Question for women: Orgasms without touching the clit

[ElegantlyElle]

Not wanting to go back and read I'll just answer the question of the thread. I have them when my nipples are pinched and bitten. They're only different, because I always need to have my clit stimulated after. That's the only difference though. They're just as intense and multiple as having my clit stimulated.

 

[infinity706]

I didn't read the entire thread, but it seems like this is a pretty "heated" discussion! I'm gonna throw my 2 cents in and claim new-comer naivety when it makes someone angry.

Clitoral orgasms are what I give myself. They're nice, quick, and fairly clean. I get that euphoric feeling for approx. 45 seconds afterwards and mostly do this because I'm bored. No one else has ever made me climax from purely clitoral stimulation. I like oral, but if there isn't at least one skilled finger involved I'm not going to get off.
Vaginal or G-spot orgasms are what I expect from sex. I'm good at sex and can't remember the last time I had sex without one of these; the norm is 3-4 a session. These are intense and make my brain turn to putty. My body feels good after each of these but I still "recover" within a couple min.
Anal orgasms are a complete body melter. I wouldn't say they're better than vaginal, but totally different. They take longer, and a more skilled partner (I haven't ever given myself one) and aren't a "sure thing".

Whew!

Yeah, of course, the "anal orgasm" takes longer because your asshole is an extra inch away and there's that vaginal/rectal wall, getting in the way of your G-spot. (the female prostate pressing against the ass end of the clit, buried inside)

Not wanting to go back and read I'll just answer the question of the thread. I have them when my nipples are pinched and bitten. They're only different, because I always need to have my clit stimulated after. That's the only difference though. They're just as intense and multiple as having my clit stimulated.

Yeah, nipples work, too, since they also have genital corpuscles (orgasm nerves) like the clit/cock- although no other body parts do- but they're harder to get to work because they're so far from your crotch.

 

[Firebrain]

We do - but she says she wants to achieve orgasm by cock-to-clit stimulation. Is this possible? and if so, what do I need to do?

Get her to straddle you. In the right position, her clit will bump against the base of your cock or just above. I'd get her to the edge first just to help things along, and then plenty of effort from below on your part once she tells you it feels good.

 

[Verinka]

Don't patronise her by telling her about the existence of other elusive orgasms because she probably feels bothered enough that a traditional one takes quite the effort.

Exactly. I'm 62 and have lived through sex almost being for men and only 'bad girls' did it/enjoyed it (what the 1950's felt like). I'm not even sure how old I was when I heard about women's orgasms and I had my first at 25...YES. Then, in the 70's, just as our pleasure was acknowledged and we all began to learn about our bodies, it turned around to yet really another set of expectations for women, taking them away from just being themselves, and that was multiple orgasms and different types of orgasms, some being 'better' than others. A Woody Allen movie has a woman character referring to this, paraphrase, "I finally had an orgasm and then I found out it was the wrong kind". Found it, from Manhatten: "I finally had an orgasm and my doctor told me it was the wrong kind." All that is pressure to be what someone else has decided you should be, I feel. I find the analogy of the clitoris = penis, vagina = balls works well for me. I like the full feeling of a penis inside me and if my clit is getting enough action, it is more thrilling than the clitoris all by itself. But that's true for other areas as well But for me, I cannot imagine an orgasm without the clitoris being involved and I haven't liked it when, I think for a man's pleasure or ego, it's been suggested that it would be great if I could do that, with HIM, of course!!!! Not for me, for him. I hope younger women are sorting all this out and I do think these discussions help. I've always been a bit envious of the ease in which most men cum and how that big thing can bump up against things and get satisfied. However, I know men for sure have things to deal with....the main one being dealing with women who I think overwhelmingly are more subtle and complex emotionally and physically in their sexual makeup. Them's the breaks for all of us!! Good thread.

My pet peeve: people not knowing and using the word "vulva" which is the lovely outside area of a woman containing so many nerve endings in the clitoris and surrounding area and mistakenly calling it a "vagina". HUH!!! That's the area on the INSIDE, which is not visible. It should have the been the "Vulva Monologues" and those women should have known better. All this is part of women claiming, reclaiming their bodies, for themselves, and those that want to enjoy them with us can get with the program....LOL Rant over!!

 

[DfrntLovin]

I didn't read the entire thread, but it seems like this is a pretty "heated" discussion! I'm gonna throw my 2 cents in and claim new-comer naivety when it makes someone angry.

Clitoral orgasms are what I give myself. They're nice, quick, and fairly clean. I get that euphoric feeling for approx. 45 seconds afterwards and mostly do this because I'm bored. No one else has ever made me climax from purely clitoral stimulation. I like oral, but if there isn't at least one skilled finger involved I'm not going to get off.
Vaginal or G-spot orgasms are what I expect from sex. I'm good at sex and can't remember the last time I had sex without one of these; the norm is 3-4 a session. These are intense and make my brain turn to putty. My body feels good after each of these but I still "recover" within a couple min.
Anal orgasms are a complete body melter. I wouldn't say they're better than vaginal, but totally different. They take longer, and a more skilled partner (I haven't ever given myself one) and aren't a "sure thing".

Whew!

Whew is right!


Thank you for sharing!