Something to think about today

[virgin_not]

A happy person is not a person with certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with certain set of attitudes -Hugh Downs


YOU HAVE A CHOICE TO CHOOSE ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD!!!

Every human being wishes to be happy, but the metamorphosis of the mental perception towards being with happiness should be the ultimate choice. You can change yourself by changing the way you feel. So, try not to look at change as an impossible task. But remember, we do all have the choice and the power to change IF WE WANT. Explore the happiness that is lying within you always.

 

[BeachGurl2]

You're too young to have lost yours. I can't remember if I've gone to the bathroom sometimes. It's bad.

Now that just can't be true. (And I'm probably older than you think.)

 

[dcraz]

A happy person is not a person with certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with certain set of attitudes -Hugh Downs


YOU HAVE A CHOICE TO CHOOSE ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD!!!

Every human being wishes to be happy, but the metamorphosis of the mental perception towards being with happiness should be the ultimate choice. You can change yourself by changing the way you feel. So, try not to look at change as an impossible task. But remember, we do all have the choice and the power to change IF WE WANT. Explore the happiness that is lying within you always.

Great thoughts to ponder today VN!

I have to be very careful sometimes. I am almost always positive and upbeat. But I also know I have led a charmed life of sorts. With more things than not going my way, I know I am more fortunate than most. It's easy to be happy, positive and upbeat, when things are going well. I have been blessed with a nurtured upbringing, loving family, excellent health, stable job, exceptional friends and little to want for.

But I do agree that much of our happiness is the attitude we bring with us and share with those around us. I see so many that dwell on all the negatives in their lives that they rarely even see the beauty around them. To worry and fret about all that is wrong in the world, all the injustices done to us and how much better everyone has it is to rob ourselves of energy and destroy our spirit.

For all my fortunes, I have been blessed to have a dear friend (she knows who she is) counsel me over the last few years. To slow down, to enjoy the beauty of each day and to focus on the incredible quality of my life. Something I am still learning, but something I appreciate more each and every day.

 

[Gi_Venus]

A happy person is not a person with certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with certain set of attitudes -Hugh Downs


YOU HAVE A CHOICE TO CHOOSE ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD!!!

Every human being wishes to be happy, but the metamorphosis of the mental perception towards being with happiness should be the ultimate choice. You can change yourself by changing the way you feel. So, try not to look at change as an impossible task. But remember, we do all have the choice and the power to change IF WE WANT. Explore the happiness that is lying within you always.

Hi everyone, Good thoughts virgin_not

When you are stuck in a rut and you do not feel you can change one thing to do as an exercise is to define your self and then step out of that definition, acting out of character, repeatedly, eventually you find that you are much more capable of change than you thought possible.

Gianna

 

[virgin_not]

Thanks DC and Venus

 

[Leeleigh]

LeeLeigh,

Oh wow. I am so blown away by these kind words... All I ever did was listen, respond honestly, and offer words of encouragement to someone who proved to be a wonderful friend to me from the beginning. But more than that, I am happy for the incredible love you have found. I have enjoyed the times we shared and always knew you would find love one day.

I happen to have incredible faith in people. And I still believe in love. I also believe the world needs more people in love and fewer filled with hate and dispair. You have shown that love and dreams can and do come true. And you inspiration to us all...

Good luck my dear friend. Drop me a line one day soon when you have a break from all that loving.

Honey here is your line.. (just about to go take a shower after some loving) Thank you, thank you, thank you.. You know how badly I was hurt by ratbastard, and you know how long I waited to find a man like Mark, damn near 11 years... so I have some making up to do... Now I know that you will excuse me while I go hop in the shower with my guy..

BTW...... I love you dearly... you are one wonderful friend to a lady...

 

[Flyin_Free]

A happy person is not a person with certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with certain set of attitudes -Hugh Downs


YOU HAVE A CHOICE TO CHOOSE ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD!!!

Every human being wishes to be happy, but the metamorphosis of the mental perception towards being with happiness should be the ultimate choice. You can change yourself by changing the way you feel. So, try not to look at change as an impossible task. But remember, we do all have the choice and the power to change IF WE WANT. Explore the happiness that is lying within you always.

I love this. Great thought for the day

 

[virgin_not]

I love this. Great thought for the day

Thanks Flyin

 

[virgin_not]

In retrospect, everyone is alone as an individual, as a person he is alone in his fights and battles in life, people come and go in our lives but we are still we, a bit affected, a bit changed, but still alone as ourselves...

loneliness is what one gets into, willingly or unwillingly, it is acquired, even when you are with someone you can be alone, but for loneliness you have to forcibly detach even your thoughts from yourself.

 

[BeachGurl2]

Life is such a learning process, if you allow it to be. I've learned through life experience to rely only on myself, to not depend on others for much of anything. Even as a young child, because I was the oldest, I was the one always putting aside my own fears and needs to take care of others. Whatever I needed or wanted was always pushed aside to make room for what others needed and wanted. And yes, as an adult, I've come to realize that I chose to put my needs/wants aside, but it's who I am and it's what I do.

The few times in my life I've allowed myself to get close enough to someone that I let myself depend on them and have expectations of them, even just a little bit, I've been let down, disappointed. And every time it happens, I crawl a little deeper inside myself, vowing that next time I won't be so stupid. So open. So dependent. And I don't ask for help until the situation is desperate, dire even. Sometimes, I don't even ask for help then. Because when I asked for what I needed, I got punished in some way for asking for or needing help.

With that said, I am incredibly thankful to have a handful of good friends who know when I'm moving into what I call my 'hybernating' stage. That's when things look the worst from my perspective and so I crawl into my shell and hide until I'm ready to face the world again. And that handful of good friends, whom I love dearly, do whatever it takes to keep me from crawling in too deeply for fear I won't come out again. Funny thing is, they often know I'm heading there before I do, and so they jump into gear to keep me grounded and out of that dark place I tend to go. They let me vent, they offer advice, and they tell me how much I mean to them, how much they love me. And then they offer to beat up the bad guys for me.

DC, you've become one of that handful of people for me. This thread seemed the perfect place to say thank you for being my very dear friend. I love that you want to slay the dragons for me (you can carry me off to your lair when you're done, too ). Your words remind me that I am a worthwhile person, I do have something to offer, and good things are just around the corner. I love you, my friend.

 

[HisHarlot]

Life is such a learning process, if you allow it to be. I've learned through life experience to rely only on myself, to not depend on others for much of anything. Even as a young child, because I was the oldest, I was the one always putting aside my own fears and needs to take care of others. Whatever I needed or wanted was always pushed aside to make room for what others needed and wanted. And yes, as an adult, I've come to realize that I chose to put my needs/wants aside, but it's who I am and it's what I do.

The few times in my life I've allowed myself to get close enough to someone that I let myself depend on them and have expectations of them, even just a little bit, I've been let down, disappointed. And every time it happens, I crawl a little deeper inside myself, vowing that next time I won't be so stupid. So open. So dependent. And I don't ask for help until the situation is desperate, dire even. Sometimes, I don't even ask for help then. Because when I asked for what I needed, I got punished in some way for asking for or needing help.

With that said, I am incredibly thankful to have a handful of good friends who know when I'm moving into what I call my 'hybernating' stage. That's when things look the worst from my perspective and so I crawl into my shell and hide until I'm ready to face the world again. And that handful of good friends, whom I love dearly, do whatever it takes to keep me from crawling in too deeply for fear I won't come out again. Funny thing is, they often know I'm heading there before I do, and so they jump into gear to keep me grounded and out of that dark place I tend to go. They let me vent, they offer advice, and they tell me how much I mean to them, how much they love me. And then they offer to beat up the bad guys for me.

DC, you've become one of that handful of people for me. This thread seemed the perfect place to say thank you for being my very dear friend. I love that you want to slay the dragons for me (you can carry me off to your lair when you're done, too ). Your words remind me that I am a worthwhile person, I do have something to offer, and good things are just around the corner. I love you, my friend.

beachgurl:
pardon me if i miss something as i put out my few cents. i'm a little under the weather here, so while i read all that you said; my brain is mush right now and may not hold onto all of it. so i'll apologize up front.

whoever it was, that either told you or made you feel any form of without worth was, and is, an idiot. a complete and total idiot. from the few times we've talked, i have found you to be a woman of immense value - and worth. you have so much tucked away iniside you, that the person you deem lucky enough for the honor of receiving it - is going to flooded when you let the gates re-open again.

right now, even letting small parts of you close down, only while you heal, is good. it's ok to do that. just don't forget to re-open those parts, and yourself, when you feel stronger. but hybernating as you call it, is not. i wish i had had a friend like dc when i went into my hybernating phase all those years ago. maybe i wouldn't have gone so deep, or built the walls so high. but i didn't have one, and i did go deep, and the walls became high. i shut down, and i shut off. there was no one there to help.

dc has a rare gift. i hope he knows this. he uses it well and he uses it wisely. he has the rare gift of true caring. he's not afraid to want to get into the center of the fray and slay the other person's dragons, then will turn back to them, while dusting off his hands, and then lift them up.

don't ever let yourself feel without value or worth, beachgurl. you aren't. dc and other's won't let you.

now i know some of what has been said will cause dc to blush, and that's ok. it's a good thing, huh dc? from all that i've read, or said, do not think yourself without value or worth either, my friend.

for you, dc, would be so wrong.

sorry if i rambled; sorry if i lost the point i was trying to make. i'm going to take my sick body back to bed now. i just hope i didn't screw up what i was trying to say or lose the point i was trying to make.



blessed be
both of you

 

[BeachGurl2]

beachgurl:
pardon me if i miss something as i put out my few cents. i'm a little under the weather here, so while i read all that you said; my brain is mush right now and may not hold onto all of it. so i'll apologize up front.

whoever it was, that either told you or made you feel any form of without worth was, and is, an idiot. a complete and total idiot. from the few times we've talked, i have found you to be a woman of immense value - and worth. you have so much tucked away iniside you, that the person you deem lucky enough for the honor of receiving it - is going to flooded when you let the gates re-open again.

right now, even letting small parts of you close down, only while you heal, is good. it's ok to do that. just don't forget to re-open those parts, and yourself, when you feel stronger. but hybernating as you call it, is not. i wish i had had a friend like dc when i went into my hybernating phase all those years ago. maybe i wouldn't have gone so deep, or built the walls so high. but i didn't have one, and i did go deep, and the walls became high. i shut down, and i shut off. there was no one there to help.

dc has a rare gift. i hope he knows this. he uses it well and he uses it wisely. he has the rare gift of true caring. he's not afraid to want to get into the center of the fray and slay the other person's dragons, then will turn back to them, while dusting off his hands, and then lift them up.

don't ever let yourself feel without value or worth, beachgurl. you aren't. dc and other's won't let you.

now i know some of what has been said will cause dc to blush, and that's ok. it's a good thing, huh dc? from all that i've read, or said, do not think yourself without value or worth either, my friend.

for you, dc, would be so wrong.

sorry if i rambled; sorry if i lost the point i was trying to make. i'm going to take my sick body back to bed now. i just hope i didn't screw up what i was trying to say or lose the point i was trying to make.



blessed be
both of you

Thank you so much for your kind words. I've been having a very tough year, but maybe things are starting to look up again. I got a double whammy last week with my bf breaking it off and losing to my ex-husband in court all in the same week. And the court battle will be continuing. I've only recently moved to the city and the only friends I had made up to this point were friends of my bf. So now I'm starting over there, too. I don't have a local support system, so feeling very alone these days. And defeated. But I do have good friends who are working hard to keep me grounded. Thank you for jumping into that mix along with them. I appreciate it very much.

 

[done_got_old]

I'm happy!

 

[dcraz]

Thank you again BG and HH.

 

[dcraz]

I'm happy!

As for you.... Fess up girlie!

Some on. Give the rest of us something to think about today...

If you don't tell us WHY you are happy today, we shall be forced to 'guess'. And I don't think you want to hear what I'm thinking!

 

[HisHarlot]

Thank you again BG and HH.

you're welcome. true words, my friend... true words.

 

[HisHarlot]

As for you.... Fess up girlie!

Some on. Give the rest of us something to think about today...

If you don't tell us WHY you are happy today, we shall be forced to 'guess'. And I don't think you want to hear what I'm thinking!

you too? *lol* will you please get outta my head?

 

[done_got_old]

As for you.... Fess up girlie!

Some on. Give the rest of us something to think about today...

If you don't tell us WHY you are happy today, we shall be forced to 'guess'. And I don't think you want to hear what I'm thinking!

I'm just happy, that's all.

 

[HisHarlot]

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*do not forget to
remember this day
or the over 3,000 new stars
that found their way into the heavens
that night*​

 

[virgin_not]

" Letting the past invade the present robs you of the opportunity to fully seize upon the present."

 

[HisHarlot]

" Letting the past invade the present robs you of the opportunity to fully seize upon the present."

sage words. something worth thinking about when something from the past rears its ugly head and threatens to steal a chance to find contentment and happiness.

why does that always seem to be the way?

 

[Gi_Venus]

" Letting the past invade the present robs you of the opportunity to fully seize upon the present."

Hi virgin_not and everyone((((Hug))))
Because of our lack of clarity do to our human nature, the past is suspect.....experience is tainted with our very flawed perception, so to use our interpretation of it as a gauge for reality of the moment is to base our moment on a lie. Smile, the only true moment is the one being experienced now....all pasts and futures are artificial constructs of our thought. So with the moment being a blank page........grin......write on it. To often we tie ourselves to past actions of ours or events in which things were done to us. Each moment is an opportunity of change.

Gianna

 

[HisHarlot]

there's no where really 'safe' to truly vent. there are eyes everywhere.

 

[HisHarlot]

almost everything gets misconstrude, almost all of it gets taken personally; even when there is nothing personal to any one person when the person writing is venting.

and then there's the someone who sits in judgement of the one writing. why? what gives them the right to judge another? has anyone truly walked a mile in the shoes of another person?

no... not literally; but only by virtue of possibly having dealt with very similar circumstances.

the computer is a very poor medium when it comes to knowing exactly what the writer's tone of voice is when they're writing. the only thing you have to base an assumption on... is that person's written word.

not only does 'assuming' make an ass out of the person doing it ... an assumption is something that is made... when another does not have all the facts present.

 

[HisHarlot]

to believe that your feelings matter to another person... and that you can believe what they say is pure, unadulterated truth.