Way to a man's heart is...

[~hellbaby~]

Re: It's all that and more

Way to a man's heart, huh? Sheesh. Sparks is nice. Food and caring, loving attention is nice. Independence is nice. Being available is nice. Understanding what I say is nice. Having some basically similar world views is nice. Comfortable silence is nice. Having mostly the same values is nice.

Mental illness, or illness of any kind, in any relationship, can make things difficult. I think that's instinctual; we're programmed to mate with those who will make good on creating and caring for progeny. But humans aren't ruled by instinct, it only affects them.

All these various things enter into the equation... even our senses of attractive/unattractive are predicated on fitness to fulfill appropriate, procreational gender roles, though society does a fair job of screwing with our senses. (Who *really* wants such a skinny sex partner?)

But reasons for having a mate change as one gets older, too. The equation tends to complicate itself exponentially.

Personally, I think "ineffable" goes a long way toward describing what it takes to win *my* heart, at least. But there is one formula that has seemed, in my experience, to work quite well with all forms of human interaction, whether with mates, children or co-workers. To become a recipient of love, give it.

If that doesn't work, with the one whose heart you want to win, you at least need have no self-flagellating regret. And without regret hanging like an albatross around your neck, you're free to move on. When you can. It takes a while.

I wonder how much longer it will take. *Sigh*

Read my stories and things? I'm fairly new, still eager for lots of feedback.

My Offerings Thus Far

Thank you!

Thats an insightful post, I especially like this line

And without regret hanging like an albatross around your neck, you're free to move on. When you can. It takes a while.

I wonder how much longer it will take. *Sigh*

Your writing is nice,I read some and voted

 

[LadyJeanne]

Ah, insightful indeed. But we're not so much into self-flagellation around here. We prefer to let others do it for us - see Spanking thread (there must be one of those here somewhere).

Welcome to Lit

 

[~hellbaby~]

Ah, insightful indeed. But we're not so much into self-flagellation around here. We prefer to let others do it for us - see Spanking thread (there must be one of those here somewhere).

Welcome to Lit

That's why I omitted that part when I quoted the part I liked

 

[~hellbaby~]

That's why I omitted that part when I quoted the part I liked

Some things you just cannot enjoy alone, {until a self spanking machine is invented}

 

[Sappholovers]

Top 10 ways to my heart: Food is #9

1. Teach me something. Feed my intellectual curiosity and my imagination with something interesting to say. Make me think more wisely, more critically, more creatively.

2. Be passionately in love with logos and eros...words and the
erotic...the two things that make us most human. Make me feel life more passionately.

3. Be kind, compassionate, charitable, forgiving, generous, a good neighbor

4. Love womanhood with all of its powers and magic and beauty
(including an embrace of motherhood and multiple orgasms).

5. Be a creative artist: a poet, musician, an architect, or write beautifully.

6. Be a tomboy. Love sports, especially soccer and golf, and be bisexual.

7. Look like Elizabeth Hurley, or Halle Berry, or.... or be a beautiful woman from a foreign country.

8. Love cities and city life and the cultural life of great cities.

9. Cook beautifully

10. Love the ocean and the sun

*** off the chart: Love my kids and think they are wonderful