Question for women: Orgasms without touching the clit

[ScottSwing]

Are you able to have an orgasm without stimulation of the clitoris? How does a vaginal orgasm differ from a clitoral orgasm? What parts of your body (internal or external) do you like to be touched just prior to orgasm? Which sexual positions are preferred for this?

 

[satindesire]

Are you able to have an orgasm without stimulation of the clitoris? How does a vaginal orgasm differ from a clitoral orgasm? What parts of your body (internal or external) do you like to be touched just prior to orgasm? Which sexual positions are preferred for this?

This is about as common as a man being able to orgasm without someone touching his penis. So, as you can see, it's not very common at all.

Usually, from what I've seen on this website and on other sites over the intertubez, women that are able to reach orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation usually have what's known as a "G-spot" orgasm and this is due to stimulating a spongy mass inside the upper wall of the vaginal canal about 2-3 inches in. Doing this manually is much easier than with a penis, due to the fact that penises don't curve as much as a finger can.

 

[Kity]

For me, a vaginal (or g spot orgasm as I term it) is absolutely achievable, quite common and most often preferred. A clit orgasm is so cheap and easy, it'll do, but it's not what I want
A g spot orgasm travels right through your body, it's the panting, moaning, quivering, delicious ache building and building until youre pushed screaming, over the edge.
It's intense and emotional, I can't breathe, I can't stop crying, shivering or moaning, and then the warmth devours me, and all I want to do is curl up and sleep.
Now I've exhausted my poetic licence- it's most easily reached with fingers, a pillow under her bum to tilt her hips. Toys also work for me, but they have to be fairly rigid and textured.

 

[gemaussieslut]

cheap and easy kity? I'm jealous. my clitoral orgasms certainly aren't easy to acheive.

as to orgasming without - only happened once during and intense sex session with me on top. Not sure what was different about it, but it just happened

 

[infinity706]

This is about as common as a man being able to orgasm without someone touching his penis. So, as you can see, it's not very common at all.

Usually, from what I've seen on this website and on other sites over the intertubez, women that are able to reach orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation usually have what's known as a "G-spot" orgasm and this is due to stimulating a spongy mass inside the upper wall of the vaginal canal about 2-3 inches in. Doing this manually is much easier than with a penis, due to the fact that penises don't curve as much as a finger can.

It's not really hard to do, though, as long as you're willing to devote a half hour or more to pleasuring said woman without worrying whether she gets off or not. If you're willing to kiss her, stroke her, talk to her in a lighthearted manner, and finally, finger her like her g-spot enjoys, you'll more than likely, cause her to make quite a mess. I've found that generally the best position is to put her on her belly, with a couple pillows under her hips and a couple fingers inside her. Really, the same thing works just as well on guys with a prostate massage. Sure, it doesn't always lead to one or more orgasms, but they'll probably be reduced to a blubbering pile of jelly by the time you're done anyway. Technically, though, g-spot orgasm is still a clitoral orgasm. It's just a different part of the clitoris than the little head that you can visit just north of the baby cave.

Really, it goes back to the reason I despise the term foreplay, though. Sex is far better when it's not just about orgasms and you completely eliminate the idea that there's something wrong or missing if a penis and vagina don't touch. Seriously, if we could get away from that standard, we'd have a lot fewer inadaquate feeling men and women due to impotence, premature ejacualation, anorgasmia, and a lot less stress over unplanned pregnancies, as well. (seriously, I know plenty of older people that have killed off their sex lives due to any one of these issues) Maybe abstenance education should be education about why you might get more and better sex if everything weren't centered around PIV penetration. Of course, like Ms Satin has said in the past, the best way to a woman's orgasm isn't pounding her vagina into oblivion.

 

[satindesire]

Technically, though, g-spot orgasm is still a clitoral orgasm. It's just a different part of the clitoris than the little head that you can visit just north of the baby cave.

This is true. Recent research has shown that the clitoris is much larger than we thought, with little "legs" that actually extend all the way down near the vagina inside the woman's body. Only a TEENSY portion of the actual clitoris is visible outside the body. So, really, Scott, you might be confusing orgasm from no direct clitoral stimulation as no stimulation of the part of the clitoris visible to the naked eye.

Really, it goes back to the reason I despise the term foreplay, though. Sex is far better when it's not just about orgasms and you completely eliminate the idea that there's something wrong or missing if a penis and vagina don't touch.

Yes, this is a hangup that many people have that I wish didn't exist. Sex isn't just penis-in-vagina intercourse. It's a lot deeper and a lot more complex than that. And sex isn't just about orgasms, it's also about intimacy and connection, especially if you're having sex with someone you care about. I'm off topic, though. So, moving on.

Of course, like Ms Satin has said in the past, the best way to a woman's orgasm isn't pounding her vagina into oblivion.

XD;! Did I really say that?!

 

[cowslinger64]

Of course, like Ms Satin has said in the past, the best way to a woman's orgasm isn't pounding her vagina into oblivion.
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You fuck her mind first...the rest will follow.

 

[Black_Bunny]

I've experienced a vaginal orgasm three times, once with a dildo and it was very average, and twice using the cowgirl position with the guy sitting up rather than lying down, and they were the most powerful amazing orgasms I've ever had in my entire life (so I'd say they hit the g-spot!!) That was almost a year ago and while I feel like that's what I'm building towards every time I have sex, it's not happened again yet. But, the clitoral orgasms are still amazing, and I can easily go through a long session of sex with no orgasm and still feel very satisfied.

 

[infinity706]

This is true. Recent research has shown that the clitoris is much larger than we thought, with little "legs" that actually extend all the way down near the vagina inside the woman's body. Only a TEENSY portion of the actual clitoris is visible outside the body. So, really, Scott, you might be confusing orgasm from no direct clitoral stimulation as no stimulation of the part of the clitoris visible to the naked eye.



Yes, this is a hangup that many people have that I wish didn't exist. Sex isn't just penis-in-vagina intercourse. It's a lot deeper and a lot more complex than that. And sex isn't just about orgasms, it's also about intimacy and connection, especially if you're having sex with someone you care about. I'm off topic, though. So, moving on.



XD;! Did I really say that?!

Yeah, and there's even anal orgasms that I didn't go into. Of course, they're probably also clitoral orgasms, generated from anal stimulation of the g-spot. Seriously, we're talking a fraction of an inch thick lining that you can almost touch your fingers together, through. There's also these things called the vestibular bulbs that are part of the clitoris in addition to its head and legs and a female prostate called the Skene's gland, that's very likely the source of the actual g-spot. Conveniently enough, it's attached to the urethra and extremely close to those vestibular bulbs and clit legs. Yeah, while all the pelvic orgasms are most likely caused by parts of the clitoris, it should be noted that the anus, urethra, vaginal lips, and potentially any other part of the woman's body can bring her pleasure, even if only her nipples, clitoris, and mind can actually cause her to orgasm. Good luck getting all that done with nothing but a hard dick.

Oh, and yes, you did say about women's orgasms not being about pounding her vagina into oblivion. It's not a direct quote, though.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

as to orgasming without - only happened once during and intense sex session with me on top. Not sure what was different about it, but it just happened

That's how my couple have happened, but I've realised that there *is* still some stimulation to my clit.. just a little, and not in the ways I usually like, but it's there.

 

[Toqueme]

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[sbelle79]

I dont think i've ever experienced a 'g-spot' orgasm. I even went through and printed off the instructions here on this site and begged for my husband to try it. He was dead set against it at first, and weeks later i was able to get him to try it finally. gave up after 5 mins. Im jealous of all you who have had them, i wonder if i can do it to myself????? lol

 

[satindesire]

I dont think i've ever experienced a 'g-spot' orgasm. I even went through and printed off the instructions here on this site and begged for my husband to try it. He was dead set against it at first, and weeks later i was able to get him to try it finally. gave up after 5 mins. Im jealous of all you who have had them, i wonder if i can do it to myself????? lol

What? Why was he "dead set against it"?

 

[infinity706]

I'd say he was dead set against it because he's worried that she'll enjoy the g-spot stimulation and then, she won't let him use his cock on her. Yeah, that's the kind of thing guys talk about when there are no women around. It's just like guys being jealous of vibrators, not eating pussy, and all the other seriously stupid shit. I've really tried to tell them, though, that even if she does like those other things better, she'll be more likely to offer what he wants in exchange.

 

[wicked woman]

It's definitely possible. A kiss. A touch. Even his voice...all can trigger an orgasm.

 

[Black_Bunny]

I'd say he was dead set against it because he's worried that she'll enjoy the g-spot stimulation and then, she won't let him use his cock on her.

I've always felt that a simple fingering from my partner is always 10x better than anything I could ever give myself... I don't think you men need to worry about not being needed anymore!

 

[Noira]

For me, a vaginal (or g spot orgasm as I term it) is absolutely achievable, quite common and most often preferred. A clit orgasm is so cheap and easy, it'll do, but it's not what I want
A g spot orgasm travels right through your body, it's the panting, moaning, quivering, delicious ache building and building until youre pushed screaming, over the edge.
It's intense and emotional, I can't breathe, I can't stop crying, shivering or moaning, and then the warmth devours me, and all I want to do is curl up and sleep.
Now I've exhausted my poetic licence- it's most easily reached with fingers, a pillow under her bum to tilt her hips. Toys also work for me, but they have to be fairly rigid and textured.

Oh yes indeed. SOMEHOW I managed to have a g-spot orgasm once and now I'm not satisfied with the "easy" clit orgasms anymore. I MUST have another one and I can't figure out how I managed to pull it off. It completely changed my outlook on playing with myself.

For me the difference is huge.

A clit orgasm causes a fairly enjoyable throbbing inside. It's nice and then I'm instantly turned off (kind of like a man!) and roll over and go to sleep. I'm not necessarily satisfied but my body refuses to keep going.

But when I manage to hit my g-spot... and DAMN, it's hard, I have no helpful devices, it's always accidental... seriously, I'd take that over an orgasm. Hitting that right spot with penitration after getting myself worked up is freaking intense, it's like little waves of pleasure. But I have trouble making myself orgasm from that. As I said, I did it all of once. It was purely accidental, I wasn't even trying at that moment (though it'd been on my mind lately, that I was going to get the right spot and make myself orgasm from that, and that I was going to get over this one orgasm hurdle), and it was literally like an explosion. Body out of control, jerking, involuntary sounds, and best of all, it kept going and going and GOING... it wasn't like the little clit orgasms that made me want to roll over and go to sleep, it just wasn't going to stop! I found myself thinking "shit, I haven't had an orgasm before" mid-thrashing and the only reason I actually stopped was that I was worried I'd have a seizure in the bathtub or end up screaming and everyone else in the house freaking out, because even though I'm a quiet person it was definately getting to that point.

Of course, I haven't been able to duplicate it since. D: It's really hard for me to hit the right spot on my own, it's even harder to get the right balance of stimulation to avoid having the "fun time over" clit orgasm but still having enough stimulation there to be "prepped", and of course it takes a lot longer. I've managed to get it so I'm getting some of the "right" stimulation most of the time now, which has all but destroyed my ability to have a roll over and finish orgasm... terribly frustrating because now I'm always left wanting more! But also awesome because it's SO MUCH BETTER after all this time having itty bitty easy boring orgasms.

So for me, that's the difference. I'm pretty sure that given enough time and patience I could orgasm without any clit stimulation but it would be hard, I'd rather have just the right mix to get that explosive, never-ending g-spotgasm again! At least for me the feeling is worlds apart, down to the lingering arousal afterwards. It's worth it to be able to keep going, I think. I felt like I was going to be a one-hit wonder forever, after seeing so many women on here gloating about their multiple orgasms... something the g-spot seems to open up, at least for me.

Best position seems to be with hips tilted/propped up, to make it easier to manually access the g-spot. Couple great threads here on that, too. Very inspiring.

 

[CNYCarol]

I dont think i've ever experienced a 'g-spot' orgasm. I even went through and printed off the instructions here on this site and begged for my husband to try it. He was dead set against it at first, and weeks later i was able to get him to try it finally. gave up after 5 mins. Im jealous of all you who have had them, i wonder if i can do it to myself????? lol

If you ever make it to NC, stop in, promise I won't stop after 5 minutes.

As far as giving yourself a G-Spot Orgasm, it's possible for some, but few. It's like tickling, I am super sensitive to it and yet I can't tickle myself.

Personally, I've had G-Spot, Vaginal, Anal and even Breast stimulated orgasms. NO, my breasts don't experience orgasm but I have gotten off a couple of times with only mammary stimulation.

 

[nancyl32819]

Are you able to have an orgasm without stimulation of the clitoris? How does a vaginal orgasm differ from a clitoral orgasm? What parts of your body (internal or external) do you like to be touched just prior to orgasm? Which sexual positions are preferred for this?

Depends on the emotional connection. Clitorial orgasms are more powerful for me. But, slow fucking, him on top, give me some really good ones.

 

[sbelle79]

If you ever make it to NC, stop in, promise I won't stop after 5 minutes.

As far as giving yourself a G-Spot Orgasm, it's possible for some, but few. It's like tickling, I am super sensitive to it and yet I can't tickle myself.

Personally, I've had G-Spot, Vaginal, Anal and even Breast stimulated orgasms. NO, my breasts don't experience orgasm but I have gotten off a couple of times with only mammary stimulation.

Holy crap what an offer!! ((road trip anyone? I may need someone to drive me home, that is IF i want to go!))

 

[Firebrain]

Actually, one of the easiest ways for me to orgasm really is to "pound my vagina into oblivion" - but then I am rather a fan of roughness and some foreplay is usually required first. The on all fours position is usually pretty good for it, mainly for the g-spot reason.

The absolute best thing I've found for finding my g-spot is a curved glass dildo with a balled head. The curve helps, but the weight of the glass is important. I've said it a hundred times before but I would marry that thing! I find the sensation much more pleasant than fingers, although not as nice as a cock.

I think there's little point aspiring to orgasms without any clitoral stimulation, mind - a) because they're so very unlikely and b) because ones with such stimulation are so much better. The combination of clitoral and g-spot is mind-blowing; why would you not want to give her that?

 

[Black_Bunny]

Personally, I've had G-Spot, Vaginal, Anal and even Breast stimulated orgasms. NO, my breasts don't experience orgasm but I have gotten off a couple of times with only mammary stimulation.

That's interesting... I get hugely aroused from breast stimulation and have often wondered if it would be possible for me to have an orgasm solely from that...

 

[Firebrain]

Oh, and I also once orgasmed from a night of perusing dirty stories. No touching at all (well, lots of generally pleasurable squirming in my seat, but not direct stimulation. My my. I want to have that night again!

 

[ScottSwing]

This is about as common as a man being able to orgasm without someone touching his penis. So, as you can see, it's not very common at all.

Of course it's uncommon, but far from unfeasible.

There's also these things called the vestibular bulbs that are part of the clitoris in addition to its head and legs and a female prostate called the Skene's gland

Skene's gland! The U-spot they're calling it now, a "newly discovered" organ. There was a time when it was believed the female orgasm didn't exist, and bam, the G-spot was discovered. There are so many myths about that shit and I still have women telling me it's impossible to come without rubbing the clitoris.

It's definitely possible. A kiss. A touch. Even his voice...all can trigger an orgasm.

Hell yes! Those are the kinds I like to give.
But it seems like all anyone's ever heard of is the clitoris. I've actually had to explain to a few women what a G-spot is.

There are many places you can touch a woman to give her an orgasm. That's why I'm trying to master doing everything with one hand- unbutton her pants with one hand, put on a condom with one hand, etc. So the other hand, my legs, my arms, my lips can all be busy doing something else.

Most women just say "I don't know" when I ask them about how something feels. I can't blame them, but they aren't helping me make them come!

Oh, and I also once orgasmed from a night of perusing dirty stories. No touching at all (well, lots of generally pleasurable squirming in my seat, but not direct stimulation. My my. I want to have that night again!

Link?

 

[satindesire]

There are so many myths about that shit and I still have women telling me it's impossible to come without rubbing the clitoris.

But it seems like all anyone's ever heard of is the clitoris. I've actually had to explain to a few women what a G-spot is.

Not all women are capable of G-spot orgasm. In some women, g-spot stimulation can be painful, and to some women it's totally numb.

It's different on this site because the people who come here are generally very...sexual...and have either had a lot of experience sexually or very bold and adventurous partners. The norm outside of this site in the real world is that most women can ONLY orgasm through clitoral stimulation.

So what you've experienced in person is actually VERY normal and common.