Submissive/Slave Haven

[HottieMama]

It's just that, no matter how many times I tell myself not to let other people determine my self worth (i.e., take a rejection to mean I'm not worth anything), I can't manage to do it.

Exactly...

And i also internalize other people's opinions of myself or my life WAY too much.

 

[CutieMouse]

I know you weren't necessarily directing this at me, but I'm just musing...

I don't make many decisions that scream victimhood. I usually make all the right decisions! Maybe I should be happy with that, because hey, it is something. In many ways, I've got a damned good life. It's just that, no matter how many times I tell myself not to let other people determine my self worth (i.e., take a rejection to mean I'm not worth anything), I can't manage to do it.

Although I suppose I'm still relatively young, eh? I hate to go Oprah on everyone, but I remember this chick was on the show and her whole deal was about having a personal boundary. And people can do or say what they want to hurt you, or be an asshole, or whatever, but no matter what, they can't cross that boundary and you know you're okay. But I thought, damn it if I could only do that.

Every time you sit down and go "Well- that sucked ass..." you set a new boundary. I had fewer healthy boundaries in my marriage than I did in the LDR I just ended, which will have had fewer boundaries than my next relationship. I think "Is XYZ a want or a need in terms of personal sanity/happiness/whatever?" If it's a want, I'll go with the flow, and am usually very adaptable. If it's a need, I then decide how much I'm willing to compromise/bend/wiggle with that need, and work from there. Sometimes I bend too far with a "need", and end up realizing (too late) that it just isn't working; sometimes I realize what I thought was a want, is actually a need... next time I'll know better.

 

[ssinlove]

puppy slave

Hello all.

I have been a slave for years now. Being a slave is a true turn on for me.
I could not imagine another life. Without my collar and leash I feel completely lost. I would like to share with other submissive girls.

Thank you.

 

[myinnerslut]

Hello all.

I have been a slave for years now. Being a slave is a true turn on for me.
I could not imagine another life. Without my collar and leash I feel completely lost. I would like to share with other submissive girls.

Thank you.

hello

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Hello all.

I have been a slave for years now. Being a slave is a true turn on for me.
I could not imagine another life. Without my collar and leash I feel completely lost. I would like to share with other submissive girls.

Thank you.

Hi ss,

I'm not submissive, nor am I a girl, but welcome aboard... Think of me as your token Dominant... I pop in every now and then, yell "Panty Raid!" and grab a few pairs of knickers, and scare the girls silly... then run off until the next time when I might bring a frog and toss it in the tent, or set off some firecrackers...

 

[myinnerslut]

Hi ss,

I'm not submissive, nor am I a girl, but welcome aboard... Think of me as your token Dominant... I pop in every now and then, yell "Panty Raid!" and grab a few pairs of knickers, and scare the girls silly... then run off until the next time when I might bring a frog and toss it in the tent, or set off some firecrackers...

eww!!! no frogs! they are all slimey and gross!

 

[BiBunny]

Please, EG, no frogs. I have two totally irrational phobias, and frogs are one of them!

 

[myinnerslut]

Please, EG, no frogs. I have two totally irrational phobias, and frogs are one of them!

whats the other, if you dont mind my asking?

 

[BiBunny]

whats the other, if you dont mind my asking?

Dams. If I see a dam, I WILL have nightmares about it for at least a week. Irrational, I tell you.

I'm also terrified of heights and fire, but those are somewhat more rational than the other two.

 

[minx1]

I like frogs EG

Plus, I've kissed enough of em *sniggers*

 

[ssinlove]

Hello EG and all. I like frogs, I like to play with them when I bathe in the pond of the house' park. I never hurt them, as Minx, I just kiss them.

 

[HottieMama]

quietly slips in....

i could just use all the hugs you can spare right now.

 

[intothewoods]

Hugs, hugs, hugs. Me too, btw. Are we sharing a brain again?

 

[HottieMama]

POssibly....


Sorry...can't possibly think of anything witty to say right now...i'm just trying to breath without hurting.

 

[JupitersGirl]

POssibly....


Sorry...can't possibly think of anything witty to say right now...i'm just trying to breath without hurting.

Hugs ... hugs ... hugs ................ and more hugs!!!

 

[IWantEmailSex]

sub guy playing dom

to my even more sub wife. happy to be here. aanyone PM me if you want 2 black subs to exchange emails with.

 

[minx1]

quietly slips in....

i could just use all the hugs you can spare right now.

*huge hugs* Hottie

 

[minx1]

to my even more sub wife. happy to be here. aanyone PM me if you want 2 black subs to exchange emails with.

Welcome IWES, I hope you enjoy chatting and getting to know people

As someone already pointed out on the other thread, if you are looking to meet people, you'd be better to post that in the personal section rather than here. Good luck

 

[CutieMouse]

Dratted double post.

 

[CutieMouse]

to my even more sub wife. happy to be here. aanyone PM me if you want 2 black subs to exchange emails with.

Annnnnd... said "2 black submissives" are incapable of communicating in an open forum, on a thread titles Submissive/Slave Haven why, exactly? Your request for PMs rather than the submissives posting themselves, combined with your screen nick "IWantEmailSex" kind of screams trolling for cybersex... if that is the case, it's in rather poor taste, as the concept of the thread is to give submissives a place to chat without getting hit on by random asshats. If I read too much into your post, and caused offense, I apologize.

 

[minx1]

Annnnnd... said "2 black submissives" are incapable of communicating in an open forum, on a thread titles Submissive/Slave Haven why, exactly? Your request for PMs rather than the submissives posting themselves, combined with your screen nick "IWantEmailSex" kind of screams trolling for cybersex... if that is the case, it's in rather poor taste, as the concept of the thread is to give submissives a place to chat without getting hit on by random asshats. If I read too much into your post, and caused offense, I apologize.

*laugh* I kind of went for the same approach in my first draft Cutiemouse, then decided perhaps I was being too harsh. But I think you are right to point out this is a place where subs hangout and chat, not get picked up lol

 

[RawHumor]

*laugh* I kind of went for the same approach in my first draft Cutiemouse, then decided perhaps I was being too harsh. But I think you are right to point out this is a place where subs hangout and chat, not get picked up lol

Someone has some tidying up to do... (PM box)

 

[minx1]

Someone has some tidying up to do... (PM box)

oops *chuckles*

Edit: to *giggle* instead

 

[intothewoods]

Sub Frenzy

How do you distract yourself so as not to go there?

 

[HottieMama]

How do you distract yourself so as not to go there?

If someone could tell me..i'll be sure to pass it on.

Like i said in another thread..i need to keep my ass off of CollarMe, and try to focus on healing or some shit. i OBVIOUSLY have a pattern of picking rather shitty Doms, and that needs to be looked at.