Summer Vacation / Holiday ideas

[roomfor1more]

This is a follow-up question to my previous post and I have included the link to my previous post for those who want some background information regarding my question. Since my last question we have been doing some talking and we are looking at taking a min-break to Amsterdam via one of the ferries that depart the English east coast. We have been to Amsterdam a few times and familar with the Red Lilght District. From our discussions I know nothing is guaranteed to happen; however, I am looking for more information regarding activity from petting through threesome activity.

My first question, does anyone have any experience with the overnight ferries from the English east coast to Amsterdam for this type of activity or similar type of activity? Is their a carrier that is more conducive to this type of activity?

Next, the last time we went my wife was about to go through with the idea, of picking up another guy at the bar for some sex but pulled back. Is there any way to help her over that hurdle so she does not pull back?

Third, other than swingers clubs are there any venues in Amsterdam for something like this to occur. I was thinking of going into one the porn stores, renting a movie, and seeing what happens with her.

If any one has other suggestions or needs clarification please feel to ask. Also, if you want to PM me with a constructive reply then please feel free to contact me.

 

[Cattypuss]

I've been to Amsterdam several times by overnight ferry from Newcastle. Have also flown there loads of times and even taken the train from Paris a few times.

What I can't understand is why you need a ferry operator to be open to the sort of thing you want.

Amsterdam is a major sex-tourism centre. You don't need to do anything on the ferry - why not just go to a pick-up club when there, or to an escort agency? Google is your friend.

I go to Amsterdam for the smokes and the Indonesian food, not for the sex tourism, but I've been probably a couple of dozen times at least, and the whole town is seething with easy sex opportunities - so your question puzzles me.

You seem to be wanting, in sexual terms, to bring coals to Newcastle.

 

[Scotsman69]

The advantages to the ferry from Newcastle are:

It's a 14-hour crossing, so plenty of time for things to develop;

There's a nightclub, so opportunities for things to develop;

The bunks are wider than on other ferries, and the showers spacious enough for the imaginative.

Other than that I agree with Cattypuss

 

[SweetErika]

My advice is to go have a great vacation together and let things develop naturally. You could certainly plan to go to bars or clubs where opportunities for petting or meeting a sex partner are more likely to present themselves, but I'm guessing planning your vacation around this and/or making it a goal will unnecessarily put pressure on your wife. If your wife wants to go to an adult store because they have great sex shops in Amsterdam or you two want to buy some toys, put that on your list of things you may want to check out while you're there. However, to go for the purpose of finding a partner may not feel right to your wife.

Have you asked her what she really wants to do while you're on vacation, in terms of being a tourist and relaxing? Similarly, have you asked her what she feels are the best, most comfortable ways for her to go about finding a partner for petting or more IF she happens to be so inclined?

I'm writing this because I think your attitude and approach will likely affect your wife's comfort and ability to act (or not) on any desires she may have. I'm sure you don't mean to pressure her, but if it comes across that way at all, the end result will probably be the same. Of course you should communicate about her desires and any concerns that are coming up for either of you, but ultimately, I think your best bet is to just focus on having a fun vacation together, and simply see what happens if a sexual opportunity presents itself. Instead of concerning yourself with what she may do if that opportunity comes, commit to thinking she'll go through with whatever if/when she's fully ready (she has your support and you two have already had threesomes, so I'm positive she WILL do it if/when it feels perfectly right for her).

 

[roomfor1more]

Clarification & update

Clarification

I am one who believes in letting things happen naturally and without putting any unnecessary pressure on her for it to happen. The one thing I have noticed is when we go on vacation / holiday, she is more relaxed and open to the idea. Best analogy I can give, a holiday / vacation for her is like having a drink to loosen up. One of our trips to Amsterdam, for example, on a ferry from Hull she came very close to picking-up a guy but at the last possible moment she pulled back. That situation was a very organic situation that happened naturally and without any suggestion from me. For her she remains open to the idea; however, her job is a very public facing role and she is very conscious of the impact if anyone "outed her." Going on holiday givers her the chance to detach and not worry less if anyone finds out.

The reason for asking about the ferry versus Amsterdam, from experience, she is more open to the idea on the ferry. My feeling the boat has more of a festive atmosphere especially if there is a low number of children on board and it is more social. Whereas, once we are in Amsterdam she gets on the defensive about any suggestions regarding threesomes or cuckold type of activity since we do a lot of walking in Amsterdam thereby tiring her out.

Finally, going on vacation / holiday also tends to open her up to the idea too. A few years ago on a return trip back home she wanted to see if we could find her ex-boyfriend, the one we had a threesome with, to see if he wanted to join us again but no luck. Vacation / holiday provides, I feel, the right format where things could happen organically if the conditions are right and I am seeking input on how to make those conditions happen again.

UPDATE:

We are beginning to finalize our summer holiday / vacation plans and the mini-cruise idea still remains one of them. Another possibility she has suggested is Greece or Thailand, though it appears Thailand may be just out of our reach this year.

Final Thoughts

Thanks to all that have replied and any further ideas will be appreciated.

Most likely we will be travelling sometime between July - September and will keep you updated.

 

[roomfor1more]

The advantages to the ferry from Newcastle are:

It's a 14-hour crossing, so plenty of time for things to develop;

There's a nightclub, so opportunities for things to develop;

The bunks are wider than on other ferries, and the showers spacious enough for the imaginative.

Other than that I agree with Cattypuss

Thank you. We have done Hull to Amsterdam crossing a few times but it is around a 10 hour crossing. Such a short time on the ferry means if you are up too late you will be tired when you are awaken about an 1 hour before disenbarking. The short time and lack of a night club makes it less likely for something to happen. The Newcastle crossing seems to be better and will be worth considering.