The lonely hearts thread

[fyrfyter_1961]

I just wish I had it in my grasp ...I never have...... and after so many years ( going on almost 7 here) of being alone.... I have lost hope......and have basically put myself into a place where I don't think I will ever come out of. I have dated a couple men since I have moved here....and found out tonight one is still married....after he said he was single.....

its sad to say but whoever I meet next....is going to have to be patient....as my heart is locked away so tightly I'm not sure I even know how to find it ...

Just saw your post Val. My heart has been locked away for years i'm not sure if mine will ever unfreeze, which is a frustrating experience for somebody that considers himself romantic and passionate. Ugh...lol

 

[rozezwild]

OMG i havent been here in FOREVER

I hope all my lovely ladies are well

 

[Caribbean_Man]

Sounds like you know what you what and I applaud that...there are some that would take advantage of the situation....and use it to their advantage...

its admirable that you choose to be honest with her and up front.... a very rare trait now days ( as have sadly been forced to deal with more then I care to say as of late )

Thanks... Although I think that quality is a double edged sword ( I'm rather honest when it comes to emotions... and even more so when its about what I think. Gets me into trouble... a lot )

I'm sorry that people haven't been honest with you... *hugs*

 

[Valkyrie2006]

Just saw your post Val. My heart has been locked away for years i'm not sure if mine will ever unfreeze, which is a frustrating experience for somebody that considers himself romantic and passionate. Ugh...lol

I sit up at nights crying endlessly that I cant feel that kind of love...or find someone to let me try.....and sometimes I feel that with each birthday I celebrate my chances at ever finding anyone that is willing to help me unlock it ...lessens....

 

[Valkyrie2006]

Thanks... Although I think that quality is a double edged sword ( I'm rather honest when it comes to emotions... and even more so when its about what I think. Gets me into trouble... a lot )

I'm sorry that people haven't been honest with you... *hugs*

I guess ( I hate to say this) but it's something I have sorta got used to .....its why I find it so hard to believe anyone anymore.....and being that way has its downfall.... bigtime

 

[ima6uldv8]

My heart was cold and dark for about ten years. Then last February, my Master had found it's key. Showed me love I'd never known. Now he's gone Was his last purpose in life to do that for me? It's one of the greatest gifts I've ever received. We were both so happy. Why did it have to turn out like this?

 

[fyrfyter_1961]

I sit up at nights crying endlessly that I cant feel that kind of love...or find someone to let me try.....and sometimes I feel that with each birthday I celebrate my chances at ever finding anyone that is willing to help me unlock it ...lessens....

My hope for you and I and all of us is that one day it will just happen. I think that when you least expect it, it seems to happen. One can only hope!

 

[pink]

my hope is they get Lit fixed soon.

 

[pink]

OMG i havent been here in FOREVER

I hope all my lovely ladies are well

Welcome back, Roze. *hugs*

 

[duskytip]

I think most long time Litser's know my story...Lonely Hearts is a thread I never thought I would post too, but here I am.

I would appreciate any PM's about DG... I am not looking to get back with her, just wanting to know how she is doing...is she well and happy? Is she finding her dream?

If she is happy and content, then I can let this rest and move on.

 

[rozezwild]

Welcome back, Roze. *hugs*

ty love

I missed you all

 

[whspr]

Hmmmmmmmmmmm...I like when I see less posting on this thread....it means you all are happy. <sigh>

right now I'm feeling quite lonely myself....love and all its entities can be a very hard thing to learn and to live with....

 

[pink]

i'm at the point where even though i'm lonely at times, i'm still very happy.

 

[Scribbleros]

i'm at the point where even though i'm lonely at times, i'm still very happy.

That is very positive. How did you become happy?

 

[SimpleGifts]

Hey folks,

Been a while since I've been here as well. Had the small matter of trying to place my ex firmly in my past to attend to. I haven't succeeded completely, and never will...she will always be "the one that got away," and I finally realize that she not only got away, but she will in all probability never return.

But that's ok, because I also know that I've seen true love, I've experienced it, and I know it exists. And if there was one gift that I wish I could give everyone here, it would be hope. Not an empty hope that the next one will be "The One," but the eternal hope that love IS, it's out there, and it can't be predicted or controlled. It just has to happen.

I will never love another like I loved her. But I have to love someone, it's my nature...and I'll find a way to make sure that there is someone in my life worthy of that love, someday. In the meantime, I also realized that the only person I can count on 100% of the time to love me is ME. And knowing how good you are is the first step towards convincing others of that as well.

There are still days when I'm still lonely, and days when I miss her so much it aches...but they are fewer, and far between. Life will go on. You will survive, because in some measure, we are all survivors at some point in our lives.



SG

 

[ima6uldv8]

SG, I wish I could think of it that way. Most of the time, I'm truly greatful for the love I experienced last year. But, I get so pissed at fate for taking him away from me so soon after we met.

 

[SimpleGifts]

SG, I wish I could think of it that way. Most of the time, I'm truly greatful for the love I experienced last year. But, I get so pissed at fate for taking him away from me so soon after we met.

Believe me, I understand what you mean. I still have moments where I rail at the injustice of a world that brought her to me, showed me what it was like to have someone love me so completely and openly, and then have circumstances change so that we can no longer be together. It seems so unfair. But I do know that the love is still there, and that NOTHING will extinguish that. And as unlikely as it was to have found her...sometimes lightning DOES strike in the same place twice.

SG

 

[Valkyrie2006]

I do envy those in here that have had that rare chance to experience "that kind of love"..... as never have and would die to get the chance to at least once in my life....

I thought I did...for a fleeting moment..........but I think i was fooling myself.....and it is something that I had to give up on.........the moment was so short I'm not sure if what I felt
..wish i could have the chance again to make sure

 

[pink]

That is very positive. How did you become happy?

i have a lot to be grateful for. i love people, i love to make new friends. For teh most part my health is pretty good, i fight my depression and anxiety problems with everything that i have. i have great meds and great Dr's and therapists to help with all that.


i own my own home now. i have a gorgeous wonderful 14 yr old daughter, who does well in school. i have several fantastic online friends, they are absolutely the best and we talk on the phone as much as possible. i miss my father so much, he passed in 05 but my mother is still alive.

i've decided to plunge back into the job market. i got a job yesterday, i'm scares shitless but also excited. i've done this type of work in the past and loved it. i hope i can make the adjustment to a new store here where we live now.


i just find things that make me happy and do them.

 

[pink]

ty love

I missed you all

It is soooooooooo good to see you. *long hug*

 

[pink]

Believe me, I understand what you mean. I still have moments where I rail at the injustice of a world that brought her to me, showed me what it was like to have someone love me so completely and openly, and then have circumstances change so that we can no longer be together. It seems so unfair. But I do know that the love is still there, and that NOTHING will extinguish that. And as unlikely as it was to have found her...sometimes lightning DOES strike in the same place twice.

SG

There are many wonderful people our there for everyone. None can replace lost loves and thats ok. They are still special in their own right. They can still add so much to our loves, even if it winds up being only as friends.

 

[pink]

I do envy those in here that have had that rare chance to experience "that kind of love"..... as never have and would die to get the chance to at least once in my life....

I thought I did...for a fleeting moment..........but I think i was fooling myself.....and it is something that I had to give up on.........the moment was so short I'm not sure if what I felt
..wish i could have the chance again to make sure

We are all right here for you.

 

[pink]

SG, I wish I could think of it that way. Most of the time, I'm truly greatful for the love I experienced last year. But, I get so pissed at fate for taking him away from me so soon after we met.

It's ok to be mad at times. It's part of the healing process. One thing to remember is it's normal to go back and forth between steps. You don't go straight through them, but travel between steps sometimes several times.


Here is a great link. http://mt.essortment.com/stagesofgri_rvkg.htm

 

[somberReality]

I get lonely a lot. (which anyone who's read my posts knows) But it comes and goes and I'd like to think at some point i'll have someone by my side.....I really don't want to stay alone.

*hugs to those going through hard times*

 

[pink]

I get lonely a lot. (which anyone who's read my posts knows) But it comes and goes and I'd like to think at some point i'll have someone by my side.....I really don't want to stay alone.

*hugs to those going through hard times*

*hugs*