The Younger Crowd

[College_geek]

It's a fine line, walking between confidence and humility. Try to find a good balance. No need to be perfect though, that's what makes us individuals.

Just don't be like "I hate myself" and give lame reasons. I hate that the most, cuz then it's just a cry for attention and it's not a good way to get some.

There are plenty of....other ways

It's not really an "I hate myself"; it's more of a "I'm not going to do well" or "I'm not doing well". It stinks because most of the pressure I put on myself is from myself. I really have no one to impress. ...Wait, I take that back. It seems like everything I do in college is a way of hoping to impress medical schools. I think my negative feelings came from an early age when I was the best in my class, and as I got older and wasn't necessarily the best anymore, I got upset and started thinking that I "sucked". After my freshman year in high school, though, I got better. Not perfect yet, but at least I don't go moping in corners all the time.

 

[Vay]

It's not really an "I hate myself"; it's more of a "I'm not going to do well" or "I'm not doing well". It stinks because most of the pressure I put on myself is from myself. I really have no one to impress. ...Wait, I take that back. It seems like everything I do in college is a way of hoping to impress medical schools. I think my negative feelings came from an early age when I was the best in my class, and as I got older and wasn't necessarily the best anymore, I got upset and started thinking that I "sucked". After my freshman year in high school, though, I got better. Not perfect yet, but at least I don't go moping in corners all the time.

No one's asking you to be perfect, but I am asking you to not mope in the corner

And I know what you mean about going from being the best, to....not so great anymore. It's hard, it kinda sucks, but life goes on. Your strengths get more defined as you get older (or so I like to believe).

 

[UnseenChagrin]

I don't deal with failure well. I don't really put in the effort, but because I've always done well I just expect that I'll continue to do well. Unfortunately, this means that I get pissy about getting a B when I know damn well I should be lucky to get that at times.

I'm slowly learning to deal with not being the best... it still sucks though. And to an extent even I'm self-defeating, but mostly in light humor. I suppose if you can laugh at yourself then you're doing pretty good.

CG- if you ever need company in the corner, gimme a call Corners can be fun! I'll bring the OB/GYN

 

[College_geek]

I don't deal with failure well. I don't really put in the effort, but because I've always done well I just expect that I'll continue to do well. Unfortunately, this means that I get pissy about getting a B when I know damn well I should be lucky to get that at times.

I'm slowly learning to deal with not being the best... it still sucks though. And to an extent even I'm self-defeating, but mostly in light humor. I suppose if you can laugh at yourself then you're doing pretty good.

CG- if you ever need company in the corner, gimme a call Corners can be fun! I'll bring the OB/GYN

That sounds a lot like me.

And what's the OB/GYN for? I don't like cold duck lips.

 

[Xelebes]

Yeah, most of the time I am like that. I know I need to shape up most of the time but it feels so comfortable to seek humiliation and the sort (I'm a budding submissive type of person who's into the S/M bend.) But yeah, Me = total lack of self confidence = me losing pretty quickly a job that I just got = not good = me needing to do better.

 

[College_geek]

Yeah, most of the time I am like that. I know I need to shape up most of the time but it feels so comfortable to seek humiliation and the sort (I'm a budding submissive type of person who's into the S/M bend.) But yeah, Me = total lack of self confidence = me losing pretty quickly a job that I just got = not good = me needing to do better.

I've tried some like dom/sub, but I prefer to be dom. I can only humiliate myself (I'm greedy). I tend to be self-humiliating only in private and to close friend and family. I'm usually pretty good at work and such. Then again, I was really iffy for the first 2 weeks at Friendly's last summer. It was my first job ever and I was really afraid that I'd screw things up like the customer's order. Most customers are okay with it if they know that you're relatively new, but some are just assholes (tourists). But I'm ranting.

 

[rumandcoke]

Hello

 

[UnseenChagrin]

That sounds a lot like me.

And what's the OB/GYN for? I don't like cold duck lips.

Hmmm, good call on that one. I'll just bring me, myself, and I. Clothes optional.

 

[UnseenChagrin]

Hello

Hi! Welcome.

And don't ever change that AV. *drool*

 

[College_geek]

Hmmm, good call on that one. I'll just bring me, myself, and I. Clothes optional.

Hmm...clothing optional? I may just take you up on that. I'm not too fond of myself in the nude, but it's not like I get opportunities to be naked every day, so I might as well take them when I get them.

 

[UnseenChagrin]

Hmm...clothing optional? I may just take you up on that. I'm not too fond of myself in the nude, but it's not like I get opportunities to be naked every day, so I might as well take them when I get them.

Well if that's the case you're definately invited to the New Year's party next year! Where fun, drinking, and painted nipples abound at Vermont's most exciting house!

Be warned, you'll see things you never wish you saw... Of course, you'll also see them walking into my kitchen and glancing at the pics by the message board, but whatever. Doesn't everyone have a photo of five guys and their left nuts?

 

[SoCoKonstantine]

hi!

22/f here...

have you been to the college thread? any of ya'll?...

 

[UnseenChagrin]

I used to post in the college thread, I think. Just haven't made my way back over I suppose.


Welcome to this thread though. Konstantine... have you heard that song? It's by Something Corporate, from the "Ready...Break" CD. Absolutely amazingly, beautiful and heartfelt.

Ok, I've got to go... got that hour drive to class.

 

[SoCoKonstantine]

I used to post in the college thread, I think. Just haven't made my way back over I suppose.


Welcome to this thread though. Konstantine... have you heard that song? It's by Something Corporate, from the "Ready...Break" CD. Absolutely amazingly, beautiful and heartfelt.

Ok, I've got to go... got that hour drive to class.

I adore it ...and something Corporate! or SoCo

 

[College_geek]

hi!

22/f here...

have you been to the college thread? any of ya'll?...

I only started posting there 2 or 3 months ago...it was kind of dead when I got there, but SC and I revived it to some degree, I suppose. But it's basically dead again. I should tell SC to come on in here.

 

[Vay]

I was never aware of a college thread. If anything, this feels like a possible sister thread to it.

Oh well, I'm happy here. What's the good word, troupe?

 

[UnseenChagrin]

I adore it ...and something Corporate! or SoCo

Nice I didn't want to assume... it's quite possible your name really is Konstantine and you really like Southern Comfort. Wonderful choice though! hehe

 

[SoCoKonstantine]

Nice I didn't want to assume... it's quite possible your name really is Konstantine and you really like Southern Comfort. Wonderful choice though! hehe

LOL no no I wish my name was Konstantine...I just recently saw them in concert for the first time...It was magical

 

[UnseenChagrin]

LOL no no I wish my name was Konstantine...I just recently saw them in concert for the first time...It was magical

I'm jealous. It's been ages since I've been to a good show! It was easy living close to Detroit, but now I have to drive at least 3 hours to Boston or something. Feh.

 

[domingu]

I'm 28 in Los Angeles

 

[Mackay]

wow

didnt relize there where that many of us younger crowd out there on lit. dont know why i thought that. lol 21 male and now i can say 21 fem here too (still gota get used to that)

 

[Vay]

Re: wow

didnt relize there where that many of us younger crowd out there on lit. dont know why i thought that. lol 21 male and now i can say 21 fem here too (still gota get used to that)

Oh yeah, there's loads of us! Just gotta know where to look.

 

[Mackay]

now i do

will be nice to acutaly talk to people my own age on here

 

[Vay]

Re: now i do

will be nice to acutaly talk to people my own age on here

Indeed. It's great to find people in your own age bracket on such a site.

 

[rumandcoke]

Hi! Welcome.

And don't ever change that AV. *drool*

Ha thanks, your AV is actually really awesome I like the effect, not to mention the subject.

Oh I guess I skipped the age gender stuff ... ah back to the good ol' AOL days .. 21/m/nj