What exactly turns you on about your wife or girlfriend being with another man? Past or Present?

Wow you just described a huge fantasy of mine!
It was a fantasy also, which led to me talking about her traveling group. Playfully asking if she knew of any of her colleagues secretly hooking up since they all travel together, sometimes a couple weeks at a time. She was sure there was a few. She said her close friend has. That's what led me to ask if she was ever offered. That's when she mentioned this guy, and all flirting and joking about his size. It made for a unique situation, so I said she could have an experience if she wanted. She was reluctant for many reasons (caught/rumors by co-workers, my reaction if she really did, and if she could physically 'take him').

She actually told her close friend that I gave her permission.. and that friend, was the one who got her to finally partake.
 
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For me, there were always pressures on us as a couple between working, raising kids, PTA meetings, dance classes, sporting events, etc. that would interfere with our sex lives. However, on occasion, we could break out of those routines. My wife would become this hyper-sexual person, who was able to turn on another man to the point where they both wanted to fuck each other. His wanting her made her more sexually attractive to me. Seeing her so hot that she wanted to fuck him added to the pleasure. It was also like watching a live porn star. He'd fuck her, then I'd fuck her, then he'd take her again, and then it was my turn again. Sometimes, we'd spit-roast her, too. She loved having both nipples sucked on at the same time. For her, I think after getting older and having kids, she didn't feel as sexy either. Having another man crave to fuck her changed that. Believing you are sexy is the biggest part of being sexy. It was fun while it lasted.
 
There's lot of guys out there who write about their wives etc with other men. What exactly turns you on about it?

A fetish being realised? Actually watching her?
Knowing what she's really like and imagining her giving and receiving the same with someone else? Feeling submissive about it?

For me its sort of erotic knowing what she like and watching her let go the same way with another man. ie seeing her display what turns her on. And knowing that she very desirable to other men who now have the pleasure that I have experienced.

Cum on let me know!
For me it is the porn factor.
All your favorite porn you ever watched becomes like a girly magazine that shows very tame boob pics, nice but....
Watching your wife... GOD DAMN!!!!
It's surreal, no bull$hit:
- you can smell the sex, her musky odor
- you can hear the sex, not the vocals but the wet sounds, and THEN wow! you have to hear pussy farts/queefs when the cock is large especially thick, plays the pussy trumpet like the whole brass section of a philharmonic orchestra!
- you can feel..... well... After... gaping cum filled and you enter this well used pussy that you have become so very familiar with over years and many times you have...
It's void of any type of feeling/friction, you may hear "you feel like nothing" or "I can't feel you" yet within moments and I do mean moments, under a minute a HUGE intense ejaculation (where I have almost blacked out) and you are Done!
Yes sir, she is by far my favorite porn star ever!
 
It was a fantasy also, which led to me talking about her traveling group. Playfully asking if she knew of any of her colleagues secretly hooking up since they all travel together, sometimes a couple weeks at a time. She was sure there was a few. She said her close friend has. That's what led me to ask if she was ever offered. That's when she mentioned this guy, and all flirting and joking about his size. It made for a unique situation, so I said she could have an experience if she wanted. She was reluctant for many reasons (caught/rumors by co-workers, my reaction if she really did, and if she could physically 'take him').

She actually told her close friend that I gave her permission.. and that friend, was the one who got her to finally partake.
My wife has an ex-coworker who I know she texts with regularly, and I suspect it gets a little flirty at times. I'm waiting for the right moment to suggest I'd be OK with her playing with him.
 
My wife has an ex-coworker who I know she texts with regularly, and I suspect it gets a little flirty at times. I'm waiting for the right moment to suggest I'd be OK with her playing with him.
Does she travel? Oh, I see you said ex-coworker...
 
There's lot of guys out there who write about their wives etc with other men. What exactly turns you on about it?

A fetish being realised? Actually watching her?
Knowing what she's really like and imagining her giving and receiving the same with someone else? Feeling submissive about it?

For me its sort of erotic knowing what she like and watching her let go the same way with another man. ie seeing her display what turns her on. And knowing that she very desirable to other men who now have the pleasure that I have experienced.

Cum on let me know!
when I was married I wanted to watch and also wanted to end up playing with the male too. Suck his cock while she watches and make comments. Sexy comments. Clean up duty is a kink I have.
 
when I was married I wanted to watch and also wanted to end up playing with the male too. Suck his cock while she watches and make comments. Sexy comments. Clean up duty is a kink I have.
I am solely into watching her please another man and him to enjoy my girl, to experience what I have, particularly watching her make him cum :)
 
For me, there were always pressures on us as a couple between working, raising kids, PTA meetings, dance classes, sporting events, etc. that would interfere with our sex lives. However, on occasion, we could break out of those routines. My wife would become this hyper-sexual person, who was able to turn on another man to the point where they both wanted to fuck each other. His wanting her made her more sexually attractive to me. Seeing her so hot that she wanted to fuck him added to the pleasure. It was also like watching a live porn star. He'd fuck her, then I'd fuck her, then he'd take her again, and then it was my turn again. Sometimes, we'd spit-roast her, too. She loved having both nipples sucked on at the same time. For her, I think after getting older and having kids, she didn't feel as sexy either. Having another man crave to fuck her changed that. Believing you are sexy is the biggest part of being sexy. It was fun while it lasted.
good post, makes a lot of sense. Id love to a 3rd special friend for a couple. I am open to sucking his cock as well. Eating the creampie he leaves in her.
 
With my 1 Ex, we had talked about playing with another Couple and it never materialized. Ever since I have, off & on fantasized about seeing her take another guy's cock. No idea why, it just started in my head and ever since, the thought of her swallowing another guy's cum or taking his load inside her, still gets me off to this day. Haven't been with her in over 10 years.
Now the HotWife videos are so plentiful, they keep the fantasy going, since my current GF, is not into sharing At All.
 
I"ve/we've had this experience with couples and after of our get togethers I couldn't get enough of her for weeks, hyper horny. Worked for us but everyone's different
 
For me, there were always pressures on us as a couple between working, raising kids, PTA meetings, dance classes, sporting events, etc. that would interfere with our sex lives. However, on occasion, we could break out of those routines. My wife would become this hyper-sexual person, who was able to turn on another man to the point where they both wanted to fuck each other. His wanting her made her more sexually attractive to me. Seeing her so hot that she wanted to fuck him added to the pleasure. It was also like watching a live porn star. He'd fuck her, then I'd fuck her, then he'd take her again, and then it was my turn again. Sometimes, we'd spit-roast her, too. She loved having both nipples sucked on at the same time. For her, I think after getting older and having kids, she didn't feel as sexy either. Having another man crave to fuck her changed that. Believing you are sexy is the biggest part of being sexy. It was fun while it lasted.
Well said and pretty much sums up what id love to experience with my wife.
 
You took the words right out of my mouth lol! Exactly nothing!
And I totally understand that! Indeed, if you asked me during the first 20 years of our marriage I would have said the same thing.

..I'm curious as to why some are okay with it but others are not. Speaking only for myself, it is NOT because I'm ambivalent about my marriage. Not at all. ..I adore my wife and I am very protective of her and our partnership. ..But something changed after 20 years for us. ..It's like all worries about the permanence of our marriage fell away, so I have no anxieties about it.

Maybe I'll start another thread asking "why some are okay with and it and others are not."
 
With my 1 Ex, we had talked about playing with another Couple and it never materialized. Ever since I have, off & on fantasized about seeing her take another guy's cock. No idea why, it just started in my head and ever since, the thought of her swallowing another guy's cum or taking his load inside her, still gets me off to this day. Haven't been with her in over 10 years.
Now the HotWife videos are so plentiful, they keep the fantasy going, since my current GF, is not into sharing At All.
It was pillow talk for us too for many years. Hotwife videos made her extremely horny, and she would talk about the idea as we fucked. She said it was only a fantasy and would probably never happen. We didn't know anyone we would trust to be open to it, and she would not fuck a stranger. But eventually an opportunity presented itself and the fantasy happened.
 
It was pillow talk for us too for many years. Hotwife videos made her extremely horny, and she would talk about the idea as we fucked. She said it was only a fantasy and would probably never happen. We didn't know anyone we would trust to be open to it, and she would not fuck a stranger. But eventually an opportunity presented itself and the fantasy happened.
A lot of pillow talk in our bed eventually led to my wife’s two year sexual adventures with her work colleague. They traveled to various company events during that period, and always had adjoining hotel rooms. She shared a lot of details with me.

She had a very good time, and the affair helped her overcome some early sexual trauma.

I fully supported her “efforts”.

PS. The first time they fucked was on his desk. Both fully clothed, her skirt up, panties pulled aside, he pulled his cock out of his pants, and pushed in…
 
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PS. The first time they fucked was on his desk. Both fully clothed, her skirt up, panties pulled aside, he pulled his cock out of his pants, and pushed in…
While traveling for the company. They shared a ride from the hotel to the office.

When he arrived at her room one morning, she was dressed and ready to leave. He came in and grabbed her, picking her up and carrying her back to the bed. He laid her down on the mattress and reached up under her skirt pulling her panties to the side. He knelt down on the floor eating her pussy as he was pulling his cock out. He stood up and pulled her to the edge of the bed. He fucked her extremely hard non-stop until he flooded her pussy. It lasted maybe 3-5 minutes. He slowly pulled out and immediately slid her panties back in place. He buttoned himself back up as she stood up. He then took her by the hand and they walked straight out to his car.

He made her go to work with a cum filled, and weeping pussy. He made comments throughout the day about how professional she looked. No one knowing the absolute mess she was hiding down there all day.
 
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Sitting astride him, reaching out and gripping the mahogany colored oak headboard for support, I lean forward slightly, raising and lowering my wet pussy on my husband rock hard cock at a moderate pace. He is teasing my thick nipples, his thumb tips pressed slightly into them as he moves them in circles. My head tossed back, as he begins talking about me fucking another male. His words, turning me on more. "Who would you want baby..who would it be?" he asks. Without hesitation I tell him, "Gary..I wan't Gary's cock". A divorced male we met several years ago at a party, he has been with me, myself and my husband in threesomes quite a few times, and one of the few men I have met with alone, with my husbands knowledge and approval. He pinches down on my nipples as he laughs, "I knew it" as he begins fucking his cock up into me. He begings talking dirty about how he wants Gary to fuck me. He wants to arrange a day when he is gone and for me to meet Gary wearing nothing but a short black lace see through robe. He wants us to video it for his later masturbating pleasure. Watching me get fucked by another man.

I rid him faster and as he tells me he wants the ending to be Gary standing over me exploding on my face and tits, it puts me over the edge. I shove fully down on my husbands cock, tremble hard, screaming in orgasm at the thought.
 
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