Why do you have sex?

[cheerful_deviant]

What's this sex thing you all keep talking about?

 

[LadyJeanne]

What's this sex thing you all keep talking about?

It's what made those 64 Ohio girls pregnant. I wonder if they had sex because they felt loved...

 

[cheerful_deviant]

It's what made those 64 Ohio girls pregnant. I wonder if they had sex because they felt loved...

No, I hear that they are all good girls from conservative families. It must have been devine intervention.

 

[Dar~]

The best sex I ever had involved leather cuffs, some clothesline, and a whip.

Is that love?

Not necessarily, unless you are coming to visit me, THAT would be love.

 

[cheerful_deviant]

The best sex I ever had involved leather cuffs, some clothesline, and a whip.

Is that love?

Depends, did you leave cab fare?

 

[Quiet_Cool]

Depends, did you leave cab fare?

Okay, how odd is it that the idea of handcuffs, clothesline and a cab gave me flashbacks to the dog in National Lampoon's Vacation?



Q_C

 

[NoJo]

The best sex I ever had involved leather cuffs, some clothesline, and a whip.

Is that love?

It is, but most of us don't usually dare speaks its name.

 

[SeaCat]

Oh a scary thread. I like it.

Do I have sex to feel loved? Nope but I do have sex with the woman I love. Have I had sex with a woman I didn't love? Yep, hell in one case we didn't even like each other.

I don't use sex to express my love for my wife. Love has nothing to do with it. (We could love each other without sex.) We have sex because it is something we enjoy. If emotion is there it just makes it even better. (What emotions you ask? Things like trust, respect, and of course trust.)

Have my wife and I cheated on each other? No we haven't. That being said my wife has had sex with another man while we were married, but we don't consider that cheating. She didn't love him and there was no chance of her leaving me for him. It was something they both wanted to do because they wanted to enjoy each other. They had fun and there are no regrets. (I haven't had sex outside our marriage but that's because I haven't met someone I was interested in enough to have sex with. It takes more than a cute bod to turn this cat on. I also have to trust the person, and just as important they have to trust me and my wife has to trust the other person as well. There also has to be no games involved, I don't play mind games.)

Cat

 

[Liar]

The best sex I ever had involved leather cuffs, some clothesline, and a whip.

Is that love?

Did it also involve a person other than you?

 

[Guest]

The best sex I ever had involved leather cuffs, some clothesline, and a whip.

Is that love?

Oh, GOD, yes.




Or perhaps that should be -


Oh!


GOD!


YESSSSS!

 

[LadyJeanne]

Did it also involve a person other than you?

PMSL!!




I'm a little surprised that more people don't use sex as a way to express love for their partners. If you express it in other ways, why not through sex too?

 

[HollyHawkk]

I use sex to express my feelings for my partner. Sex is also, my favorite stress buster! I love to play with my partner... Sometimes it is very serious other times I love to fall out of bed laughing because we tried some new position and it didn't work out. It can be allot of fun.

Yes a person can have sex with anyone willing .... but to make love is to be with some one you care about on a high level. There is a difference.

 

[lucky-E-leven]

I like sex as another means to express love. The majority of the time it's for physical gratification and fun. Other times, the expression of love is beyond words and chaste gestures.

 

[rgraham666]

If I ever have any, I'll let you know.

 

[LadyJeanne]

I like sex as another means to express love. The majority of the time it's for physical gratification and fun. Other times, the expression of love is beyond words and chaste gestures.

Exactly!

(lucky vella! )

 

[LadyJeanne]

If I ever have any, I'll let you know.

I'll accept nothing less than a How To article, at least 2 Lit pages, single spaced, with photos...

 

[LadyJeanne]

I use sex to express my feelings for my partner. Sex is also, my favorite stress buster! I love to play with my partner... Sometimes it is very serious other times I love to fall out of bed laughing because we tried some new position and it didn't work out. It can be allot of fun.

Yes a person can have sex with anyone willing .... but to make love is to be with some one you care about on a high level. There is a difference.

Ah yes...stress release. My favorite stress release game is to synchronize departure times from the office, and whoever gets home first gives the other the first orgasm since they had to sit in traffic longer...good times.

 

[rgraham666]

I'll accept nothing less than a How To article, at least 2 Lit pages, single spaced, with photos...

Don't hold your breath.

 

[Adrian Leverkuhn]

love & sex

I have a hard time accepting the generalization that men perceive and respond to their need(s) for sex in a manner basically different than women.
I suspect that if one were to reduce the discussion to a purely psychobiological level one would be able to quantify and statisically validate a male vs female response. But within the bounds of your question there is a huge body of relativism: do gay men and/or women respond in ways quantifiably and or emotionally different than their straight counterparts; do people with fundamentally different sexual expectations such as dominants or submissives, fetishists, people involved in incestuous relationships, etc., have different expectations and responses?
I have a fair amount of background in psychobiology, and I can say with certainty that there are quantifiable differences in the male vs female psychophysiological response. And though I am not a psychiatrist, noting the variations above I would hesitate to generalize about such a complex emotional issue given the wide variety of sexual lifestyles in our world .

 

[HollyHawkk]

LadyJenne

That sounds like a cool game, I am going to suggest that to my S/O. I think he would love to play.

 

[Guest]

I have a hard time accepting the generalization that men perceive and respond to their need(s) for sex in a manner basically different than women.
I suspect that if one were to reduce the discussion to a purely psychobiological level one would be able to quantify and statisically validate a male vs female response. But within the bounds of your question there is a huge body of relativism: do gay men and/or women respond in ways quantifiably and or emotionally different than their straight counterparts; do people with fundamentally different sexual expectations such as dominants or submissives, fetishists, people involved in incestuous relationships, etc., have different expectations and responses?
I have a fair amount of background in psychobiology, and I can say with certainty that there are quantifiable differences in the male vs female psychophysiological response. And though I am not a psychiatrist, noting the variations above I would hesitate to generalize about such a complex emotional issue given the wide variety of sexual lifestyles in our world .

_______

We're not here to reduce the discussion to psychobiological or pyschophysiological responses.

The question is a personal one: Why do you have sex, Adrian?



For, me, I have sex because my S.O. and I like it . . . a lot.

(See? That wasn't really hard.)

 

[carsonshepherd]

I have sex because it's the only way I can get my boyfriend to mow the lawn.

 

[Guest]

I have sex because it's the only way I can get my boyfriend to mow the lawn.

Pervert.

 

[CharleyH]

Pervert.

Well, I do it for dishes. LOL Why do you?

Joking, I do it for dishes ... and fun, that's the beauty of 2 lovers

 

[yui]

I was reading a story in the How To category recently, and the author's viewpoint was that men have sex to Feel loved, and women have sex Because they feel loved.

I'm curious as to what y'all think. In a relationship, aside from the physical gratification, I think both men and women have sex to Express love. I don't know if men have sex to Feel loved, but I definitely think women do.

Outside a relationship, all bets are off.

Thoughts? Opinions? Should I have made a poll?

I have sex, because sometimes, I just can't not have it. To be honest, I don't do casual very well, so it is typically someone I know, and their hormones call to my hormones... and my hormones call to their hormones... and before I know it, I'm in a car, naked from the waist down, riding down I-4, and the whole situation seem like a good idea.

It's fun. It's hot. It's sticky. It's a secret, intimacy, I can share with another person. I like feeling a little bit owned sometimes; I guess I might be expressing love, but, too, it might just be the way I'm bent.

I have sex because it's the only way I can get my boyfriend to mow the lawn.

And that explains why he hasn't been mowing my lawn. *sigh*