What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[Xerxes82]

If I'm flirting with you, it probably means I'm not interested. When I'm interested I get too nervous and flustered to flirt properly. So instead I'll blurt out something blunt and awkward like, "I think you're the best lady on the planet and I want to look at your face every day." And that's how I got married.

This, except I'm not married. I like flirting. A lot. I'm terrible at it, but hey, that's what practice is for.

But if I'm into you, particularly if I'm REALLY into you, I'm probably petrified of fucking it up and will clam up and be a lot more formal about things. Or, like WJ, just blurt it out for everyone to hear (and probably at the worst time, if history is anything to go by).

Harmless fun is simple and enjoyable. When I want it to mean something it's startlingly difficult and awkward.

Also, maybe I'm weird, but I've always just assumed that 99% of the flirting in my life (both on Lit and IRL) falls into the harmless fun category.

People that are off limits (married, coworkers, whatever) and know it are sometimes the most fun, because nobody gets all up in their feelings and we all know it's just silly and for a lark. Hell, one of the worst things about Covid is that I don't get to see my favorite receptionist at my job anymore because that office switched to work from home. She's happily married, and a mom of several, but she and I flirt like crazy and we both love it. Hope she's doing well, now that I think of her.

 

[Orchidea73]

I was going to reply, but then read this and it sums up everything I was going to say. The only thing I'll add is that I only flirt with people I like (regardless of gender). And I do tend to be a little extra flirty with people I am actually e-boning, but hopefully not in a "make you gag" type way. If I don't like someone, I won't flirt with them at all. If they're strangers, I'll flirt and give them a chance and it could go either way.

I wasn’t sure I could convey what I wanted to say with writing, so I recoded it.
Don’t be scared, it’s short.
https://voca.ro/1n6DNfMa3pq2

 

[Cogan]

I wasn’t sure I could convey what I wanted to say with writing, so I recoded it.
Don’t be scared, it’s short.
https://voca.ro/1n6DNfMa3pq2

In Italy the waiter flirts with me as well as with my wife.

 

[saustin5432]

I have a corollary to the flirting question...do you flirt differently in public (posts) vs. not public because of the perceptions or assumptions of others (you know, the whole who is boning who rumor mill)?

 

[Orchidea73]

In Italy the waiter flirts with me as well as with my wife.

Hahahahah. I'm glad someone can confirm this.
It's harmless though, isn't it?

 

[Cogan]

Hahahahah. I'm glad someone can confirm this.
It's harmless though, isn't it?

It is, but a bit surprising the first time.
I think it's charming.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I have a corollary to the flirting question...do you flirt differently in public (posts) vs. not public because of the perceptions or assumptions of others (you know, the whole who is boning who rumor mill)?

Nope. I flirt with y'all.

You're big boys and girls. You can handle it. And if you can't, you're not really my people and that's ok, too

 

[aussiegeekygal]

hopefully your job of cleaning that mess up is done also. People cant be making out or flirting or basically doing anything around the playground with puke on them. That shit just isnt natural

There'll be no kink shaming here.

We don't yuck on other people's yum. We see it and say nothing.

 

[Orchidea73]

It is, but a bit surprising the first time.
I think it's charming.

I know what you mean. My american friend, when she came to visit me the first time had a bit of cultural shock, and didn't know how to react. We were in Rome and Romans are mega flirts. They will casually flirt with a stranger, while in Milan this is less so. Central North of Italy in general are more reserved compared with central south. So it varies even within Italy.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Meh. I've been covered in worse.

https://media2.giphy.com/media/9ohlKnRDAmotG/giphy.webp?cid=82a1493bwiqgd4hou9f19sipm9zh0m0r9bzr2x2yz9tujpbf&rid=giphy.webp&ct=g

Game on!

https://64.media.tumblr.com/bf1db33233b87ecc9eb8eaaaaf59b8aa/tumblr_ne4napRevp1r7yxrco1_400.gifv

 

[Cogan]

I know what you mean. My american friend, when she came to visit me the first time had a bit of cultural shock, and didn't know how to react. We were in Rome and Romans are mega flirts. They will casually flirt with a stranger, while in Milan this is less so. Central North of Italy in general are more reserved compared with central south. So it varies even within Italy.

I haven't been south of Florence but I've notice the difference too.
Both my daughters were very blond as kids and they always had an ice cream cone in their hand when we left a restaurant.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

If I want someone, I’m pretty direct. I flirt (poorly) with just about everyone.

Here's a question: what's the difference between good flirting and bad/poor flirting?

I love watching you in action, Fara. You're unapologetically yourself and that's wicked to watch play out. I don't really pay attention to the way you flirt but I know it when I see it.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I have a corollary to the flirting question...do you flirt differently in public (posts) vs. not public because of the perceptions or assumptions of others (you know, the whole who is boning who rumor mill)?

Often times. Yes. But if I'm flirting with you in public, it is usually because you are comfortable with it. I love flirting publicly, but too many don't want you to, because their other women will find out. (and assume there is more there)

I think I have more fun being flirty when my PMs are off though. I can be flirty, and not get PMs asking if I want more.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I wouldn't be bringing biscuits if I weren't serious.

What kind of biscuits do you bring to such a party?

 

[SassySheDevil]

What kind of biscuits do you bring to such a party?

Damn it. Now this song is in my head.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4jvVCJp429A

 

[ydahecnot]

I need to tone it down at times. Not the flirting, the Fara.

I’m nosey about this: Where do you go when you don’t live alone and e-boning commences, and it’s just too good to stop?

Not an issue anymore; my cat couldn’t care less. But I would have other tabs available for the quick click-off, and I developed lighting-quick reaction in the other arm. Phone wasn’t in play then

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I need to tone it down at times. Not the flirting, the Fara.

I’m nosey about this: Where do you go when you don’t live alone and e-boning commences, and it’s just too good to stop?

The bathroom or if it’s late at night you stay up late and ask your irl person if they would like to stay up with you and catch up on DVR’d episodes of The Bachelor. There’s no way they will and therefore you’ll be alone for hours. I’ve now seen every season like 5 times.

 

[Rapha_79]

The bathroom or if it’s late at night you stay up late and ask your irl person if they would like to stay up with you and catch up on DVR’d episodes of The Bachelor. There’s no way they will and therefore you’ll be alone for hours. I’ve now seen every season like 5 times.

Totally this! Except I ask if they’d like to watch all six and half hours of the live replay from Paris Roubaix.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Totally this! Except I ask if they’d like to watch all six and half hours of the live replay from Paris Roubaix.

Would it be inconvenient if I wanted to watch that, too?

 

[Rapha_79]

Would it be inconvenient if I wanted to watch that, too?

I’d make an exception for you

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I’d make an exception for you

Perfect. Don't mind me. I won't mind if you need to whip your dick out. Guys on bikes ARE hot as hell. I get it

 

[Rapha_79]

Perfect. Don't mind me. I won't mind if you need to whip your dick out. Guys on bikes ARE hot as hell. I get it

There’s nowhere to hide a hard-on in Lycra.

But what makes you think I only watch the guys? The women’s Paris Roubaix was amazing and I have a rather large soft spot for Lizzie Deignan.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

There’s nowhere to hide a hard-on in Lycra.

But what makes you think I only watch the guys? The women’s Paris Roubaix was amazing and I have a rather large soft spot for Lizzie Deignan.

I would be watching the guys

 

[Rapha_79]

I would be watching the guys

If that’s what it takes to get you to spend six hours with me watching cycling and drinking strong Belgian beer, I’m prepared to make that sacrifice.

 

[AmberLGreen]

I have a corollary to the flirting question...do you flirt differently in public (posts) vs. not public because of the perceptions or assumptions of others (you know, the whole who is boning who rumor mill)?

Not at all. I flirt more in public than I do in private. I don’t care who that is with. If it upsets somebody else then that is a conversation to be had between those two people. Private conversations are normally about work, life, kids, movies, clothes, music. I only have to justify my actions to myself.