The Merits of Phone Sex??

[Ukin]

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That shy thing isn't gonna play well on a thread I started, sweetie..you forget.....I know you wayyyyyyy too well.

Now answer the questions!!

You love it when I get all demanding dontcha??

OMG...I am sat here....throbbing....the power of this cock throbbing maker.

Yes..you do know me lol..and I guess the shy me won't wash with you....so...show me your tits...and I will answer

 

[enjoyingitall]

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OMG...I am sat here....throbbing....the power of this cock throbbing maker.

Yes..you do know me lol..and I guess the shy me won't wash with you....so...show me your tits...and I will answer

LOL nice try...close your eyes and visualize them. Or open that file you have with my pics in it....

 

[enjoyingitall]

The Merits of Phone Sex?

1) Suppose you have never seen a picture of a prospective phone sex partner. Does that matter to you in terms of how “real” the experience seems to be? Or is it simply all about words?


2) Suppose you have seen his/ her picture and you know that you simply aren’t attracted physically to that person. Does this cause you to be reluctant to engage in phone sex with him/ her or does that matter to you?

3) Suppose you have seen his / her picture and you feel a physical attraction. Would this enhance the experience for you?

Ok..I thought it was time that I answered my own questions, since you all have shared your thoughts with me.


1) If I have reached a comfort level to even be thinking about p/s with someone, then the chances are quite likely that I’ve seen his pic. I’ve never engaged in p/s with someone whos picture I haven’t seen first. I can’t say it’s all about the words.


2) I gotta agree with Lovemetender on this one...It may sound shallow, but if I’m not physically attracted to the person, p/s isn’t gonna happen. It has been my experience that in order for me to really feel the rush, I need to believe it when I say things about what I would like to be doing to or with that person. If the physical attraction isn’t there for me, then I can’t say those things, because I’m not really feeling them. There also must be an emotional attachment for me as well. Combined, those two components make the adventure much more sensual and fulfilling for me.

3) Seeing his picture allows me to visualize much better. So it does enhance the experience for me.


It's interesting to note that most of the woman don't think they have to have that physical attraction. I can't imagine that there aren't other women who would agree with me. But then again...maybe I'm just odd...

 

[1sexylady]

The Merits of Phone Sex?

I was having a conversation with someone today and we were discussing, in general terms , the merits of phone sex.

My mind began veering off course and some questions popped up.

1) Suppose you have never seen a picture of a prospective phone sex partner. Does that matter to you in terms of how “real” the experience seems to be? Or is it simply all about words?

2) Suppose you have seen his/ her picture and you know that you simply aren’t attracted physically to that person. Does this cause you to be reluctant to engage in phone sex with him/ her or does that matter to you?

3) Suppose you have seen his / her picture and you feel a physical attraction. Would this enhance the experience for you?

Enlighten me, please.

I am not big on phone sex. If I had it three times that is alot. But that is me... I have cybered. But if there were no av's on Lit or everyone turned them off so you couldn't see anything and we all had the same conversations we do each day would it change who we are???? Would it change how we feel about someone that is special??? There have been people on here I have been very attracted to and some I can't stand and I don't know what they look like in r/l. So I don't think cybering or phone sex need a picture just the *connection*.......think of the blind what is it they see??????

 

[Ukin]

Okay...okay..okay

1. I have to be able to "Feel" the experience. I will admit to have had a few phone calls...and one or two did absolutely nothing for me at all...needless to say, I did continue..but I felt nothing.

2. I need the "attraction"..I have to feel attracted to that person. I don't give my phone number out to anyone...I need to feel "drawn" to her...them.

3. Without doubt. My mind is very graphic...seeing the person in my mind enhances the experience, without a shadow of doubt.

 

[enjoyingitall]

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I am not big on phone sex. If I had it three times that is alot. But that is me... I have cybered. But if there were no av's on Lit or everyone turned them off so you couldn't see anything and we all had the same conversations we do each day would it change who we are???? Would it change how we feel about someone that is special??? There have been people on here I have been very attracted to and some I can't stand and I don't know what they look like in r/l. So I don't think cybering or phone sex need a picture just the *connection*.......think of the blind what is it they see??????

Hi Sexylady...

I'm not saying that seeing the pics or being attracted changes who one is or how I might feel about them as a friend. But because p/s can be very intimate, I need that attraction.

And just because I might find someone attractive doesnt mean I would have p/s with them. If that were the case, we'd all be phone sexing all the time since there are tons of attractive people here.

I just know that for me, p/s is very intimate and it encompasses very real aspects. For that to happen, I need the attraction.

Just my random thoughts.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Okay...okay..okay

1. I have to be able to "Feel" the experience. I will admit to have had a few phone calls...and one or two did absolutely nothing for me at all...needless to say, I did continue..but I felt nothing.

2. I need the "attraction"..I have to feel attracted to that person. I don't give my phone number out to anyone...I need to feel "drawn" to her...them.

3. Without doubt. My mind is very graphic...seeing the person in my mind enhances the experience, without a shadow of doubt.

I knew I could get some answers out of you!

If you read my answers, you'll see that I agree with you.

 

[sweet soft kiss]

This is a bit off topic... but what I really hate about phone sex... is hanging up the phone... it's a lonely feeling... especially if it was really a good experience.... just my 2 cents

 

[enjoyingitall]

This is a bit off topic... but what I really hate about phone sex... is hanging up the phone... it's a lonely feeling... especially if it was really a good experience.... just my 2 cents

LOL..don't worry..

I'm not a stick to the topic kinda woman anyway.

I agree with you. That special feeling, that connection is hard to let go of. When you hang up, you can be left feeling fulfilled yet with a sense of longing for more.

That's where the emotional factors come in I think.

 

[1sexylady]

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Hi Sexylady...

I'm not saying that seeing the pics or being attracted changes who one is or how I might feel about them as a friend. But because p/s can be very intimate, I need that attraction.

And just because I might find someone attractive doesnt mean I would have p/s with them. If that were the case, we'd all be phone sexing all the time since there are tons of attractive people here.

I just know that for me, p/s is very intimate and it encompasses very real aspects. For that to happen, I need the attraction.

Just my random thoughts.

But that is the point I was trying to make...if your not attracted to them why p/s....??? I am not saying I p/s with everyone I am attracted to, if I p/s at all, nor do I cyber with just anyone...Hell I don't go meeting just anyone either...you have to have a connection for it to be intimate.
Believe me there are very shallow people out there that think they are attracted to you and then see a picture and boom it is gone and your out there saying what was it you were attracted to to begin with??

 

[Ukin]

I knew I could get some answers out of you!

If you read my answers, you'll see that I agree with you.

Just read them...and yes, we seem to agree, but yours was far more eloquently put...

psst...what's your number again?

 

[enjoyingitall]

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But that is the point I was trying to make...if your not attracted to them why p/s....??? I am not saying I p/s with everyone I am attracted to, if I p/s at all, nor do I cyber with just anyone...Hell I don't go meeting just anyone either...you have to have a connection for it to be intimate.
Believe me there are very shallow people out there that think they are attracted to you and then see a picture and boom it is gone and your out there saying what was it you were attracted to to begin with??

I guess I misunderstood what you were saying. I thought you were talking about attraction that isn't based both on how you feel about them as a person and how you feel about their physical appearance.

 

[Ukin]

One question which I feel should be asked..if you don't mind Sweetie...

Do any of you actually FAKE the orgasm....to get rid of the caller or to end the call sooner?

 

[enjoyingitall]

Just read them...and yes, we seem to agree, but yours was far more eloquently put...

psst...what's your number again?

1-900 FOR EJSEX......how could you forget????? LMAO

 

[Ukin]

1-900 FOR EJSEX......how could you forget????? LMAO

Fuck...it's engaged again.....

 

[enjoyingitall]

One question which I feel should be asked..if you don't mind Sweetie...

Do any of you actually FAKE the orgasm....to get rid of the caller or to end the call sooner?

Good question, ukin!

Ofcourse I don't mind you posting a question here.


I think I need to clarify this....I don't have vast experiences with this....well..not with different people....so my most recent experiences did not lend themselves to my having a need to fake the orgasm.

But to be perfectly honest...yeah..honest...IF the experience wasn't working for me...I would just tell him so. I don't do fake orgasms.

 

[enjoyingitall]

Fuck...it's engaged again.....

I really need call waiting on that line, huh??? LOL

 

[Ukin]

Good question, ukin!

Ofcourse I don't mind you posting a question here.


I think I need to clarify this....I don't have vast experiences with this....well..not with different people....so my most recent experiences did not lend themselves to my having a need to fake the orgasm.

But to be perfectly honest...yeah..honest...IF the experience wasn't working for me...I would just tell him so. I don't do fake orgasms.

I ought to clarify too...neither do I have that vast experience..I am very choosy whom I give my number too...or even ASK for their number.

Ej? Please don't phone me at work when I am trying to reconcile 28 bank accounts...

 

[Ukin]

I really need call waiting on that line, huh??? LOL

Uh huh....and change the fucking music too....the Hills Are Alive With The Sound Of Music does not produce a cock throb!!

 

[enjoyingitall]

I ought to clarify too...neither do I have that vast experience..I am very choosy whom I give my number too...or even ASK for their number.

Ej? Please don't phone me at work when I am trying to reconcile 28 bank accounts...

You've been having those dreams again, haven't you sweetie?

 

[1sexylady]

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I guess I misunderstood what you were saying. I thought you were talking about attraction that isn't based both on how you feel about them as a person and how you feel about their physical appearance.

I get carried away sometimes with the way I talk...

 

[enjoyingitall]

Uh huh....and change the fucking music too....the Hills Are Alive With The Sound Of Music does not produce a cock throb!!

Picky..picky..


OK.......how about some ac/dc....You Shook Me All Night Long..


one of my personal favorites btw.

 

[Ukin]

You've been having those dreams again, haven't you sweetie?

I sighhhhhhhhhhh...yes...**sighhhhhhhhhhhh**

 

[1sexylady]

One question which I feel should be asked..if you don't mind Sweetie...

Do any of you actually FAKE the orgasm....to get rid of the caller or to end the call sooner?

LMAO....To me if I start it why fake it????? I am cruel I would tell him the truth and say lets try this some other day...

 

[Ukin]

Picky..picky..


OK.......how about some ac/dc....You Shook Me All Night Long..


one of my personal favorites btw.

never heard it...but I guess it will do..anything is better than Julie Andrews