Very Depressed And Hurt

[Latinababe]

Sorry for getting so deep with you all have been depressed and hurt for awhile now and don't know what to do.

Should of not wrote what I wrote.

 

[BohemianEcstasy]

I don't know you (I don't even recognize your name, sorry) because I'm a newbie, but having had a history of untreated depression, I'm impelled to press for more information and to remind you that you have support and you're not the only one who's felt like this. Can you explain when it started, what started it, more about how you're feeling, or anything? Sometimes getting things off your chest can open up a world of what's going on. Talk about yourself for a while--it'll help other people help you.


*big hug*

Peace.

[edited for an issue of word choice and clarity. Nothing major.]

 

[ReadyOne]

With great sympthey, I must advise you to move on.

The only way he's going to get interested in you again is if the 19 year old dumps him, and there's a 99% chance that if he came back that he would leave again.

You (he) had a very small window in which to fix things, and it's been closed for quite a while now. WHen he didn't take it, he showed you his true self. Nothing short of a miraclous conversion will change the way he is, or avoid him acting according to his demonstarted nature in the future.

Hard as it is; cut your losses and run. Any success you have with him will only be temporary and you will be hurt by him again.

PS: I speak from personal experience here...

 

[TirelessTongue]

Depression sucks

Depression sucks......... I've lost a few friends because of it, but when I look back I realize that they weren't my friends at all.

Fair weather friends only stick with you through good times, while true friends are there for you during good and bad times.

But Depression is not fun. When I'm depressed I spend money like water on material things. Things that will occupy my time to get my mind off of what depresses me.

Needless to say Latinababe, you are not alone here !!!

Try to cheer up !!!

 

[Latinababe]

I don't know you (I don't even recognize your name, sorry) because I'm a newbie, but having had a history of untreated depression, I'm impelled to press for more information and to remind you that you have support and you're not the only one who's felt like this. Can you explain when it started, what started it, more about how you're feeling, or anything? Sometimes getting things off your chest can open up a world of what's going on. Talk about yourself for a while--it'll help other people help you.


*big hug*

Peace.

[edited for an issue of word choice and clarity. Nothing major.]

Started 9 months ago he was supposed to come home and he gave me the run around so took a trip there and all the stuff came down and he said he wants to work it out but when I try and call him he don't answer. Then he said he needed time to think on a date to come home. Have been waiting 5 years to have a future with this man and seems like I'm on a pedalstool.
Do alot for this man and even concidered his kids as my own I buy them things and try to be good woman.
Just want to know what am I doing wrong. Our sex life is gr8 just the distanced we have and I was willing to move there and drop everything I have to be with him but he don't want to live there he wants to live here...Well he hasn't moved his arse at all.

If this isn't love to him what is?

 

[Latinababe]

Re: Depression sucks

Depression sucks......... I've lost a few friends because of it, but when I look back I realize that they weren't my friends at all.

Fair weather friends only stick with you through good times, while true friends are there for you during good and bad times.

But Depression is not fun. When I'm depressed I spend money like water on material things. Things that will occupy my time to get my mind off of what depresses me.

Needless to say Latinababe, you are not alone here !!!

Try to cheer up !!!

Trying to cheer up but really is hard to do when you with someone for so long.

 

[Latinababe]

With great sympthey, I must advise you to move on.

The only way he's going to get interested in you again is if the 19 year old dumps him, and there's a 99% chance that if he came back that he would leave again.

You (he) had a very small to fix things, and it's been closed for quite a while now. WHen he didn't take it, he showed you his true self. Nothing short of a miraclous conversion will change the way he is, or avoid him acting according to his demonstarted nature in the future.

Hard as it is; cut your losses and run. Any success you have with him will only be temporary and you will be hurt by him again.

PS: I speak from personal experience here...

Thank you.

 

[TirelessTongue]

Ready one speaks the best advice that anyone can speak for your situation.

 

[Ms_Kat]

After my second miscarriage, I spent almost three months so depressed that I didn't even want to get out of bed. The worst part is that I could see the pain I was causing my husband, but I just couldn't find a way to not be depressed.

The general psychobabble on depression is that it springs from unexpressed anger. Try letting yourself get angry over things and see if it help. Anger is perfectly good and healthy. Just because you feel like killing someone doesn't mean that you have to go and do it.

I'm a bit of a redneck, and have tons of goofy redneck friends. One of my best gf's has a unique way of dealing with her anger. She goes to Walmart and buys all the Barney dolls she can, then she takes them into the woods and blows their heads off with her 9mm. Anyway, she feels better when she's done.

I used to ride my horse when I was mad, but my husband pointed out that what I was really doing was punishing something I love that had nothing to do with why I was angry. Now I sit on the kids' punching bag and hit the damn clown in the mouth.

Feel free to rant and vent here. If someone doesn't like it, screw them anyway.

Anyway, just know that someone (more than one judging from the posts) out there in the big world gives a shit about you.



Hugs,





Kat

 

[NaughtyLil1]

I could never match the words of wisdom spoken here.

I know it's tough, but keep your chin up; eventually it will all fall into place.

 

[Latinababe]

Thank you all for the wise words will considered them all. Plus keep my chin up.

 

[NaughtyLil1]

Thank you all for the wise words will considered them all. Plus keep my chin up.

Good morning Latina...

Hope today is a better day for you.

 

[zhukov1943]

It hurts - like an actual "wound".

Thankfully, like most wounds, it will "scab over" later. It'll leave a "scar", but the pain will go away.

It takes time. Life sucks right now, but it will get better, I promise. Hang out with your friends - get drunk - go shopping - do stuff that gets your mind out of the hurtful rut that it's in.

And from what I've heard - you're a WONDERFUL woman. He's made a big, BIG mistake - remember that!

 

[WickedEyes]

Thank you all for the wise words will considered them all. Plus keep my chin up.

Hey there, Latina... I'm sorry to hear all that. All I can do is echo the sentaments of others here... maybe you need to ask him what the deal is? Tell him how you feel and that you're waiting for him to move or something like that and gauge his response... ask him to be honest.

Or not... you might get an answer you don't like - then again, you might get one that you were hoping for. You'll never know until you ask him.

 

[sobesundevil]

Latina, I hope that everything works out for the better! You're quite a find! Cheers!

 

[Latinababe]

Hey there, Latina... I'm sorry to hear all that. All I can do is echo the sentaments of others here... maybe you need to ask him what the deal is? Tell him how you feel and that you're waiting for him to move or something like that and gauge his response... ask him to be honest.

Or not... you might get an answer you don't like - then again, you might get one that you were hoping for. You'll never know until you ask him.

I have been asking him over and over I get no where apart from the same answer for the past 5 years not only that but I have spilled my guts out to him many times and all I get is I know I hear it everyday....I am just gonna let everything be for now.........it's better that way.

 

[Latinababe]

Latina, I hope that everything works out for the better! You're quite a find! Cheers!

Thank you sobesundevil. Cheers to U!!

 

[sobesundevil]

You're welcome, Latinababe! It's his loss!

By the way, I posted some new pics in the group...

 

[Latinababe]

You're welcome, Latinababe! It's his loss!

By the way, I posted some new pics in the group...

I will check them out hun

 

[sobesundevil]

thanks! check your pm's, too...

 

[Latinababe]

thanks! check your pm's, too...

Thank you for the pms, you are gr8!!

 

[Latinababe]

Good morning Latina...

Hope today is a better day for you.

Things are looking up for me....thank you hun and hope u have a wonderful weekend!! *huggs*

 

[Latinababe]

It hurts - like an actual "wound".

Thankfully, like most wounds, it will "scab over" later. It'll leave a "scar", but the pain will go away.

It takes time. Life sucks right now, but it will get better, I promise. Hang out with your friends - get drunk - go shopping - do stuff that gets your mind out of the hurtful rut that it's in.

And from what I've heard - you're a WONDERFUL woman. He's made a big, BIG mistake - remember that!

Thank you hun.....went and got together with a few friends today and we had a wonderful time took alot off my mind and looking up to things alot better.

 

[dreamer]

Time.

Nothing works like time. The trick is believing that now, when it hurts like this.

And when you do find that right person all the anguish seems pale and 2 dimensional.

It's a horrible feeling right now. I remember curled up in a ball against the wall, not able to stand, not able to cry anymore, and just wanting something, anything, to make it better.

Do what you need to do to get through each day. Go to bed, wake up, do something in between, be productive if you can. One of those days you will realize it hurts a little less. Use that realization to be a little more productive, work on the things you can control in your life. Then one day will come when you realize it doesn't hurt much at all.

I agree with the scar analogy, but a lot of scars don't hurt, they're just a mark of something we have been through, for better or worse.

Hang in there.

 

[cryoni]

For a former depressed guy, I want to offer you a rose.




I've been to the brink of death and still chose to stick around in this crappy world. Let me tell you it's been worth it. I now have a Beautiful wife and a energetic son, plus we have a Beautiful girlfriend. So it may sound like the same old same old, but time to think and prozac helped me. Through in time and I have the man I am today.

It may not be much but I hope the rose makes you smile, even a little.

Oh here's another