARD people wouldn't pair off to go somewhere else, but that's not the purpose of the actual party.

Both Nora and I have had the party come back to our homes afterwards. We've both had parties specifically for our homes which were not open to the lit public on the forums, but by invitation after we'd met the people and felt comfortable with them. Nora has had Sunday brunch back at her house the morning after a lit-together because a lot of people travelled to her central Austin location from other Texas cities. All of those were just nice get-togethers of good friends. Food and conversation....though racy at times, nothing raunchy or improper. Sounds tame, doesn't it? Good friends are to be made by meeting the folks you post to.

Please feel free to PM me if you have any questions or such. I'm all about everyone having a good time. Good luck with your party!

She has good points... yes?

 

[Dana Gallagher]

i think she means some may come in and read the thread and show up without announcing that they're going to do so...and they might be murderers or rapests or stuff like that. they might kidnap some of us and do horrible things to us!

You are cooorrect! Or stalkers that slash all of our tires... or what not

 

[Ember Faye]

she does have many good points

i would say that we don't need to do all the stuff that her parties has done though

i think just a nice lil get together at a restaurant would be fine, especially concidering there won't really be too many people there.

i don't know...i'm in a snippy mood right now cuz i'm still pissed about continious changes taking place on lit (like the av size going down even smaller )


anyway....just pm when you get all the details worked out and have a for sure date and time and hubby and i will try our best to make it down

 

[mark-c]

Hi! just checking in. How are the plans going? Did we settle on May 28th at BB?

 

[Dana Gallagher]

Hi! just checking in. How are the plans going? Did we settle on May 28th at BB?

Yeah, it's all the same, nothing has changed... I haven't called the BB as of yet, and I won't be visiting OKC this weekend (to see the BF and the BB) and the excuses for both of these are the same, because we've been up at the hospital because of my grandpa is slowly fading away...

I will call the BB, possibly tattoo a note to my forehead to cause me to remember and find out all the details... sorry my brain isn't here at the moment...


Ember Faye I thought some of the door prizes were cute, though I am the captain of cheesy... anyways, yeah it wouldn't all be realistic anyways because it would hurt my pocketbook and there's not a lot there in the first place...

The name badges should do enough to let everyone recognize the other as a member of the group (Ember you are still taking care of those... yes?)... and not door prize for most posts and all that, but perhaps a gagbag that everyone gets... but that's about all I guess for the party favors....

Once my brain returns to normal function, I'll call up the BB and post all of what they tell me...

 

[Ember Faye]

yes I will

I'll just pick up a package of those sticker kind where you can write the name in.

Just need to eventually get a finalized list of who will be showing up (or more than likely showing up) so I know what names to write down

 

[Mr. Crimson]

Once my brain returns to normal function, I'll call up the BB and post all of what they tell me...

You know, I just went to the BB on Friday, but I didn't even think about asking them about anything for this.

 

[jawnnyt]

yes I will

I'll just pick up a package of those sticker kind where you can write the name in.

Just need to eventually get a finalized list of who will be showing up (or more than likely showing up) so I know what names to write down

I'll be there!!! Count me in!!!

 

[Ptaylor330]

this all sounds fun.... though everyone seems to know everyone... and i do not know anyone....

 

[Esha]

no worries, we dont all know each other from real life, jsut from here...if you post and PM people, we will all get to know you too...
and if now, well thats what a litogether is good for!

 

[bobwhitecrow]

Well,

I think I am the only ax murderer here and I gave that up for lent.

 

[Platypus74]

Hi

I was surprised to see that there are several people in Oklahoma. I always wandered if there where others.

 

[Dana Gallagher]

yes I will

I'll just pick up a package of those sticker kind where you can write the name in.

Just need to eventually get a finalized list of who will be showing up (or more than likely showing up) so I know what names to write down

Yeah, gotta get a list together of the definites and what-not... make sure you get those lovely name tags that says "Hello my name is..." *grinz*

 

[Dana Gallagher]

this all sounds fun.... though everyone seems to know everyone... and i do not know anyone....

Hey hon... a lit-together is about meeting everyone one...

Like Esha said we all don't know each other, only slightly from here... lurk around, post, pm and you make friends fast... hell if you got the guts post up a few threads of your own...

 

[Dana Gallagher]

You know, I just went to the BB on Friday, but I didn't even think about asking them about anything for this.

I drove by there last Saturday, but I didn't go inside.... though the outside wasn't quite what I'd expected.... not that it can't hold all of us, cause I'm sure it can...

I just need to call down there.... *sigh*

 

[Dana Gallagher]

I think I am the only ax murderer here and I gave that up for lent.

That was my new years resolution...

 

[Dana Gallagher]

I was surprised to see that there are several people in Oklahoma. I always wandered if there where others.

Yes, at first we were small, but now we are mutiplying.... LIT BEWARE!

 

[bobwhitecrow]

Would someone please . . .

PM me and tell me about this? Where is it going to be in OKC and an address, if possible.

If I decide to join in, I promise to leave my ax at home.

 

[Ms_Toy]

lit-together

I just came across this post tonight, *looks at the clock* or rather this morning and was wondering if a 40+ okie would be out of place at such a gathering? Seems like most here on this post are much younger. *sighs*