The Neurospicy Thread!

[cheekygirl75]

Starting this before I get distracted again! I'm pretty open that I have ADHD and I know there are a lot of us around here along with people who are Autistic so I'm starting a thread for us!

Share here to vent, discuss, ask questions... even if you aren't "neurospicy" come ask questions if you're interested in what it's like for us!

I'll start - given it's Lit, I'm curious if your neurospiciness has any impact on your sex life?

Edited to add - anyone with any mental health struggles is also very welcome here! I got the depression and anxiety along with the ADHD - fun combo!

 

[FunFilled1980]

My attention and sometimes the rest of me go on side quests. ADHD/tism.

Anybody else?

 

[Orwellian69]

Excellent idea.

As for the question, no idea. I’m 47 and I was diagnosed with ADHD last year and autism less than 2 weeks ago!

I’ve a lot of learning to do, so maybe I’ll find out on the way.

 

[cheekygirl75]

Excellent idea.

I wonder who thought it up?

 

[F3x0r]

Not sure much of my neurospiciness is going to lend well to this but I definitely felt in my yoof ( and I mostly blame the general 90s for this , ) that I somewhat romanticized my depression and that plus the sort of people I was attracted /co-dependent with lead to some very intense passionate sex, intersperse with arguing and bleak silence, and lots of cigarettes/alcohol but it was the 90s so.

 

[FunFilled1980]

Not sure much of my neurospiciness is going to lend well to this but I definitely felt in my yoof ( and I mostly blame the general 90s for this , ) that I somewhat romanticized my depression and that plus the sort of people I was attracted /co-dependent with lead to some very intense passionate sex, intersperse with arguing and bleak silence, and lots of cigarettes/alcohol but it was the 90s so.

Similar to my 90's experience.

 

[Orwellian69]

Not sure much of my neurospiciness is going to lend well to this but I definitely felt in my yoof ( and I mostly blame the general 90s for this , ) that I somewhat romanticized my depression and that plus the sort of people I was attracted /co-dependent with lead to some very intense passionate sex, intersperse with arguing and bleak silence, and lots of cigarettes/alcohol but it was the 90s so.

God

I miss the 90s

 

[FunFilled1980]

God

I miss the 90s

Word

 

[F3x0r]

I dunno, I think I miss it, but I was pretty fucking miserable and messed up when I think about it a bit too much ( this is late 90s )

 

[cheekygirl75]

Not sure much of my neurospiciness is going to lend well to this but I definitely felt in my yoof ( and I mostly blame the general 90s for this , ) that I somewhat romanticized my depression and that plus the sort of people I was attracted /co-dependent with lead to some very intense passionate sex, intersperse with arguing and bleak silence, and lots of cigarettes/alcohol but it was the 90s so.

Hmm... intense passionate sex sounds good, though not the arguing or bleak silence or co-dependence. May the 2000s be better for having healthy relationships *and* passionate sex!

 

[Orwellian69]

I dunno, I think I miss it, but I was pretty fucking miserable and messed up when I think about it a bit too much ( this is late 90s )

98/99 was very much like that for me.
And 00.
01.
02.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child (although my grandparents didn’t think much of it - I did well in school so everything was a-okay, right?). I was diagnosed again as an adult and didn’t try meds till I was in my 40s. Holy shit! I wonder how different things might have been if I had tried them younger.

But, I am an enthusiastic, spontaneous, creative person and I don’t know if that’s just me or the ADHD (the ADHD is me, though, yeah?). I am also enthusiastic, spontaneous, and creative in the bedroom so I do think it has influenced things in that regard. I did get hyper-focused once on blowjobs and getting really, really good at it. Quite likely my bf’s all-time favorites of my hyper-fixations. My current Heated Rivalry hyper-focus has had a positive effect on our sex life, too. He hasn’t watched the show, but he says it’s his favorite show, lol.

 

[ScarletDaisy]

*Crippling anxiety enters the room*

I've wasted so much of my life being too afraid to try, to speak, to do. I'm happy to support anybody but myself. It's only been in the past 4 years that I've really started pushing myself outside of my comfort zone.

Which leads to giant bouts of anxiety, big push, success/failure, giant bout of anxiety, new idea... rinse and repeat.

I've not been diagnosed with ADHD, but I believe all I lack is a diagnosis.

 

[cheekygirl75]

I wonder how different things might have been if I had tried them younger.

This is one of the things that's been the hardest to get past. I didn't get diagnosed until my late 20s (though it was an ongoing joke in my family that I would have been diagnosed as a kid if I had been a kid when people started becoming more aware of it) and didn't find a med that worked for me until my late 30s/early 40s... can't help but wonder.

the ADHD is me, though, yeah?

Yeah, exactly! You can't separate the two... and ADHD is such an individualized thing, as I think Autism is too, that it's hard to say what's from the ADHD since not everyone with it will be the same.

I did get hyper-focused once on blowjobs and getting really, really good at it. Quite likely my bf’s all-time favorites of my hyper-fixations.

I can only imagine how much he liked that! Though maybe less so when you lost interest in it At least, I can't usually stand the things I hyper-focused on once the hyper-focus fades...

 

[Orwellian69]

I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child (although my grandparents didn’t think much of it - I did well in school so everything was a-okay, right?). I was diagnosed again as an adult and didn’t try meds till I was in my 40s. Holy shit! I wonder how different things might have been if I had tried them younger.

But, I am an enthusiastic, spontaneous, creative person and I don’t know if that’s just me or the ADHD (the ADHD is me, though, yeah?). I am also enthusiastic, spontaneous, and creative in the bedroom so I do think it has influenced things in that regard. I did get hyper-focused once on blowjobs and getting really, really good at it. Quite likely my bf’s all-time favorites of my hyper-fixations. My current Heated Rivalry hyper-focus has had a positive effect on our sex life, too. He hasn’t watched the show, but he says it’s his favorite show, lol.

The whole what if I’d known earlier kills me. Daily. What if there had been an earlier diagnosis and support.

I’m not the cleverest but I’m not dumb. I perhaps could have done more.

Or maybe this was just what I’ve been destined for. Who knows?

 

[cheekygirl75]

*Crippling anxiety enters the room*

I've wasted so much of my life being too afraid to try, to speak, to do. I'm happy to support anybody but myself. It's only been in the past 4 years that I've really started pushing myself outside of my comfort zone.

Which leads to giant bouts of anxiety, big push, success/failure, giant bout of anxiety, new idea... rinse and repeat.

I've not been diagnosed with ADHD, but I believe all I lack is a diagnosis.

Welcome! Well, not well come that you have anxiety, but you're in good company here I was cripplingly shy as a kid and it didn't help that I was the weird kid because of the undiagnosed AHDH... But that's amazing that you're pushing through it so much!! Whenever you started was the right time for you...

 

[FunFilled1980]

*Crippling anxiety enters the room*

I've wasted so much of my life being too afraid to try, to speak, to do. I'm happy to support anybody but myself. It's only been in the past 4 years that I've really started pushing myself outside of my comfort zone.

Which leads to giant bouts of anxiety, big push, success/failure, giant bout of anxiety, new idea... rinse and repeat.

I've not been diagnosed with ADHD, but I believe all I lack is a diagnosis.

I have Anxiety too. Learning limitations and gently pushing through them can help. Just remember it's a marathon not a sprint

 

[cheekygirl75]

The whole what if I’d known earlier kills me. Daily. What if there had been an earlier diagnosis and support.

I’m not the cleverest but I’m not dumb. I perhaps could have done more.

Or maybe this was just what I’ve been destined for. Who knows?

 

[Orwellian69]

*Crippling anxiety enters the room*

I've wasted so much of my life being too afraid to try, to speak, to do. I'm happy to support anybody but myself. It's only been in the past 4 years that I've really started pushing myself outside of my comfort zone.

Which leads to giant bouts of anxiety, big push, success/failure, giant bout of anxiety, new idea... rinse and repeat.

I've not been diagnosed with ADHD, but I believe all I lack is a diagnosis.

I don’t regret getting either diagnosis, though the autism one has led to a real dip in mood. This last week has been a struggle.

I guess it depends on whether you feel you need a diagnosis?

 

[LizWetmore]

I’ve been diagnosed with so many acronyms I’m over it… OCD, ADHD, PCOS, PMDD, CPTSD….

For those diagnosed later in life did you mourn the life you could have had? Or the struggles you didn’t need to?

Thats what hurts for me I think. School and uni didn’t need to be this black hole of anxiety and depression.

 

[FunFilled1980]

I don’t regret getting either diagnosis, though the autism one has led to a real dip in mood. This last week has been a struggle.

I guess it depends on whether you feel you need a diagnosis?

Autism is a superpower if you let it be.

 

[Orwellian69]

I’ve been diagnosed with so many acronyms I’m over it… OCD, ADHD, PCOS, PMDD, CPTSD….

For those diagnosed later in life did you mourn the life you could have had? Or the struggles you didn’t need to?

Thats what hurts for me I think. School and uni didn’t need to be this black hole of anxiety and depression.

yes to all that.

 

[Orwellian69]

Autism is a superpower if you let it be.

I’m yet to channel it. Like I said, I’ve a lot to learn.

 

[FunFilled1980]

I’ve been diagnosed with so many acronyms I’m over it… OCD, ADHD, PCOS, PMDD, CPTSD….

For those diagnosed later in life did you mourn the life you could have had? Or the struggles you didn’t need to?

Thats what hurts for me I think. School and uni didn’t need to be this black hole of anxiety and depression.

I was diagnosed with a lot of things as well. Life went on like normal until my CTE diagnosis. (18 concussions)

 

[FunFilled1980]

I’m yet to channel it. Like I said, I’ve a lot to learn.

Learn you will. Somethings will come much faster than others.