Submissive/Slave Haven

[lk70]

I'll not quote DVS and Cutie Mouse because there's too much, but I'll chime in on it.

I actually reply to every email I get as long as there's something to reply to. Emails such as "have a pic?" and "tell me more about you" typically don't get replies. And that's because I don't want to be rude! Though I have been known to reply with a "what do you want to know?" and they usually don't reply.

Furthermore, if I have a decent email conversation for awhile, I'm perfectly willing to do a meet for coffee or whatever. So, no worries, I'm really not looking for a knight. In terms of all the vanilla stuff, I don't have a whole lot of requirements. I work in animal welfare, so really that bit about respecting animals is my biggest one, maybe the only one really. That, and a general capacity for kindness and compassion to others.

But it's the other, less tangible thing that makes that man someone I can submit to, rather than just enjoy spending time with. I can usually tell if it's not there pretty quickly. I can't be sure if it IS there, because that takes time, but I know when it isn't. So that's what I think will be tough to find, not someone I get on with otherwise.

 

[DVS]

I'll not quote DVS and Cutie Mouse because there's too much, but I'll chime in on it.

I actually reply to every email I get as long as there's something to reply to. Emails such as "have a pic?" and "tell me more about you" typically don't get replies. And that's because I don't want to be rude! Though I have been known to reply with a "what do you want to know?" and they usually don't reply.

Furthermore, if I have a decent email conversation for awhile, I'm perfectly willing to do a meet for coffee or whatever. So, no worries, I'm really not looking for a knight. In terms of all the vanilla stuff, I don't have a whole lot of requirements. I work in animal welfare, so really that bit about respecting animals is my biggest one, maybe the only one really. That, and a general capacity for kindness and compassion to others.

But it's the other, less tangible thing that makes that man someone I can submit to, rather than just enjoy spending time with. I can usually tell if it's not there pretty quickly. I can't be sure if it IS there, because that takes time, but I know when it isn't. So that's what I think will be tough to find, not someone I get on with otherwise.

Sorry for kind of taking this thread over, but that's just me. I do think you are on the right track, though, in terms of how you are looking for a partner. There 's a lot of give and take involved. Good luck in your search.

 

[lk70]

Sorry for kind of taking this thread over, but that's just me.

Nonsense! I was looking for input and yours was much appreciated.

 

[Brandii]

I joined *collarme* today. Have been corresponding back and forth with a Melbourne Dom for most of the day. Wish I'd done this months ago: but then again, months ago I was a brat and not really ready to play in the big leagues. He seems quite nice.

 

[WriterDom]

Is it just me or are more people posting here than normal? I mean in the cafe, not the thread.

 

[HottieMama]

I joined *collarme* today. Have been corresponding back and forth with a Melbourne Dom for most of the day. Wish I'd done this months ago: but then again, months ago I was a brat and not really ready to play in the big leagues. He seems quite nice.

Good Luck, Brandii..

 

[sexycaz22]

Well, I am still searching for that perfect Dom..(well not 100% perfect...still perfect for ME! )

But I have made some amazing friends with a couple of Doms from here *they know who they are! * and from CM and Informed Consent (IC)

Still waiting...He is out there somewhere waiting for me!

 

[intothewoods]

Is it just me or are more people posting here than normal? I mean in the cafe, not the thread.

Yeah - seems like it.

 

[IWantEmailSex]

hmmm

Annnnnd... said "2 black submissives" are incapable of communicating in an open forum, on a thread titles Submissive/Slave Haven why, exactly? Your request for PMs rather than the submissives posting themselves, combined with your screen nick "IWantEmailSex" kind of screams trolling for cybersex... if that is the case, it's in rather poor taste, as the concept of the thread is to give submissives a place to chat without getting hit on by random asshats. If I read too much into your post, and caused offense, I apologize.

it's possible. more likely it's just anlther case of a newbie with too much to drink not taking enough time to read the roadmap of a subculture. and for that i do apologize. can't do much about the handle though; it does seem to suggest i want something in particular, though if it was 'ilovehotrods' or 'iamlookingforagooddealonahottub' it might be less offensive in these environs. suffice to say that i am not a one-dimensional seeker of emailsex, though i have met many an unfriendly face here, so i'm not entirely sure this place is the haven for lifestyle freedom it claims to be.

 

[CutieMouse]

it's possible. more likely it's just anlther case of a newbie with too much to drink not taking enough time to read the roadmap of a subculture. and for that i do apologize. can't do much about the handle though; it does seem to suggest i want something in particular, though if it was 'ilovehotrods' or 'iamlookingforagooddealonahottub' it might be less offensive in these environs. suffice to say that i am not a one-dimensional seeker of emailsex, though i have met many an unfriendly face here, so i'm not entirely sure this place is the haven for lifestyle freedom it claims to be.

The drunk newbe posting angle never occured to me; it's gentlemanly of you to apologize for your earlier behaviour.

People sometimes bust on me for taking a rather firm (and narrow) position on how people present themselves, especially with regards to first impressions, but then again I've never been greeted in an online forum with anything less than open arms, so what do I know...

The Lit BDSM boards can be a very friendly place, but you have to show respect in order to get respect back. That doesn't mean "newbies" need to kiss ass; it means that good manners are good manners - even on a porn board.

 

[intothewoods]

The drunk newbe posting angle never occured to me; it's gentlemanly of you to apologize for your earlier behaviour.

People sometimes bust on me for taking a rather firm (and narrow) position on how people present themselves, especially with regards to first impressions, but then again I've never been greeted in an online forum with anything less than open arms, so what do I know...

The Lit BDSM boards can be a very friendly place, but you have to show respect in order to get respect back. That doesn't mean "newbies" need to kiss ass; it means that good manners are good manners - even on a porn board.

Lol, glad to have you back, Cutie! And so glad things went so well with J.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

SSSHHHH!!!! Be vewy, vewy kwiet... I'm hunting Mousies... *tippy-toes closer to the Mouse...*

*gets in his Cutie stalking while he still can...*

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

IWantEmailSex, if you're for real, then welcome.

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I've a random question. Can one truly "force" an orgasm from someone? It seems like a myth.

 

[catalina_francisco]

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I've a random question. Can one truly "force" an orgasm from someone? It seems like a myth.

It can be done.

Catalina

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

It can be done.

<wonders if she should be scared>

 

[minx1]

I've a random question. Can one truly "force" an orgasm from someone? It seems like a myth.

I'd say it depends on the person, but knowing my body...yes. Definitely.

 

[SubKekiLee]

I would say Yes cause there are times I dont think I can cum and he makes me.... So Id agree with the myth

 

[catalina_francisco]

I would say Yes cause there are times I dont think I can cum and he makes me.... So Id agree with the myth

I'd think of that more as encouraging an orgasm. When I think of forced orgasms I think of it as when you don't want to orgasm (rape, anger, rage etc.), but you are forced to against your will....IME, these orgasms are often physically painful.

Catalina

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

I'd think of that more as encouraging an orgasm. When I think of forced orgasms I think of it as when you don't want to orgasm (rape, anger, rage etc.), but you are forced to against your will....IME, these orgasms are often physically painful.

Catalina

Ahh, I see I could have worded my question a little more coherently then. I wasn't referring to anything "bad" like that. I was more curious to see if it was possible for G to train my body to cum when He wanted it to. And, if he felt like teasing me, to make me do it over & over again until he felt like stopping. He's really big into controlling me/things. This, if possible, would just be one more way for him to do it. Does that make more sense? I apologize if I've offended anyone by my questions.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Ahh, I see I could have worded my question a little more coherently then. I wasn't referring to anything "bad" like that. I was more curious to see if it was possible for G to train my body to cum when He wanted it to. And, if he felt like teasing me, to make me do it over & over again until he felt like stopping. He's really big into controlling me/things. This, if possible, would just be one more way for him to do it. Does that make more sense? I apologize if I've offended anyone by my questions.

I don't think anyone is offended, at least I am not. What you are referring to is cumming on command. There are some threads around here on it which I will post links to for you if I find them.

Catalina

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

Gee, thanks! I searched for "forced orgasms" and didn't find anything useful. I'll try "cumming on command" next then. Sometimes you just need to know what words to use in the search. But, if you know where they are, please feel free to post the links (IF you've the time). Thanks, sweetie.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Gee, thanks! I searched for "forced orgasms" and didn't find anything useful. I'll try "cumming on command" next then. Sometimes you just need to know what words to use in the search. But, if you know where they are, please feel free to post the links (IF you've the time). Thanks, sweetie.

Here are some I know of:

Training To Cum On Command

Coming On Command

Trained To Come

Commanded Orgasms

Cum On Command


Catalina

 

[Velvet Bubbles]

Thank you EVER so much, Catalina. ((hugs)) There was a link to a Castle Realm document in one of your links. Between that & all the info on the threads I'm sure G can come up with a "program" that'll work for Him (& me). I can't wait to try it. <laughs wickedly>

 

[CutieMouse]

Okay so the distance thing, compounded by the third world country thing, compounded by technological difficulties... [pardon the language] licks balls.

Someone cut an undergournd line late Monday afternoon, and all of Costambar was without phone or internet service [and cell phone can't call out of country without posting a bond + paying $5/minute], which means there has been complete silence from the DR for four days... I can't begin to explain how wonderful it was to hear his voice this morning.

We have thus discovered neither of us operates well in a vacuum - he spent all week worrying about me; I spent the first few days worrying that he managed to get eaten by a shark during kite surfing lessons, and the last 24 hours wondering if maybe I was being stupid for thinking this was real. The odds something like this might happen again are pretty reasonable (given that it is the DR), but we know how we'll manage in the future.

I really really hate long distance thingies.

 

[intothewoods]

Okay so the distance thing, compounded by the third world country thing, compounded by technological difficulties... [pardon the language] licks balls.

Someone cut an undergournd line late Monday afternoon, and all of Costambar was without phone or internet service [and cell phone can't call out of country without posting a bond + paying $5/minute], which means there has been complete silence from the DR for four days... I can't begin to explain how wonderful it was to hear his voice this morning.

We have thus discovered neither of us operates well in a vacuum - he spent all week worrying about me; I spent the first few days worrying that he managed to get eaten by a shark during kite surfing lessons, and the last 24 hours wondering if maybe I was being stupid for thinking this was real. The odds something like this might happen again are pretty reasonable (given that it is the DR), but we know how we'll manage in the future.

I really really hate long distance thingies.

Aw, man, that bites.