The Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[Chiara_searches]

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I certainly understand that you could see it differently, but after leaving a 15 year marriage with an emotionally abusive, domineering husband who controlled every move I made, the relationship between the cake artist and her husband was very much the type of loving, respectful, caring relationship I want and deserve.

I fixed it for you. This is something I've been thinking about lately. It really shouldn't be just "I want this." It should also be that we all deserve healthy, supportive relationships (if a relationship is what you want). Sure, the dynamics will be different for people; someone might find humiliation is actually healthy for their emotional make up, etc. But what ever is *right* for you, you deserve it.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

If you split the rent or bills 50/50 then you don't have anymore a say in how much AC/heat she uses as she would in how little you want it used.

Instead of arguing come to a compromise where she pays more into the electric bill if she wants to use more AC/heat. She has every right to use the AC/heat as much as she wants, but needs to pay accordingly if you are splitting the bil.

Now if you're paying more into the rent than her or are paying the whole electric bill then you have the final say.

I wouldn't mind weighing the bill her way if she's the one wanting it warmer. But it ISN'T fair to split if 50/50 and heat the house her way because I'm still paying more. Yes, she shouldn't have to suffer if she doesn't want to, but I shouldn't have to pay for heat I don't want, and I"m not able to partition the heat.

My idea is to use less heat, but then to have space heaters in our rooms. We're not home most of the day, and most of our time spent at home is in our bedrooms, except for making food and using the bathroom. This way we can both be comfortable most of the time, but have a substantially less power bill for both of us. Maybe even put one in the dining area between the kitchen and the living room. It's still using less energy than keeping the whole apartment at 75.

But splitting the bill differently is a good idea. How do you recommend? 60/40? With my space heater, I'm pretty content to have the heat down to 65 (about as low as it will safely go for the pipes). If I get cold, I just put on a damned sweatshirt. The only reason I heat my room as high as I do in the first place is because I have a Beta and dwarf hamsters.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

But splitting the bill differently is a good idea. How do you recommend? 60/40? With my space heater, I'm pretty content to have the heat down to 65 (about as low as it will safely go for the pipes). If I get cold, I just put on a damned sweatshirt. The only reason I heat my room as high as I do in the first place is because I have a Beta and dwarf hamsters.

It's really up to what you and her can agree to. If you can compare what your power bill was from a year ago then you might be able to get an idea of what the increased usage is costing the two of you. Hopefully she will be more amenable to a 60/40 split of the bill when she sees that. This way she can keep using the AC/heat as she wants, but with the understanding that the extra cost will be on her and not you.

In the end, you just want to agree on something that will make both of you happy.

Good luck!

 

[bhndblueyes88]

It's really up to what you and her can agree to. If you can compare what your power bill was from a year ago then you might be able to get an idea of what the increased usage is costing the two of you. Hopefully she will be more amenable to a 60/40 split of the bill when she sees that. This way she can keep using the AC/heat as she wants, but with the understanding that the extra cost will be on her and not you.

In the end, you just want to agree on something that will make both of you happy.

Good luck!

I'm not sure if I can do that (find the power bill). I lived here last year, but the account was in my old roommate's name. I'm not sure the company would release the records to me. I'll have to call them. Thank you for your advice

 

[gypsy*seer]

Ya' know...I never expect anything to be easy, but why does everything have to be so hard?

 

[the captians wench]

Ya' know...I never expect anything to be easy, but why does everything have to be so hard?

*hugs*

I can relate.

 

[Keroin]

I am officially a cat burglar.

I have stolen a cat.

I don't know where this cat's home is but whether I call him at 6 in the morning or 11:30 at night he's outside, and he comes running. He looks well kept, though he has no collar or tattoo.

Anyway, I had an open door policy for the neighbourhood felines this summer and it wasn't unusual for cats to traipse in and out all day. (And maybe I *might* have given them a treat now and then). But this cat, whom I have named "Patches", has decided this is his part-time home. He spends hours here and I am not complaining because he is cute as the proverbial bug, friendly as heck, and loves to cuddle.

I suppose I should have some ethical misgivings about co-opting someone else's cat...but I don't.

Here is Patches writing with me in the morning before work...

http://i892.photobucket.com/albums/ac126/Keroin/Patcheswrites.jpg

 

[eastern sun]

I am officially a cat burglar.

I have stolen a cat.

I don't know where this cat's home is but whether I call him at 6 in the morning or 11:30 at night he's outside, and he comes running. He looks well kept, though he has no collar or tattoo.

Anyway, I had an open door policy for the neighbourhood felines this summer and it wasn't unusual for cats to traipse in and out all day. (And maybe I *might* have given them a treat now and then). But this cat, whom I have named "Patches", has decided this is his part-time home. He spends hours here and I am not complaining because he is cute as the proverbial bug, friendly as heck, and loves to cuddle.

I suppose I should have some ethical misgivings about co-opting someone else's cat...but I don't.

When I went off to college, leaving my beloved cat behind (no cats allowed in the dorms ), he found new people to spend time with. He was fed at both houses, slept wherever he was the most comfortable in the moment . . . . and it was only years later that my mother and the neighbor he adopted figured out what was going on.

 

[Keroin]

When I went off to college, leaving my beloved cat behind (no cats allowed in the dorms ), he found new people to spend time with. He was fed at both houses, slept wherever he was the most comfortable in the moment . . . . and it was only years later that my mother and the neighbor he adopted figured out what was going on.

Well, it is my hope that he either has a home with a cat door, owners that are never home, or is simply fending for himself. He seems pretty street savvy, so my guess is I'm not the first he's suckered.

Still not complaining. My house feels so empty without a furry body in it.

(No, L is not furry.)

 

[Kajira Callista]

Alone time with Daddy E tonight.
OMG I didnt realize how in need of Daddy/lilgirl time i really was.
I love him so much! He always knows exactly what his girl is needing and always makes sure she gets it.
He is the bestest Daddy in the whole world!

 

[bhndblueyes88]

downside: My day/week (already) has been hectic, negative, and full of little shit going wrong all day around every fucking corner.

Upside: I adopted a new bunny from one of the families on the fort here to be friends with my bunny.

Downside: New bunny that was supposed to just be a companion bunny is now, in my eyes, a rescue project. Sweetest little girl, but she's very skinny and her fur is in poor condition. her cage is much too small and I'm not of the economy to replace it right now, but hopefully one of my friends has an extra. Poor sweet girly...

 

[Mz_Cunningham]

http://i892.photobucket.com/albums/ac126/Keroin/Patcheswrites.jpg

Awwww, look at the kitty

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

Wrapped in a brown sweater, I am watching the mist dance about on the easy cool morning breeze as I sip my pumpkin latte and nibble at my pumpkin scone. It is pumpkintastic. Just like every year before, I am of course helplessly falling in love with fall all over again as I wander about in my mind over yesterdays memories of cool evening snuggles, golden leaves, and hand carved jack o lanterns complete with fist fulls of slimy pumpkin guts and toasted pumkin seeds. As I smile and continue to sip, I listen closely as tomorrows leans into my ear and whispers promises of fresh baked pumpkin pie dolluped with spiced heavy cream whipped by hand or maybe fresh baked pumpkin bread...served with fresh coffee and friendly fireside conversation. *swoon* I fall for the way it feeds my pumpkin addiction. *sip*

 

[Etoile]

Heard back from the registrar's office. President Obama really did sign our diplomas.

OBAMA'S MOLECULES ARE ON MY PAPER

 

[redslady]

I miss sex. The down and dirty, sweaty, screaming orgasm kind of sex.

 

[the captians wench]

I miss sex. The down and dirty, sweaty, screaming orgasm kind of sex.

AMEN!

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

I miss sex. The down and dirty, sweaty, screaming orgasm kind of sex.

Yup. This. Totally.

 

[redslady]

QUOTE=Curious_in_Cali;38748511]Yup. This. Totally.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, you know the type of sex where you are bent over the foot of the bed, hands gripping your hips so hard that you'd swear that their fingerprints are going to be inbedded into your hipbones? Where each thrust actually lifts your feet off the floor, and all you can do is hang on for the ride? Yeah, that kind of sex.

 

[Keroin]

One of the mail carriers here runs his route. Yes, runs. With two big bags on his hips.

This city is built on the side of a mountain.

He runs, up and down hill. With two big bags on his hips.

I am so inspired by him!!

And watching him, I realized one of the reasons I love my husband so much: there is no "can't" in L's vocabulary. No matter how difficult, or seemingly impossible a situation may be, he finds a solution. Where most everyone else would be listing all the reasons the thing can't be done, L just gets to figuring it out. And 98.4% of the time, he finds an answer.

I look at that mail carrier running and I imagine he is probably an athlete in training for something and I think, "Good for you! You work full time but you found a way to work and train. Bravo!" I love 'It's Possible' people.

 

[Chiara_searches]

One of the mail carriers here runs his route. Yes, runs. With two big bags on his hips.

This city is built on the side of a mountain.

He runs, up and down hill. With two big bags on his hips.

I am so inspired by him!!

And watching him, I realized one of the reasons I love my husband so much: there is no "can't" in L's vocabulary. No matter how difficult, or seemingly impossible a situation may be, he finds a solution. Where most everyone else would be listing all the reasons the thing can't be done, L just gets to figuring it out. And 98.4% of the time, he finds an answer.

I look at that mail carrier running and I imagine he is probably an athlete in training for something and I think, "Good for you! You work full time but you found a way to work and train. Bravo!" I love 'It's Possible' people.

Where's that friggin' SUPER LIKE button I think Sir Winston found a while back? If I had it handy, I'd totally add it here.

 

[BiBunny]

Why is it that I'll be motivated and get a lot of things done one day and then fuck around for 3 or 4 days before it happens again? This is not conducive to getting shit done!

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Why is it that I'll be motivated and get a lot of things done one day and then fuck around for 3 or 4 days before it happens again? This is not conducive to getting shit done!

This is a well documented and fancifully illustrated problem. She knows all.


Blurt: Life sucks donkey balls. I don't even know why I call my friends friends. They make me feel like that chick that's just around to be a source of amusement. In a "not laughing with me" manner.

 

[BiBunny]

This is a well documented and fancifully illustrated problem. She knows all.

Hyperbole. This is how I feel every day of my life, LOL.

 

[bhndblueyes88]

Hyperbole. This is how I feel every day of my life, LOL.

4 shore. I feel like I'm constantly in a sneaky hate spiral...

 

[the captians wench]

Charming, funny, intellegent, flirty, sexy....AND likes to dress in "garb" and not just "okay fine I'll be a pirate," full out Spanish Conquiestador ensom! And has the confidence to work such an outfit!

Please take the bait...then me....