Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[keepingsweet]

women get horny too and sometimes we like to express that, that doesn't mean we're looking for help or an invitation. Sometimes I just want people to know, I'm feeling myself today. One of the reasons why I love men who have self control is because they can make me feel desired WITHOUT making me uncomfortable. But if they get the green light.... it’s on.

again, PREACH

 

[lil_jenni]

I have a thread in which I post things about my life. A lot of it is about sex, but I'm more than that. I also post about other things going on in my life, like things that get me down or things about which I am excited (and sometimes those things overlap). Lately, I've been talking about whether or not to get a new car since I'm pregnant with twins and my old car, which is fine for the one kid I have, probably won't work once the twins are here.

Well, a lovely gentleman PMed me to let me know he doesn't come to Lit for boring posts about my boring life... He wants to hear about the sexual things I do. I'm not a human to him. I'm a fantasy. That's the reality here sometimes. If you remind some guys here that you're a real person with thoughts and feelings and a life, you ruin it for them. Well, I'm not sorry about doing that.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

I have a thread in which I post things about my life. A lot of it is about sex, but I'm more than that. I also post about other things going on in my life, like things that get me down or things about which I am excited (and sometimes those things overlap). Lately, I've been talking about whether or not to get a new car since I'm pregnant with twins and my old car, which is fine for the one kid I have, probably won't work once the twins are here.

Well, a lovely gentleman PMed me to let me know he doesn't come to Lit for boring posts about my boring life... He wants to hear about the sexual things I do. I'm not a human to him. I'm a fantasy. That's the reality here sometimes. If you remind some guys here that you're a real person with thoughts and feelings and a life, you ruin it for them. Well, I'm not sorry about doing that.

That is the absolute harsh truth of this site (and certainly life abroad) as a woman.
Some guys literally view the women here as personal cam girls whom you can use & abuse at will & it's 100% okay because we wouldn't be here if we didn't want this.

Oh, how about I use an actual line someone threw at me when I reiterated my boundaries: the "common denominator" between us "is sex" so I "shouldn't be on a sex site if I can't talk about sex" with a man who clearly knew up front that I wasn't going to move faster than I felt comfortable with.
Gaslighting sure is funny that way, isn't it?

@lil_jenni, thank you for honestly sharing here. Congratulations on your beautiful pregnancy. It is my hope that each of us feels more empowered as we learn that the gross sexism & objectification is an unfortunate shared experience, yet it is also something from which we can fine tune & exercise our ability to respect our own beauty and boundaries. None of us should be made to feel like show ponies deserving of ridicule when we dare speak up for ourselves.

Keep being absolutely you, because you as you are is exquisite !

 

[neci]

I have a thread in which I post things about my life. A lot of it is about sex, but I'm more than that. I also post about other things going on in my life, like things that get me down or things about which I am excited (and sometimes those things overlap). Lately, I've been talking about whether or not to get a new car since I'm pregnant with twins and my old car, which is fine for the one kid I have, probably won't work once the twins are here.

Well, a lovely gentleman PMed me to let me know he doesn't come to Lit for boring posts about my boring life... He wants to hear about the sexual things I do. I'm not a human to him. I'm a fantasy. That's the reality here sometimes. If you remind some guys here that you're a real person with thoughts and feelings and a life, you ruin it for them. Well, I'm not sorry about doing that.

i’d probably go into graphic detail of how i’d like to shove a boot so far up his ass he tasted leather. my mean doesn’t come out often, but that kind of stuff makes it happen. with my luck, he’d probably be into that kind of thing and ask for more.

also congratulations on the babies!

 

[keepingsweet]

What I like most about this thread *besides fucking solidarity*
is how many ok to good men are listening and learning.

This is what culture change looks like.

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

the other thing that annoys me with some, not all of the men on here is trying to fit me into their fantasy world when at times its pretty clear that square peg is really not going to fit.. but still they go on... and eventually as others have said its my fault somehow..

Oh definitely. It's about what they want. You & your actual desires and feelings be damned.
But also, how dare you not try hard enough to please every man that slithers your way? The logic just ain't there.

 

[lil_jenni]

yes...
but again - some not all...
there are some lovely genuine men on here too

Yes there are. There is one guy I talk with regularly that is very respectful but has also made it clear how much he thinks about me. One night I was in a weird mood, and I crossed my own boundaries with him. The next day I had to tell him it wouldn't happen again. He was very understanding. I felt like shit about it all, but he never made me feel that way. So yeah, there are lovely, genuine men here too.

 

[lil_jenni]

i’d probably go into graphic detail of how i’d like to shove a boot so far up his ass he tasted leather. my mean doesn’t come out often, but that kind of stuff makes it happen. with my luck, he’d probably be into that kind of thing and ask for more.

also congratulations on the babies!

First, thank you for the congratulations on my pregnancy. Second, as for your reaction to my post, these physical violence kind of reactions always bother me. I know it's meant to show solidarity and outrage, and I feel like I'm a bitch when I'm not appreciative, but it is not something I would ever encourage or condone. And I know you just wrote that you feel that way, so you may think I'm overreacting. But this is a safe place to say how we feel, and I always feel disturbed by the suggestion that violence is the way to address disrespect or rudeness.

 

[neci]

First, thank you for the congratulations on my pregnancy. Second, as for your reaction to my post, these physical violence kind of reactions always bother me. I know it's meant to show solidarity and outrage, and I feel like I'm a bitch when I'm not appreciative, but it is not something I would ever encourage or condone. And I know you just wrote that you feel that way, so you may think I'm overreacting. But this is a safe place to say how we feel, and I always feel disturbed by the suggestion that violence is the way to address disrespect or rudeness.

I apologize for disturbing you. I tend to write my gut reactions on lit and try not to edit myself as this is one place I have always felt free to do so. I don’t engage in physical violence as a person, but have explored more bdsm type of exploits. so when something upsets me or angers me here, I tend to go towards those types of descriptions. I hear when you are coming from and won’t put those words out in response to you again.

 

[keepingsweet]

Can someone tell me how to go invisible? Using browser on phone and can’t find that anywhere.

 

[keepingsweet]

I sent this thread to my husband (a committed feminist), who sends his appreciation for the conversation .

I think it’s hard for most men to understand what a woman’s experience is really like. I’m grateful for the truth telling and the modeling of strong boundaries to carve out this space to share.

 

[lil_jenni]

Can someone tell me how to go invisible? Using browser on phone and can’t find that anywhere.

On yout phone, bring up the menu and tap your username. You should see a "your account" button. Tap it and it will bring up another menu. Tap on "privacy" and you will have an option to deselect "show your online status."

 

[Gory]

the other thing that annoys me with some, not all of the men on here is trying to fit me into their fantasy world when at times its pretty clear that square peg is really not going to fit.. but still they go on... and eventually as others have said its my fault somehow..

It is not your Fault. Some of Us man just like to Chat. But yes women should have Fun and do lady talk to

 

[SofiaLaFrench]

I'm so happy to have found this thread. I've been reading stories here for years and just signed up for an account so I can try my hand at writing. I receive one or two messages a day from men wanting to engage with me. That's not why I'm here. I'm still trying to find my voice to deal with them and you ladies have inspired me! Thank you

 

[Gory]

I'm so happy to have found this thread. I've been reading stories here for years and just signed up for an account so I can try my hand at writing. I receive one or two messages a day from men wanting to engage with me. That's not why I'm here. I'm still trying to find my voice to deal with them and you ladies have inspired me! Thank you

Sofia. Anytime you want to Voice anything I be your and hope you don’t mind Older Men. Be safe these days honey Bee

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

Sofia. Anytime you want to Voice anything I be your and hope you don’t mind Older Men. Be safe these days honey Bee

This below. PM her if you'd like, but there will be no thread hijacking here

To that end, responses from men are not welcome in this thread; no, you're not as witty as your testosterone tells you.

 

[keepingsweet]

No means no and consent is sexy ️️

 

[Gory]

No means no and consent is sexy ️️

Wow Tuff Union ladies i never want to talk or chat about Sex . but No means No. enjoy private time

 

[keepingsweet]

#tuffunionladies

I like it

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

#tuffunionladies

I like it

Lol, I don't. It's just basic reading comprehension & thinking with your brain & not your dickly ego. Be decent and think before commenting.
But, hey, I'll stand with ya, gurl. If you want #tuffunionladies put on a shirt, I'll figure that shit out .

 

[Zrosey]

That is the absolute harsh truth of this site (and certainly life abroad) as a woman.
Some guys literally view the women here as personal cam girls whom you can use & abuse at will & it's 100% okay because we wouldn't be here if we didn't want this.

I sometimes question why I'm still here on lit, I mean it is a sex site with all the variations that can entail. Sadly with too many guys around here the "use & abuse at will" seems the norm.

So what keeps me around? I def love some of the connections I've made with lovely folks here, I enjoy posting mostly in the LGBTQ news and issues forum, and yeah, occasionally I'm feeling frisky and it's fun to explore that with others!
Threads like this one are totally a bright spot! So thanks for allowing even me, a pretty novice trans woman to hang out with y'all

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

I sometimes question why I'm still here on lit

It's okay, I question it multiple times a week. Huggies ! You're in great company.

Threads like this one are totally a bright spot! So thanks for allowing even me, a pretty novice trans woman to hang out with y'all

Thank you so much! It really warms my hearts when women can find comfort here. Thank you equally for being who you are & taking the time to be kind.

 

[lanceGibs]

I sometimes question why I'm still here on lit, I mean it is a sex site with all the variations that can entail. Sadly with too many guys around here the "use & abuse at will" seems the norm.

So what keeps me around? I def love some of the connections I've made with lovely folks here, I enjoy posting mostly in the LGBTQ news and issues forum, and yeah, occasionally I'm feeling frisky and it's fun to explore that with others!
Threads like this one are totally a bright spot! So thanks for allowing even me, a pretty novice trans woman to hang out with y'all

A big hug

 

[Lady2020]

Great thread!

 

[SofiaLaFrench]

Sofia. Anytime you want to Voice anything I be your and hope you don’t mind Older Men. Be safe these days honey Bee

You're not as charming as your testosterone has led you to believe, Gory. You are not welcome here, and DO NOT contact me.