Why is the loving wives crowd so harsh

[TxRad]

i'm with VM and tx on this one. the bare dictionary definition often does not capture connotations, nor does it attempt to do so.

the american heritage dictionary, under "word history", for this entry, mentions 'pejorative' sense. in my words, one who applied the term was typically showing something like disapproval, condemnation of the husband, and, commonly, though in another sense, similar condemnation of the wife (as Charley stated).

http://www.yourdictionary.com/cuckold

there is nothing per se wrong with following a dictionary definition literally, and in a circumscribed fashion. but many who do, esp. nonnative speakers, end up saying and conveying things to listeners, which were not intended.

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as to the infamous loving wives category, it appears to be a grabbag of stories of wives, who are at very least adventurous, and who typically have a partner(s) outside her marriage, sometimes for love, other times, for various retributive or 'bitchy' reasons; there are several attitudes found in husbands, from upset, to eager approval.

what the objectors usually object to is typically that the husband is put upon, and his wife seems bitchy and exploitive. they are in a rage at the wussiness and impotence of the husband and the apparent impunity of the wife.

As Lit has a mainly male, older readership according to what research I've seen, your last paragraph hits the nail on the head.

 

[CharleyH]

i'm with VM and tx on this one. the bare dictionary definition often does not capture connotations, nor does it attempt to do so.

the american heritage dictionary, under "word history", for this entry, mentions 'pejorative' sense. in my words, one who applied the term was typically showing something like disapproval, condemnation of the husband, and, commonly, though in another sense, similar condemnation of the wife (as Charley stated).

http://www.yourdictionary.com/cuckold

there is nothing per se wrong with following a dictionary definition literally, and in a circumscribed fashion. but many who do, esp. nonnative speakers, end up saying and conveying things to listeners, which were not intended.

--

as to the infamous loving wives category, it appears to be a grabbag of stories of wives, who are at very least adventurous, and who typically have a partner(s) outside her marriage, sometimes for love, other times, for various retributive or 'bitchy' reasons; there are several attitudes found in husbands, from upset, to eager approval.

what the objectors usually object to is typically that the husband is put upon, and his wife seems bitchy and exploitive. they are in a rage at the wussiness and impotence of the husband and the apparent impunity of the wife.

As always with your posts, hm. interesting.

 

[Zeb_Carter]

Well, no matter how I have written the husband there is always those few in every case - Anonymous - who sole comment is "Just another cuck story."