The lonely hearts thread

[SimpleGifts]

Wouldn't that be nice. i miss what used to have. There was a time in my life when i loved where i lived. Now, not so much. i'm trying to make the best of what i have here now but still, it doesn't keep me from missing my old life.

I know what you mean, although I'm missing a person and wish I could go back to when I was with her. But we do have to accept the march of time and fate, and that it doesn't always take us in the direction we wanted.

At some point, your mind and heart DO make that shift, and what you feel isn't sadness about the past that you have lost but...nostalgia, I think. The knowledge that even if you COULD go back, it would never be the same...that your time there was special and unique and won't be repeated, because even the place itself has changed. I feel that way about some places to where I traveled when I was younger...I long to go back there but know that in a sense I'll be disappointed, because they won't be the way that I remember. But, then again, they could improve with age in some ways.

I am waiting for that time with this past relationship...to when I can look back with fond, somewhat wistful memories and be nostalgic about what we had, rather than be sad at what we lost. I know that even if we got back together, we have both been changed by what we went through, during the ending as well as afterwards. So, I need to understand that there really IS no going back...that what we had is gone for good and even trying to return to it would just show how different things are.

I'm waiting for the time when I've internalized that reality. I wonder how long one has to wait to get to that point.

SG

 

[ima6uldv8]

*Sigh* I'll be glad when I get some of that nostalgia, because I can't go back, even if I wanted.

 

[SimpleGifts]

See the Sun

See the Sun
Lyrics & Music by Dido
From Life for Rent

I'm comin' 'round to open the blinds
You can't hide here any longer
My God you need to rinse those puffy eyes
You can't last here any longer

And yes they'll ask you where you've been
And you'll have to tell them again and again

And you probably don't want to hear tomorrow's another day
Well I promise you you'll see the sun again
And you're asking me why pain's the only way to happiness
And I promise you you'll see the sun again

Come on take my hand
We're going for a walk, I know you can
You can wear anything as long as it's not black
Please don't mourn forever
She's not coming back

And yes they'll ask you where you've been
And you'll have to tell them again and again

And you probably don't want to hear tomorrow's another day
Well I promise you you'll see the sun again
And you're asking me why pain's the only way to happiness
And I promise you you'll see the sun again

And I promise you you'll see the sun again

Do you remember telling me you found the sweetest thing of all
You said one day this was worth dying for
So be thankful you knew her at all
But it's no more

And you probably don't want to hear tomorrow's another day
Well I promise you you'll see the sun again
And you're asking me why pain's the only way to happiness
And I promise you you'll see the sun again
And I promise you you'll see the sun again
And I promise you you'll see the sun again
And I promise you you'll see the sun again
I promise you you'll see the sun again

See the sun again
See the sun again
See the sun again
See the sun again

See the sun again
See the sun again
See the sun again
See the sun again

 

[Valkyrie2006]

Whats hard for me now is letting go of the feelings I have for someone....who I will never ever ever be with


i love him deeply... but its something that will never happen....


its the hardest thing I have ever had to do...... finding someone who you feel is the one......but knowing it will never be.........

I cry myself to sleep so many nights...... but those nights are getting fewer and farther between as I come to grips with the reality of never being the one for him.............

*sighs*

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DJQI61fOBDI

 

[pink]

I know what you mean, although I'm missing a person and wish I could go back to when I was with her. But we do have to accept the march of time and fate, and that it doesn't always take us in the direction we wanted.

At some point, your mind and heart DO make that shift, and what you feel isn't sadness about the past that you have lost but...nostalgia, I think. The knowledge that even if you COULD go back, it would never be the same...that your time there was special and unique and won't be repeated, because even the place itself has changed. I feel that way about some places to where I traveled when I was younger...I long to go back there but know that in a sense I'll be disappointed, because they won't be the way that I remember. But, then again, they could improve with age in some ways.

I am waiting for that time with this past relationship...to when I can look back with fond, somewhat wistful memories and be nostalgic about what we had, rather than be sad at what we lost. I know that even if we got back together, we have both been changed by what we went through, during the ending as well as afterwards. So, I need to understand that there really IS no going back...that what we had is gone for good and even trying to return to it would just show how different things are.

I'm waiting for the time when I've internalized that reality. I wonder how long one has to wait to get to that point.

SG

i don't know, i am missing a place and a time rather then a person. Even if i had the money to move back, i'm not sure i could right now. It's complicated, my mother is still alive here. i've hurt her so much in the past. my dad is gone, i'd like to be here for her now.

 

[starwiz01]

Sometimes, it's best to step back and take a break.

you are right and I think that the only thing for me to really do since this is not the first or even second time in my life is to really just walk away.. just try to be happy with having my friends and family..

 

[pink]

you are right and I think that the only thing for me to really do since this is not the first or even second time in my life is to really just walk away.. just try to be happy with having my friends and family..

It may not have to be forever, just spend some "me" time. Get to know youself, do things that will enrich your own growth. Concentrate on you and what you need to be happy in your life. Don't let it require someone else to make you happy. Find out who you really are.

 

[starwiz01]

It may not have to be forever, just spend some "me" time. Get to know youself, do things that will enrich your own growth. Concentrate on you and what you need to be happy in your life. Don't let it require someone else to make you happy. Find out who you really are.

Well that jorney is easy, I have traveled the road to find myself before. I know who i am. And I know what it is that makes me happy. It was taking that path that helped led me to the carrer that I love today. I know that I am a caring person that is why I am always willing to give of myself to others.. I think the only problem with my relationship life, is that I expect to find a match for both my soul and my mind.. that is why I think it is so hard to meet the right one for me. ANd when I do think I have the perfect lady, that excites my body, my mind and my heart. IT somehow turns out wrong.. So that is why I am not to sure what more that I can find of myself to give.. They always say that there is someone out there foreveryone. BUt what happens if you never find that person..

 

[pink]

Well that jorney is easy, I have traveled the road to find myself before. I know who i am. And I know what it is that makes me happy. It was taking that path that helped led me to the carrer that I love today. I know that I am a caring person that is why I am always willing to give of myself to others.. I think the only problem with my relationship life, is that I expect to find a match for both my soul and my mind.. that is why I think it is so hard to meet the right one for me. ANd when I do think I have the perfect lady, that excites my body, my mind and my heart. IT somehow turns out wrong.. So that is why I am not to sure what more that I can find of myself to give.. They always say that there is someone out there foreveryone. BUt what happens if you never find that person..

We have the ability to be in a perpetual state of growth, however. It never stops, there is always something more there to find. Find and set a goal perhaps, something positive to focus on. *nodding*

 

[Henry]

sighs..stis quietly in the darkness with his coffee

 

[Guest]

sighs..stis quietly in the darkness with his coffee

*snuggles up to you*

 

[Henry]

*snuggles up to you*

*smiles and puts one arm around you, offers you some hot coffee or tea*

 

[Guest]

*smiles and puts one arm around you, offers you some hot coffee or tea*

i'd rather have you

 

[Henry]

i'd rather have you

 

[Guest]

*kisses you deeply* mmmmmmm, what a morning

 

[Scribbleros]

It was cold today morning. How are you folks doing?

 

[Henry]

*kisses you deeply* mmmmmmm, what a morning

*kisses you back*

 

[Henry]

It was cold today morning. How are you folks doing?

Hey doing ok here tonight. Hows all for you?

 

[Guest]

*kisses you back*

*kisses down your neck and chest* mmmmm, you taste good

 

[Henry]

*kisses down your neck and chest* mmmmm, you taste good

sweetie *kisses back* ..


thinks i will be in trouble for this...

 

[Guest]

sweetie *kisses back* ..


thinks i will be in trouble for this...

*giggles* want more?



you won't get into trouble......much *wink*

 

[Henry]

*giggles* want more?



you won't get into trouble......much *wink*

lol you tease


sweetie just think maybe we could take it to pm or yahoo even..

 

[Guest]

lol you tease


sweetie just think maybe we could take it to pm or yahoo even..

we have

 

[Henry]

we have

*hugs*

 

[Henry]

relaxes with coffee