What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[hairball18]

So many thoughts on this…quick bullet points…
Why are women so quick to slut shame other women? I’m totally guilty of this too.
Why do guys assume a woman talking about sex is ready to fuck everyone?
Why can’t this just be fun?

I need more coffee…

Why can't it be fun? When you see someone, why can't you just say it is good to see you. Or I like what you did with your hair, or makeup.

 

[Deleted member 5521640]

So many thoughts on this…quick bullet points…
Why are women so quick to slut shame other women? I’m totally guilty of this too.
Why do guys assume a woman talking about sex is ready to fuck everyone?
Why can’t this just be fun?

I need more coffee…

I don't slut shame women on here, at least not intentionally. If I do with any kind of subtle inference, I should be called out for it.

Some guys (not all, I want to make that clear) think women here are exclusively to service their dicks by submitting to e-boning.

Why can't this be fun? It is, for the most part, but an asshole tastes shitty, and that distaste can overwhelm the flavor of fun. So flush the shit, gargle with Listerene, and go back to sampling more fun.

I need more coffee, too.

 

[Ratchetman1982]

I don't slut shame women on here, at least not intentionally. If I do with any kind of subtle inference, I should be called out for it.

Some guys (not all, I want to make that clear) think women here are exclusively to service their dicks by submitting to e-boning.

Why can't this be fun? It is, for the most part, but an asshole tastes shitty, and that distaste can overwhelm the flavor of fun. So flush the shit, gargle with Listerene, and go back to sampling more fun.

I need more coffee, too.

I am still shaky in what E-boning really is. Does that mean I'm one of those guys that fumbles around with the clasp on a bra strap but eventually just pulls out a pair of scissors and cuts it, then says "first try"?

This place should be fun. If people choose to get off together, great! If not, there are some serious friendships that can be made.

 

[ydahecnot]

I am nosey about when Litsters (almost all of them women, it seems) have a long sig saying that they don’t want a short greeting, you have to wow them with some interesting passage, or saying what they will or won’t talk about, or specifying age range or what you have to be interested in…stuff like that.

I have never seen anything wrong with sending a PM saying something like, “How are you doing, I really found that post interesting” or somesuch. A convo shouldn’t have to be a dissertation. I have speculated to myself that it is a matter of a woman wanting to choose whom to talk to and thinning out the field of people sending PMs. Well, no worries, it usually thins me out.

Then there’s the “happily married, just here to chat.” I know firsthand that’s not always an absolute

 

[Deleted member 5521640]

I am still shaky in what E-boning really is. Does that mean I'm one of those guys that fumbles around with the clasp on a bra strap but eventually just pulls out a pair of scissors and cuts it, then says "first try"?

Close enough! You'll lose your e-virginity in no time

 

[HotChef1970]

You must have missed the part of my post where I said twice that there are many, many good guys on Lit and I would be happy to give a list. I guess it's easier to focus on the negative.
This is the first I've heard of unsolicited vagina pics. Wonder if they were real women or those men who pretend to be women? I guarantee I'm not sending my pussy out to men in the first message! lol


Amen! It's kind of along the same line of "well, you dressed that way, so you deserve what you get."

I can assure you that this did happen and though she might not want to Chilly can confirm this as she saw the messages I got


Apologies if I misunderstood your posts but I got very conflicting messages from a couple of different opinions you gave

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

So many thoughts on this…quick bullet points…
Why are women so quick to slut shame other women? I’m totally guilty of this too.
Why do guys assume a woman talking about sex is ready to fuck everyone?
Why can’t this just be fun?

I need more coffee…

I think these are super valid questions. And I also think the demographic of people doing the introspection to stay out of that pitfall is unfortunately small.

I think there are certain folks (male and female) who hate to see people repeating the mistake they made and getting hurt. I can hear Young PLP saying - "yeah but that's you! It might not happen to me." - approximately 14 seconds before it happens to her. No one here has to take anyone advice or listen to our war stories, but I think new people will be armed with good self protection if they did. I really truly hate seeing folks set themselves up for hurt or out right danger. Everyone is not as sweet as they seem.

I think everyone (male or female) deserves to parade their inner slut up and down Lit Main Street if they want. If insta-sex and easy connections are what you want, those are valid and definitely meet a need. But I do think those things come with unfortunate consequences like being lied to, being taken advantage of, and being seen as one dimensional but your people. It's the trade off.

I've said it before but "Sex is the currency of Lit" and Newbies, especially the ladies, are rich with it at first. This can cause jealousy in the ones who've spent all their currency over the years snd that's the other element of slut shaming which is totally shitty.


Ok I've rambled incoherently enough. Off to post some tits or something...

 

[SassySheDevil]

I did initially come (sp?) for the stories, and if Pmann ever comes back, I will tell him just that. On the dating site thing, would guys in real life who were sincerely wanting a date via Match or even Tinder lead with their dicks? Doubtful. Internet creeps gonna creep

One of the reasons I have my PMs off so much. Most will not say that stuff in public. If you would not say it to a person in person, what makes you think it's okay to say it on a public board. No matter what the public board is about.

When I post a picture (as an example) There is a big difference in what people say in the public rooms, vs what they PM.

Years ago. I had a guy who used to comment very nicely in the public rooms any time I posted a picture. I turned my PMs on one day and he sent me a PM telling me all the dirty things he'd do to me if I lived nearby.
I was so mad. WTF made you assume that would turn me on. After all these years of nice comments, and you come out with this, just because my PMs are on. He apologized and we moved on. But that is an example. If you wouldn't say it to a persons face, don't start your PM off that way.

 

[StacyLeigh]

Amen! It's kind of along the same line of "well, you dressed that way, so you deserve what you get."

I think it's more so "You post as though you want X, I'll send you X". This is not to say all correspondence shouldn't be respectful, but if your personality on the boards showcases a desire for something, it would be naive to think you won't get people offering it.

To answer your "phase 2" question... it's when the naive wears off and you come into Lit with open eyes, reasonable expectations, and a sense of self-awareness.

 

[AbsintheFather]

Then there’s the “happily married, just here to chat.” I know firsthand that’s not always an absolute

It's a just another way of saying "You're gonna need to work a little harder"

What was that thing about persistence?

 

[Deleted member 5521640]

I am nosey about when Litsters (almost all of them women, it seems) have a long sig saying that they don’t want a short greeting, you have to wow them with some interesting passage, or saying what they will or won’t talk about, or specifying age range or what you have to be interested in…stuff like that.

I have never seen anything wrong with sending a PM saying something like, “How are you doing, I really found that post interesting” or somesuch. A convo shouldn’t have to be a dissertation. I have speculated to myself that it is a matter of a woman wanting to choose whom to talk to and thinning out the field of people sending PMs. Well, no worries, it usually thins me out.

Then there’s the “happily married, just here to chat.” I know firsthand that’s not always an absolute

I don't have problems with short greetings (though I do have a long sig). But I do find one word PMs ("Hi") to be 1) boring, and 2) lazy. I agree with you that getting something like “How are you doing, I really found that post interesting” is perfectly fine; I have no problem with it. And I'll usually reply thanking them and I may ask them what it was that they found interesting. And that's the way you start a conversation.

 

[ydahecnot]

I like tots, but I’d prefer fries

 

[AbsintheFather]

I like tots, but I’d prefer fries

You spelled 'tits' wrong.

 

[AmberLGreen]

Bambi I don’t slut shame and I don’t judge. What people do with their lives is up to them. We have all taken different paths and will continue to do so.

Everybody should be treated with respect but that starts with ourselves.

Look at it as a whole package. Openly stating you are willing to e-bone and with multiple people draws the interest of those that want fun. Good guys and bad ones. Then there is the respect thing. In previous posts during this conversation you have said “l’m a Ho”, “I’m a slut”. Now we know that is banter and take it as such but somebody dropping in on the conversation might not see it that way and therefore treat you in that way.

No slut shaming, no judgement, just saying how it can be seen.

 

[ydahecnot]

It's a just another way of saying "You're gonna need to work a little harder"

What was that thing about persistence?

It can pay, amigo

 

[SassySheDevil]

I am nosey about when Litsters (almost all of them women, it seems) have a long sig saying that they don’t want a short greeting, you have to wow them with some interesting passage, or saying what they will or won’t talk about, or specifying age range or what you have to be interested in…stuff like that.

I have never seen anything wrong with sending a PM saying something like, “How are you doing, I really found that post interesting” or somesuch. A convo shouldn’t have to be a dissertation. I have speculated to myself that it is a matter of a woman wanting to choose whom to talk to and thinning out the field of people sending PMs. Well, no worries, it usually thins me out.

Then there’s the “happily married, just here to chat.” I know firsthand that’s not always an absolute

I have Sigs turned off. So I don't see them unless I go into a profile. I have zero issues with a guy sending a PM like that. I've met many fun people from that.

I can't stand the ones that simply say "Hey, what's up?", "HMU, I'm horny", "What are you wearing?"
I get those, more than the ones that offer conversation. At least give me something to reply to.
However. Your example above. The reply would probably be something like "Thanks, I appreciate that" because there wasn't much else offered as far as conversation goes. Especially if I post stalk you, and you have zero posts for me to grab some conversation about.
You. I can post stalk, find info on things you like or don't like. So I could reply
"Thanks, I see you are from NJ, I've never been there. Tell me about it"

 

[ydahecnot]

You spelled 'tits' wrong.

So did PLP

 

[AbsintheFather]

I have Sigs turned off. So I don't see them unless I go into a profile. I have zero issues with a guy sending a PM like that. I've met many fun people from that.

I can't stand the ones that simply say "Hey, what's up?", "HMU, I'm horny", "What are you wearing?"
I get those, more than the ones that offer conversation. At least give me something to reply to.
However. Your example above. The reply would probably be something like "Thanks, I appreciate that" because there wasn't much else offered as far as conversation goes. Especially if I post stalk you, and you have zero posts for me to grab some conversation about.
You. I can post stalk, find info on things you like or don't like. So I could reply
"Thanks, I see you are from NJ, I've never been there. Tell me about it"

Excerpt from the upcoming 'How to Pick up Girls' thread.

 

[saustin5432]

Why do guys assume a woman talking about sex is ready to fuck everyone?

Because guys talking about sex are probably considering if a warm loaf of wonderbread would be fuckable.

 

[Chillygirl]

As I was typing my post earlier I did wonder if it would come across as shaming or being judgey because that was not my intent at all.

I think Lit is the perfect place to let your inner slut out and that should go equally for both men and women here. You do what works best for you and as long as everyone involved is on the same page as far as expectations and exclusivity (or lack thereof) then you do you.

My only goal when offering advice is to hopefully help someone avoid some of the pitfalls that can come with being newer here.

I truly hope it never comes of as self-righteous or anything like that when I say that those of us who have been here for quite some time have seen enough or been there before ourselves and know that being super thirsty can lead to drowning in the wrong kind of attention sometimes. Its not meant to shame anyone, and everyone here has the absolute right to explore/present their sexuality in whatever way they are comfortable with and still be treated with respect, 100%, its just also so happens that certain types of people equate open sexuality with being easy prey...its crummy but it sort of comes with the territory on sites like this

Oh I wasn’t talking about anyone specifically or any specific post. Just something I’ve noticed all over lit in the past year.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I heard the universe whisper something about PLP's tits?

Thanks for having your hearing aids on the right channel

 

[Chillygirl]

I don't slut shame women on here, at least not intentionally. If I do with any kind of subtle inference, I should be called out for it.

Some guys (not all, I want to make that clear) think women here are exclusively to service their dicks by submitting to e-boning.

Why can't this be fun? It is, for the most part, but an asshole tastes shitty, and that distaste can overwhelm the flavor of fun. So flush the shit, gargle with Listerene, and go back to sampling more fun.

I need more coffee, too.

Yes!!!!

 

[ydahecnot]

Oh I wasn’t talking about anyone specifically or any specific post. Just something I’ve noticed all over lit in the past year.

Chilly: I think you and Bambi are getting hit in the cross-current of comments that men here being told if they go beyond one partner, they’re slime that needs to be written about on the Lit ladies room wall

 

[Chillygirl]

I think these are super valid questions. And I also think the demographic of people doing the introspection to stay out of that pitfall is unfortunately small.

I think there are certain folks (male and female) who hate to see people repeating the mistake they made and getting hurt. I can hear Young PLP saying - "yeah but that's you! It might not happen to me." - approximately 14 seconds before it happens to her. No one here has to take anyone advice or listen to our war stories, but I think new people will be armed with good self protection if they did. I really truly hate seeing folks set themselves up for hurt or out right danger. Everyone is not as sweet as they seem.

I think everyone (male or female) deserves to parade their inner slut up and down Lit Main Street if they want. If insta-sex and easy connections are what you want, those are valid and definitely meet a need. But I do think those things come with unfortunate consequences like being lied to, being taken advantage of, and being seen as one dimensional but your people. It's the trade off.

I've said it before but "Sex is the currency of Lit" and Newbies, especially the ladies, are rich with it at first. This can cause jealousy in the ones who've spent all their currency over the years snd that's the other element of slut shaming which is totally shitty.


Ok I've rambled incoherently enough. Off to post some tits or something...

And this! Words are hard today and it’s only 830 here

 

[Cogan]

So many thoughts on this…quick bullet points…
Why are women so quick to slut shame other women? I’m totally guilty of this too.
Why do guys assume a woman talking about sex is ready to fuck everyone?
Why can’t this just be fun?

I need more coffee…

I don't slut shame women on here, at least not intentionally. If I do with any kind of subtle inference, I should be called out for it.

Some guys (not all, I want to make that clear) think women here are exclusively to service their dicks by submitting to e-boning.

Why can't this be fun? It is, for the most part, but an asshole tastes shitty, and that distaste can overwhelm the flavor of fun. So flush the shit, gargle with Listerene, and go back to sampling more fun.

I need more coffee, too.

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