aliencardigan
Too old to be Virgin
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Kinda what I meant but the thought didn't come out clearly in text. Mind you, maybe we're correct on both counts lol....or her bed...
Sexless Marriages
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diavolo2025
Weird, funny, kinky.
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Yeah, whatever the issue is, big is beautiful! 
Donald1961
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Where are you im 65 and I would love to take you 3 times a day for the next 15 years ,what say you are you game for it or are you lying about needing it all the timeI am totally in a sexless marriage and have been pretty much for a few years! We’re out there but we are a bit like unicorns
I am a woman in her 50’s with the sex drive of an 18 yr old boy, that’s not normal I’ve been told by female friends the same age and male friends. I should be settling down for my old age with my hormones dying a slow death, but hell no!
PapaRomantic
Writing away...
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She hasn't posted since January 2, 2023. She's gone...
KeenVoyeur
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I do believe DDBustyBrit met someone on here and they rode off into the sunset together
Best of luck to them both!
My own marriage has been sexless for over 18 years now - some of it was my fault but it would have been nice if Mrs KV had eventually decided she did need me for more than just the money!
Thanks - appreciate it. Wish this boat wasn't so full.
lovely_leah
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I feel like maybe im an odd one out but it was me having a much higher sex drive and my husband always turning me down... Were currently getting divorced and while this wasnt the #1 cause, its a close second.
When we got together we discussed sex and kinky things and he said he was into all the things... but that turned out very much to not be true at all. It was just a lot of talk and teasing.
I offered to try just about anything he might be into, to bring some life back into our sex life, but he insisted that he just doesnt think sex is that interesting or important and claims to have no fantasies or sexual wants/needs.
For the last few years 99% of our sex life has been 5 minute quickies with him on top, eyes closed, making no noise at all.
After 6 years im sooo frustrated I want to scream.!
When we got together we discussed sex and kinky things and he said he was into all the things... but that turned out very much to not be true at all. It was just a lot of talk and teasing.
I offered to try just about anything he might be into, to bring some life back into our sex life, but he insisted that he just doesnt think sex is that interesting or important and claims to have no fantasies or sexual wants/needs.
For the last few years 99% of our sex life has been 5 minute quickies with him on top, eyes closed, making no noise at all.
After 6 years im sooo frustrated I want to scream.!
Bacchus6153
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I feel your pain. Wish you lived close to MA.
I understand what you're saying and I'm sorry you're dealing with it, I don't know if women are afraid to admit their marriage is that way or like you said you're a rare bird. Just as your husband did my wife did me the same way, lot of talk and teasing then when we got a home and kid's it came to a screaming halt, don't know why people just can't be honest with each other.
NightOfPassion2
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Basically roommates here. I use one of the bedrooms for mine. Last time there was actual discussion using the word "sex" that was not negative was years ago...
The boat is a bit tipsy but will see...
Bacchus6153
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My wife is a victim of sexual abuse as a child. As a result she doesn’t enjoy dex and refused my repeated recommendation for counseling. So here I am living in a situation that isn't healthy for either one of us.
diavolo2025
Weird, funny, kinky.
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I'm sorry you're going through that. Really hard place to be.
questquilya
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People also change or only realize upon acting that the fantasies sometimes are best kept as such. They may mean the things they say and then realize they do not like those fantasies anymore when they are about to actually be involved in them. Also, hormonal changes change us in unpredictable ways.
diavolo2025
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Sure, i get that part. To be fair, things can change too. I think it makes it hellishly hard when there's no clear communication, one way or another.
Trash_Panda_1994
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Honestly I can understand that as someone that went through the same thing. My trauma just made me hypersexual instead.
More than one therapist though has used the trauma as a way to sleep with me sooo if she does get counseling, please vet them well.
Going from sex with whoever and whenever I wanted to just one person that didn't get me off killed my sex drive with my husband. Even talking with him about it and trying to lessen stressor in our life to help relax me didn't help much.
questquilya
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What was unfair?
LeeKee
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if we are here and reading this, we've probably reached that point as well. No worries. Sad to hear. But, we get it. Hopefully things get better or you are able to find some excitement in life.Ours is a king sized bed and it might as well be three king sized beds. There's no intimacy whatsoever and frankly I've gotten uninterested... sorry to vent
LeeKee
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Really make life pretty sad. When one has hormones and changes and whatnot, and the other is left guessing. To the other the hormones become a reality. Its killing us.
questquilya
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As they say, one should decenter himself and empathize. Not everything is about us.
So they say. It helps, but does not change what feels like the end of a way of living and prematurely so.
questquilya
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Kicking and screaming, which is the childish first reaction I bet most of us had, is not going to change it. One is left to embrace radical acceptance or not. Improvise. Adapt. Survive. (?) Also, the serenity prayer, if you are religious. The first part, maybe, which transcends faith and is good for atheists as well.
Him15
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Essentially the harder things got for me personally the more alone I was going to be in the relationship since apparently one of the reasons affection stopped according to her was i had been stressed a lot.
That's a shame..
It's not an exaggeration to say that when one person in a relationship unilaterally decides to end sex, they are basically shortening their partners life expectancy. How? Because research shows that regular sex later in life helps people live healthier and longer.
As I've said before, if my wife decided to no longer have sex and refused couples therapy, discussing it with her doctor, etc... I would feel justified in saying, "Well, I love you and I will continue to keep you at the center of my life. But I will NOT go the rest of my life without sex. So, I'll find it elsewhere. So, let's discuss some rules around my doing this..”
If someone lost the use of their legs and ended up in a wheelchair, they would never tell their partner, "Well, if I can't walk, then neither should you..." Well, that's not much different than saying to a husband or wife, "I don't want sex anymore, so it's over for you as well."
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RachelWalsh
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