"We're not a chat room...."

[Lancecastor]

Paging Sally Fields....

Lance is popular?

Popular?? Jeebus, I hope not....popularity is the penultimate step before personal attacks and pariahdom in US culture, and this is a US dominated Forum.

Hold it....personal attacks...pariahdom....HEY! I AM popular!

"Paging Sally Fields. Paging Sally Fields."

Lance "They really like me! They really do!!" Castor

 

[P. B. Walker]

You don't provie much intellectual stimulation to charge a good debate. Sorry I was a let down. State an original thought or even an opinion that's beyond general playground bullshit and maybe you'll see something that you feel is "more worthy" of you in response.

*sigh* Still at it huh?

I did find your little quip in your new thread amusing. I decided to let it glide by and keep the bickering to this thread, unlike you. It's kinda funny... I say one thing... and you turn it around and say it right back. Gee... where'd ya learn that trick?

Go back to the GB. You are way outmatched here. I hope *they* who hired ya to come over here paid ya in advance. But, being the dear kind man that I am, I'll leave your tip on the dresser (not that you are worth much of a tip).

PBW "Your tip: Get some toothpaste, your breath is stank, baby!"

 

[Sandia]

Never, you did NOT see a seven inch grasshopper. Liar!

Did you know I used to think you lived in England?

***
Lavender, I'm sure PBW will correct me if I'm wrong, but I was under the impression that his interests were more subbish than dommish.

***

I really want to be the Moderator of the General Board. If Laurel makes me mod, I'll moderate the fuck outta those motherfuckers.

I think I'll make that my campaign slogan.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Never, you did NOT see a seven inch grasshopper. Liar!

Did you know I used to think you lived in England?

***
Lavender, I'm sure PBW will correct me if I'm wrong, but I was under the impression that his interests were more subbish than dommish.

***

I really want to be the Moderator of the General Board. If Laurel makes me mod, I'll moderate the fuck outta those motherfuckers.

I think I'll make that my campaign slogan.

LOL.... Sandia... you definitely have my vote for Mod of the GB!

Yanno, for some reason I thought Never lived in England too... wierd.

Actually... I wouldn't put myself in either category (sub or Dom). I'm a switch Top/bottom. I'm not a 24/7 TPE life-styler. I don't have the patience, willpower, or control to be a Dom, and I would make a very bratty, bitchy, questioning subbie. I'm curious about almost everything and I simply love to figure out how things work. I'm an engineer type by trade, so if I don't understand it I have to figure it out... I can't just "accept it". Oh, and I'm pretty anal about certain things being "just so", otherwise I just can't work. LOL. Nahh.. I keep my BDSM in the bedroom... works best for me, being who I am.

PBW

 

[Rubyfruit]

I really want to be the Moderator of the General Board. If Laurel makes me mod, I'll moderate the fuck outta those motherfuckers.

I think I'll make that my campaign slogan.

Got my panties wet.

You can moderate the fuck out of me anytime you want, Sandia.

 

[Lancecastor]

I'd like to have the moderation fucked out of me, please.

No Sandia, not by you....

Lance

Got my panties wet.

You can moderate the fuck out of me anytime you want, Sandia.

 

[P. B. Walker]

I'd like to have the moderation fucked out of me, please.

No Sandia, not by you....

Lance

I'd like to fuck a moderator... just for the bragging rights... lol.

PBW

 

[Rubyfruit]

I'd like to have the moderation fucked out of me, please.

You're moderate?

 

[Never]

If Lance is moderate, I have all the extremism of tofu.

Nope, I’m not English and I’ve never been to England. Any idea why you two thought I was?

 

[Lancecastor]

Dear TofuLite;

Okay, so I'm not very moderate....but if I have any left in me and it was to be fucked out of me....I'd want Ruby on the ass ignment, please....pleeeeease?

I thought you had a European sensibility as well....might have been the old AV you had, or perhaps it's your mellow, together, evocative yet definitive style of writing.

Cheers;

Lance

If Lance is moderate, I have all the extremism of tofu.

Nope, I’m not English and I’ve never been to England. Any idea why you two thought I was?

 

[lovetoread]

I'll admit it.

I am a never groupie.

Although I always pictured her as someone formal.

Like a member of a royal family.

I have no clue as to why,though.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Nope, I’m not English and I’ve never been to England. Any idea why you two thought I was?

Yanno... I can't even think why I did... I just did...

mmmm well I can't think of it and it'll drive me insane if I keep thinking about it... LOL... so I can't tell ya why... sowwy.

PBW

 

[RisiaSkye]

I hope she doesn't pick any more mods. One is more than enough.

I don't want to offer any advice to RS, since I suspect she considers me part of the "enemy camp," but I've seen her do more actual moderating than any other mod.

I do appreciate that.

Thanks.

I'm disturbed by how many people are willing to make assumptions about my "feelings" and opinions, though. Sandia, I don't even know you, other than as a poster. Why would I consider you an "enemy?"

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General response (no longer directed at Sandia):

A lot of people have been quite comfortable lumping all moderators together, and linking all of cymbidia's friends together, as if we're interchangeable. We're not. I've always made my best effort to be moderate, to be fair, and to keep my personal friendships out of the job. Because I've tried to do that, it's insulting to so constantly be accused of being someone's sycophant. I'm nobody's Yes-Woman.

Also, there have been intimations that someone asked people over from the GB to get involved in this. That may be the case, but I've had the sneaking suspicion that *I* was being blamed. I have not asked anyone for anything. I don't haul in others to do my job, I don't encourage people to perpetuate flame wars, and I certainly don't recruit followers to some imaginary "cause."

I happen to like Ebony, KillerMuffin, MzC, WD, and many others who don't always agree with me. Total agreement would be boring anyway. I happen to dislike a few people, but I don't make that kind of negativity common knowledge, I don't go off on people, and I've never "punished" anyone for a personality conflict--even when I've thought it was richly deserved.

I have only ONCE insulted anyone, and all I did was call them boring. And, I apologized for it almost immediately. Those of you who paint me in dishonorable colors are simply wrong. I've not behaved dishonorably. In fact, I've been so consistent in not taking sides that it has cost me in my personal life, and personal friendships. You may not like me, but you'd have a hard time supporting the claim that I'm not ethical.

The moderator situation is currently in flux. There will likely be at least one more Moderator, because I'm supposed to be on a break already. I've got huge exams in the next month, and I don't have the time to give to the forum. Right now, though, I have no idea what's going to happen about Moderating.

I do know, though, that I'm done trying to moderate a never-ending flame war. So, on that count, you're all on your own.

RisiaSkye,
Forum Moderator

 

[Sandia]

Thanks.

I'm disturbed by how many people are willing to make assumptions about my "feelings" and opinions, though. Sandia, I don't even know you, other than as a poster. Why would I consider you an "enemy?"

Sorry. I understand about being lumped into camps. I don't like it when it's done to me, and I apologize for doing it to you.

 

[Sandia]

Risia, good luck on your exams.

 

[Sandia]

Got my panties wet.

You can moderate the fuck out of me anytime you want, Sandia.

 

[Sandia]

If Lance is moderate, I have all the extremism of tofu.

Nope, I’m not English and I’ve never been to England. Any idea why you two thought I was?

I have a dim memory of this, Never, so forgive me if I get the details wrong. Seems like back in June or thereabouts you were posting to someone -- sexygirl? -- and mentioned something about going to see her. I thought the person you posted to lived in England, so I figured you did too. Weird, huh?

So you admit you didn't really see a seven inch grasshopper?

 

[Lancecastor]

Hi Risia;

Thanks for posting to my thread.

I don't think you need to explain anything to anyone; you do a good job and you are most always fair.

You also hold your tongue under pressure better than the others ever did.

I still think Mods should be Anonymous for their own good and the benefit of the Board.

Cym was anti D-men and wanted a private club with the ability to vet membership. She'll likely get her wish fulfilled elsewhere and I wish her well. I resent the lies and backstabbing backrooming she perpetrated and the dissent she created in the process. But I don't tar you with that brush, nor James.

I think your freezing of my Sticky satire thread was motivated by anger. I've seen lots worse here, that's for sure. I thank you for later considering my proposed/requested solution as fair. In the big picture, it all amounts to diddly anyway.

I believe your efforts as sole Mod will be far less stressful for yourself and everyone than the previous shituation.

And I wish you well in all things.

Cheers;

Lance

I have only ONCE insulted anyone

In fact, I've been so consistent in not taking sides that it has cost me in my personal life, and personal friendships.

You may not like me, but you'd have a hard time supporting the claim that I'm not ethical.

The moderator situation is currently in flux.

I'm done trying to moderate a never-ending flame war.

So, on that count, you're all on your own.

RisiaSkye,
Forum Moderator

 

[P. B. Walker]

A lot of people have been quite comfortable lumping all moderators together, and linking all of cymbidia's friends together, as if we're interchangeable. We're not. I've always made my best effort to be moderate, to be fair, and to keep my personal friendships out of the job. Because I've tried to do that, it's insulting to so constantly be accused of being someone's sycophant. I'm nobody's Yes-Woman.

Also, there have been intimations that someone asked people over from the GB to get involved in this. That may be the case, but I've had the sneaking suspicion that *I* was being blamed. I have not asked anyone for anything. I don't haul in others to do my job, I don't encourage people to perpetuate flame wars, and I certainly don't recruit followers to some imaginary "cause."
RisiaSkye,
Forum Moderator

Just to be clear about what I think so I don't get lumped in with anyone either

I've always thought you were an individual Risia and I didn't lump you in with the people that attacked me. I knew who they were and they never hid. They know who they are and so do I.. that's all that's important. You've always treated me fair and I've always voiced my opinion. I don't know if we've always agreed or not, but it would be wierd if we did.

I'm very sure I was one of the people that voiced the opinion that someone urged people from the GB over here. I didn't mean you when I said it... I can't speak for others. I don't go to the GB ever. But I have a vague idea who did it. Who did it isn't important actually. They are/were here. Hopefully, they'll go back home ricky tick and let this place try to reach some sort of normal state.

I've never had a problem with you Risia and hopefully you've never had a major problem with me. If you do, I urge you to bring it to me in a friendly manner and I will try to address it or fix it. I've always respected you and still do.

Peace,

PBW

 

[Rick DeVille]

Re: Re: Re: Flamers Take Note

Hi Zip;

My position on the question of flame wars is as follows:

1. Flame wars can be loads of fun, for a while, and people tend to enjoy them, for a while;

2. I prefer my flame-fights to be fun and light; when Unregistered and other Trolls (cowards!) show up or the words start to get too angry and/or mean, I stop at some point, and sometimes issue a note or two to signal my withdrawal;

3. When I do get down and dirty and say rude/mean things in the heat of discussion, I either go back and erase the words afterwards and/or apologize;

4. It takes two to tango.
Examples:

4.1 Protracted bitching with CarolineOh is of no interest to me. Besides, she's moved on to PBW last I checked.

4.2 Cym most recently was after Ruby and I was neither the first nor the last to say something about it. Cym flips out every 4-6 weeks anyway, always has, always will. It's not about me any more than it's about You or a head of lettuce at the grocery store, dude.

4.3 Dick DeVille has surfaced and has started three or four flame threads today, maybe aimed at me...check his writing versus mine and decide for yourself.

4.4 MzChrista often takes a few swipes at me each nite at about 10-11pm Eastern, but if you read the notes, you'll see that that's hardly a flame fight. I respect her and enjoy her posts, often laughing along with you at her insults towards me....flames? Ha!

5. If someones starts a flame with me....and I decide to bite...there's a good pretty good chance I'll still be standing when it's done. And I'll likely be laughing at the whole thing. It's a pron board....relax.


THE POINT IS:

* If I were in a repeated and onging battle with one person, I'd have to stand up and say "Yep, it's 50% my fault" in front of the class. But I'm not. I'm just doin my thing, havin a good time, Zip.

* I enjoy rollicking fast paced discussions that have meat on their bones.

* I've been using Lit since it launched in '96; I've been an EEF member since it launched. I know about freedom of expression and the internet. And I know about netiquette. And I believe I can handle myself in most any environment.

* It takes two to tango.

* There's plenty of whining and bitching that goes on around here anyway....always has been.

* Blaming anything on one user is infantile. Grow up & bite me is my standard (paraphrased) response to that.

Glad you enjoyed my post; hope you find the information useful;

Lance

A 10K brain attached to a 27 Gigabyte mouth.

 

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[Rick DeVille]

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hello baby

 

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[Rick DeVille]

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Evenin', Sir

I'll see you next week

 

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