Trying Anal for the first Time

[coolbluewaters]

I've recently been with someone new who absolutely amazes me, but he keeps asking me for anal. I let him rim me for the first time after some thinking about it and I loved it. I have tried it before and it hurt like hell, but after thinking about it a lot I want to try it again but don't really know how to make it, along with the fact that he is well endowed scares me, but I'm sure we could work around that fact. Any suggestions ?


Thanks,
Scared but intrigued.

 

[SummerSun15]

well a couple years ago me and my boyfriend decided to try anal for the first time. i was a little nervous but excited. my boyfriend is also very well endowed so i was very concerned it would hurt. but we just did it little bits a a time so it wasn't so bad. every time it started to hurt id tell him and he'd just stay at that spot for a bit until i got used to it. it took a couple times before he could get the whole thing in without hurting me, but it was worth it. so just tell him you'll do it as long as he goes slow and does it your way and promises to stop if you ask him too. hope that helped. good luck!

 

[litpervgrrl]

Use lots and lots of lube and take it slowly... consider starting small -like a finger- and working up to bigger and better things. Patience is its own reward!

Andrea

 

[Grangerhungry]

technicalities of anal

Its a fact that for your first exposure to anal penetration a finger is used, not probed just placed into the rectum.
Forcing anything isnt good.
after the finger is a pleasure probe in and out to enjoy....use more fingers eventually but it shouldnt be something to rush into.
I myself havent had full anal...my man is too big and we havent put much time into it just yet but it is something to look forward to.

 

[txldy]

Get the right lube

Purchasing a lube made especially for anal sex really helps. I also think you need to trust that your partner will stop if you need him too so that you can relax and enjoy the experience. I know that lots of people recommend starting with fingers and plugs first but it wasn't necessary for me with the proper lube.

HTH,

Txldy

 

[Guest]

I humbly offer my How-to article.

Good luck!



Anal Sex (Gasp!): A Hands-On Manual

 

[SweetErika]

Read through the stuff under Anal in The Blank Manual sticky - there's some truly excellent advice in there, and it's what finally allowed us to be successful.

Lube, warm-up, lube, more warm-up, lube, clitoral stimulation the entire time and letting me control the speed and depth of penetration is what works for us. We use silicone lube, but anything that is slick, has good staying power and won't irritate the sensitive membranes is fine. KY Jelly isn't a sexual lubricant, and you should NEVER, EVER use a numbing product like Anal-Eze - if you need to numb the area to get through anal, you're doing something very wrong.

 

[coolbluewaters]

MM thanks everyone It's appreciated