Submissive/Slave Haven

[Evil_Geoff]

I would LOVE to be able to meet the two of you at D*C this year. <crosses fingers that everything goes right so she can go>

WOO-HOO!

Did you see that John DeLancie is a confirmed guest this year? ! ? !

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

Yup. Him & a whole mess of others. Heh. I just wish Anne McCaffrey was able to go. <sniffles>

 

[SweetGigi]

I'll see what I can do by then, k? I'll be looking forward at any rate meeting with you guys!!

 

[BiBunny]

Bumping this up because B., Mr. Hear-Your-Concerns-And-Disappear-For-Over-A-Month has finally decided that he can deign to talk to me again. "Let's set a time," he says, like I'm a goddamn appointment he needs to pencil in to his busy schedule.

I wouldn't even talk to him, but I'm itching to give him a piece of my mind. We're "scheduled" for Monday evening after he gets off work. And, yes, he wants to talk online because God forbid he grow a set of balls and talk to my face.

There's no real point to this post. I'm just grumpy.

Yes, I'm bitter. And, yes, the truth is, if he says, "Come back to me, Bunny," I'm going to go running. And I know it. And I hate myself for it. In the event of that happening, maybe, at least, I can make him sweat a day or two before I give my answer. No, wait, who am I kidding? *Sigh*

 

[CutieMouse]

Poor bunny. Don't let him sweet talk you back, just because he misses kinky stuff or anything, okay?

 

[myinnerslut]

Bumping this up because B., Mr. Hear-Your-Concerns-And-Disappear-For-Over-A-Month has finally decided that he can deign to talk to me again. "Let's set a time," he says, like I'm a goddamn appointment he needs to pencil in to his busy schedule.

I wouldn't even talk to him, but I'm itching to give him a piece of my mind. We're "scheduled" for Monday evening after he gets off work. And, yes, he wants to talk online because God forbid he grow a set of balls and talk to my face.

There's no real point to this post. I'm just grumpy.

Yes, I'm bitter. And, yes, the truth is, if he says, "Come back to me, Bunny," I'm going to go running. And I know it. And I hate myself for it. In the event of that happening, maybe, at least, I can make him sweat a day or two before I give my answer. No, wait, who am I kidding? *Sigh*

im sending you strength to stand up to him. YOU DO NOT DESERVE TO BE GREUMPY AND BITTER OVER HIM. you are better then that. much better.

 

[HottieMama]

im sending you strength to stand up to him. YOU DO NOT DESERVE TO BE GREUMPY AND BITTER OVER HIM. you are better then that. much better.

^^Yeah that... Do what you think will make you happy in the long-run Bunny....

Adding in my own little, private...**giggle** because i just had an amazing day...

 

[intothewoods]

Bumping this up because B., Mr. Hear-Your-Concerns-And-Disappear-For-Over-A-Month has finally decided that he can deign to talk to me again. "Let's set a time," he says, like I'm a goddamn appointment he needs to pencil in to his busy schedule.

I wouldn't even talk to him, but I'm itching to give him a piece of my mind. We're "scheduled" for Monday evening after he gets off work. And, yes, he wants to talk online because God forbid he grow a set of balls and talk to my face.

There's no real point to this post. I'm just grumpy.

Yes, I'm bitter. And, yes, the truth is, if he says, "Come back to me, Bunny," I'm going to go running. And I know it. And I hate myself for it. In the event of that happening, maybe, at least, I can make him sweat a day or two before I give my answer. No, wait, who am I kidding? *Sigh*

Sometimes you need to hit rock bottom with an asshole before you can finally say enough. I've been there.

 

[intothewoods]

I'm afraid to be alone. Actually, it's not that. I'm afraid to be unloved. I come across as a girl who totally has her shit together. I mean, in real life. Who the fuck knows how I come off here. But I am in constant need of male attention. I guess I should cut myself some slack. I'm going through a rough period. But I just feel like such a fuck up.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Yes, I'm bitter. And, yes, the truth is, if he says, "Come back to me, Bunny," I'm going to go running. And I know it. And I hate myself for it. In the event of that happening, maybe, at least, I can make him sweat a day or two before I give my answer. No, wait, who am I kidding? *Sigh*

Don't MAKE ME COME OVER THERE, and tie you up.

You sit his dumb cowardly ass down, and you tell him to get out of your life and leave you the fuck alone. Then turn around and walk out the door.

You deserve better and you know it.

Nuff said.

 

[HottieMama]

I'm afraid to be alone. Actually, it's not that. I'm afraid to be unloved. I come across as a girl who totally has her shit together. I mean, in real life. Who the fuck knows how I come off here. But I am in constant need of male attention. I guess I should cut myself some slack. I'm going through a rough period. But I just feel like such a fuck up.

And again, we are sharing a brain.

 

[CutieMouse]

Don't MAKE ME COME OVER THERE, and tie you up.

You sit his dumb cowardly ass down, and you tell him to get out of your life and leave you the fuck alone. Then turn around and walk out the door.

You deserve better and you know it.

Nuff said.

What he said.

After way more time spent patiently waitng and agonizing over "what if he goes away?" than someone in particular deserved, I'm finished with my 2x4... would you like to borrow it?

 

[intothewoods]

And again, we are sharing a brain.

Lol - Poor you! How are we going to pull ourselves together?

Maybe BiBunny can take her frustration out on us.

 

[CutieMouse]

It's a process... I stayed in a marriage about 6-8 years longer than I should have, before I was ready to accept I was done; I stayed in a LDR for 2 before I was ready to accept it wasn't working. Hopefully I can keep exponentially speeding up the process of sorting out if a relationship is right for me or not, and actually have a fulfilling Love life at some point.

*wry smiles*

FYI- Intothewoods, I'll be parting with the Lucie Ann set I posted an image of a while ago- PM me if you're interested

 

[HottieMama]

Lol - Poor you! How are we going to pull ourselves together?

Maybe BiBunny can take her frustration out on us.

Oooohhhhh...that sounds like a plan.

Seriously though...i don't know. i wish there was an easy answer.

 

[JupitersGirl]

It's a process... I stayed in a marriage about 6-8 years longer than I should have, before I was ready to accept I was done; I stayed in a LDR for 2 before I was ready to accept it wasn't working. Hopefully I can keep exponentially speeding up the process of sorting out if a relationship is right for me or not, and actually have a fulfilling Love life at some point.

When you figure it out, teach me! Please ...

 

[HottieMama]

When you figure it out, teach me! Please ...

i'm in line right behind you.

 

[intothewoods]

Life is a process. I have to keep reminding myself that. The thing is ... I both dread and crave stability at the same time.

The bottom line is where is my sense of self worth?

Hey, Shanky finds panties. Can I find self worth?

 

[HottieMama]

The bottom line is where is my sense of self worth?

Hey, Shanky finds panties. Can I find self worth?

The sad part is i know where mine is...i've allowed those i love (with the exception of one, ) to steal it from me and when they have left, i haven't taken it back. Makes for a broken "little girl."

 

[intothewoods]

The sad part is i know where mine is...i've allowed those i love (with the exception of one, ) to steal it from me and when they have left, i haven't taken it back. Makes for a broken "little girl."

But your sense of self worth can't be stolen, HM.

Oh dear, I'm having a flashback from Braveheart, and I fucking hated that movie!

 

[CutieMouse]

Okay- honest and blunt question- why the fuck do (general) you let people wander off with your self-worth, and NOT claim it back? Why does someone who wasn't willing to put you first in their universe deserve that sort of prize? Why do they deserve to wander around la-de-dah and carefree, while you dwell on a self-labeled identity of "broken"? It screams victimhood, which simply creates a subconscious excuse to make the same poor decisions, rather than learning lessons and moving forward in life.

 

[HottieMama]

But your sense of self worth can't be stolen, HM.

Oh dear, I'm having a flashback from Braveheart, and I fucking hated that movie!

Perhaps stolen is the wrong word. i've let other determine what my self-worth is...(i know this is one of my huge issues...)

i hate Braveheart too...

 

[HottieMama]

Okay- honest and blunt question- why the fuck do (general) you let people wander off with your self-worth, and NOT claim it back? Why does someone who wasn't willing to put you first in their universe deserve that sort of prize? Why do they deserve to wander around la-de-dah and carefree, while you dwell on a self-labeled identity of "broken"? It screams victimhood, which simply creates a subconscious excuse to make the same poor decisions, rather than learning lessons and moving forward in life.

Oh boy...i could give you the answer i learned while in Psych classes, but i know you can read a textbook just as well as i can, so i'll give you my personal answer. i don't dwell on a "self-labeled identity of broken," however learning lessons and moving forward is a process...and one that FOR ME has taken a lot of time and effort. i still make mistakes, and i still let the opinions of others who really do not matter influence me...and how i feel about myself. Some days i'm able to say "fuck them," and others it hits a bit too close to home.

Today is just a bad day.

 

[intothewoods]

Okay- honest and blunt question- why the fuck do (general) you let people wander off with your self-worth, and NOT claim it back? Why does someone who wasn't willing to put you first in their universe deserve that sort of prize? Why do they deserve to wander around la-de-dah and carefree, while you dwell on a self-labeled identity of "broken"? It screams victimhood, which simply creates a subconscious excuse to make the same poor decisions, rather than learning lessons and moving forward in life.

I know you weren't necessarily directing this at me, but I'm just musing...

I don't make many decisions that scream victimhood. I usually make all the right decisions! Maybe I should be happy with that, because hey, it is something. In many ways, I've got a damned good life. It's just that, no matter how many times I tell myself not to let other people determine my self worth (i.e., take a rejection to mean I'm not worth anything), I can't manage to do it.

Although I suppose I'm still relatively young, eh? I hate to go Oprah on everyone, but I remember this chick was on the show and her whole deal was about having a personal boundary. And people can do or say what they want to hurt you, or be an asshole, or whatever, but no matter what, they can't cross that boundary and you know you're okay. But I thought, damn it if I could only do that.

 

[CutieMouse]

Oh boy...i could give you the answer i learned while in Psych classes, but i know you can read a textbook just as well as i can, so i'll give you my personal answer. i don't dwell on a "self-labeled identity of broken," however learning lessons and moving forward is a process...and one that FOR ME has taken a lot of time and effort. i still make mistakes, and i still let the opinions of others who really do not matter influence me...and how i feel about myself. Some days i'm able to say "fuck them," and others it hits a bit too close to home.

Today is just a bad day.

I understand that. It is a long process... I have a bad habit of tolerating things up to the point I decide I can't... at which point a relationship ends, I set a time limit to be negative and morose, then refuse to allow that person one ounce of impact on my future happiness. You caught me in the immediately post-morose-I-think-I-shall-kick-ass-now stage.