The Sexless Marriage Hookup Thread

[upforfunNJ]

count me in.

she hasn't gone through the change, but still has little/no desire. Im lucky if i get every other week.

We were arguing about it and said about a friend of hers has not got any in 2 years, I told here I would not be going without for 2 years one way or the other.

I hear a lot of advice about being more affectionate, but I cuddle up to her, snuggle, kiss her neck, even just crawl over to her while watching tv and lay across her lap and hug her. She says she loves all of this but it still doesn't help in closing the deal.

 

[tactilelover]

she hasn't gone through the change, but still has little/no desire. Im lucky if i get every other week.

We were arguing about it and said about a friend of hers has not got any in 2 years, I told here I would not be going without for 2 years one way or the other.

I hear a lot of advice about being more affectionate, but I cuddle up to her, snuggle, kiss her neck, even just crawl over to her while watching tv and lay across her lap and hug her. She says she loves all of this but it still doesn't help in closing the deal.

yes i hear you same here, i love her but i am like wasted talent coz i know how to please a woman but i think her sex drive is gone. & i am to horny for once a month if lucky. i think an hornier woman deserves me in all honesty.

 

[HornyVikingMN]

Inspired by Egypt and Libya?

I think we need another sexual revolution. The first one only got us partway there.

I'm not sure what the event is that will trigger it, but it's obvious there's enough pent-up energy and sexual frustration to "rally the troops" once things get rolling.

Anyone care to fire the first shot??

 

[Chuck43]

Here's a pic for two hot ladies that sent me a PM. Sorry guys, but got to please the ladies!

 

[xxxpaulzzz]

Would be delighted for someone to enjoy my wife - who knows change could be as good as a rest!

does your wife have a say in that remark?

 

[xxxpaulzzz]

Ok I have the opposite problems. Been married 12 years been together 17 and I'm the one who complains about not enough sex He is the one who says not tonight honey I have a headache. I'm the one who likes porn and toys. We used to have great sc but now in lucky if it's twice a month. And I'm the one whole plays with my self daily because he never wants too. And no I'm not ugly. I think the problem may have come from I married a virgin and he has no idea how good he has it. Hell, I brought sexy bra and panties and he didn't notice. So anyway, that's from the other side.

there had to be a female with the same problem somewhere! just the one though! please pm if i can be of any help what so ever.

looks like tehre is no real answer. if any of the woman mentioned ended up seperated the suddenly regain interest and become hot again. is this because they feel they need to have a sexual interest to catch another guy or do they actually get the passionate feeling back?

is it just because it is with a new and different guy?

tuirned out to be an interesting thread.

 

[man_4_milf]

Not easy and no easy easy answer. I know people working through their situations by 'cheating' and trying to cheat. One is happy with their affairs so far. One is one the edge without having taken the plunge. Both have used/are using websites in their pursuit.

 

[vavavaVoom]

Easier to hook up?

Yes it's true, it would be easier for me to hook up in comparison to my male suffering counterparts on this issue. The rub is quality control. I'd have to test the quality and gamble on the virility.... can be risky.
I had to sever my marriage, but it wasn't quite the clean break I would have liked due to the kids. I tolerated for many years sex on a monthly basis (and who got 7 minutes? you lucky things!) I can tolerate putting my life of hold for a small amount of years before I disappear.
This place is my sensual haven. I've learnt lots that has opened my mind, met many great people, shared some pain and there are some damn witty people out there that keep me laughing.
Damn thing is I get zero sex right now, and I'm happier! lol go figure! This is my conscious choice... but I'm having a lot of fun winnowing through the masses to find just what I like and if I'm in the mood to ... trial and I haven't needed to dip "the litmus paper" so to speak.
No idea what the answer is for everyone... just for me. I don't know if this makes any sense, but 18 years with the one guy is like getting my virginity back and I'm not prepared to squander it for just anyone and I've plenty left in the tank at 45.
Desame13 hope all is well with you and yours, you've had it tough across the ditch.
Antiasexual, good luck with your thread oh & Chuck... sweet pic, er... maybe Sweetcheeks might appreciate instructions on how to "resize" her pics... then she may just share with all ... and you'd be like a "knight in shining armour" so to speak? Just a thought

 

[philos]

Got the sexless marriage. Or nearly sexless- quarterly? 3x a year? Something like that. But I do still love my wife and adore my daughter so I don't know about the hookup part. I just enjoy playing on lit for now.

 

[sweetcheeksgirl]

no knight needed

i figured out how to resize and posted pic enjoy lol

 

[alevisguy]

Sometimes I wonder if living in a sexless marriage is like living in Purgatory. You feel like you're stuck in a place you really don't want to be, but there's no way out
After years in a nearly sexless marriage, I really started feeling like maybe it was my fault, and that maybe I wasn't the best lover. After years of soul searching, I realized that if your spouse is unwilling to be what you crave, then it's time to find someone who is.

 

[sweetcheeksgirl]

Sometimes I wonder if living in a sexless marriage is like living in Purgatory. You feel like you're stuck in a place you really don't want to be, but there's no way out
After years in a nearly sexless marriage, I really started feeling like maybe it was my fault, and that maybe I wasn't the best lover. After years of soul searching, I realized that if your spouse is unwilling to be what you crave, then it's time to find someone who is.

thats what i went through .....thought it was me almost let kill my self confidence and then i lost weight changed hair and brought sexy stuff and it in the end I realized i felt better but he is still blind. So now i have my self confidence but still alone.....more thinking will happen...because in the end i deserve to be happy in and out of bed

 

[spacecasecookie]

Getting divorced and lack of sex is 90% of the problem.

 

[Chuck43]

Yes it's true, it would be easier for me to hook up in comparison to my male suffering counterparts on this issue. The rub is quality control. I'd have to test the quality and gamble on the virility.... can be risky.
I had to sever my marriage, but it wasn't quite the clean break I would have liked due to the kids. I tolerated for many years sex on a monthly basis (and who got 7 minutes? you lucky things!) I can tolerate putting my life of hold for a small amount of years before I disappear.
This place is my sensual haven. I've learnt lots that has opened my mind, met many great people, shared some pain and there are some damn witty people out there that keep me laughing.
Damn thing is I get zero sex right now, and I'm happier! lol go figure! This is my conscious choice... but I'm having a lot of fun winnowing through the masses to find just what I like and if I'm in the mood to ... trial and I haven't needed to dip "the litmus paper" so to speak.
No idea what the answer is for everyone... just for me. I don't know if this makes any sense, but 18 years with the one guy is like getting my virginity back and I'm not prepared to squander it for just anyone and I've plenty left in the tank at 45.
Desame13 hope all is well with you and yours, you've had it tough across the ditch.
Antiasexual, good luck with your thread oh & Chuck... sweet pic, er... maybe Sweetcheeks might appreciate instructions on how to "resize" her pics... then she may just share with all ... and you'd be like a "knight in shining armour" so to speak? Just a thought

Thanks for the compliment babe, looks like sweetcheeks figured out how to resize without my help!

 

[Chuck43]

i figured out how to resize and posted pic enjoy lol

I just your pic sweetcheeks...very hot!

 

[antiasexual]

Thanks for the replies...

Wow, its nice to see such a good response to the thread.

I have been reading up on this topic and posting in other less sexual oriented websites for along time now, since I decided I knew I wasn't along in this. Contrary to what some have said or hinted at on this thread, sexlessness in a marriage seems to happen JUST AS MUCH for women as men.

What I DO find interesting, though, is how many people are truly mismatched. It seems that really high libido women end up with low libido men and vice versa. What I am hoping for on this thread is for others (and myself) to match up with people in this situation.

I was reading something the other day that sexlessness in marriage is one of the top three reasons for divorce.

Anyways, PM anyone, and please keep contributing!

 

[sweetcheeksgirl]

helping myself

I just your pic sweetcheeks...very hot!

sorry Chuck mine helping myself for so long......... i learn to figure things out for myself

 

[alevisguy]

thats what i went through .....thought it was me almost let kill my self confidence and then i lost weight changed hair and brought sexy stuff and it in the end I realized i felt better but he is still blind. So now i have my self confidence but still alone.....more thinking will happen...because in the end i deserve to be happy in and out of bed

I understand exactly what you're going through. I'm guessing that you have kids and that's the reason you've stay married ( that's the case with me ). I took the route of an affair as a last resort, but found it too stressful to continue. Eventually I know I'll end up having another affair....

 

[NoMoreNoMore]

Still an 8 wife a 0

Kind of got the triple whammy. Wife went into menopause a few years ago. That started the diminishing sex from three times a week, down to three times a year if I was lucky. Then she had suspension surgery so now she has scar tissue that makes it painful, so we dropped to zero. Add to that between menopause, stress from losing her job to outsourcing, and issues with her parents and sister, she took to eating and put on a lot of weight, so now she doesn't even want me to see her naked. Though, she told me that I could get pornos if I wanted. Which is how I ended up here. Sometimes reading is better than the same old trite movies.

 

[mutato]

similar situation

I have a similar situation. My wife has medical issues that makes sex and reaching orgasm difficult. To top it off, she doesn't think that she has a sexy body though I certainly think she does and I tell her often. Ultimately we have sex twice a month if things are going well. Once a month if not.

I love her dearly even after 20 years of marriage and I will not get a divorce. At 41 I still have a high libido and think of sex frequently. I won't cheat on her so I have a dilemma. It's difficult to find time alone with my life schedule to masturbate and read or watch porn (I need some stimulation). I came here hoping to find women to exchange erotic email and/or chat. This way I can have a discreet virtual erotic exchange without cheating on my wife. Watching porn is fun, but the interactive text exchange is that much better.

This is my situation and opinion. YMMV

 

[hotpup]

Depressing

This thread hits home for me.Lucky to have sex once a month last time was Christmas Day and we just fought about it last night. Sex wasn't frequent before but now she is going through the change it is even less.
This thread has depressed me even further.
However, the great thing about it it is reassuring that I am not alone. Thanks for posting it.

 

[winepleasures]

sweetcheeks, there is alot of fun to be had online before you make the plunge to real-life affair. You can definitely explore your sexuality that way and be reassured that you can express who you truly are!

 

[sweetcheeksgirl]

learning that

sweetcheeks, there is alot of fun to be had online before you make the plunge to real-life affair. You can definitely explore your sexuality that way and be reassured that you can express who you truly are!

ya i am learning that... just wish he would enjoy it too....i have figured alot on my own and you think that would turn him on....just dont think he realizes most women arent that open to sex and playing...kinda a shame

 

[winepleasures]

And sometimes you just find out that people change...or not. You might be a more sexual, sensual being that you were when you married him. And he hasn't changed. You can't change him, sadly, but you also can't surpress the yearning you have inside. Take if from one who knows....express yourself. You don't mean to hurt him, but if you can't explore, it will drown you....

 

[puretorcher]

36 Wife has lupus and fibro

Hi all, I am in the same boat as some of you. My wife is really young, only 35, but has many ailments. to name a few she has lupus, fibromialgia, failed back fusion, and others. I sleep on the couch most nights. sex maybe every other month. Not her fault, she even tells me she wishes it was like before, we were very sexual, 4 to 6 times a week. Mostly her initiating it. So yes, this has been really rough. I log on here to get my kicks cause it isn't happening in my home anymore. I am in the Seattle area and would love to have a friend with benefits. If there is a lady out there reading this that could use a 9 incher and thick in her life on a no commitment basis, then I am your man. I have been married for 12 years and have no stds. I would expect the same, do not want to brong anything home.