Why do older men become bi-curious?

[whistler1]

I have never researched this, but it is not surprising. I imagine may of these men had same-sex attractions when young, but never did anything about them because it was not socially acceptable. They dated women, got married and had kids. Maybe they waited for the kids to grow and move out of the house or wait to get get divorced or they ended up widowers. At that point, then then let their same-sex curiosity resurface. Some act on it and some do not.

 

[hubbyinstockings]

Not in my case

Never had any bisexual thoughts previously, after having a fantastic sex life with the wife for many years and we did many things together and the memories will never fade, but now in my latter years and the body and bits not what they were my mind is still very active sexually and after playing the macho man for many years I now find being submissive to a guy a real turn on, and knowing I can turn a guy on and also give pleasure is a great feeling.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Because

we realise we're running out of time.

 

[LucyHall2]

What a fascinating thread. As a submissive, mature lesbian I find reading your thoughts on same sex love in mature men enthralling. I think there's a truth to many of your theories but it's my hypothesis that, as men, theres an expectation to be in the driving seat (so to speak) sexually, but I truly believe that an extremely large section of the population of both sexes have strong submissive desires. But, unlike women, for men this is something they can rarely express socially or sexually. As a result they bottle it up. Coupled with the fact that most men and women will have had some innocent, tentative same sex exploration in younger years, many of us have also suppressed same sex desires.

Put those suppressed same sex desires with the suppressed submissive urges together, then add the way age removes certain pressures (kids grow up, divorces happen, loved ones pass away and age takes away the pressure to be strong and in control allowing a certain vulnerability to manifest) and BINGO.

Lots of mature men wanting to be under the sexual power of another man.

 

[2moreyardsofsail]

I’m 62 married and curious, this is a wonderful thread. My wife and I have discussed our desire. I hope the situation presents itself to us. Thank you all for the opinions presented here.

 

[Bigspurt]

As we get older

I think it is simply that our wives have lost interest is sex and we haven't. Sure one can find self pleasure with a keyboard, an internet connection and a screen but after a while I think a warm welcoming mouth becomes more attractive. I haven't taken the plunge yet, at least with another guy. I do notice that there are single men backed into parking places in a particular parking lot which is adjacent to a park (not the main lot for that park) and I'm pretty sure it is because they want to hook up with other men.
There have been news stories in my area regarding these sorts of meets where "vice" approaches the waiting guy, often with his pants unzipped and they bust him for indecency. Of course one had to walk up to the car window to see anything indecent, but that's the law.

 

[Mscott9004]

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[tmmmbrrr]

openness

its not just men and there are countless reasons why as we age, some of us become open to same gender sexuality. if there's a common quality, its openness and when any of our personal stories create a reason to imagine a different outcome from what we know, some of us eventually follow through. Everybody's story is different, but everybody who became interested in their own sex had to be open to it and it could take a lifetime for such openness to come about.

 

[tonycurinmass]

its not just men and there are countless reasons why as we age, some of us become open to same gender sexuality. if there's a common quality, its openness and when any of our personal stories create a reason to imagine a different outcome from what we know, some of us eventually follow through. Everybody's story is different, but everybody who became interested in their own sex had to be open to it and it could take a lifetime for such openness to come about.

I experimented when young and have done nothing since (now 51). I believe it's always been in the back of my mind it's just that having young kids and a busy career have keep me busy over the last 15-20 years. Now that the kids are getting older and the sex at home is slowing down I wonder how long it will be before the curiosity takes over and I have to try it again!

 

[WerdNerd]

Gentlemen ? Pictures. Also do you like younger women who are into bi guys ?

Pictures on my AmPics thread and yes I do like younger women who are into bisexual guys.

 

[jackbird]

The more cuck videos I watch the more I hope that the cuck gets a turn with the cock .. I mean it could skip put my wives pussy and accidentally go in my mouth . And I could by instinct start sucking it ... right

I dream of that all the time. I told my wife would love to be 69ing with her on top as a guy fucks her, every now and then he pulls out dips it in my mouth then back in her pussy. After he cums in her he pulls out dips it in my mouth I clean it off then eat her cleaning her cream pie. She tells me it's never going to happen

 

[FriendlyUKGuy]

Maybe..

Maybe as we get older we change our views, become more tolerant and don’t worry about being seen as macho anymore ? So maybe those thoughts are hidden by society ?
I would love a neighbour who would be able to come round and watch porn with me...sit together and stroke each other. I realised I liked she males recently, seeing a video accidentally but squirted my milk out the moment I saw their tiny she cock. Now deliberately watch Asian shemale vids.

 

[Chi_Guy_68]

Gentlemen ? Pictures. Also do you like younger women who are into bi guys ?

Women who are attracted to bi guys - or are open to guys having bisexual urges - are a huge turn on for me, regardless of the woman's age.

 

[dango_dog]

I know this may not belong here but do you think your curiosity about guys comes from a event not a sexual event like being sexuality abused but something like watching a tv show or meeting someone who's has a vibe about him. When I was kid in like first or second grade timeframe Star Trek would come on about 4 oclock and I would watch it. There's a episode called "What are little girls made of" and in show there is a scene in the show that has Kirk naked in a cloning machine seeing him there in that state made a impact on me. I would try to the best of my abilities to copy the scene as I can at the age I was. Later in jr high there I was in seventh grade in gym class there was a boy name Mick he would tell my that I was gay and I would do the no I not reply but I did like how he look in the class he would wear gym shorts and socks. I did my best not to stare but I kept a eye on him and I would fantasize about him during a masturbatiion. Is this a spark for curiosity about a guy I just wondering. sorry for a long post.

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

Great thread with many opinions. I must say that several would apply to me after reading them. I have no experiences yet, but seem to get more curious the older I get... maybe its the getting older thing and open to do more, lack of enough sex or wanting to experience something different, the openness of internet porn finding just about anything you might want to look at, or maybe just a natural interest. It would be hard to nail a specific cause, but here we are... and its nice to read others having the same interest and open to chat about it.

 

[partsecond]

Because older men realize they can do what they always wanted to do. That is really it.

 

[Oreo515]

Hi

I became bi Curious after me and my wife stop having sex.

 

[cheetah2]

I became bi Curious after me and my wife stop having sex.

DITTO

 

[CottonForMe]

I'd be more into finding a mature bi man for a long term friends with benefits situation.

Agreed.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Yes, but

you're both half a planet away from me, aren't you?

 

[Shavedallover]

In my 40s when I sucked my first cock. I think I've made up for starting so late .

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I was in my 60s

and I've only dabbled, really. But, given the chance, I'd dabble more.

 

[Shavedallover]

I'll go through periods of just male to male sex. Any age. I think I'm in that stage now.

 

[hubbyinstockings]

When you do discover you have a bi side it gives you the chance to discover a whole new sex life, with no commitment just mutual pleasure and even when your mind is still active sexually but your body isn't as responsive you can still give pleasure, long may it last.

 

[Shavedallover]

When you do discover you have a bi side it gives you the chance to discover a whole new sex life, with no commitment just mutual pleasure and even when your mind is still active sexually but your body isn't as responsive you can still give pleasure, long may it last.

Exactly.