Why do you choose to be a sub?

[irishblade]

I have been talking to my college friend and fuck-buddy who came to visit to cheer me up. She has some dom tendencies, whereas I lean the other way.

For me, I think part of being submissive in a sexual context is because I am the opposite IRL. I’m probably the person who wants to be in charge and to have a plan. She is the opposite, IRL she wouldn’t say boo to a goose, but gets off on controlling people sexually.

It it like this with other people?

Em

I don’t think it’s a choice. I’m inherently a people pleaser and naturally give to bring joy/happiness/pleasure to others. I don’t have an aggressive bone in my body even though I’d choose that if I could. This is reflected in my bedroom life as I’m a natural submissive. It’s very difficult for me to take charge.

 

[SubmissiveMom]

I have been talking to my college friend and fuck-buddy who came to visit to cheer me up. She has some dom tendencies, whereas I lean the other way.

For me, I think part of being submissive in a sexual context is because I am the opposite IRL. I’m probably the person who wants to be in charge and to have a plan. She is the opposite, IRL she wouldn’t say boo to a goose, but gets off on controlling people sexually.

It it like this with other people?

Em

I didn't choose to be Submissive x I've been naturally submissive since my first sex/oral sex many years ago in my teens, never known anything else x It's like asking "why did you choose to be a dumb fucking idiot?" x x

 

[PaxNurgle]

I don’t think it’s a choice. I’m inherently a people pleaser and naturally give to bring joy/happiness/pleasure to others. I don’t have an aggressive bone in my body even though I’d choose that if I could. This is reflected in my bedroom life as I’m a natural submissive. It’s very difficult for me to take charge.

This is exactly how I feel. And probably why, as a male, I struggle so much with intimate and romantic relationships. Being submissive is not something I would have chosen either.

 

[SluttyLindsey]

I feel like in the sexual aspect I’ve just always been submissive. It helps that I’ve loved cock for many years so got into it early. I love the pleasing and being a good cumslut.

In my job I’m very take charge, but again submissive is just how I am - I didn’t choose being a cock slut chose me.

 

[DaddysBrat974]

For me I choose to be submissive because outside of the bedroom I have a dominant personality and I like to be in control but in private I love giving up that control with my husband/Daddy. In public I can still be a brat in ways but in private I can go full on brat mode

 

[shrek100]

Personally we switch as a couple.
I like to be a sub for a couple of reasons
When I was younger like just legal I had an older work colleague lead the way. She knew what and how she wanted it and I was happy to do exactly as told.
She introduced me to all sorts, snowballing, licking her clean after sex and also prostate play.
A good education for a young man.
Now many years later, I run my own company, lots of stress etc. to pass over full control is great.

 

[Vitriolhack]

Personally we switch as a couple.
I like to be a sub for a couple of reasons
When I was younger like just legal I had an older work colleague lead the way. She knew what and how she wanted it and I was happy to do exactly as told.
She introduced me to all sorts, snowballing, licking her clean after sex and also prostate play.
A good education for a young man.
Now many years later, I run my own company, lots of stress etc. to pass over full control is great.

Wow, that’s the best kind of education!

 

[shrek100]

Wow, that’s the best kind of education!

It put me on the right path
Sitting here thinking back - she was great

 

[Vitriolhack]

It put me on the right path
Sitting here thinking back - she was great

Man, you should write a story about it. I volunteer to prof read!

 

[kathyisgr65]

I have been talking to my college friend and fuck-buddy who came to visit to cheer me up. She has some dom tendencies, whereas I lean the other way.

For me, I think part of being submissive in a sexual context is because I am the opposite IRL. I’m probably the person who wants to be in charge and to have a plan. She is the opposite, IRL she wouldn’t say boo to a goose, but gets off on controlling people sexually.

It it like this with other people?

Em

I'm definitely a strong personality in RL and lean towards a more submissive role behind doors...idk why and I stopped psychoanalyzing my kinks a long time ago..

 

[xdresssissytoes]

The sub "choice" was burned into my DNA as well as by strong internal femme persona. I've always been submissive from the first time my best friend and neighbor fed me his huge cock to me kneeling before him....and then every time we were together for years.

 

[babygirl4u1966]

I have been talking to my college friend and fuck-buddy who came to visit to cheer me up. She has some dom tendencies, whereas I lean the other way.

For me, I think part of being submissive in a sexual context is because I am the opposite IRL. I’m probably the person who wants to be in charge and to have a plan. She is the opposite, IRL she wouldn’t say boo to a goose, but gets off on controlling people sexually.

It it like this with other people?

Em

I wouldn't exactly call me dominant, but in school and most of my life, I was always the leader of my friends. Making plans, getting people together, making decision, etc. With my husband, I usually led the way of what we did (trips, going out, housing) and sex. Then I met an extremely dominant guy that totally took charge of me, and I've been completely submissive to him ever since. So I think sometimes it depends who you're with.

 

[Baddad2004]

In my everyday life I come off as very masculine and lots of bravado. It’s nice to have a break from it behind closed doors and let someone else be in charge

 

[lowcollar]

I have been talking to my college friend and fuck-buddy who came to visit to cheer me up. She has some dom tendencies, whereas I lean the other way.

For me, I think part of being submissive in a sexual context is because I am the opposite IRL. I’m probably the person who wants to be in charge and to have a plan. She is the opposite, IRL she wouldn’t say boo to a goose, but gets off on controlling people sexually.

It it like this with other people?

Em

Completely, that way for me. I am self employed, in charge, assertive, yet kind. But, in the bedroom, I prefer to be everything I am not in the other world

 

[newhere2learn]

In my everyday life I come off as very masculine and lots of bravado. It’s nice to have a break from it behind closed doors and let someone else be in charge

Similar here. Big stocky guy, masculine, always in control. Management position. Etc etc.

For me, submission, which I do rarely is a pure escapism and stress relief..add in some anal play, maybe panties and a cock to play with or a BBW pussy to eat. Complete escapism.

 

[Baddad2004]

Similar here. Big stocky guy, masculine, always in control. Management position. Etc etc.

For me, submission, which I do rarely is a pure escapism and stress relief..add in some anal play, maybe panties and a cock to play with or a BBW pussy to eat. Complete escapism.

We sound similar lol. Yeah it’s the care free of going back to no worries. Almost as if a woman line my mom was back to make everything ok

 

[IARainman]

I didn’t choose it. When I feel it, I am.

 

[newhere2learn]

We sound similar lol. Yeah it’s the care free of going back to no worries. Almost as if a woman line my mom was back to make everything ok

Without going into a lengthy lengthy post, I seem to attract submissive types, especially women. They always want caring, protecting.

Just sometimes, you want to escape the responsibility, be a slut

 

[KaitlynW1993]

For me it is about fulfilling a basic feminine purpose to highest degree. It makes me feel absolutely feminine to being filled by a big group of men, helpless to their erotic and physical desires.

 

[Giftboy]

You don’t choose, you are made a sub by the training Tops, Bears, Daddies and Masters subject you to.

 

[Meduus]

Not,a choice
It’s just who I am
When I was young, some,people said I would switch…
More then 20 years later still a sub…
Big desire to please, and pain is jummy

Tried it once when my playpartner was a switch… it took me about five minutes before I gave the command to hit me with a whip and roles where switched back

 

[Waterlillie2x2]

I am a naturally submissive woman in all things. In a relationship, I try to make their day easier, do things to help them. I have a mind and thoughts, I like my ideas to be considered but ultimately the man has the final decision. Keep in mind the man needs to be an educated man that I trust enough to let make the final decision. Sexually, I'm submissive but I find it quite powerful not weak. When you know how to please your Dom, what turns them on, just how to respond in that specific tone of voice and or certain look, what I wear. It all works well together to do more than just please your partner.

 

[betabrad]

Like a lot of people here, I would also say that I didn’t choose to be submissive, it’s just my nature. Unfortunately, I don’t think it’s as socially acceptable to be submissive as a man as it is for a woman. Maybe I’m wrong, but that’s how it feels to me.

 

[nicole_proper_naughty]

I do not choose to be a submissive; because if I did, it is certainly not the choice I would have made. It is an innate part of my psyche, the desire to please, and to give. But it has not, thus far, been really conducive to a positive and fulfilling relationship.

Precisely this. I'm sort of submissive in other aspects of life so this felt very natural to me. What doesn't feel natural is surrendering all my feminist and equality ideas and giving control to a man, but I can't help it.

 

[Luv2ReadKinkyStories]

I have been talking to my college friend and fuck-buddy who came to visit to cheer me up. She has some dom tendencies, whereas I lean the other way.

For me, I think part of being submissive in a sexual context is because I am the opposite IRL. I’m probably the person who wants to be in charge and to have a plan. She is the opposite, IRL she wouldn’t say boo to a goose, but gets off on controlling people sexually.

It it like this with other people?

Em

I think I'm pretty much like you are...