Sex with Acquaintances

[ownedsubgal]

Furry, you could probably get Daddy to come piss on you if you ask nicely and humbly enough. just don't forget to keep your eyes shut!

 

[VelvetSin]

One of the main things I was both drawn to and annoyed by when I first started posting questions on this forum was the continued statement that “sexuality is unique person to person and relationship to relationship, there is no right or wrong” and the posters here all seemed united on that point, if nothing else. While that's an annoying answer when you just want to be told “this is the way it is,” it was valuable and open-minded. I'd hate to see that one point of unity dissolve over a few simple questions.

Some people feel one way, other people feel another. All it does is prove that variety exists even on this aspect of sexuality. Is it really a reason to take personal swipes at one another? Religion and politics are on my "don't get involved in those conversations" because I've never seen one where one person changed the opinion of another. The only variable seems to be how pissed off the conversationalists will be when they're done. Pro or con promiscuity is added to the list. I didn't realize it was so volatile a topic, wow.

(Edited to include a hummed Kumbaya chorus in the background.)


Tangent - Many GYNs won't give an IUD to women that have not carried a child to full term because one of the risks / side effects is inflammation of uterine tissue due to rubbing. The uterus of a woman that's carried to full term does not shrink 100% to its original size, so that risk of rubbing and inflammation is reduced due to increased size. Some GYNs will still give them to women that haven't carried a child. It's another "some do, some don't" issue.

 

[richard_daily]

Well, the unspoken caveat here is that _I_ am far less likely to do the shit I like to do with someone that I do not trust. To be frank, that is probably more important than what they want, and I was remiss for not saying it. I have had strangers come up to me and offer to do all sorts of things, and I've said no. I won't do many of the activities that I enjoy unless I really trust the bottom.

If anything, my trust level is more important than theirs assuming we are talking about edgeplay.

That's a good point, and perhaps part of the thrill for me in some of those situations is not knowing if I can trust the other person. I do know that I can trust myself, and know what I'm capable of and what my limits are. I've often wondered how the women that I've hooked up with know the same about me, especially when entrusting their safety into my hands....

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Jeebus.

Can't we all just shag and get along again?

 

[NomadLady]

Jeebus.

Can't we all just shag and get along again?

Ditto on this one Lizzie....

 

[JMohegan]

Having sex with people you’re not so close with. No intimate relationship, not a close friend, etc. Oh and no other motives such as money, favors, etc.

Some potential aspects to discuss.

What’s your view on it?

Do you or would you do it?

Why or why not do it?

My view - it feels like conquest, and conquest is hot. It's also great to explore. No two females look the same in the buff. [Aren't you curious?] Nor do they taste the same, smell the same, react the same, make the same noises. Variety's fun!

Yes, I've done it more times that I can count.

Why do it? See above. Why not do it? I've never committed myself to someone who could accept an open relationship, and the women to whom I've committed have all brought enough to the table to make the sacrifice of casual fucking well worth the cost.

I consider sex to be a sort of extension of kissing.

This is one of the things that baffles me about sex with people you don't really know. Say you get down to it, isn't kissing just part of it, how do you have sex without it?

Afterward, what do you say to them, "um, so... I'm not so great with names, what was yours again."

I'd imagine it be really weird having had sex with someone and then still needing to search for a common topic of conversation to break ice.

Only a doofus can't remember her name when he's done.

You say something like: "Thanks, that was a great way to celebrate," or "Thanks, I'm gonna have sweet memories of this town." Say something you really mean and it will come off as sincere, not awkward at all.

It helps if you're fucking someone whom you won't be seeing on a regular basis. The chances for drama from a day-to-day acquaintance are usually annoyingly high.

 

[FurryFury]

*giggling nervously at the thought*

Furry, you could probably get Daddy to come piss on you if you ask nicely and humbly enough. just don't forget to keep your eyes shut!

 

[FurryFury]

I'm with you on this.

Great post!

One of the main things I was both drawn to and annoyed by when I first started posting questions on this forum was the continued statement that “sexuality is unique person to person and relationship to relationship, there is no right or wrong” and the posters here all seemed united on that point, if nothing else. While that's an annoying answer when you just want to be told “this is the way it is,” it was valuable and open-minded. I'd hate to see that one point of unity dissolve over a few simple questions.

Some people feel one way, other people feel another. All it does is prove that variety exists even on this aspect of sexuality. Is it really a reason to take personal swipes at one another? Religion and politics are on my "don't get involved in those conversations" because I've never seen one where one person changed the opinion of another. The only variable seems to be how pissed off the conversationalists will be when they're done. Pro or con promiscuity is added to the list. I didn't realize it was so volatile a topic, wow.

(Edited to include a hummed Kumbaya chorus in the background.)


Tangent - Many GYNs won't give an IUD to women that have not carried a child to full term because one of the risks / side effects is inflammation of uterine tissue due to rubbing. The uterus of a woman that's carried to full term does not shrink 100% to its original size, so that risk of rubbing and inflammation is reduced due to increased size. Some GYNs will still give them to women that haven't carried a child. It's another "some do, some don't" issue.

 

[FurryFury]

LOL.

Jeebus.

Can't we all just shag and get along again?

 

[CutieMouse]

My view - it feels like conquest, and conquest is hot. It's also great to explore. No two females look the same in the buff. [Aren't you curious?] Nor do they taste the same, smell the same, react the same, make the same noises. Variety's fun!

Yes, I've done it more times that I can count.

Damn Pavlov, I read the word "conquest" and involuntarily squirmed. lol

 

[comatrust]

Personally I've never had sex within what would be considered a normal boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, and now I've got a person who I fuck. We weren't really friends before it happened, and I consider him a friend but we really are strangers. All in all I've only been in the same room with him maybe seven or eight times (and a lot of that was to get laid)

I probably wouldn't do it with a complete stranger because the one time I did, I found myself running out his door at 3 in the morning when his girlfriend came home (in my defense i didn't know) even thought the mystery is a little bit of a turn on.

 

[PertPerth]

Personally, I see nothing wrong with it...but have never done it myself. I find it difficult to be turned on by someone I'm not attracted to mentally as well as physically. The mental attraction takes time and then, I always want a relationship, not just sex.

I have several friends (and my brother) who have 'friends with benefits', and from what I can tell, it usually ends in heart break for someone - the person who ends up having feelings for the other (if that makes sense?).

 

[Homburg]

I have several friends (and my brother) who have 'friends with benefits', and from what I can tell, it usually ends in heart break for someone - the person who ends up having feelings for the other (if that makes sense?).

It makes sense and I've seen it many times. I think it comes from a fairly common reaction where a person will conflate repeated sexual intimacy for romantic affection and connection.

 

[rida]

I was thinking a bit more about casual sex and realized that in my life, right now, the only way I get vanilla sex is via casual hook ups & "acquaintances" with benefits! LOL

 

[YourCaptor]

Similar to the possibility of a condom failing, the possibility of a girl becoming infertile due to an IUD is so slight nowadays, that the past restriction of IUDs being only for women who have already been pregnant is nothing but old fashioned. Most OBGYN's don't have this restriction anymore, although of course there are always a few holdouts.

Condoms fail all the time. Even under perfect lab conditions 1 in 50 fails, out of the lab 1 in 10. There is no way in hell I’d ever trust a condom as my only method of protection.

Which is why I assume it was just a bad comparison, but you know, it's better to say these things laud.

And a side of nerd, it’s plausible that IUDs have been used since the copper age.

 

[YourCaptor]

My view - it feels like conquest, and conquest is hot. It's also great to explore. No two females look the same in the buff. [Aren't you curious?] Nor do they taste the same, smell the same, react the same, make the same noises. Variety's fun!

Yes, I've done it more times that I can count.

Why do it? See above. Why not do it? I've never committed myself to someone who could accept an open relationship, and the women to whom I've committed have all brought enough to the table to make the sacrifice of casual fucking well worth the cost.


Only a doofus can't remember her name when he's done.

You say something like: "Thanks, that was a great way to celebrate," or "Thanks, I'm gonna have sweet memories of this town." Say something you really mean and it will come off as sincere, not awkward at all.

It helps if you're fucking someone whom you won't be seeing on a regular basis. The chances for drama from a day-to-day acquaintance are usually annoyingly high.

I don't get the whole, fucking a woman is a conquest thing. Why, cause it's so hard, cause women are such sexual monsters you got to get one up on.

Maybe it's that I care more about the dirt under my shoe then most people, cause let's face it, people suck, fucking them wont change that.

 

[YourCaptor]

Personally, I see nothing wrong with it...but have never done it myself. I find it difficult to be turned on by someone I'm not attracted to mentally as well as physically. The mental attraction takes time and then, I always want a relationship, not just sex.

I have several friends (and my brother) who have 'friends with benefits', and from what I can tell, it usually ends in heart break for someone - the person who ends up having feelings for the other (if that makes sense?).

That's a good way of saying it.

 

[JMohegan]

Damn Pavlov, I read the word "conquest" and involuntarily squirmed. lol

I don't get the whole, fucking a woman is a conquest thing. Why, cause it's so hard, cause women are such sexual monsters you got to get one up on.

Maybe it's that I care more about the dirt under my shoe then most people, cause let's face it, people suck, fucking them wont change that.

The degree of perceived conquest depends on the female in question. And no, I don't perceive them as monsters. More like prey.

That dirt under the shoe line went over my head. But whatever, if you're not into casual fucking then don't fuck casually.

How long are you typically in an intimate relationship before you start fucking your partner? How long does it typically take for the relationship to shift from acquaintance to close?

 

[YourCaptor]

The degree of perceived conquest depends on the female in question. And no, I don't perceive them as monsters. More like prey.

That dirt under the shoe line went over my head. But whatever, if you're not into casual fucking then don't fuck casually.

How long are you typically in an intimate relationship before you start fucking your partner? How long does it typically take for the relationship to shift from acquaintance to close?

If women are prey, why go for every little squire, why not go for the trophies.

It's like so, I just don't like people. If I do like someone, they would be my friend, so fucking them is friends with benefits. Acquaintances, I don't like acquaintances, and cant enjoy fucking someone I don't like.

When I want a serious relationship I hold of on sex till I know it's what I want, a serious relationship, however long that takes.

 

[Soumis]

For whatever reason, my sexuality has not been a fixed thing. Over the years, my sex drive has changed, my fantasies have changed, who I'm attracted to has changed. So it's impossible for me to think that the way I view sex now is the way I will always view it.

Quite so.

Similar to the possibility of a condom failing, the possibility of a girl becoming infertile due to an IUD is so slight nowadays, that the past restriction of IUDs being only for women who have already been pregnant is nothing but old fashioned. Most OBGYN's don't have this restriction anymore, although of course there are always a few holdouts.

Tangent - Many GYNs won't give an IUD to women that have not carried a child to full term because one of the risks / side effects is inflammation of uterine tissue due to rubbing. The uterus of a woman that's carried to full term does not shrink 100% to its original size, so that risk of rubbing and inflammation is reduced due to increased size. Some GYNs will still give them to women that haven't carried a child. It's another "some do, some don't" issue.

Some are holdouts because getting an IUD into a nulligrav can hurt like a purple %$*#!@@#%$&$ wombat on a @#%$$& wild tear. Doesn't bring out the warm fuzzies in patients for some reason.

That being said, I my IUD. *squeeze!*

 

[Primalex]

Jeebus.

Can't we all just shag and get along again?

For the record:

I was not involved.

 

[BiBunny]

I can definitely be all 'it's just sex' because I *can* separate out the intimacy. So, I can fuck some random, and Mr can fuck some random, but I draw the line at kissing them. To me, *that's* the gross part.

To me, kissing is far more intimate, and that intimacy I won't share.

i agree it's extremely easy to have sex without kissing...i actually find kissing to be an unnatural part of sex the vast majority of the time, but then i am just not big on kissing period.

I thought I was the only one who thought kissing random people was icky. God, I haven't even liked kissing some of the people I've dated. It's really something that's reserved for the ones I love, and that's it.

Reprazent.

I don't mind fucking people I'm not romantically attached to, I just find that the potential dramas arising from not being on the same page (this is fun and fun is good) is more annoying than a good solid work day is or masturbation or fucking the people I've established ties with already.

Hell, yes. It's not that I'm opposed to playing with/fucking other people, but it'd have to be a matter of someone really awesome coming along. Otherwise, I'm cool with what I've got.

/ornery old lady

 

[Homburg]

/ornery old lady

I have shoes older'n you.

 

[graceanne]

For the record:

I was not involved.

LOL!!