Why do older men become bi-curious?

[klippert]

we become "Bi"..because we want to get our nut off, and not have too invest or work hard at it...Simple. No Pop, Forum or T.v. "expert" Psychology about it.
you can find a 1000 sites in a Google instant...100s of apps. willing guy with no reciprocation...suck and fuck... then leave. no emotion, snuggling or anything.

Just get it off....that's that

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I think

that just about nails it.

 

[Bearsleeve]

two cents

they say we are developing more estrogen at our age
I was born this way so I don't know any difference.
I know I like a man kissing me more than I did when I was younger.
And I get excited by a man sucking my nipples.
I have always like naked.

 

[Bearsleeve]

I empathized with this story completely.
Almost all of it is true for me too.
My wife gave me permission to suck dick; but she didn't want to hear about it.

 

[bottomshooter]

When I was younger, it was all about women. Their bodies, their ways, the way they think and feel. I still find the form of a woman more attractive than a man. Outside of this virtual world, I don't find men attractive. However, the thought and fantasy of having sex with a man dominates my thoughts and my sexual fantasies. I find the female orgasm so fascinating. I used to never think of the male orgasm but now I find an erupting cock so fucking hot. I used to be repulsed by the idea of being with a man. Now, I want to fuck and be fucked by and with a man -- REPEATEDLY!

Why? I don't know and stopped caring a long time ago. It used to bother me but now I accept it and indulge in gay fantasy daily. I feel it is inevitable as I went from reading stories, to watching videos, to PMs on Lit, to YIM, to phone sex, to camming. My experiences with men have been incredibly satisfying. I can't believe how many orgasms I have had when I think about it over the years. I find with some men, I am a switch, with others, I am a Dom and with some men, I am all Sub. I've shared thoughts of making slow love with men to having a man on his hands and knees as my hand pulls his hair, cocking his head back, as I shoot my seed deep in his ass to wanting to just bend over and have my man shoot his seed in me.

I don't know why but it sure is a lot of fun!

 

[guns44]

What constitutes "older" men? My bi desires started about 26 or so

 

[quipogo]

Hi,

Very interesting thread. I am a novice writer with 4 stories published here. My stories are mostly about straight men who sexually submit to other men. I must say that I did not expect that so many people liked my stories, and I am very greatful to all the comments that I have received about them.

I found out that there are a lot of men struggling with the things which I write about, and surprisingly to me, a lot of them over 50, 60 and even 70. While trying to understand my own desires, I have thought a lot about this question and I have done some research.

In psichology, there is a thing called SMSM (Straight Men who have Sex with Men). It describes perfectly my case, and I believe that can explain also the behavior of many of those men.

In short, that behavior supposes a way to scape from a painfull situation. It is not unfrequent that in veteran marriages there is a lack of sexual desire from the woman side, which affects the self-confidence of the man. The way to scape from that distressing feeling is to be submisive to "real men" (that's the fantasy).

The important thing is to be concious about your own situation and don't blame yourself, there is nothing wrong with the fact of having sex with other men or have desires about it, if that's what you want.

I hope this helps.

PS: Here you have an interesting reading about SMSM:
http://www.glbtqarchive.com/ssh/straight_men_who_S.pdf

 

[nightguy178]

I have always been Bi just more so now. I am willing to try about anything

 

[notcynicalyet]

What would you do?

37 yrs ago I had my first experience with a HS classmate. We were both seniors (18 yo) but hung out with different crowds. One night just before graduation we went to see The Exorcist, and then headed to his house to hang out and have a couple of beers. We got a little drunk so I ended up staying the night with him. He only had a queen size bed, so we crashed together. At some point in the middle of the night I woke up to find his arm around me and his hand resting in my crotch. He gently began massaging me and I found myself becoming very aroused. Eventually, I reached back behind me and found his swelling member. Our breathing quickened as we both grew harder. My passion overcame me and I rolled over to face him and said, "You must never tell anyone about this." He replied, "I won't." I then pulled the blanket over my head as I released his warm, swollen cock from his underwear. Not believing what I was doing, I slid down until my mouth took him fully in. despite my inexperience and doubtless clumsiness, it wasn't long until he grabbed my head, moaned, and unloaded what seemed like a river. I was in shock by what I was doing, but just kept swallowing until I felt him go limp. Neither of us knew what to do, and we never spoke of it. He kept his promise as far as I know.
Fast forward 37 years, and I recently came across him on Facebook. We've been chatting back and forth over the past couple of weeks, but always just friendly catching up. I'm married with 2 kids...he never married. The more we chat, the more I wonder if I should say something about that night. I find myself increasingly aroused and fantasizing about a repeat event, but wonder if I should just leave it in the past. I should say that we live several States apart, so it's not a simple thing to meet. But, he's mentioned a couple of times that he's been hoping to visit Texas soon, so the opportunity may arise. Just curious to hear from others what you would do. Be kind!

 

[guns44]

37 yrs ago I had my first experience with a HS classmate. We were both seniors (18 yo) but hung out with different crowds. One night just before graduation we went to see The Exorcist, and then headed to his house to hang out and have a couple of beers. We got a little drunk so I ended up staying the night with him. He only had a queen size bed, so we crashed together. At some point in the middle of the night I woke up to find his arm around me and his hand resting in my crotch. He gently began massaging me and I found myself becoming very aroused. Eventually, I reached back behind me and found his swelling member. Our breathing quickened as we both grew harder. My passion overcame me and I rolled over to face him and said, "You must never tell anyone about this." He replied, "I won't." I then pulled the blanket over my head as I released his warm, swollen cock from his underwear. Not believing what I was doing, I slid down until my mouth took him fully in. despite my inexperience and doubtless clumsiness, it wasn't long until he grabbed my head, moaned, and unloaded what seemed like a river. I was in shock by what I was doing, but just kept swallowing until I felt him go limp. Neither of us knew what to do, and we never spoke of it. He kept his promise as far as I know.
Fast forward 37 years, and I recently came across him on Facebook. We've been chatting back and forth over the past couple of weeks, but always just friendly catching up. I'm married with 2 kids...he never married. The more we chat, the more I wonder if I should say something about that night. I find myself increasingly aroused and fantasizing about a repeat event, but wonder if I should just leave it in the past. I should say that we live several States apart, so it's not a simple thing to meet. But, he's mentioned a couple of times that he's been hoping to visit Texas soon, so the opportunity may arise. Just curious to hear from others what you would do. Be kind!

I would forsurely mention it! maybe once you have been chatting about the good old days, casually bring up that one night, and say man that was fun I fantasize about it time to time. Then the ball is in his court! Im very jealous you have at least had the one experience I have had none, but fantasize ofthen! Good luck, keep us updated!

 

[BearMe]

I would forsurely mention it! maybe once you have been chatting about the good old days, casually bring up that one night, and say man that was fun I fantasize about it time to time. Then the ball is in his court! Im very jealous you have at least had the one experience I have had none, but fantasize ofthen! Good luck, keep us updated!

I agree with guns on this. No harm in mentioning the good old days!

 

[notcynicalyet]

I agree with guns on this. No harm in mentioning the good old days!

Thanks, guys. Leaning toward same. I'll let you know how it turns out.

 

[CuriousEd]

Why do older men become bi-curious?

Because cum is an acquired taste.

 

[Y_Diner]

I'm an older guy that only this past year got into cock and cross dressing. The thing is, I've gone for it big time, and am really enjoying myself. I'm single, and although I'm seeking less women these days, I'm having fun (and being safe!) going more and more down the rabbit hole. For example, it took me a while to want to get rid of my body hair, and then a long while not being effective at it...recently got gloriously smooth...my point is that it's all recent. I'm letting my still full head of hair grow - no haircut since August. I love my long hair, and I'm looking forward to making it more gurly. My version of all of this that I'm a 'sen-ager' - a senior teenager. It's permanent summer vacation, and I've no one to answer to! I know that being retired helps in that regard.

...so I've been sucking a lot of cocks, and loving it.

and this is what I say to all you older, isolated guys: Cum take a vacation in New Orleans. Anyone here has an honest invite for me to be their personal tour guide/cocksucker.

 

[bicurnow]

37 yrs ago I had my first experience with a HS classmate. We were both seniors (18 yo) but hung out with different crowds. One night just before graduation we went to see The Exorcist, and then headed to his house to hang out and have a couple of beers. We got a little drunk so I ended up staying the night with him. He only had a queen size bed, so we crashed together. At some point in the middle of the night I woke up to find his arm around me and his hand resting in my crotch. He gently began massaging me and I found myself becoming very aroused. Eventually, I reached back behind me and found his swelling member. Our breathing quickened as we both grew harder. My passion overcame me and I rolled over to face him and said, "You must never tell anyone about this." He replied, "I won't." I then pulled the blanket over my head as I released his warm, swollen cock from his underwear. Not believing what I was doing, I slid down until my mouth took him fully in. despite my inexperience and doubtless clumsiness, it wasn't long until he grabbed my head, moaned, and unloaded what seemed like a river. I was in shock by what I was doing, but just kept swallowing until I felt him go limp. Neither of us knew what to do, and we never spoke of it. He kept his promise as far as I know.
Fast forward 37 years, and I recently came across him on Facebook. We've been chatting back and forth over the past couple of weeks, but always just friendly catching up. I'm married with 2 kids...he never married. The more we chat, the more I wonder if I should say something about that night. I find myself increasingly aroused and fantasizing about a repeat event, but wonder if I should just leave it in the past. I should say that we live several States apart, so it's not a simple thing to meet. But, he's mentioned a couple of times that he's been hoping to visit Texas soon, so the opportunity may arise. Just curious to hear from others what you would do. Be kind!

If he cums to Texas my bet is you both will!

 

[boxmaker]

Was caught short out working today, had a pee behind some trees, imagine my surprise when I turned round to find a young man watching me...

 

[monanympho]

IT is beacuse they realise they are missing on some easily available action at almost 0 cost! Also, the opportunity just doubles!

 

[Man4Strapon]

This might have been mentioned in a previous post but I am too lazy to check. I have a few theories as to why older men become bi-curious:

Sex at home is lacking. Wives often lose their libido before men or at very least their willingness to try new things so sex with her becomes very routine and boring.
This causes men (especially those who do not want to be unfaithful) to turn to porn. The easy availability and wide range of fetish porn leads him to check out genres he would never have rented from the old video stores a few years ago. This eventually becomes an exploration from one kinky scene to another which inevitably leads to some type of bisexual content.

Plus, unlike in the 70s and early 80s when these older men first were exposed to porn, the male stars in porn nowadays are attractive muscular young studs with huge cocks. Admiration for these men begins which soon becomes attraction.

Obviously this theory isn't true of every unsatisfied husband but I suspect it is the case with many, and is in fact why I (42) believe I have developed bicurious desires.

When sex with my wife was regular and exciting, porn wasn't something I needed. But as the years went by and the no's from my wife became more frequent, I turned to porn. The conventional porn eventually became redundant and I suddenly found myself admiring shemales. Gay or bi scenes did nothing for me, it was simply a gorgeous woman who happened to have a cock, was my thinking.

But before long I began watching cuckold porn where the cucks are often forced to perform acts that are bordering -- if not outright -- homosexual.
From there bisexual porn became my porn of choice. Having a woman in the scene made it "less-gay"in my internal justification.

Soon though I became familiar with the men in these scenes and began watching any scene they were in, some of which were gay scenes with no women. Before long watching gay porn became a regular habit. And from there the curiosity and desire to have a bisexual or gay experience grew.

 

[Jerseyshore]

This is a fascinating thread!

As a 61-year-old gay man I have in recent years come across several men that for whatever reason have long suppressed their interest in M2M sex or are just developing those desires. One local friend had suppressed his desires for many years, found out I was gay, and after several conversations we hooked up. At first he was a bit hesitant to explore, but after a few times he began to relax and became much more intimate. HE understands his desires and is quite comfortable with gay sex. I have been encouraging and get pleasure myself in watching him grow and realize that his desires are perfectly OK.

I encourage anyone in that situation to explore and enjoy

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

It's crazy ever since I came here and started chatting with bi guys I never knew I had these urges . Now it's all I think about . Wish I could find some one discreet . Someone who we could have fun and not have to worry .

Apparently so many here have the same idea

 

[prowood]

I agree as well, just have to feel like the guy and time are right. haven't done it yet either but looking for the opportunity more and more it seems. Lots of desires and fantasies here!

 

[hicutpanties]

I wonder...

I have always been curious about sex with another man. I got divorced and went through with it after a lot of nervous thought. I love gay sex and it felt so natural to me. Now all my fantasies are about sex with men. Have I passed curious to all gay? I wonder....

 

[notcynicalyet]

I have always been curious about sex with another man. I got divorced and went through with it after a lot of nervous thought. I love gay sex and it felt so natural to me. Now all my fantasies are about sex with men. Have I passed curious to all gay? I wonder....

Why slap another label on it? Enjoying one aspect of your sexuality doesn't necessarily preclude others. If you're still attracted to women, so be it. You've just opened some new doors. Have fun!

 

[hicutpanties]

Well...

It's funny. ..I don't mind the label even find it sexy!

 

[LeeNorCal]

I don't know about anybody else, but I find sex with other guys is just plain easier than sex with women. I know lot's of guys who would whip out their cocks and let me suck it. Women, on the other hand, although I do love 'em, just take too much energy and time.