Older Women

[crazybbwgirl]

ahhhhh men!

Younger men; older men; its ALL good. Both ages have their good points and bad points. I lived with a guy 11 years younger than me and he was very mature for his age. Lots of fun times with him! I got to be his 'first' for many things. My current lover is 50 and he's more sexually active than the young guy and I've learned more about sex in the past 3 years than in the 20 years before that! You just never know.........

 

[tigerbabe]

Re: ahhhhh men!

Originally posted by crazybbwgirl
Younger men; older men; its ALL good. Both ages have their good points and bad points. I lived with a guy 11 years younger than me and he was very mature for his age. Lots of fun times with him! I got to be his 'first' for many things. My current lover is 50 and he's more sexually active than the young guy and I've learned more about sex in the past 3 years than in the 20 years before that! You just never know.........

I agree crazybbwgirl,

It's all good! I'm mainly into the young guy thing right now just for the sex (I might as well do it while I can, lol). I get my emotional needs met from my hubby. Of course no one pleases me like my hubby does though.

Tigerbabe

 

[Carnus]

I have always preferred older women, not a lot older, but near my own age and plus 10 to 15 years, I find younger women attractive as well, but for a sexual partner and a companion I much prefer the company of older women. They are usually more confident, less uptight, more able to carry on a reasonable conversation and don't feel they have to prove themselves to the world over and over again. And besides all that, they are sexier

Carnus

sitting alone in a hotel in des moines,,,,, still

 

[spicecajun]

I find it to be true about younger girls being less open. Me being one of them. And the deal with younger guys? Hey, you can't beat 'em for stamina, yet the older men know how to treat a woman.

 

[spicecajun]

clarification

...one might think me to be a youngster after that last reply.....not hardly, I'm 35, as of yesterday. I meant from the point of view when I was a youngun.....

 

[KinkyScout]

I have always preferred and dated older men, older than me, that is. I am 30 and my last partner, for three years is 57... they are great in the way they treat me, they have a lot to talk about and sexually, they take their time, etc etc, yes it is all true.
Recently I met a kid, yes a kid, for he is only 19 yo... we met , we started talking, became very good friends, we laughed a lot, he was very attentive, treating me like a princess, and when he started hitting on me, at the begining I thought it was ridiculous... but he was really making me think about it. Then when he kissed me for the first time, I just lost it, and I can say it was one of the best relationships I've ever had. It is over, but it left so many good memories... and believe me, now I have no prejudices regarding age. BTW sex was great, he had no rush, I was scared at the begining, for I am obviously more experienced, I thought that either I was going to get bored or he was going to feel intimidated, but it didn't happen, we found our pace, and it went great... good sex and lots of it...

Annvalery, this is sort of a slow response but I just read this thread. It seems that you have experience with both sides of these relationships, both being the older woman but also being the younger woman, so you can give some insight on both sides of this issue. However, your post leaves me with questions about your situation:
o It seems as tho your relationship with the 57yo has lasted a number of years, how long did your relationship with the 19yo last?
o If things are so great with your older guy why were you be cheating on him with another guy, whatever that guy's age is?
o If your relationship with the kid was one of the best relationships you've ever had, why aren't you still with him? Did you consider dumping your 57yo for the kid?

 

[spicecajun]

maybe sometimes screwing around with someone younger makes you feel good, like you are still the shit, maybe messing with an older person makes you feel good b/c you know they are feeling my previous statement, and in their eyes you are still the shit. Thing is if you are living that situation and feeling either of those things, the relationship is bound to fail.

 

[KinkyScout]

I see some truth in what you say

maybe sometimes screwing around with someone younger makes you feel good, like you are still the shit, maybe messing with an older person makes you feel good b/c you know they are feeling my previous statement, and in their eyes you are still the shit. Thing is if you are living that situation and feeling either of those things, the relationship is bound to fail.

spice, I see some truth in what you say about the allure of the other person. However I don't agree that the relationship is bound to fail simply because it has a frivolous beginning. In fact, I'd say that most relationships start with a rather frivolous beginning, typically simple aminal attraction. That's not an attempt to denegrate animal attraction at all, it's very important but simply not the deepest of motivations.

Relationships fail because the two people don't grow together. I mean "grow together" in more than one way: they don't become more emotionally intimate and accepting of each other, and/or their growth is in different directions, such as one partner wanting to explore her spirituality and the other partner not simply being unenthused about this possibility but completely non-supportive of the other person's need for this growth.

 

[spicecajun]

Re: I see some truth in what you say

spice, I see some truth in what you say about the allure of the other person. However I don't agree that the relationship is bound to fail simply because it has a frivolous beginning. In fact, I'd say that most relationships start with a rather frivolous beginning, typically simple aminal attraction. That's not an attempt to denegrate animal attraction at all, it's very important but simply not the deepest of motivations.

Relationships fail because the two people don't grow together. I mean "grow together" in more than one way: they don't become more emotionally intimate and accepting of each other, and/or their growth is in different directions, such as one partner wanting to explore her spirituality and the other partner not simply being unenthused about this possibility but completely non-supportive of the other person's need for this growth.

I stand corrected, thank you. You are also correct as to why relationships fail. Changing and evolving equally is rare and also something you have to work to obtain.

 

[HiBall]

still here

After all of this, here I sit alone. No older woman. No younger woman. No woman with the same birthday as me. Nobody

 

[spicecajun]

Re: still here

After all of this, here I sit alone. No older woman. No younger woman. No woman with the same birthday as me. Nobody

could be someone with the same bday as you but no one knows your bday here...

 

[HotAzLady69]

Ok first off I have to agree for the most part with lilpriss, SexyChele and Imi on thier persepctives of older men. I to normally date older men.

However there's been a bit of a turn of events for me and currently I I am seeing someone who is going on 30 and I'm newly to 37 lol.

He's not the typical younger man that I've and appearantly other women have ran into.

He's mature, he doesn't think of me as some sexual toy for his pleasure only, he takes care of my needs as well as his own.
He's great to have converstations with and it's not limited.

The list just goes on and on.
He breaks the typical younger man mold.

Yes it happens and yes it can be great, but just like with any other relationships you have to be compatable, you have to be willing to work on the relationship all the time and not when it suits you.
You have to be on the same page as the person you want to be with in life.

Older women want a mature man, someone to be there for them and not a flaked out kid.
We don't want the games that most younger guys offer.
We've been there done that it's time to move on and if you're willing to do that, then it should be good.

Don't have tempertantrums lol that's a big no no.
We don't want to have to deal with that...again it's a been there done that with MY kids I don't need someone elses kid to take care of too.

I want a companion not a toy, or a child to tend to.

Think of all the reasons you like an older woman.
Why do you like older women and use that for a guide if it's plausable.

That's my two cents worth.

 

[wicked woman]

OK I'll admit it! I've been an older woman....sometimes a very much older woman. It's not that I went looking for a younger man...I'm not a cougar....personally I love men...younger, same age, and older...doesn't matter to me....but the opportunity has arisen on occasion and I saw no reason to turn it down soley because of our age difference.

When I was younger I always dated older men...I seemed to need age to get the maturity I needed....well until I met my husband who was a few years younger. As I got older though, the men seemed to get younger. *Hey maybe I'm just playing the odds! hehe*


I look for exactly the same qualities in a younger man that I look for in any man...the criteria doesn't change. Definitely it's the exceptional younger man, but there are a number around.

To some people who know me, I have a reputation for collecting boy toys....most of them are friends but some are/were more. 'Boy toy' is an affectionate term though....I never treat them as a play thing...only for my amusement...to be discarded when they have served their purpose.

Younger men are some what different than older men....to me it's exciting to share in some of their firsts....regardless of what it is. To see the world from their eyes...maybe a bit naively....but often with a special zest for life too. I may age chronologically...but deep down I'm still a 30 year old.

So while my next SO might be any age....I have to admit that younger men hold a special place in my heart....here's to the men that love older women.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by PinkOrchid
It's not the chronological age that's the issue for me. It's finding someone with whom I can have a good conversation, who I can respect, and who can fuck me silly over and over and over again.

God I knew there was a reason I liked you!

 

[spicecajun]

reinkorchid

That's it.... you said it all

 

[HotAzLady69]

That's it.... you said it all

Indeed they did lol.

Well I haven't had much experiance with the younger man but so far I'm loving it and I can see why women like the younger men and at times been know to be with women, though my age range for some odd reason.

I've really never thought of age as a reason to not be with someone.

Though I still have a special spot for the older men as well and well sometimes women too if the situation is right.

 

[KinkyScout]

It's not the chronological age that's the issue for me. It's finding someone with whom I can have a good conversation, who I can respect, and who can fuck me silly over and over and over again.

pink - although I'm very definitely a male, and middle-aged, I have a need for the same qualities in a woman partner as you cite in your list above. However, I'd like to add these qualities to the list (in no particular order):
- knows how to have wild fun & how to have quiet fun and all the in between funs
- knows how & when to be serious
- knows how to be a friend
- is truthful and trustworthy (money, sexual fidelity, truthfully shares opinions/goals/desires, etc)
- is capable of logical thought and rational argument and uses this capability even when enbgaged in a topic about which she's passionate
- has an unselfish moral compas most of the time

Oh yeah, it wouldn't hurt if she enjoys a nice spanking every now and then.

 

[MagicFingers]

Latest Hollywood Summer/Winter match

Aston Kutcher and Demi Moore
She's getting a young stud and he's getting a hot mama.
And it's good publicity for both of their careers.
Sounds good to me. Nothing wrong with that. Two adults enjoying it.

 

[ReadyOne]

I have liked older women most of my life, sometimes almost twice my age when I was young.

I just realized that these "older women" types I like are now often "younger women" to me!