What's the worst PM you've ever got?

[alwaysaway]

Is that why you’ve got all those different aliases with only a few posts?

Only because you don’t want the sad dick pics being sent from your own account.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Fresh meat to show their sad meat to.

#stalesausage

 

[KinkyLaughs]

The "Hi" variety...

 

[Orchidea73]

I do hear a lot about the random, unsolicited cock pics. Whilst I think they exist, I do wonder if their prevalence is as common as we are led to believe.

I think it would be an interesting but if information to know how many people receive them.

I've never received them. I've received only one unsolicited nude pic, after a year I was here and from someone who was active on the boards (still is), annnd I blocked him. Overall, I've been lucky with random pervs.

 

[Nevyn_Black]

I've never received them. I've received only one unsolicited nude pic, after a year I was here and from someone who was active on the boards (still is), annnd I blocked him. Overall, I've been lucky with random pervs.

You like random pervs then? *covers open mouth in shock*

 

[Orchidea73]

You like random pervs then? *covers open mouth in shock*

I'm not sure how did you arrived to that conclusion but okay. lol

 

[Nevyn_Black]

I'm not sure how did you arrived to that conclusion but okay. lol

You said you had been lucky with random pervs and I was being silly. I do that sometimes, but it comes off as creepy or stupid. Sorry.

 

[Orchidea73]

You said you had been lucky with random pervs and I was being silly. I do that sometimes, but it comes off as creepy or stupid. Sorry.

I didn't thought it was creepy. Just confused a bit. The question was how many of us have received unsolicited cock pictures randomly. I said I have never received them, hence me being "lucky".

Very few people have bothered me, in general, since I've been here. And those few were not totally random strangers but people with whom I had some form of interaction. I have received few msg. from random strangers, at the beginning, trying to get intimate from the get go. But they never bothered me when I replied; "Thank you, but I'm not interested.", which is basically my standard reply.

I don't consider that an annoyance. A guy can try. I never blame them for that. In some way, they are paying you a compliment, whether intentionally or not. I only blame them when they don't get the msg. the first time around. That's being thickheaded, or intentionally stupid, and I do not like either.

 

[Nevyn_Black]

I didn't thought it was creepy. Just confused a bit. The question was how many of us have received unsolicited cock pictures randomly. I said I have never received them, hence me being "lucky".

Very few people have bothered me, in general, since I've been here. And those few were not totally random strangers but people with whom I had some form of interaction. I have received few msg. from random strangers, at the beginning, trying to get intimate from the get go. But they never bothered me when I replied; "Thank you, but I'm not interested.", which is basically my standard reply.

I don't consider that an annoyance. A guy can try. I never blame them for that. In some way, they are paying you a compliment, whether intentionally or not. I only blame them when they don't get the msg. the first time around. That's being thickheaded, or intentionally stupid, and I do not like either.

Interesting. I would have assumed that most women who frequent this site automatically dislike any man who propositions them without prior permission or at least some form of approval or mutual interest. I have never to my knowledge intentionally propositioned anyone here without at least getting to know them. I try very hard not to proposition at all. I've only ever sent an unsolicited dick pick once in my life and I was drunk on medication, so I was forgiven.

 

[Sundayschild]

Had a couple of Dear John's back when. Just part and parcel of getting involved I guess. But I've never had any kind of attack, gross messages, nasty stuff etc. Likely because I'm a guy.

 

[Orchidea73]

Interesting. I would have assumed that most women who frequent this site automatically dislike any man who propositions them without prior permission or at least some form of approval or mutual interest. I have never to my knowledge intentionally propositioned anyone here without at least getting to know them. I try very hard not to proposition at all. I've only ever sent an unsolicited dick pick once in my life and I was drunk on medication, so I was forgiven.

Don't get me wrong. It's not that I particularly like it. But it doesn't make me angry or even bother me, just because they want to give it a try. I don't think it works, in general, but who knows? It's not like I have statistics. It certainly doesn't work with me, but I don't see it as an insult per se. I'm not talking about dick pic. Those are plain stupid. I just roll my eyes and ignore or block. lol I'm talking about "propositions", subtle or overt, or just a compliment.

I mean, how many times we've had those advances from guys while in a dancing club, party or even while walking in the streets? Now, it depends from the context and situation. If someone is following you and it's dark, or he's just saying to you lurid things, that's creepy and dangerous. But a guy who in broad daylight is smiling at me and making a compliment? I don't see why would I be angry about that. I say thank you, smile back and move on.

In my experience, a clear cut, short and simple reply (or no reply at all) with a smile thrown in it, goes a long way in shutting down unrequired and undesired attention you might get. At least, based on my personal experience and/or observations.

For what is worth, I think your approach to it is the right one.

 

[Anastasia1999]

A few “Dear Marys” back in the day that hurt like hell, a couple of drunken insults and a smattering of crude one liners from random zero post count posters, but other than that I have been lucky.

 

[Sundayschild]

A few “Dear Marys” back in the day that hurt like hell, a couple of drunken insults and a smattering of crude one liners from random zero post count posters, but other than that I have been lucky.

Enough about my messages - what about from other people?

 

[Btq97]

On the thread about inappropriate threads I suggested one about would you do your mum or the listers about you mum.

Some time later I got a pm from some who said they had.

When I asked they told me the mentioned the post on the inappropriate threads thread.

 

[Wildfly11]

I've received a lot of awful PMs..
One being would I want to take a dump on the person....

Okay that's a bit extreme...in my view anyway.

 

[AsianFusion]

A gentleman from a very long way east of me PMd promising he can arrange to have a gang of men do um certain things to me if I can find my way to Ankara. I'm using the word 'gentleman' a bit loosely here. I can't decide whether it's the worst PM I've ever had, or the best. Either way though, Ankara isn't very convenient for me.

 

[bone251]

It is the apathy of not getting a reply.

I read a lot of this girls post like I always did. Then I sent her a few things that were interesting and similar to her posts. Hitachi torture, clit spanking.

Even a thanks for the PM would be nice, just to say you got the PM.

It has been a long time since I sent a PM. It will be longer before I will again.

 

[Krigirl1233]

I once got…. Do you take it in the ass?

No hi, no hello, no how are you, no how do you like Lit

My reply was equally nasty LOL

 

[cheekygirl75]

Yup.
My boundry. Do not send a PM.
Unless they were an escort, Those girls are nice to chat with. Until they they get chased away.
The PM system does not share any personal information. Not much need for a boundary. I see it as apathy.

 

[bone251]

Yup.
My boundary. Do not send a PM.
Unless they were an escort, Those girls are nice to chat with. Until they they get chased away by the girls on this board.
The PM system does not share any personal information. Not much need for a boundary. I see it as apathy.
I do not expect to be owed anything. I do post, so I am visible.
I also understand it is a lit type board, you know a forum to communicate. The communication I get in this thread is pretty clear.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Yup.
My boundary. Do not send a PM.
Unless they were an escort, Those girls are nice to chat with. Until they they get chased away.
The PM system does not share any personal information. Not much need for a boundary. I see it as apathy.
I do not expect to be owed anything. I do post, so I am visible.
I also understand it is a lit type board, you know a forum to communicate. The communication I get in this thread is pretty clear.

You're welcome to see it that way. I do think it's a self limiting point of view.

If you're truly interested in connecting with women here, there are some truly great ladies here offering you their perspective. Putting this on the recipient is allowing you to not examine further. Are you interested in chatting with people in PMs? If so, you've got to learn how to approach people respectfully. It's a hit or miss even when you've got good game.

I don't respond to every PM and eventually turned them off because I can't handle that kind of activity.

 

[Anastasia1999]

I let a zero posts guy slide into my PMs recently, he ended up sending me tonnes of dick pics and got really nasty when I didn’t reply to him immediately.

Never again

 

[stxjimmy]

Why? For telling the truth about intractable racial differences in qualities necessary to create successful societies and civilizations?

Go easy, he and only he knows the truth (at least in his head)

 

[Tribe77]

My big fear is coming off very dull in my PM's. But being kind in the outreach is quite easy. No excuse for being gross.

 

[Cotswolds]

Got a PM a while ago, couldn't tell if it was from a guy or a gal, it simply read "show me your cock".

I didn't respond as I only keep hens.