What pissed you off today?

[gigi1968]

Gigi, from nearly a dozen years' experience as an educator, let me advise you of one thing that most parents never learn, and which educational administrators *hate* to have parents learn: A calm, collected, organized, *coldly* angry parent is scarier to them (administrators) than a dozen hotheaded parents.

Before you walk into the office, gather all the information you can regarding the other student's record (which they can't confirm because of confidentiality issues, but knowing that *you* know will shake them), your own son's record, the exact issues that your son and the other boy have had, what occurred in each instance, and what actions the administration took without notifying you or his father. Compare those actions with a student handbook or other written school policy concerning this type of issue, and *coldly* hang them (verbally) with any violation on THEIR part of those policies.

Get with your son and convince him that you won't be mad if he tells you the absolute truth about whatever he did, but that you *have* to have accurate information if you're going to do him any good. Don't be afraid to admit to admin any minor violations he committed, if the other child's actions are greater. Doing so only strengthens your (and your son's) case.

If necessary, take anything that will help you remain calm, collected, organized and cold, from St. John's Wort to any prescribed-to-you anti-anxiety or antidepressant you feel will help you do so. Remember, the more logical and cool you can remain, the more nervous and defensive *they* will become. Good luck to you; I'm aiming an antenna your way!

Thank you for the good advice. I have already done this, as I have been dealing with the system for 14 years for my oldest son and now with different issues 10 years for him. I have a handle on the incident from today, along with talking with other students who witnessed the event. I guess one of the main issues I have is that the school was not following his IEP, and the other issue is the previous event which I learned about from the other student's mother while we waited for our sons to be released. I will be contacting an advocate for my son from the state. Not legal aid, but advocate that deals with special needs issues, as part of the responsibility is with the school not following the IEP, which therefore allowed the situation to take place.
I will let you know what happens. And yes, I will be taking something to help me stay calm in the meantime.

 

[Bi_Kitty]

A week and a half ago I was out with viv and MIS. I was wearing a short-sleeved shirt and shorts, and was sweating my sock off. I was even grousing at MIS for not bringing sunscreen as she burns easily.

Over this past weekend, the highs were in the high 80's, and the lows were in the low 60's.

Today? The high is a rainy 57F, and I saw a snowflake or three when I was in Richmond.

Crazy.

My brother is station near you. Mom said that he was bitching tonight about how cold it has been. And how it will probably start snowing soon and how he will have to learn how to drive on that plus learn to drive the different vehicles.

That ought to be interesting. *snickers*

 

[Cattypuss]

Traffic jams making me miss my denist's appointment. Now I'll have to pay for the consultation even though I didn't get one.

 

[miaction69]

weird emails i'm getting from an unknown person....they have links - and the links are psuedo myspace pages of people I know...i'm intrigued...but also pissed off - i'm guessing i might know who it is - and they're not telling me anything i don't already know...wtf do people bother to waste their time in trying to upset people....for what reason....I don't get it.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

weird emails i'm getting from an unknown person....they have links - and the links are psuedo myspace pages of people I know...i'm intrigued...but also pissed off - i'm guessing i might know who it is - and they're not telling me anything i don't already know...wtf do people bother to waste their time in trying to upset people....for what reason....I don't get it.

I hope you're not clicking on those links ...... strange links = viruses

 

[miaction69]

I hope you're not clicking on those links ...... strange links = viruses

yeah i know they have viruses...but the emails are titled....check out 'name of person i know' pseudo site - so i figure of they know his name they must know i know him...kind of thing.

 

[Aquila1]

Bloody spring equinox - seriously, I can't stand much more of this weather. In the last month it's been crazy - wind, rain, storms, hail, snow, fog. And don't even get me started on earthquakes; the seismic activity in the Pacific region is just mental at the moment. And I really really want to be outside in the garden or out fishing.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

yeah i know they have viruses...but the emails are titled....check out 'name of person i know' pseudo site - so i figure of they know his name they must know i know him...kind of thing. i used to do soem work for a band and people seem to think i need to know all..of which i already know LOL - but why they bother I have no idea.

Probably some jerk who has some imaginary issues with you and thinks he can be an annoyance if nothing else. I had someone like that stalked me for years even asked men for cyber in a womans name saying he was me! Tried it on with a friends fella then sent her the log

 

[Cattypuss]

They said it would be sunny today and i's not and I had a day-long country walk planned and now I'm not so sure.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

A couple of days ago, the high was 33º; tomorrow (Sunday's) low is projected at 45º with a high of 75º. :Blink: Pew-moan-ya weather, for sure, especially when it drops back from Sunday's high into the 20s and 30s and even 40s.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

A guy in an American chatroom saying it's ok to hit hard on a woman if she hits you first I can't get my head round it ever being ok to hit a woman. With his way of thinking if he got fresh and she slapped him it would be ok to knock the living daylights out of her

 

[Kajira Callista]

A man who has spent only one 6th the amount of time raising his children then his spouse actually being allowed to file for custody.

 

[MisterSir]

A guy in an American chatroom saying it's ok to hit hard on a woman if she hits you first I can't get my head round it ever being ok to hit a woman. With his way of thinking if he got fresh and she slapped him it would be ok to knock the living daylights out of her

There's an easy solution to the whole "is it right to hit women" dilemma, you know - don't fucking hit us in the first place. No, it's not funny when you punch us and act like it's a joke, why would you think that to begin with?

 

[StrayKat]

There's an easy solution to the whole "is it right to hit women" dilemma, you know - don't fucking hit us in the first place. No, it's not funny when you punch us and act like it's a joke, why would you think that to begin with?

There are ways of restraining someone who hit you without hitting back.

If I would let myself come to the point of hitting someone that would be anything but joke. I only did that once in my 45 years - and I didnt start the fight. It ended with me almost slitting his throat with broken beer bottle, I managed to hold back because that man is the father of my children. It was ugly. I never want to come in that kind of situation again.

There is always an option to turn your back and walk away, you know. Personally, if I let myself be provoked I blame my lack of self control not the person who provoked me.

 

[minx1]

There's an easy solution to the whole "is it right to hit women" dilemma, you know - don't fucking hit us in the first place. No, it's not funny when you punch us and act like it's a joke, why would you think that to begin with?

Having been in a physically violent relationship, I don't condone hitting women or the abuse of women at all. And I have to agree...hitting men or abusing them in a similar fashion is completely unacceptable.

 

[OldGuy1026]

A guy in an American chatroom saying it's ok to hit hard on a woman if she hits you first I can't get my head round it ever being ok to hit a woman. With his way of thinking if he got fresh and she slapped him it would be ok to knock the living daylights out of her

I know quiet a few guys when I was in the Army who just can't handle having a woman slap them in the face. You know see a cute gal pat her on the behind, and wham! She puts her hand print on your face. Well I don't like it, but yea it puts me in my place. But some guys, perfect profile for a combat soldier, they hall off and just punch them good.

I think my spin on this is different, let's not violate each other to start with. Have a little respect, and go from there.

Song in my heat R.E.S.P.E.C.T. Find out what it means to me. Aritha Franklin, lovely lady.

 

[UnderYourSpell]

There's an easy solution to the whole "is it right to hit women" dilemma, you know - don't fucking hit us in the first place. No, it's not funny when you punch us and act like it's a joke, why would you think that to begin with?

So if a guy puts his hands where they don't belong and won't take no for an answer she has no right to slap him? Anyway this guy wasn't talking about a slap back he was talking about laying into her hard enough to really hurt. So I must now live in fear that I can't defend myself and a man can touch wherever he wants and I can't do anything about it?
Perhaps it's a sore subject with me after being beaten as a child and if anyone hit me now it wouldn't take much to knock me down. I do know one guy who confessed to me that his wife used to get into rages and really belt him and punch him (which is also very wrong) but he never ever retaliated

 

[WriterDom]

Just the cold weather. It's 52 and in a few days will be back to 72. I'm not a big fan of Winter.

 

[ivantheterrible]

i try not to let it piss me off, but the fact that my exwife, and her entire family is doing their best to keep me from seeing my kids. they don't even try to let my mom and dad see them either.
i just try to remember that one day all that will come up and bite them on the ass, when the kids realize just how ridiculous they are.

 

[Sixoclock]

What didn't?

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

Watch him leave.

Didn't piss me off, just made me very sad.

 

[OldGuy1026]

Watch him leave.

Didn't piss me off, just made me very sad.

for me it's her, but yea, "hugs" I know

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

for me it's her, but yea, "hugs" I know

Thank you and hugs back!

 

[sb2009]

car not starting. needing to change appt for flu shots. not a neighbor on my street is home to jump my car LOL Embarrassed that I had to call roadside assistance to come to my driveway!

 

[OldGuy1026]

car not starting. needing to change appt for flu shots. not a neighbor on my street is home to jump my car LOL Embarrassed that I had to call roadside assistance to come to my driveway!

Oh dear, sounds like your car caught the same flu my truck had two weeks ago. Sorry

Hugs!