SouthEastern US Lit Gathering?

[Evil_Geoff]

Hiya TT,

Hope to get to see you at Dragon*Con... I was Director of Autographs for 5 years there! *grins* Last year, thanks to a last minute heart attack and quad bypass surgery, I missed Dragon*Con for the first time since 1994. With any luck, janey and I will be there again this year.

ADR, Thank you for the kind thought! janey and I will make every effort to meet you when you visit this side of the country! A SE Litogether is always a good thing!

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

Awwwww, thank you Victoria!
{{{{{HUG}}}}}

That was terribly kind of you! Best wishes for a magical meeting and much happiness and contentment to you both!

~ You're welcome Sir! As often as Sir and I speak - which is at least 2 - 3 times a day by phone - and sometimes 2 or 3 times a day via IM; We have discovered that there are a few life happenings that connect Us... but moreover... We find Ourselves in each other's head any number of times during Our conversations.

I would like to think We already possess some of that magic You speak of... and We are both very eager to meet and to start living a 24/7 life.

We speak freely, with NO reservations, as if We have known each other for years. There is a degree of comfort and contentment that is to be found during these same conversations. We have found that the weeksends are far too long and empty when We can't speak to each other; and that Mondays can't come soon enough.

If I am out-of-line by speaking so freely, or giving the appearance of speaking for Sir - if perhaps this should be coming from Him and not me - He has given me allowance and permission to speak freely, at all times, unless He bids me otherwise. If I am giving the appearance of taking too free a reign, then, I give my deepest apologies to any who may find offense from my free speech.

Although I do not physically wear His collar yet, I have considered myself His for a number of months now. In closing, yes... I can become long-winded, I hope and pray that there is more magic for Us to find both in and with each other; just as I hope and pray that there is more happiness to come.

Your servant, while not in Your service,
Victoria

 

[FurryFury]

Victoria,

I'm glad you've found a Dom that you feel so happy, excited and comfortable with. I hope your future meeting is wonderful.

I'm just curious, why can't y'all talk on weekends? Is he married or something?

Fury

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

Victoria,

I'm glad you've found a Dom that you feel so happy, excited and comfortable with. I hope your future meeting is wonderful.

I'm just curious, why can't y'all talk on weekends? Is he married or something?

Fury

~ My apologies Fury... I just saw this reply from you. Please forgive my delay in replying.


~ There are two reasons actually.

• One is: yes... He is currently married - but will be seeking a legal separation upon His return to His home state.
  
• Second is: No computer access over the weekend unless He's working overtime at His work-place.

We each feel comfortable, excited, and happy with each other... and We are BOTH eager for this time of 'hands on' learning and training. This is a 'switch' role for Him. He was a submissive a number of years ago, and while He enjoyed that role... He has found, or come to the realization (pick the word that best fits) that through the way He writes His stories - from the Dom point of view - that He is quite comfortable slipping into the Dom persona.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm happy for you Victoria!

*hugs*

Thanks for the answers.

Fury

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Another SouthEast Litogether, anyone?

Okay... there's a BUNCH of us kinky Southerners scattered about the Lit landscape. And I'd dearly love to put faces and voices to names. Since I'm travelling to Atlanta, and that seems to be a fairly easy place for many people to meet and congregate, I think it's only logical to issue an invite to all y'all to gather with me in Hotlanta!

Where: 1763
Date: July 14th, 2007
Time: 8:00pm until Ms Whip chases us out (usually 2am unless you book an private room for overnight...) *grin*
What: An evening of fellowship, friendship and fun and maybe a little hanky-spanky play!

This is an opportunity to get out from behind the pixels, to actually MEET these people face to face. Hell, you'll get to meet ME! *LOL* 1763 is one of the best play venues in the country, it has a huge main dungeon with a shower/waterplay area, seperate social area, small rooms off the main dungeon for a bit more privacy, totally private rental rooms available. What do you have to lose? And a weekend of great memories to gain!

Come on out you perverts! Gather with me in Atlanta the weekend of July 14th. You'll be glad you did!

 

[Gypsybyrd]

Okay... there's a BUNCH of us kinky Southerners scattered about the Lit landscape. And I'd dearly love to put faces and voices to names. Since I'm travelling to Atlanta, and that seems to be a fairly easy place for many people to meet and congregate, I think it's only logical to issue an invite to all y'all to gather with me in Hotlanta!

Where: 1763
Date: July 14th, 2007
Time: 8:00pm until Ms Whip chases us out (usually 2am unless you book an private room for overnight...) *grin*
What: An evening of fellowship, friendship and fun and maybe a little hanky-spanky play!

This is an opportunity to get out from behind the pixels, to actually MEET these people face to face. Hell, you'll get to meet ME! *LOL* 1763 is one of the best play venues in the country, it has a huge main dungeon with a shower/waterplay area, seperate social area, small rooms off the main dungeon for a bit more privacy, totally private rental rooms available. What do you have to lose? And a weekend of great memories to gain!

Come on out you perverts! Gather with me in Atlanta the weekend of July 14th. You'll be glad you did!

The red alone is worth it!

Geoff - I put it on my calendar to be there. I'm hoping nothing interferes with my plans. I heard that last time was great!

 

[Evil_Geoff]

*grins*
Guess I'll keep bumping it...

July 14th peeps!

 

[raven2]

*grins*
Guess I'll keep bumping it...

July 14th peeps!

Would love to be there, but we will just have been returning from vacation (visiting Sprinkles ) so we will have to pass on this one although I would love to be there.

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

~ My apologies Fury... I just saw this reply from you. Please forgive my delay in replying.


~ There are two reasons actually.

• One is: yes... He is currently married - but will be seeking a legal separation upon His return to His home state.
  
• Second is: No computer access over the weekend unless He's working overtime at His work-place.

We each feel comfortable, excited, and happy with each other... and We are BOTH eager for this time of 'hands on' learning and training. This is a 'switch' role for Him. He was a submissive a number of years ago, and while He enjoyed that role... He has found, or come to the realization (pick the word that best fits) that through the way He writes His stories - from the Dom point of view - that He is quite comfortable slipping into the Dom persona.

Well!
I think I need to update this...

Yes, He came out from 9 March until 15 March and it was a good time. Due to some UNfortunate change of events though... He was originally scheduled to stay until St. Patrick's Day (Sat. 17 Mar.) - He had to return home on Thursday 15th. Shortly after He returned to His home state, He made a uni-lateral decision that due to the fact that I was forming an attachment... and being long distance... He stepped back and away from me and went into shut down mode (for a number of reasons).

Now... we are no longer together and I can barely manage a conversation without bursting into tears.

So... for now... I have tucked this side of me away until I can feel safe enough to let it re-surface... if ever.

So... it looks like I won't be attending the get-together in July or any time after that.

Y'all have fun, take care... and be safe. I'll be thinking of you.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm so sorry.

*HUGS and more HUGS*

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

I'm so sorry.

*HUGS and more HUGS*

Thank you Fury... and thank you for the hugs. I'm beginning to think I'm not as suited for the lifestyle as I thought I was.

He's involved with another woman, and is getting land cleared so he can put a mobile home on it for them to move into when his divorce is final.

No... he's not in another D/s relationship... he claims to have let that go... he doesn't need it... or so he says.

I can barely talk to him now. I just tried... and broke down to the point I had to let him go and hang up.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm so sorry to see in you such pain.

Don't let it make you question your being a sub though. This guy was clearly confused.

*HUGS*

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I'm sorry that the relationship you invested your time, energy and heart into didn't pan out. It is unfortunate but things in life don't always work.

But if submission is an integral part of who you are, swearing it off is about like swearing off men after a bad breakup... 2 months, 4 months, 8 months, a year down the road, however long it takes to heal, then you'll be ready to give it another go...

Time to let go, and explore yourself for yourself. Stop holding on to this fellow, he's not coming back and even if he were, seriously hon, why in God's name would you want him back? He is NOT who (or what) you need and you know it.

If you want to meet people, make friends, see a little bit of what this can be like, swing by Atlanta. No pressure, no promises, no demands. No one will bother you I promise. But if you want to try something, experiment a bit with some toy or scene or whatever, I gay-ron-tee someone nice will be willing to show it to you. And again, without demands, expectations, or pressure.

Just keep an open mind and heart. Listen to the voice within and follow it.

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

I'm sorry that the relationship you invested your time, energy and heart into didn't pan out. It is unfortunate but things in life don't always work.

But if submission is an integral part of who you are, swearing it off is about like swearing off men after a bad breakup... 2 months, 4 months, 8 months, a year down the road, however long it takes to heal, then you'll be ready to give it another go...

Time to let go, and explore yourself for yourself. Stop holding on to this fellow, he's not coming back and even if he were, seriously hon, why in God's name would you want him back? He is NOT who (or what) you need and you know it.

If you want to meet people, make friends, see a little bit of what this can be like, swing by Atlanta. No pressure, no promises, no demands. No one will bother you I promise. But if you want to try something, experiment a bit with some toy or scene or whatever, I gay-ron-tee someone nice will be willing to show it to you. And again, without demands, expectations, or pressure.

Just keep an open mind and heart. Listen to the voice within and follow it.

Valid points all EG... and I do appreciate your input.

Right now however, the hurt of rejection is too raw to be replying to applications... not that any are on the table, pending, or even under consideration. If I weren't over 1000 miles from ATL, and had the funds available for 'fun'... I'd venture down. But having just started a job over a month ago and the possibility of an apartment on the horizon... I can't accept your lovely invite.

I truly would like to see aspects of the lifestyle evolve around me... or witness them as a spectator not a participant... perhaps even experiment with a scene... what it boils down to is what I feel what might be considered a severe case of lack of trust in either another or myself.

Submission is important to me... and it was quite comfortable both for and to me when with the ex-Sir. He was loving and caring, gentle and kind... but insistant at times too. We were both happy and content... I thought. I am not swearing it off... I'm just tucking it away until I heal more.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm like you that way. If something doesn't work, if I feel rejected or as if I've failed, it takes some time before I'm ready to commit to trying again, usually anyway.

 

[Gypsybyrd]

I'm like you that way. If something doesn't work, if I feel rejected or as if I've failed, it takes some time before I'm ready to commit to trying again, usually anyway.

I can relate to feeling that way too.



Victoria - I hope your situation changes and you're able to come to Atlanta.

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

I'm like you that way. If something doesn't work, if I feel rejected or as if I've failed, it takes some time before I'm ready to commit to trying again, usually anyway.

x 11
you do understand... and I thank you for that. I do feel rejected and as if I failed. Pardon my potty mouth... but... FUCK it hurts!

 

[FurryFury]

I understand all right.

*HUG and X 12 back atcha*

However, Geoff and Janie might cheer you up if you did decide to go. They are great people!

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

I understand all right.

*HUG and X 12 back atcha*

However, Geoff and Janie might cheer you up if you did decide to go. They are great people!

I'd love to go Fury, really I would... I just don't have the funds either for the air-fare or the gas and room. I don't have a doubt that Geoff and Janie would try and cheer me up... don't doubt it at all.

The saddest thing is: Sir and I did work... from the afternoon of His arrival until the evening He departed. It was a wonderful week... and what We had had online, on messenger and over the phone, clicked from the moment We saw each other... and it carried over into real life. All I can think of is somewhere along the line I must have done something that caused Him to back off and turn away. I just don't know what it was... and He didn't do a thing about the emotional 'after care'. .. he was too shut down and closed off by then.

Thank you for the hug and roses sweetie. I'll get past this at some point hon... I just have to work thru it.

 

[FurryFury]

I totally understand about the funds, believe me!

About the fitting so well and think you must have done something wrong I do have something to say.

It is so hard to let go of our vision of things sometimes. We fall in love not just with a person but with our view of how things will be with them and in the future.

Even though it seemed so right to you. He was clearly (from what you've said) NOT being honest with himself about what he wanted and needed. He still may not be. Only time will tell. You may never know.

However that is HIS issue, not yours or some failing of yours. I know it's hard to believe. You probably always put the blame on yourself first. You are probably harder on yourself than on anyone else or than anyone else is on you.

It's hard to let going when things seemed so perfect. It's hard to let go when you don't understand what happened or why it did. You still have to let go and try to remember you were on board for this, ultimately he wasn't. This is on him for whatever reasons, not you.

*HUGS*

 

[wenchhh]

ok, am I clueless or what?
it looks like SE leatherfest is /// was june 8--10? then what is with the above convo? Im asking b/c I leave for Atlanta in a morning. That would just be too wild.

 

[HouseToy]

July 14th... I'll check the calendar... I usually just for on Naughty Nights.

Vic.. miles and job may keep you away from our club in Atlanta but I hope you find someone local or that you are close to, to talk to. Perhaps at a local munch you can connect with an experienced sub to talk with.. *hugs*

 

[HouseToy]

ok, am I clueless or what?
it looks like SE leatherfest is /// was june 8--10? then what is with the above convo? Im asking b/c I leave for Atlanta in a morning. That would just be too wild.

I live in Atlanta. Yes, that just passed. EG is talking about meeting as a general meet and greet thing (I think). If you are going to be in Atlanta and want to attend the club... there are event scheduled or open play parties most weekends... The sultan thing will be big, the 23rd

 

[Evil_Geoff]

ok, am I clueless or what?
it looks like SE leatherfest is /// was june 8--10? then what is with the above convo? Im asking b/c I leave for Atlanta in a morning. That would just be too wild.

What HouseToy said.

I'm heading to Atlanta July 14th. I'm up for meeting Litsters so what the hell?

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